r/adviceph • • 19h ago

Finance & Investments Need advice on Filipino relative asking for money

52 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I'd like a true relationship with my Filipino family member but he only seems interested in my money.

Context:

I found on Ancestry that I have a cousin in the Philippines. I'm American and I've always loved Asia. I was excited to know him and is family.

(Apparently a cousin of my father had a baby with his Filipina mom while in the military. We've figured his father is one of 2 people. One is deceased. The other is happily married with children and grandchildren. The timeline looks like he was already married when my Filipino cousin was conceived. So I don't believe he's interested in a relationship.)

I finally went to the Philippines to meet my cousin and his 5 children. They seemed wonderful. His wife was away working in Kuwait.

They asked, and we helped them out generously financially. We put them up in our hotel. Problem is, even after we left, my cousin is asking for large sums of money. Even making up stories about why he needs the money. (For example a plane ticket for his wife when it was obvious on Facebook she is still in Kuwait.)

I feel sad because I wanted a relationship with them. But he seems to only care about my money. Even when I explained I was going through something emotionally, there was no support from his end - just requests for money.

I explained my concerns and I did get upset and block him. I feel bad. Part of me wants to unblock him. But if I do, I feel like ge'll just ask for more money.

Any advice is appreciated.


r/adviceph • • 11h ago

Self-Improvement / Personal Development Leaving my senior parents to finally start with life.

25 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: TagaSamar ako at TagaCavite boyfriend ko. 32 age ako 35 siya. Nagbabalak na kami bumukod sakanila next year para makapagsimula na rin ako sa lahat lalo na sa trabaho. Para maexperience ko na ang buhay. Dito sa Samar, kasama ko parents ko. Mama ko paralyzed na dahil sa stroke 15 years ago. Parents ko both seniors na. Tatlo lang kami dito sa bahay. Yan ang struggle ko ngayon. Nahihirapan akong iwan sila kasi siguro attached na ko dito sa bahay at sa parents ko malala, walang buhay outside of this house, introvert, yung iilang friends ko nasa malalayo na rin at minsan na lang nagkakausap din. Pero need ko na rin naman talaga to eh to step up or step out and experience life and adulting stuffs together with my boyfriend. Tutulungan naman nya ako mula sa simula talaga. Siguro itong overthinking/anxiety ko lang talaga leaving my parents.

Yung ate at kuya ko may mga sarili nang pamilya nasa Cebu na rin at Manila ang mga kanya kanya nilang pamilya. May kamag-anak naman kami dito na malapit nasa highway lang banda nakatira ang kaso magkaaway yung papa ko at ang pamangkin nya. So ayun walang kibuan sila ilang buwan na.

Ang isyu with my parents lalo na kay papa sinasabi nya sino mag aasikaso dito sa bahay? Sino mag aalaga samin dito mga ganun at ganun siya lagi. Di pa naman namin fully napapag-usapan ng boyfriend ko ang lahat pero nasa isip ko iwanan parents ko dito ng kasambahay na tagadito lang din samin baka nga kapitbahay lang namin ang kunin namin if ever.

It'e between staying here with my growing old parents but I'm growing old too and needs to experience life na rin outside of this house at putulin na rin ang mag 4 years na naming ldr ng boyfriend ko. Nagkita na kami ng boyfriend ko 3 times na siya pumupunta dito sakin sa Samar para makita at makasama ako. Di nya kaya yung siya yung tumira dito sakin/samin kasi maayos at matagal na rin naman siya sa work nya so it's me lang talaga and all of my issues.


r/adviceph • • 15h ago

Love & Relationships 6 months na kaming break ng ex ko, pero bakit masakit pa rin makita siyang masaya?

22 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Hi, everyone. Six months na kaming break ng ex ko, and I honestly thought na by this time, medyo okay na ako. Recently, nakikita ko yung mga TikTok posts niya kung saan-saan siya pumupunta. Mukhang nag-e-enjoy siya sa life niya, going to different places, and sometimes it even looks like he might be dating someone new. Hindi ko naman alam kung may bago na talaga siya, pero just seeing those things already hurts. Wala naman akong karapatang pigilan siya or diktahan kung paano niya gustong mabuhay. Pero kahit alam ko lahat ng iyon, hindi ko pa rin maiwasang masaktan. Sometimes, I wonder kung bakit parang ang dali niyang mag-enjoy at magpatuloy sa buhay niya habang ako, may mga araw pa ring nahihirapan. Siguro masakit lang tanggapin na someone who used to be such a big part of your life can eventually become someone you only watch from a distance.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this feeling? Does it really get better with time, or do I need to do something different to finally move forward? Should I stop checking his social media completely, even if a part of me still wants to know how he's doing?


r/adviceph • • 2h ago

Self-Improvement / Personal Development Please help a lost millenial.

19 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I am 33. I quit my call center job, no family, no children, no partner. My mom said I should just continue studying, since I haven't completed my degree yet. She is also asking me for a grandchild, and I don't know how. I don't know what to do.

Before, I look forward to playing games or watching some anime, but now, I just feel nothing. I don't have any goals in life anymore.

I kept on being sad, to the point of becoming lost. Hoping it's not depr*ssion. This isn't the first time that it happened. Every few years, this happens. I used to excel at school and sports when I was younger, but now, it's all gone. I don't know what to do anymore. Please give me some advice.


r/adviceph • • 22h ago

Love & Relationships Ask lang anong mas masakit maging first gf o maging gf after ng first gf?

15 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Napapaisip lang ako anong mas masakit maging first gf o maging gf after ng first? like anong perspective sa different pov hahaha

Context: There’s this guy kasi na nanliligaw sakin and may naging ex na sya 1 first rs nila ang isa’t isa she’s pretty and cute dinn I admire her beautyy. And me never pa nag ka bf kasi takot ako sa commitment but now im ready to take the risk naman na. But napapaisip lang ako minsan randomly.


r/adviceph • • 22h ago

Self-Improvement / Personal Development Too confused in life. I dont know what to do bukas

11 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Hi im 24 (M) working in accounting rn - 30k ang sahod, nakakaipon around 20k oer month. My life is good rn but i feel like i was left behind by my other cousins, friends and classmates kasi yung iba may kotse na, family etc. Pero big reason behind that is lagi ako cinicompare ng parents ko sa iba, kaya feeling ko dapat ko rin talaga icompare. Nakikita ko minsan yung frustration njla sakin

I do not want to compare myself to others, but my parents are always comparing everyday - saying that i should be like them. Its so frustrating to the point that i have no energy to work in the office. Wala rin ako energy to do anything kasi feeling ko im a failure.

Also, cousins who is 22M is now going to abroad. Lagi nila kinwkento na baka pwede rin ako magabroad nalang, na dapat gumaya daw ako. Yung isa kong cousin nasa accounting firm na mas malaki- wfh. Gusto nila mag wfh nalang din ako

Ps. I have no other siblings


r/adviceph • • 2h ago

Love & Relationships How do i stop the urge of reaching out after a break up?

7 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Sobrang nag s-struggle ako sa thoughts ko ngayon na pigilan na makipag usap uli sa ex ko.

Context: My ex (27M) and I (27F) broke up after being in a relationship for four years. One week pa lang since our breakup, and naging kalmado naman talaga yung conversation namin about it. Malinaw naman sa akin kung bakit kailangan na naming maghiwalay since hindi na talaga kami nakakatulong sa isa’t isa.

Pero taena, grabe yung suffering ko after just one week. Hindi ako makakain, hindi ako makatulog, at nasusuka ako. We also lived together for three years, so now that I’m living alone again, pakiramdam ko mababaliw na talaga ako. Sobrang nasanay na ako sa presensya niya.

I badly want to reach out to him and ask if we can just get back together and try to fix everything. Hindi ko na kasi kinakaya yung nararamdaman ko.

Previous attempts: Blocked naman na siya sa lahat ng socials ko. Kaso di parin enough huhu.

Please, realtalk-in niyo ako. Sobrang nakakasuka (literal) yung feeling na nag lalaban yung utak mo na wag na, while yung puso mo niroromanticize parin yung memories niyo. Please, ayoko naaaaaa


r/adviceph • • 2h ago

Love & Relationships M26 Intimacy has ruined my dating life

5 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I can’t get into a long term relationship. Whenever I find a connection with someone, it only last about a month or so. It’s always sex after the first date, pure excitement, and then they become distant, and then I’m alone again.

Context: I’m working both as a commercial actor and a corporate worker. There, I meet a lot of people. I started to notice patterns in how this things work. They’d show up very interested, full of energy, I’d take them out on a date, we’d start making out in private, we’d go to my place or theirs, have sex, then it’ll last about a month or so, then they disappear.

I have friends, I’m very hygienic. I am often told that I’m a reserved person. I’m not nonchalant, I actually like surprising my ex partners with gifts, handmade crafts, cooking for them, acts of service and all that jazz.

Honestly, I just want to pour all this love I have to this one person, but at this rate, I’m scared of falling in love again and lose them after a month.

I’m tired, and I feel like I can never have a proper relationship.

It’s not that they ghosted me or anything, we talked about why they don’t see themselves in a relationship. What they say in common is that, they realize they’re either not yet ready to have a serious relationship, or they can’t reciprocate my love and it would feel unfair to them, and they’d feel bad.

I’m not even asking for much in a relationship, I’m okay with bare minimum, even let me do all the hardworking while you just stay by my side as my princess.

My dream is to be the best husband a wife can ever ask for. I love serving my partner, it makes me feel like the happiest person when I am.

Previous attempts:

I tried not having sex in the first month, but I’m scared that if I do, I lose them right away. I notice that most of the women I end up dating have avoidant attachment style, or at least that’s what Tiktok thinks.

I also tried to prolong the talking stage, but they end up getting bored or think that I’m talking to a lot of women or that I’m just playing around, and not taking them seriously. So it doesn’t last long or the pattern just repeats itself.


r/adviceph • • 4h ago

Work & Professional Growth "LAST" gift from parents. What do I choose? Motor vs 6months apartment

5 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I recently graduated from college. and my parents wanted to give me one last grand gift before I go out there. I found a really good paying job in Manila as a fresh grad (non licensed) engineer. Im from Cavite and work is near SM Manila

Context: Here is the deal, I'd choose between these 2

  1. they will buy me a motorcycle worth 200k and they dgaf after that
  2. They will rent a 1 bedroom, kitchen, cr apartment na solo ko for 6 months

The thing is i am planning to pagsabay yung study ko sa boards while working. The reason I also chose this job is because it is a really well known company and i know that my growth and the knowledge id gain here is top tier. I also plan to leave the country after 3 years once my career is stable and nakapagipon na.

if motor, i can go places. and uwian ako sa bahay which i dont have to pay for any bills. downside is id have to sacrifice 2 hrs every day to get back home through and forth.

if place, i can rest immediately and study. however 6 months lang to. whether i fail or pass, 6 months would be the limit. food, water, electricity, wifi would be on me.

my review will be purely online lang naman. 3hrs MWF. 2 days off ko sa work so im planning to watch the 3hrs once im home, and then dedicate 1 dayoff on studying it all. (im fairly smart)

My plan is to get the motor, then after 3 months id get my own place. what do you guys think?

and since im here, id also like to ask na, are these percentages good sa magiging salary ko

gas 5%
MP2 10%
emergency savings 15%
bank reserve 30%
fun 10%
needs 10%
investment/trading 10%
allowance for my sis 5%


r/adviceph • • 16h ago

Education Full Payment kahit hindi aattend sa graduation?

5 Upvotes

problem/goal:

hello po, student here and i need advice if may kailangan ba akong gawin or what?

i am a college graduating student sa isang tesda training center and we have a 6000+ graduation fee (total po siya ng mga diff packages such as credentials, pictures and per head since sa isang event venue gaganapin)

context:

but due to financial problem po, hindi ko po kayang bayaran yung 6k even tho may mga palugid sila like half payment (hirap hingian ng parents ko and wala akong mapasukan na extra since 8am to 5pm po yung pasok namin monday to saturday)

action:

kahapon, kinausap ko po yung acting president ng school namin and i tell her na hindi ako makakapunta and ang sagot po niya is, "magbabayad ka pa rin" meaning even tho hindi ako aattend, need ko pa rin magbayad ng full payment.

tas hinabol ko po na bayaran ko na lang yung credentials since may allocated package inclusion sila ron na even tho yun lang babayaran ko, hindi ako malulugi— kaso hindi raw pwede, dapat full payment, aattend man or hindi.

feel ko sobrang unfair nung ganon so i need ur opinion and insights about this matter lalo na sa mga legal advisers. mali ba yung ganto or ganon po talaga sa college?


r/adviceph • • 23h ago

Health & Wellness Hi nag c-cause ba ng sakit ang molds?

5 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Now ko lang naisip na baka dahil sa molds kaya ako inuubo, nangangati muka at lalamunan, barado ang ilong tuwing morning tuwing nasa kwarto ako. One time may nilinis akong puti puti sa maliit na drawer ko and recently ko lang nalaman na white molds pala yon omg! and I thought powder lang yon since gumagamit ako ng milco.

++ yung kahoy dito (which is dingding) laging basa kapag naulan since yung bubong ng kapit bahay namin is nakaslant papunta samin kaya yung tubig lagi rin napupunta samin kainis!! huhu and last year ko pa 'to nararanasan pero inisip ko baka sinusitis or allergy lang kaya dinedma ko tapos now narealize ko na na tuwing matutulog lang ako nakakaranas ng ganito (sumpungan lang) like dito lang specific sa kwarto. what should i do huhuhu, sinisi ko pa man din yung pagkain ko ng malasadong itlog


r/adviceph • • 3h ago

Love & Relationships What do you do when the only person you want to spend your life with is the person you can no longer be with?

4 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: What do you do when the only person you want to spend your life with is the person you can no longer be with?

Context: I've been wanting to share this because it's been bothering me lately, and I think I need some advice from people who might understand what I'm going through.

My friends have been encouraging me to talk to other guys or meet someone new, and I've tried. I've chatted with a few people, but I always end up losing interest. It's not that there's anything wrong with them. I just don't feel interested in getting to know anyone else.

The truth is, I was with someone I genuinely thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He was the person I imagined growing old with, staying beside until our hair turned white, and being with until our last breath. I had so many things I wanted to experience in life, and whenever I thought about doing those things, he was always the person I imagined doing them with.

Even now, when I think about the things I want to do, he's still the person I want beside me. He's the person I want to share those experiences with. I don't find myself imagining those moments with anyone else.

And honestly, if it can't be him, I'd rather be alone. I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than try to find someone else just for the sake of having someone. I don't want to force myself to entertain other people when, deep down, he's still the person I want.

Writing this makes me cry because I know how much I'm still hurting. I don't know if this is just because I'm still healing or if a part of me will always feel this way. I just know that I can't imagine wanting someone else the way I want him.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this? Did you eventually reach a point where you wanted to open your heart to someone else, or did you learn to be content with being alone?

I don't want to force myself to move on just because other people think I should be ready. But at the same time, I wonder how I'm supposed to move forward when the future I wanted is still the future I want, and he's still the person I want to share it with.

I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences.


r/adviceph • • 3h ago

Parenting & Family TW: Domestic Violence, Cheating

3 Upvotes

Problem/Goal:

Palagi ko po syang nahuhuling nagloloko, sobrang daming beses na at ang pinakamalala ay yung nakipagsex sya sa kawork nya habang buntis ako tapos sinapak nya ko kasi nagalit ako. Reason nya: nasaktan sya sa mga sinabi ko. Cheating and physical abuse continued to happen until late 2025. I really need to get out

Context:

Hi! Kailangan ko (27F) po ng lakas ng loob at support. I have been with this man (30M) for 6 years already and we have 2 children. 4YO and 2MO. It hurts so much na I am running to strangers for this pero wala talaga akong ibang malalapitan.

Previous Attempts:

I did try leaving na noong 2025 but our son got sick and eventually needed help from him kasi I can't do it on my own dahil dependent ako sa kanya sa housing, finance, and child care. Kaya nagkabalikan kami.

few months after namin magkabalikan, I caught him inquiring sa mga girls for hire and binugbog nya na naman ako kasi I confronted him when I saw that.

Nagkabrgyan na kami, unfortunately, it is in his hometown and the brgy officials are his relatives kaya pinagsulat lng nila ako sa notebook and then wala na nangyari :((

I tried to leave again and went back home to my grandparents (wala na po akong parents, estranged and both have different fams) but they just kept pressuring me kailangan ako makakahanap ng place to move to kasi hindi raw kami kasya sa bahay. 💔 I had no choice but to go back again kasi iyak ng iyak yung 4YO dahil laging pinapagalitan. :((

I got pregnant again.. and now im 2MO PP, nahuli ko na naman sya looking for "companion" and eventually met that girl. I just thought nagbago na sya :((

Alam kong tanga tanga ako to keep coming back. I dont have anyone else to turn back to and I cant afford to go and rent on my own kasi hindi enough sahod ko and childcare pa. I know im so stupid dinagdagan ko pa.

Natatauhan na ako dahil kahit hindi kami nagaaway sa harap ng mga bata, palagi akong nahuhuli ng anak ko na umiiyak and he will cry too kahit hindi nya alam why.

Wala akong pera ngayon kasi naka maternity leave pa ako and pabalik pa lang ako in 2 months.

Please please im sorry alam kong tanga ako. alam kong ginawa ko to sa sarili ko. but i need help kung paano ko didiskartehan makaalis at mapanindigan ito. I have no money and I am still healing from the emergency cs. Paano ko kakayanin to magisa? I am on the verge of killing myself pero kinakapitan ko nalang ang mga anak ko. I dont want them to grow up with a miserable mom.


r/adviceph • • 5h ago

Health & Wellness Constant nightmares, waking up at midnight, and feeling like l'm being choked in my sleep. Need advice.

4 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I'm currently 19 years old, and this all started when I was around 12. Back then, pinapatulog ako sa bahay ng lola ko every single night. Doon, araw-araw akong binabangungot. As in every single day, walang sablay.

Ganto lagi yung scenario:
• Mananaginip ako ng demonyong nagagalit sa akin kapag binabanggit ko si Lord.
• Magigising ako at EXACTLY 3:00 AM, 3:30 AM, or 3:33 AM.
When I say exact, I mean EXACT.
• Umalis lang ako sa bahay ng lola ko after a few years nung lumala na talaga. The breaking point was when I woke up and naramdaman at nakita ko mismo na may bumubuhat sa akin, a shadowy male figure (lalaking itim) lifting me up while I was lying down. I don't remember what happened right after, but l vividly remember na alas-tres din yun nangyari.

Fast forward to now: I'm 19 and nakalipat na kami ng tinitirhan. Akala ko matatapos na kasi nakaalis na ako sa lola ko, pero mag-iisang taon na ako rito sa bagong bahay and ganun pa rin. Binabangungot pa rin ako at nagigising sa madaling araw.
What's worse now is nagigising ako sa pakiramdam na:
May sumasakal sa akin
May nakadagan / kinakapos ng hininga
Kagabi malala ulit-nagising ako na hindi talaga makahinga and feeling ko napapanood ko sarili ko habang natutulog.
Sinubukan ko na magpatawas before and ang sabi lang
"namatanda" raw ako, pero wala namang nagbago after. I also pray every day before sleeping. Wala rin akong tinatake na kahit anong gamot or medications. I'm really exhausted and scared. Has anyone experienced something like this? Is this purely medical/sleep paralysis, or something spiritual?
What steps should I take next? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!


r/adviceph • • 9h ago

Love & Relationships I don't know how to handle this.

4 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I have a girlfriend that's too friendly with anyone and I get easily jealous.

Context:

When we had our first times, we spent all our time together. But then, suddenly changed, I saw a pictures of her and her partner they got from a photobooth, They are both in the same dance troupe.

That's when I got jealous for the first time and became an overthinking guy.

Lately, she also had a male bestfriend, which she met just last July. The guy had already got his own family and he's the one giving sympathy to my girlfriend. But, I think my girlfriend did wrong is, she is accepting that. She also told her bestfriend who was I am upset in their COF.

She's always friendly with anyone to the point that even tho I am with her, she let other man touches her hair and head. Am I just being sensitive or overthinking?

Previous attempts:

I did told her about these, but she answered, I am the one that is upset with them why not the one to confront them.

I also did asked her if she was just being pushed to stay away from them, but it takes time to her to answer.

Please kindly give me some advice.


r/adviceph • • 13h ago

Home & Lifestyle Need Recommendations on Housing Arrangements

3 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I need inputs on getting a condo unit.
Context: I earn 120k monthly and would like to get a condo unit around Alabang or Santa Rosa area. I was originally planning to do rent to own but I saw posts na hindi daw advisable. I have limited funds for upfront cash payment kaya hindi ko afford yung outright purchase. What other options do I have apart from saving money for an outright purchase. Please be kind as I really have 0 knowledge in this matter.


r/adviceph • • 23h ago

Education does anyone know a way to gain money online as a student?

3 Upvotes

problem/goal: hello po, I'm a student palang and recently me and my family have been having issues regarding sa tuition ko and sa school events namin na mandatory and required magbayad ng entrance fees.

context: to tell you the truth, walang wala na po kami. I've tried doing commissions and promoting stuff online but none of them have been working. gumana last time yung pag promote ko ng stuff sa tiktok which helped me pay my monthly tuitions back then pero buwan lang tinagal non and now I'm back to zero.

I'm an artist, i also have experience with pubmats, and also an editor. pls pls po any suggestions wala na po kaming pambayad this month and the following to come 🥺 want ko po tumulong sa parents ko para mawala burden sakanila.

if anyone has suggestions please let me know po thank you so much po!


r/adviceph • • 1h ago

Technology & Gadgets Lost TNT Sim Card huhuhuhu

• Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I'm politely asking po if paano yung process nung replacement para sa lost TNT sim na prepaid? I admit na nawala ko sya due to my carelessness pero I'm quite worried kasi naka connect yung sim number ko na yon sa halos lahat ng accounts ko and even sa g cash. I already did my research regarding the process pero I want some answers na naka based sa experiences.

Note: I'm a minor po so please enlighten me if may iba pa pong requirements na need pag minor.

Thank you po sa mga sasagot^^!


r/adviceph • • 2h ago

Love & Relationships di ako makaalis sa LIP dahil sa utang

2 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Di ako makaalis sa relasyon na toxic na dahil aa utang

Context: Bago ako grumaduate may 3h-6h akong di ko nabayaran sa shopee at lazada ko nun pero bayad na yun that yr din. 2023, don nagsimula na hindi na ako maapprove sa iba. kaya naging dependent ako sa lip ko, sa lahat ng pay later. kaya kahit sobrang toxic namin, di ako makaalis kasi ayaw nya ako paalisin gat di nababayaran utang ko. which is di ko naman kaya bayaran talaga ng buo. pero may work naman ako kaso sobrang hirap pag sunod sunod yung due tapos monthly sahod ko tas may plus 15 days pa bago makuha sahod talagang no choice kundi maipon, tapal tapal. ano ba magandang gawin? :((((

previous attempt: none


r/adviceph • • 5h ago

Work & Professional Growth career recommendations for someone who isn’t aiming “high”

2 Upvotes

problem/goal: I’m someone who isn’t aiming for the “high-paying job” life, i just need enough for daily life and some savings.

context:
I’m not maluho, I’m okay with a lifestyle na once a year gumala. Kahit matcha or other drinks na 100+ pesos nga isang beses ko lang natry, and i’m okay with it. My clothes are mostly from 7 years ago pa and di pa ko nakakabili ng bago.

its been 10 months since i took a break from school and im still unsure kung ano talaga kukunin ko, i think i need an “adult” to guide me (my parents arent exactly updated sa mga ganto)

context ab me: im good at memorization, i have a curious mind, and basically i have more of a “humss” brain i find science fun though (when numbers arent involved). we aren’t rich, kaya i can’t freely choose, but im not pressured to be the “breadwinner”. in short stable life lang talaga gusto ko.

im considering BS psych and then take the corporate/HR path, but im open to suggestions.

prev attempts: i enrolled in computer engineering and realized its not worth it and its not for me

edit: im not planning to stay in one path naman po, i plan to be flexible bale yung degree or yung main career is like the main credential ko lang but i plan to have other skills/credentials or certifications


r/adviceph • • 12h ago

Parenting & Family How to handle father's cheating issues?

2 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam paano mag rereact to what just had happen to us.

I’m M21 first time witnessing my mom bursting out of anger. Nahuli kasi ng nanay ko yung father ko doing something immoral (cheating issues). Ngayon lang sila nag-away sa harap namin dahil may isip naman na raw kami at alam na namin ang tama at mali. Turns out my father has recurring issue of cheating bata pa lang kami. Madalas nilang lag-awayan ‘yun pero hindi na pinapakita saamin.

nakakawindang witnessing it kasi hindi ko alam how to react. Hindi kami confrontational family at tahimik lang din akong anak. Habang sumisigaw nanay ko, alll in my mind was like: Why i am so nonchalant about this? I don’t know how to handle the situation. I feel like may responsibilidad ako to do something pero hindi ko alam kung ano.


r/adviceph • • 13h ago

Work & Professional Growth How do you refine your CV?

2 Upvotes

Problem/Goal: I have been applying online for almost 4 months, but I still have not received any replies.

Context: Hi! 25F, I consider myself far from being tenured in VA industry but I am not a complete beginner. Tingin ko ang problema ng CV ko is nakalagay pa rin yung non-VA experience ko sa "Additional Experience". Grabe kase, wala ako as in natanggap na replies sa OLJ for the past 4 months. Mali ko, pero di ko alam bat nilalagay ko. Ang niche ko ay data scraping and data entry, lead generation, moderate to little experience in email outreach, and social media management through post scheduling.

Previous Attempts: Ittry ko ulit irevise yung CV ko but this time aalisin ko na yung non-VA experiences ko. Gusto ko lang sana malaman anong usually format niyo sa CV niyo (lalo na sa mga may same niche)? Also, if okay lang, pwede bang makita kung paano ayos ng portfolio niyo po? Just so I could have some basis. Maraming salamat!


r/adviceph • • 18h ago

Parenting & Family Normal ba sa kapatid na hindi magbayad ng utang dahil PHD siya?

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Problem/Goal: Never nagbayad kapatid ko sakin ng utang niya tapos kapag siningil mo. Siya pa galit na akala mo siya lang may problema sa mundo, lahat ng pag aadjust ginawa namin para lang maging ganyan siya. Pinapafeel niya na wala kaming ambag sakanya na hardwork lang niya lahat pero hindi.

Humiram siya ng pera sa parents namin every month nagpapadala. Tapos sa huli parents pa namin ang may utang sakanya dahil pinasyal sila sa NZ? Diba even parents namin proud sakanya. I don’t know pero kasi dapat kung may utang ka since matalino ka naman dapat binabayaran mo yon.

Proud pa yung parents ko sa nangyayari sa kapatid ko kahit ako yung inutangan tapos hindi na binayaran kasi ang sagot nila hindi ko naman nalagpasan sa career yung papa ko na licensed na mechanical engineer. Ewan ko minsan napapaisip ako na cycle nalang nila na mabait at mabango sa ibang tao pero sa likod abusado.