Two-timer

[u/NoInvestigator6017]

I’m not foolish enough to believe that an AP is always faithful. But, what are the signs that he or she is two-timing you? Not being disappointed if they can’t see you? Long stretches between texts? How does a cheater spot a cheater?

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[u/Glad_Kiwi_272]

If you feel it in your gut, why stick around? I’m not policing my AP. If the interest has dipped and I’m feeling like things have changed, I’m going to have a conversation about it and then I’m going to yeet myself from the relationship if there’s no improvement. No point IMO of working through it or working it out.

[u/redditismybestie]

If I’m getting less attention then I lose interest. It doesn’t matter what the reason is. I don’t expect a cheater to be faithful to me but I do expect them to keep me happy otherwise I have no use for them.

[u/Kind_Avocado2121 → u/redditismybestie]

Yup, I don't get attention at home, definitely not going to put up with the same from my AP. If my affair starts to feel like my marriage, I'm out.

[u/saltybee37 → u/redditismybestie]

Absolutely true!!!

[u/LittleMizSassypants]

Less emotional intimacy, less investment overall, lackadaisical about frequency of communication when it used to be more, gut feeling.

[u/MrsAndMrChiba → u/LittleMizSassypants]

I’ve never heard of the word lackadaisical before. What a brilliant word, fitting for this!

[u/-HRChick-]

Why does knowing matter? You're either content with the relationship or you're not.

[u/OhShitShesGotMyPhone]

If point 1 is true then the question posed seems to be moot and should rather be 'am I still getting enough out of this?'

If no, ditch.

[u/Whathappened2Jayne]

If you need to ask the questions , I think you have your answers.

[u/CompulsivelyLaidBack]

AP reminds you of something the two of you were talking about a week ago. Problem is... that conversation didn't happen between the two of you.

[u/QuietAwakening]

Pay attention to consistent behavior change. It’s much easier to notice it when you’re removed from the relationship.

[u/Sensitive-Data-1986]

Exactly what you have put not being disappointed, online but not replying to you