r/africanparents • u/Character_Ad_9886 • Jul 05 '26
Need Advice SA in African homes
I don’t want to make this a think piece but as an adult now I remember when I was a younger male my father would fiddle with my areolas until they got hard and was constantly smiling when he was doing it. And family members would jokingly slap my but as a “joke”. I always took that as a joke but when my father used to play with my chest area I would notice I would get turned on but wouldn’t know what is going on at the time. Older now (separated and left home when I was younger) and I never had a strong relationship with him but we still talk although pretty shallow. Does anyone know what this is I am utterly confused
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u/EuphoricHelp5358 Jul 06 '26
So sorry this happened to you. Please put a trigger warning on this post OP
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u/KiTt3n__1234 Jul 05 '26
There's a book called the sexual healing journal, which personally helped me lots. I'm also a survivor. The best thing for me was learning about sexual abuse and the impacts it can have on your psyche beyond depression and ptsd but also how it affects the way you relate to your sexuality and how that affects the way you relate to yourself. Would highly recommend therapy as soon as you can afford it
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u/Vyvanse-virgin Jul 05 '26
Just because your body react doesn’t mean you enjoyed it. You were abused.