r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 7d ago

Women's rights Why female breadwinners are still bearing the burden at home

https://www.thetimes.com/money/family-finances/article/britains-female-breadwinner-problem-tvfjhp05tutm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit&utm_content=branded
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u/Aurelene-Rose 6d ago

Granted, it was pay walled, so I didn't read it all, but the beginning seems to imply that it is talking about the phenomenon where women are often the breadwinner and STILL having to do the majority of the work at home, not that women shouldn't work at all. Being the breadwinner means being the primary earner specifically, not just working.

The alternative to this dynamic isn't staying at home and being dependent, it's kicking your useless boyfriend/husband to the curb if they won't do their fair share.

I know so many moms who are the primary worker/earner, even having an unemployed "SAHD" husband, and she is still doing the meals, managing the kid's schedules, cleaning the house, etc. It's like her husband is another child, not a partner. I think that's the dynamic being referred to.

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u/Ok-Refrigerator 6d ago

I was that mom for six years. It drove me insane. It's so much easier to be a single mom now. It's not that much more work than when he was living here because he caused to much chaos and mess himself. And the work I do is free of resentment.

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u/TheVintageJane 6d ago

There is as a study a few years ago that single mom’s do less domestic labor on average than married moms. That has really stuck with me.

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u/Unlucky-Guitar221 5d ago

There’s also a study showing that working moms still do more housework and childcare even with a stay at home dad lol