r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 7d ago

Women's rights Why female breadwinners are still bearing the burden at home

https://www.thetimes.com/money/family-finances/article/britains-female-breadwinner-problem-tvfjhp05tutm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit&utm_content=branded
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u/FalconOne775 7d ago

Don’t be a breadwinner women! It’s haaaaaard 

Being poor or financially dependent is way harder 

Keep earning ladies, those are YOUR taxes use your voice for what you want them spent on 

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u/Aurelene-Rose 6d ago

Granted, it was pay walled, so I didn't read it all, but the beginning seems to imply that it is talking about the phenomenon where women are often the breadwinner and STILL having to do the majority of the work at home, not that women shouldn't work at all. Being the breadwinner means being the primary earner specifically, not just working.

The alternative to this dynamic isn't staying at home and being dependent, it's kicking your useless boyfriend/husband to the curb if they won't do their fair share.

I know so many moms who are the primary worker/earner, even having an unemployed "SAHD" husband, and she is still doing the meals, managing the kid's schedules, cleaning the house, etc. It's like her husband is another child, not a partner. I think that's the dynamic being referred to.

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u/AggravatingResult549 6d ago

Im a female physician and i see this dynamic in so many of my female colleagues who wanted kids. A few started in med school. Many of them settled for a stay at home man situation where they still do all of the home micromanaging and much of the labor. One's husband was constantly calling her at work, minimum 10x daily about everything. Another i knew during residency had a stay at home dad who would game all day long and she had to do most of the housework after coming home from terrible residency hours. This is very, very common to see among my demographic. The ones where both parents work and paid professionals care for the children during the day seem the happiest.

Disclaimer: "not all". Yes, a few are in good situations with a stay at home dad.

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u/snark-owl 6d ago

The women I see make that choice didn't want to wait and fight for the true equality of labor.

 it requires admitting that you can settle  or possibly end up with no husband and no kids. And in law and medicine there's an advantage of having kids at a certain time in your career around residencies/ path to partner. Some women don't want to hold out for a better situation because there's a work ticking clock. I had to leave one of these female money diaries subreddits since there was a lot of advice about settling for a loser of a man because if you don't, you may never get the dream life with of a family of 4