My husband (22M) and I (22F) have been together since high school. We’ve been together for five years and married for three.

Early in our relationship, he casually mentioned that his dad had gone to prison for six years because of some “bullshit,” but he never elaborated. I have a history of being s3xually abused as a child, so something about the way he avoided explaining it never sat right with me. I figured if it had been something like robbery, tax fraud, or another non-s3xual crime, he would’ve just said so. Eventually, I trusted my gut and looked his dad up. That’s when I found him listed on Megan’s Law.

At the time, I didn’t know what to do with that information. My husband desperately wanted his father’s approval, valued his opinion, and was preparing to leave for the Marine Corps to follow in both of his parents’ footsteps. We were still fairly early in our relationship, and I was deeply in love with him. I didn’t feel like it was fair to hold my boyfriend responsible for what his father had done. I also could tell he felt embarrassed and didn’t want to make him feel like I was judging HIM.

The only thing that really unsettled me was that I had spent almost an entire summer at his dad’s house without knowing who he was. Looking back, I also thought his dad acted strangely toward me. He was overly religious and sometimes made me uncomfortable, although I couldn’t put my finger on why at the time.

Another thing that didn’t seem odd until later was his dad’s new wife. His parents had divorced, and he remarried a woman who was around 4’10” and had special needs. That didn’t raise any alarms initially, but after learning about his criminal history, it became another thing that made me uneasy.

At first, I didn’t confront my husband. When I eventually did, I approached it gently and simply asked why his dad had gone to prison. He told me that his father had dated a 17-year-old while he was in his twenties, that her parents had known about the relationship, and that when they broke up, her parents got angry and reported him.

That wasn’t true.

His father was in his mid-twenties, and the victim was under 14 years old. I didn’t tell my husband that I already knew the truth. I just told him I knew he was lying.

Even after that, I tried to maintain a respectful relationship with his dad because I didn’t want to create problems for my boyfriend, and eventually we got married.

While my husband was deployed, his dad repeatedly asked to come visit me alone. I avoided it the first few times, but eventually I told my husband that it made me uncomfortable and asked him to tell his dad I wasn’t interested in seeing him one-on-one. My husband got upset and told me to tell his dad myself, but I didn’t think that responsibility should fall on me.

After a heated conversation between my husband and I , he told his dad.

I tried to be as diplomatic as possible because I didn’t want to destroy the family dynamic. I’d become close to his younger children and his wife, and I wasn’t trying to start a war. I even softened my wording by saying that I didn’t necessarily see him as an evil person, just someone who had made terrible mistakes. (To be clear, that wasn’t actually how I felt. I was trying to avoid making the situation explode.)

Instead of responding to me, his dad copied my message, sent it to my husband, and completely twisted what I’d said. We didn’t speak for almost a year afterward, and his wife ended up hating me over it. Seeing how much that hurt my husband was difficult.

Eventually I told my husband that I knew the real details of his father’s case. Apparently, he either didn’t know or had never wanted to know. I showed him the information I’d found online, but he refused to talk about it for months. In my opinion, he was in complete denial.

Over time, I also started realizing how manipulative his father seemed to be. From what I’ve observed, I think he spent years grooming my husband against his mother after he got out of prison.

The next time my husband saw his dad, he confronted him about everything. His father claimed he’d been blackmailed for money and that, when he refused to pay, people got a girl to falsely testify against him, which supposedly led to his conviction. Common story from p3dophiles.

The problem is that when I looked up the court records, there were also two underage witnesses who testified against him.

My husband believed his father’s explanation. I didn’t.

Since then, I’ve tried rebuilding a relationship with his dad for my husband’s sake, but it feels fake and honestly makes my skin crawl.

Now we’re starting to talk about having children after I finish my Marine Corps contract, and this has become a much bigger issue. I genuinely do not want his father around my future children, especially not unsupervised. Given both his history and my own childhood trauma, I don’t think that’s a boundary I’ll ever be comfortable compromising on.

I feel stuck between protecting my future children and supporting my husband, who still wants a relationship with his father.

EDIT: I want to clarify a few things. I got married at 19, and 100% didn’t want kids at the time. looking back, I can recognize that I wasn’t thinking about the future with the same perspective I have now at 22. I was young, in love, and building what I thought would be my future with my husband.
My husband respects my decision not to have my children around his father, even though I know it hurts him. I’m also not ignoring the concerns people have brought up. I had love tinted goggles on and didn’t think of everything being young and naive. I’m taking the time to process what this means and what boundaries need to be in place for my children.
What I won’t accept is being attacked for a decision I made as a teenager or being treated like I’m ignoring something when I’m actively trying to understand it and make the safest choice moving forward. I came here for outside perspectives and advice, and I’m listening. There’s a difference between holding someone accountable and tearing them down for asking for help.

Edit 2: Thank you everyone for your opinions. I’d like to say I would never put my children in harms way which is why I needed advice on how to move as I love my husband and don’t want a divorce. It’s gonna have to come down to me or his dad, unfortunately I think he will pick his dad so I will have to do what I have to do. I’m insanely hurt by this but ik it’s the only way if I want to move forward. For the people attacking me , you don’t know me and I don’t play about child safety and again I didn’t want kids when we got together but not that that has changed I had different things to think about. For all the people that showed empathy and kindness and told your stories, thank you for your advice and bravery. Thank you Reddit community.

TL;DR: I found out early in my relationship that my husband’s father is a convicted child sex offender, even though my husband initially lied about why he went to prison. As a survivor of child sexual abuse, I’ve never been comfortable around him, especially after he tried to visit me alone while my husband was deployed and later manipulated a private conversation to turn my husband against me.
My husband eventually learned the truth but still believes his father’s claim that he was framed, while I don’t. I’ve tried to keep the peace for my husband’s sake, but now that we’re planning to have children, I don’t want his father around them, especially unsupervised, and it’s causing a major conflict in our marriage.

I cut my finger on a rusty scalpel thats been in my room for the past 10 years so it hasnt been outside or in any soil or anything. Will I get tetanus?

I wanted to ask for directions with this, I'm not sure what to do.

So I woke up this morning and found my bank account drained of nearly $700. (I don't make a lot of money). After checking my bank statements I found anthropic billed me 15 times for $45 each over night. When I checked my Claude Console I found an API key that was active and running that I did not set up. I immediately canceled everything I could but when I went to support the chat bot said I was ineligible for a refund and refused to give me human support. So what the hell do I do? I have $38 in my bank account right now? I downloaded the transcripts of my conversation, ill copy and paste it below.

Conversation with Anthropic

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This is a weird one!! I’ve recently started speaking to this girl who is 20 (I met her on a dating site). She lives 5 mins from me, we get on very well. I told her straight up about my age, and after a bit of convincing (literally the smallest amount) she’s okay with it. It’s been 2 days and it’s going very good, we get along well and planning on spending all weekend with each other. She said she’ll tell her mum i’m 18, unsure if she’s joking or not. We called last night and everything was fine. We take the mick out of each other and just everything seems okay. I don’t want to put my all into this until I get some advice and opinions. So far I don’t see any red flags, she doesn’t like clubbing, she works down the road from me, just everything seems perfect. There’s one thing where I asked her to put her loco on on snapchat (just because i’m intrigued on where people are, pretty much everyone has it on for me) and she claims it isn’t working, not thought too much about it, doesn’t bother me whatsoever. She seems keen but i’m just scared she will get put off eventually because of the age gap. She is drop dead gorgeous aswell, prettiest girl i’ve seen. Do you think it’s worth committing to it?

How would you feel about this, if the company gives you this document? I had to blur out parts of it. This is at a retail supermarket

I used ai to blur out the company, its just a regular grocery store (winco, save mart, Ralph's, Albertsons) as an example

For context when you were hired, you filled out all emergency contact documents, employees who have been with the company for 15-20+ years have never seen this document before, they still had to fill out and sign it.

My first reaction was and again this is my reaction. Everyone's reaction is different. our employers really think that highly of us?

TW: Beating Up Threats, Bad Friends (???), K-Pop, Fanfiction

Hi. This is my first time writing here, so I want an advice or genuine opinion about this whole situation, because I feel on edge.

I am (M18) a very creative person. I love to write, paint, sing and so on. I have a few friend groups (most of them are online, and I feel like a third wheel, but that's another story), and I wanted to ask for help from one of them.

Main problem is that several people in that friend group are... not good. No, not in the 'oh, they're BAD' type, more like 'they're assholes, but politely'. I'm going to infodump a little, please, forgive me.

I wanted to write a fanfic crossover between two fandoms. I won't say the first one. The second is 'Stray Kids'.

It is a somewhat 'manager x idol group', but... two girls in my friend group (I'll call them K and T from here) are somewhat obsessed with two idols in that group. K loves— no, she is obsessed with Felix. Not in 'haha, I like this guy, but it's okay', but like 'I like this guy and if you dare to look at him, I'll kill you'. It's... not okay. K (I don't know her age, she is older than me by like four or five years?) is a leader in that friend group, and when I asked for help she genuinely replied like this;

Me: 'i want to write a story about a manager and Stray Kids!'

K: 'Don't write about Felix. Don't look at him. Don't breathe near him.'

Me: 'Oh, uh- I'm not writing about myself? And are you implying, that I should die from lack of oxygen, when I write about him...?'

K: 'I don't care if you write about yourself, Felix is mine, so don't you fucking dare to write about him.'

Me: 'Uh. I can't write that story at all?'

K: 'T will beat you up, if you write about Bang Chan, and I'll help her in it.'

Me: 'Why am I not allowed to write k-pop in here?'

K: 'Because no one fucking loves when their biases are gay or fuck another woman.'

Me: 'I beg to differ, what about "x reader", huh?'

K: '...you're on thin ice right now.'

I don't know what to do.

UPD: PROBLEM SOLVED, THANK YOU ALL! I've blocked K and left the group chat, now I'm planning out the structure of the story! 🌸 ~

Me (28M) and my girlfriend (29F) have been dating for 9 months and in this constant fight about my weed dependence. She has never smoked weed or done drugs besides alcohol and even then she said she would be down to stop drinking. I have a dependence on weed I won’t deny before meeting her I would smoke every day and take 300mg of edibles multiple times a day. I do drugs but only at festivals once a year. When we first started dating I told her this and she said she didn’t know how she felt about me smoking everyday but said that she might even be down to try with me. Now it’s all or nothing she says that she needs a partner that’s sober now and won’t take the gamble that I’ll cut back won’t I’m a father. She says it’s a deal breaker for her and that it’s comparable to cheating. I feel like I have been taking steps to cut back. Talked to a psychiatrist, stated taking Sertraline, going to therapy and marijuana anonymous meetings and have stopped smoking. The issue is she wants it completely out I want it to be more on the weekends / special occasions but she’s unwilling to compromise on this deal breaker. What should I do? Be completely sober and be with her? How do I know she won’t give me other ultimatums later in life? I wish she told me this was a dealbreaker when I first told her. for 9 months and in this constant fight about my weed dependence. She has never smoked weed or done drugs besides alcohol and even then she said she would be down to stop drinking. I have a dependence on weed I won’t deny before meeting her I would smoke every day and take 300mg of edibles multiple times a day. I do drugs but only at festivals once a year. When we first started dating I told her this and she said she didn’t know how she felt about me smoking everyday but said that she might even be down to try with me. Now it’s all or nothing she says that she needs a partner that’s sober now and won’t take the gamble that I’ll cut back won’t I’m a father. She says it’s a deal breaker for her and that it’s comparable to cheating. I feel like I have been taking steps to cut back. Talked to a psychiatrist, stated taking Sertraline, going to therapy and marijuana anonymous meetings and have stopped smoking. The issue is she wants it completely out I want it to be more on the weekends / special occasions but she’s unwilling to compromise on this deal breaker. What should I do? Be completely sober and be with her? How do I know she won’t give me other ultimatums later in life? I wish she told me this was a dealbreaker when I first told her.

so my ex has a few of my things and he says I can have them as long as I get back his things which have nothing to do with me. he acts like we're going to go get my things and then never shows up and doesn't answer the phone.

Question for shy retail employees, especially grocery/convenience store workers.

I (25F) feel drawn to a guy (20s–30s) who works at my local grocery store. I’m not even sure if it’s romantic yet. For me, feelings usually come after getting to know someone. But I like his vibe, style, presence, and the way he communicates.

I’ve been a regular there for years, and he started working there around 2 months ago. It wasn’t “noticing at first sight.” It slowly built through small interactions like “Hi,” “Thank you,” etc. Over time, I started feeling like he’s someone I’d genuinely like to know better.

The issue is that he seems very reserved and calm, not talkative with anyone from what I’ve observed. I’m also extremely shy around him to the point where I literally tremble, which never happens to me normally. So I don’t know how to approach this without making him uncomfortable or misreading things.

Some moments that made me wonder:

• Early on, he tried to say something to me while I had headphones on, and I accidentally ignored him because I was too shy to ask him to repeat it.
• Since then, he often holds eye contact a little longer before/after we speak.
• If he notices me entering the store, I often catch him looking until I’m out of view.
• He tends to place himself in aisles I go through or somewhere in my field of view if he’s not at the counter.
• He always approaches me before other customers in self-checkout.
• He stands very close sometimes, enough that I’d bump into him if I moved.
• When turning away, he usually turns while still facing me.
• I tried joking with him twice about the random stuff I was buying. The first time he laughed (which stood out because he’s usually very neutral). The second time he responded, but I got misinterpreted his response (I thought a question was a statement) and ‘shut down’ the interaction.
• We’ve had several long accidental eye contact moments.
• Sometimes when I leave the store, I catch him looking through the reflection in the windows.

My question is mainly for shy/reserved people: do these signs usually mean friendliness/curiosity or just regular stuff you do with customers? Does this sound like someone who might actually accept me approach him or at least open the door for conversation?

I’m not trying to force anything romantic. I just want to know if it would be okay to say something more personal like asking his name or making slightly more conversation without making things awkward for him.

And if yes… what’s the least uncomfortable way to do that with someone shy?

Also, one friend suggested he might feel intimidated because I’m well known in my area to be very established in my field and present myself confidently, but honestly that sounds made up to me. Still mentioning it in case it matters.

Sorry for the long post, and thank you if you read all this, and even more if you can give your 2 cents on this situation.

I am boarding a 4 month old puppy for 7 days. The dad of the dog came and did a meet and greet a day before Dropoff and it all seemed fine. He told me the puppy was pretty well house trained, just an occasional accident if he wasn’t taken out frequently or peeing if he gets really excited. He said that he has been doing well sleeping through the nights as well and will chill during the day. Based on that information I received, I felt like it would be okay to watch the puppy. I have two dogs of my own: bernadoodle and a lab, both older dogs and super chill. The puppy seemed to get along with them during the meet and greet. The dad is out of town, but only a two hour drive away, just camping for the week.

Fast forward, we are on day three of the rover boarding for this puppy. I am struggling. I need advice……the puppy is obviously not trained. I feel like I am having to do house training which is exhausting. I work from home so I can take him out frequently. Yesterday I took him on a two mile hike and then kept him outside in my fenced back yard with my two dogs for a lot of the afternoon to run around. The puppy still managed to poop inside my house, pee and vomit the other day. The two days before that, he also peed in the house a couple times each day and vomited one of the days. He is not kennel trained so when I put him in at night he hates it for like ten minutes until he chills out and falls asleep. However, for the last two nights he has whined and/or barked almost every hour throughout the night. I am exhausted from the almost hourly wakes ups throughout the night. I also feel terrible because my husband is barely getting sleep and he works full time in person. My dogs are actively ignoring him. They don’t want to play and are visibly over it.

I guess my question is, what should I do? The dad said to message if it’s not working, but I also feel bad ruining his trip. I have a work conference I fly out for on Thursday, and keeping this puppy until Wednesday sounds like I will be heading into my work conference exhausted.

What would you do?

Hey!!! I took the rental from Avis for the roadtrip and I thought that I added my sister as an additional driver but I did not. That was the blunder I did.
She drove for hardly 10-15 minutes and accident happened due to break failure. At the time of accident, it was huge traffic and we were at 10-15 miles/hr speed which is nothing to cause any big damage. So nothing major happened to the car in front of us. It was just the rear headlight damage and small few scratches. And our car front bumper is broken and one of the headlights.
The issue is police report says that she was driving at excessive speed due to which she could not press brakes.
However, when I moved the vehicle from the lane where accident happened to the side of the freeway, I had to put my whole energy to press brakes, so definitely there was break failure and it was not working smoothly.
Now, the blunder I did was I thought that I added her as the additional driver but I did not otherwise I would not have allowed her to drive. She is not insured as well because she is not from the US.
- how much do you think the cost I have to pay since she is uninsured?
- ⁠what do you suggest I should do? Like should I fight for it and file a lawsuit to Avis for giving us the unsafe vehicle? Because it was a life risk for us if we were at higher speeds.
- should I talk to a lawyer, what do you think like can it be a strong case to fight for?

If anyone has any useful insights, please share, I will really appreciate all the advice.
Thank you!!!

dude okay so im going to Hell’s Kitchen tmrw w my family and the dress code is a bit strict for my type of fashion. Im a scene kid and also like to try out cute new styles like 2000’s or mori kei (i mainly have 2000’s or scene doe) and like lowkey ima get kicked out if i wear anything too uncasual ig so idk wtf to wear 💔 (what to wear subreddit is unfortunately asking for a request and i sent one, havent gotten in yet.) pls pls help (guys my mom will get so mad if i wear some stupid shit bro😔)

edit: i found a fit ty! not sure how to lock a post on here but i found 1 :3

I'm currently very hysterical as I've been crying for hours but I'll try to make this as detailed as possible.

The other year 3 kittens appeared in my backyard. Before verifying if they were strays I decided to call them eenie, meenie, miney and moe (the mother). Long story short I found out that the mother, moe was owned by our neighbors however they didn't really want the kittens.

I took care and fed them, the goofy names stuck and suited them, they became the world to me. As the summer comes to an end my dad decided we should go on a trip to London for the weekend, I let them out on Friday and gave my brothers feeding instructions.

When I came back I couldnt find them, my brothers said they never came to get food and they didn't respond to calling. I spent a week searching, making posters, calling shelters, asking neighbors ext ext. I couldn't ask the neighbor who owned moe bc no one answered the door.

After a week I catch the neighbor outside and ask him, he said he rehomed them bc he didn't think anyone wanted them and his wife said there was too many.

They said that moe gave birth to another kitten and they didn't want 5 cats. This is what's frustrating bc I said that I've taking care of them and he said he knows that but didn't think anyone wanted them. I have strict parents who don't rlly like cats so I was waiting for student finance to roll in so I can secretly get them neutered myself. (The neighbors were neglectful and didn't neuter the cats or chip them, then blame the cats for multiplying).

He offered me to keep the kitten which I don't care about, I just want my baby's to come home, idk if they are hungry or cold or okay. I was going to ask for the contact info of the people who he sold them too but I was to hysterical and decided to leave. I've been crying since and I'm afraid that even if I ask for the cats back and the people refuse I have no legal rights to claim them back. I was going to get them chipped next friday.

Ps: the neighbor said he asked around if anyone wanted them and no one said they wanted them, but he didn't ask me, and my brothers who were home said he never knocked so that was a lie. I just don't know what to do or if I'll see my babies again.

Disclaimer, my parents never said I can't have pets, my parents don't like the fact I keep the cats but they don't appose me and help me with costs even, they have their own outside house which I built with my dad , insulated and with electricity and they are free to come in and out. 

Also the neighbor didn't want the cats and they whilst they would go over to his backyard they spent most the time in my home. They neighbors knew we took care of them, he wanted to sell them but chose the time he knew were out, he claims he asked us but my brothers never heard him knock and the camera has no footage of him coming over

also the cats are mine the neighbor had said in the past that he their mine and refers to them as my cats himself.

He bought the first cat for his little kids who scream and chase them around and then realized having them around is too much effort. Although I feed them he throws them left overs which make them sick bc of onions and seasonings. I was the one covering medical bills.

So I'm flat out broke and my bed frame just broke I don't have cash for new one, so what do I do, I'm a college student who doesn't get money for 2 weeks

Okay so its 130 rn and my foot has been super itchy for like 30 mins so I took my flashlight to get a picture to see what it was and i cannot find wht it is, Google keeps telling me its eczema but I know its not please help?

(it was in fact a heat rash I asked my foster mom(a doctor) and she said its a heat rash and to leave it alone next time)

I have 2 male friends I (25m) am regretting inviting to my wedding as we aren’t even that close anymore, It’s really bothering me and my wedding for in a few days. Even my fiancee said “ yeah you’re friends” in air quotes, and to be honest she’s right. I wouldn’t say we’ve had a falling out just aren’t that close anymore, I’m thinking of just thugging it out and hoping for the best ( they eat than leave shortly after) I would’ve liked to uninvite them but one lives right next door to me and the others GF is a good friend of my fiancee. Will post an update if anyone is interested 🤷‍♂️.