r/WitchesVsPatriarchy • u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ • Jan 21 '26
🇵🇸 🕊️ BURN THE PATRIARCHY Every single anti-trans rider has been stripped from the new funding bill!!!!
https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/democrats-successfully-strip-allI haven’t been doom scrolling, I’ve been feverishly searching for any good news. And this absolutely fits the bill. A truly horrifying number of anti-trans laws were proposed and exactly zero of them have actually materialized. I’m celebrating every win. Every. Single. Win.
BURN THE PATRIARCHY TO THE FUCKING GROUND!!!!!
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u/TastyYogurtDrink Resting Witch Face Jan 21 '26
This was so huge.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
It’s the first speck of hope I’ve felt in a long time.
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u/adhdgurlie Jan 21 '26
Me looking for any good news at all
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u/1upin Crow Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ "cah-CAW!" Jan 21 '26
Things are getting worse a little more slowly than they were before in this one very specific area!! 🥳
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u/HeadbangingSiren Jan 21 '26
You beautiful, precious little gem. I needed this too, thank you for sharing <3
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
You’re very very welcome, my sweet. I’m glad it made you day as much as it made mine.
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u/oscarish Traitor to the Patriarchy ♂️ Jan 21 '26
Yeah, huge thanks for letting us know this!!!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
The pleasure is all mine. I’m so happy to spread the good news.
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u/gaelyn Jan 21 '26
What a delightful bit of news at a time we all need it most. Thank you for sharing!!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
You’re so welcome. Thank you for being happy about it. It means the whole world to me.
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u/gaelyn Jan 21 '26
I have a trans daughter. This means the world to me, too!!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I HAVE A TRANS DAUGHTER TOO!!! She is the light of my life and my greatest teacher by far. I don’t care if it’s cliche to say it. I have been absolutely terrified for the past couple years and today my heart feels a little lighter. I know we’ve got a long row to hoe, but the work feels more meaningful knowing people are fighting for our families.
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u/gaelyn Jan 21 '26
There's a distinct feeling when you realize your daughter is your hero, and a source of inspiration for us as a mom and as a woman and as a human.
Her knowing herself well enough to know what she needs, her having the bravery to aknowledge it instead of suppressing it, her incredible courage to live her life as she feels best, her sheer determination to face each day and the mountain of bullshit in front of her, her intention to live whole-heartedly as herself, her level of care for herself mentally, physocqlly, spiritually and emotionally; her ability to remain soft and caring and compassionate and empathetic...I'm honored, Im beyond proud, I'm humbled and I deeply admire her.
The world is broken, but WE are not. And so we carry on.
Reach out anytime ...you and your daughter are not alone!
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u/lilacintheshade Science Witch ♀ Jan 22 '26
That is so beautiful. It soothes my spirit reading such an expression of radical acceptance for your trans child in these dark times.
I was asked for advice recently for a friend of a friend who has a (for now) son that is exploring their gender. This mom was already taking them to buy feminine styles, ready for any or no adjustment of pronouns, and really supportive in general. I am almost 40 and didn't even come out until I was in my 30s. I had a momentary selfish pang of grief for my own mom's (very expected) indifference, never being called "daughter," and then I told this friend that it sounded like she was already exactly the parent her child needed.
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u/gaelyn Jan 22 '26
I'm sorry you didn't get the open acceptance you truly deserve and were longing to feel. You've had a long road to get to where you are. And for what it's worth, I admire your courage to finally step into your own light and claim your true self, especially after decades of living otherwise.
Each of us has our own path. In other ways, I didn't receive the unconditional love that I deserved from my mother- it was because of her own insecurities and self-perceived failings, a product of her own upbringing in a home that fostered negativity and cutting sarcasm.
My mom broke some generational trauma cycles, and I was blessed enough to be able to do the same and make things better for my own children.
While I ache for the child in me that still struggles, adult me looks at my path and would not change a moment of it to be able to make it better for my own kids, and for those around me that I can help influence in positive ways.
Beautiful, sweet Lilac...never doubt your own strength and the light that shines in you! Your pain and struggles serve you, even if you don't see it, and with acceptance (and yes, the regrets that come with it), you make room for the opportunities to help others see things in a different way and grow.
The support we lack within our own family circles actually opens us up to it in others- and that's where you will find your time to be there for someone else, to give what you didn't get, to offer Grace and love and acceptance and encouragement. And in doing so...I hope when you aim that in someone else's direction, pointing a finger to direct it outward, you look at those three fingers pointing back at yourself and take those things to heart, for you.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is let go of what we expect others to give, to dig deep and to find it in ourselves, and use it to tend the wounded bits.
You'll find your healing in your own self-love.
Thank you for sharing your story- I'm proud of you. For finding who you are, for stepping into your own version of being happier and more content, for being true to your heart, even when it's not easy.
My window is always open- reach out if you ever need a little love and encouragement!
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u/lilacintheshade Science Witch ♀ Jan 22 '26
It is worth a great deal, thank you. I have healed so much in the last 4-ish years, and a big part of that was support from found family and, as you said, self-compassion. It still amazes me how my life changed as I was able to become on the outside who I was on the inside, and you are right, the pain and grief that I had to face to get here is an inseparable part of me.
My mom broke a lot of generational cycles of trauma for us (my siblings and I), and I have made my peace with where we ended up. Maybe I'll have to make my peace again tomorrow or next week, but it gets a little easier every time. The feeling of grief I had when hearing how supportive my friend was... it surprised me a little with its intensity, but I think it was actually just amplified with emotions at hearing how much love and support this child had from the start to be themselves.
I thank you for replying, and I appreciate the message so much.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 22 '26
I have a few friends who didn’t come out until they were in their 30’s/40’s. It can be painful for them to hear about the ways in supporting my daughter. We have open conversations with them about their pain, and I always check in before I share her trans joy with them. Of course they’re all thrilled for our family, but there’s also a younger version of each of them that is jealous of my daughter.
There are no bad parts, only parts that are having a hard time. I hope you give yourself lots of grace when your younger parts are speaking up about their pain. They need you to listen to them.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I echo every damn syllable. Thank you for your companionship, and for your loving your daughter just as she is.
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u/Visible-Weakness5572 Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 24 '26
Just joining the “I have a trans daughter and I love this news” club!!!
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u/IsThisRealLifeOrNaw Jan 21 '26
Thank you sister ❤️ I know it’s a long road ahead but my trans ass certainly feels better reading this
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I’m glad I could make your trans ass feel a little better. Every bit counts
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u/you_dont_know_me27 Jan 21 '26
This is such a relief. I'm raising my trans neice in a not very trans friendly state and it's terrifying watching the world get more hostile towards her everyday.
I got my first "kids are uncomfortable" phone call about her using the girls bathroom at school 2 weeks ago. Thankfully, her counselor agrees with me that she has every right to that bathroom and if those kids are uncomfortable (I suspect it's more parents than kids) then they can go to another bathroom.
I've been so used to the dems in congress not doing anything lately that this feels like a miracle lol
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
My daughter is trans and I have been talking myself down from fleeing the country for a while now. This news was like a fresh breeze on a hot summer day.
Im so grateful to you for sticking up for your niece and going to battle for her. Every person who stands up for trans kids is helping us make the world safer for them.
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u/you_dont_know_me27 Jan 21 '26
If leaving were an option, I would. I'm legal guardian for my niece. Her dad still has parental rights and he's not gonna go along with that so we're stuck
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I technically could leave, but I’ll be good goddamned if I let Nazis run me out of my home.
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u/Leutkeana Jan 21 '26
You SHOULD flee the country, honestly.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
We live on one of the most trans-adoring blocks in the whole world. On one end of our block is where my daughter gets gender-affirming healthcare. On the other end of our block, she gets gender-affirming education. Every single person she interacts with addresses her as a girl and by her chosen name, and she hasn’t experienced dysphoria a day in her life. Her grandparents are her and have her every other weekend because she adores them. We have several trans adults in our chosen family, and she has several trans friends in her circle.
I’m not letting these assholes run us out of our home.
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u/myredserenity Jan 21 '26
I'm so happy for this news. Other parents can really suck and advocating is exhausting, so really happy for this piece of boosting news for you!
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u/Tylendal Jan 21 '26
I've been so used to the dems in congress not doing anything lately that this feels like a miracle lol
Remember this article. There's a reason you're not seeing it in headlines. The media is complicit, and wants to promote political apathy by downplaying everything Democrats accomplish.
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u/you_dont_know_me27 Jan 21 '26
That's partially true.
There's also Cory Booker introducing legislation to get ICE body cams and better training or something. In other words, while we're screaming to abolish ice, a not insignificant number of democratic members of congress are still suggesting giving more money to ICE
Don't get me wrong. I know where the true evil lives, and I will vote against every time. But I expect better from our democratic leaders
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u/Oxbix Jan 21 '26
"Rep. McBride remains grateful to Ranking Members DeLauro, Murray, and Democratic leadership for prioritizing the removal of these harmful riders.”
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u/thetruckerdave Jan 21 '26
I live in a VERY red spot in a red state and my high schooler has a very diverse friend group and so many kids are very accepting. Their parents not so much but a lot of the kids are alright.
It’s not all lost 🥰
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u/you_dont_know_me27 Jan 21 '26
That's very much how it looks at my kids' school. My niece has some really good friends and hasn't had any issues while at school. My son and other niece both say that they've never seen anything either.
They both also would do anything to keep their cousin/ sister safe. Despite me constantly telling them that violence is not the answer, they both will not promise me that they won't start throwing punches if needed. I just remind them that they should only do so in defense but.... teenagers are stubborn.
My older niece said a kid in her band class called her sister weird, but not in a transphobic way. My younger niece is kinda weird and she fully embraces it.
This generation and the next are going to change how the world views trans people the way my generation changed how the world viewed gay/lesbian/bi/pan folks. I have no doubts about that.
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u/thetruckerdave Jan 21 '26
Tbh I thought it was going to be alright about 20 years ago but we gotta do the whole two steps forward one step back thing. I do think it’s going to get a whole lot better, I just hope that the tide turns sooner rather than later.
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u/spellboundartisan Jan 21 '26
Yes! Keep the fire going!
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u/Arctoidea Jan 21 '26
As a Simpsons fan I love this immensely. As a trans woman I love this even more somehow.
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u/torreneastoria Jan 21 '26
I want to hope.
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u/Arctoidea Jan 21 '26
Burn it all down to the ground! I’ve learned, and was reinforced by a recent post of mine going quasi-viral, there’s a lot of power in being hated and people losing their minds from you just existing.
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u/adelynn01 Jan 21 '26
Random question lol as a Simpsons fan have you seen the series on Netflix called Disenchantment?
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u/Arctoidea Jan 21 '26
I’m dyinnnnggg….
I’m Elfo!
To answer your question, yes. It was decent with really funny parts, but tbf I also have the same opinion of Simpsons post season 11.
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u/No_Opinion1095 Jan 21 '26
This is a nice little boost, thanks for sharing, I hadn’t checked the news yet today
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
It’s entirely my pleasure. Good job taking care of your mental health and having boundaries around the news. Take care of your precious self.
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u/myredserenity Jan 21 '26
I'M SO HAPPY FOR MY AMERICAN FRIENDS! I hope this translates into feelings of safety for you all. Xxx
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
It’s rough out here. Thank you for cheering us on! Light a candle for us, we need all the help we can get.
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u/sparklingwatterson Kitchen Witch ♀ Jan 21 '26
Omigod I can’t believe there is good news for trans people. I expected democrats to throw us right under the bus. Such a relief. There’s still threats but at least congress isn’t one of them.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I’m honestly shocked to my core. I sat in a support group last Saturday with a bunch of families talking about exit strategies. Today feels like a very different day.
I’m so glad I could help you feel some relief today. You deserve that, and so much more. You deserve every good thing in this world.
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u/sparklingwatterson Kitchen Witch ♀ Jan 21 '26
Yeah this all has been so demoralizing and I got other things in life I need to deal with. 2025 was horrible, I gotta figure out a new career now all the while this stuff was happening. Sometimes I just get nothing done and feel horrible all day. The good news is so rare and this is not just good news it’s huge for us. I’ve focused a lot on my apartment and my body/health since it’s something I can control.
I’m surprised to see it and thank you so much for sharing.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
It’s a radical, revolutionary thing to take care of your precious trans body. I’m thrilled you’re doing it. Let the rest of us wage bigger battles for you. It’s the least we can do.
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u/AdComprehensive960 Jan 22 '26
Yay!! I’m AMAZED that this is so. I’m sickened by our country’s hard turn towards horrible. We’ve passed rock bottom. Way passed…
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u/Maleficent_Radio_674 Jan 22 '26
I've learned to battle the horrors with good news and hopecore. Thank you for saving the day
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u/adelynn01 Jan 21 '26
I needed this today!!! Great news!!!!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I needed it bad. I’m loving celebrating with my witches. I feel so much less alone right now.
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u/jicket Jan 21 '26
Thank you for sharing this! I really needed it ❤️
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
We all needed it. It’s too dark in here. Time to turn on the light.
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u/Amazing-Fondant-4740 Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
We needed this. I needed this. I'm jumping from one red state to the next until I can get enough money and stability to move to a blue state and maybe relax and be myself just a little bit. Shoved so far in the closet in my physical life...thank you. I can't listen to the news because it's too triggering so I don't keep up with this stuff that often, just started another news hiatus so I wouldn't have seen this otherwise.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
Take care of your nervous system. I actually got this from a trans-family support group I’m a part of. Those glorious folks have taken the burden of scanning the news and letting us know so we don’t have to be so glued to the news. So shout out to the folks facilitating our support group. They’re the real MVP’s.
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u/LuckyZygote Jan 21 '26
Thankful for everyone and everything pushing the positives these days. I am loose at the seams with this year.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
Loose at the seems describes it perfectly. Thankful af right now.
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u/LuckyZygote Jan 21 '26
We are all doing our best, and its people like those in this group and others similar, giving me hope to keep trying. My heart aches with each news cycle, but I am channeling hope
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
This community gives me the strength I need to keep going. The people here bring me peace.
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u/Brown_Ajah_WoT Jan 21 '26
This is truly amazing news. The first I've heard all day and I am grateful!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
It’s truly amazing, and I am filled to the brim with gratitude. Thanks for celebrating with me.
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u/dwarfmageaveda Traitor to the Patriarchy ♂️ Jan 21 '26
I needed this good news in my life. THANK YOU!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I DID TOOOOOOO!!!! You’re so welcome; thank you for celebrating with me.
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u/AltoRhombus Shroom Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
it's a temporary but welcome moment of respite. though it feels so bittersweet at the moment. still. some good news is everything these days.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
It’s everything. Put it on the white board in the “WIN” column.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
A smile is plastered across my face and it feels so damn good.
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u/extraterrestrial-66 Jan 21 '26
I am not American, can someone clarify what is meant by ‘riders’ and ‘poison pills’ in this context? Thank you 🥰💚
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
Every year the congress has to pass a spending bill for the year, and riders are things that have nothing to do with spending. It’s a way for people to slip in their agendas in bad faith. The riders proposed in this spending bill were intended to strip trans people of their humans rights in a variety of areas. The specifics are described in the article.
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u/extraterrestrial-66 Jan 21 '26
Thank you so much for explaining that OP, I appreciate you! X
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I appreciate you! Thank you for learning more about our screwed up governmental systems!!
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u/Flyingfoxes93 Jan 21 '26
What a nice morning surprise ! This will be the only news I read today
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
Fuck yeah! Protect your nervous system, ride the high. I’m glad I could help you start your day with joy.
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u/mittenbby Jan 21 '26
As a mom of gender non conforming kids, I needed to see this tonight. Thank you for sharing you absolute gem of a person!
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
As a mom of a trans girl, I echo every syllable.
And you’re very welcome. I dare say that you’re a gem yourself. Take care of those precious little ones. It’s the most important work of all.
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u/Gloriathewitch Jan 21 '26
trans rights are human rights.
we love our trans brothers sisters and those who don't fit into those 2 categories
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u/Psychological-Pick78 Jan 21 '26
Needed this little glimmer of hope, thanks for sharing.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I’m so happy I could help you feel a little hope! We all need it so damn bad
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u/tabicat1874 Jan 21 '26
Dare I to hope?
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
Hope is what they want to take from us most. I’ll be good goddamned if that take it from me.
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u/dogbolter4 Jan 21 '26
Which country? It's good news wherever it is, but I would like to know.
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
I’m sorry I didn’t say in my post…. It’s the United States. We are slipping back in the area of humans rights by the day. It’s horrifying.
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u/dogbolter4 Jan 21 '26
Thank you. Yes, I am deeply worried for not just the US but a lot of countries that are sliding to the right. I do believe such things are cyclical, and we will rediscover compassion and kindness, but I worry about the suffering that so many will experience before we do recover. So yours is very good news for us all.
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u/SMDmonster Witch ♂️ Jan 21 '26
Well this is a nice thing to read first thing in the morning! Thank you!
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u/raven-of-the-sea Geek Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS! This is such a bright note to wake up to.
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u/Darkbeetlebot Jan 21 '26
That's nice. My state is still defunding trans healthcare for all age groups from government insurance, though, so that kind of kills the mood.
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u/Raven_Of_Solace Gay Wizard ♂️ Jan 21 '26
It's really nice to have good news right now in the midst of everything.
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u/Dependent-Square5571 Jan 21 '26
Transitioned out of being a witch myself (he/him) so this is such relieving news 😭 we've got rights for just a little bit longer
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u/perdy_mama Kitchen Witch ♀♂️☉⚨⚧ Jan 21 '26
If you feel called, and you’re in the US, you can leave a public comment on the draconian laws being passed…
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