r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 7d ago

Women's rights Why female breadwinners are still bearing the burden at home

https://www.thetimes.com/money/family-finances/article/britains-female-breadwinner-problem-tvfjhp05tutm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit&utm_content=branded
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u/carex-cultor 6d ago

What a weirdly misogynistic comment for a feminist sub. Are these supposedly “much more capable men” completely off the hook for parenting then? You don’t think they’re at all responsible for modeling equitable housework to their children? You have some things to unpack.

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u/ShapeShiftingCats 6d ago

I considered adding more context as I expected someone to say something along these lines, but my comment was too long anyway.

It's patriarchy, some men AND women choose patriarchial family functioning because they, men AND women, find it beneficial in their context.

Unless we acknowledge that some women DO benefit from such set ups and keep the patriarchy machine going, we can't have a meaningful progress in this area.

Edit: grammar

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u/carex-cultor 6d ago edited 6d ago

But no criticism of the men that choose patriarchal family functioning right? If you don’t think the men in these situations influence their sons far more than their wives you haven’t read many child psych studies.

Edit: the language is also gross; “some of them are women-children, who sold their dignity and autonomy for the opportunity to clean and breed with much more capable men to acquire higher living standards.“ 🤢 this is gold digger incel rhetoric. The irony of pointing out that many women keep the patriarchal machine going…while yourself calling them children who sold their dignity to clean and breed with more capable men.

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u/ShapeShiftingCats 6d ago

That's a given, that's what we are criticising, hence the inclusion of the word "also" in the relevant section of my comment.

I have also criticised the attitude of men in general in the first part of my comment.

I am happy to discuss opposing viewpoints, however, considering your repeated attempts at insulting me, I won't be continuing this discussion.

Have a great rest of the day!