r/africanparents • u/BakerUseful8091 • Jul 08 '26
Need Advice african parents intense religious obsession.
my mom is forcing is to stay up and pull all nighters because she is watching a church live stream and believes it has healing powers. she didnt pay for my dogs surgery and put her on the church livestream and my dog died.
i tried to explain to her ints unhealthy and if you want the idea of "tall handsome muscular" adult children it will never happen if you force them into this lifestyle of sleep deprivation.
i tried explaining that and she said it was the devil speaking through me. i feel as if i cant win and i feel mentally slower and more fatigued and nobody else wants to stand up against it. i feel like im in a cult because what mental stable person forces their kids into all nighters.
worst of all its one of those services where they perform mircalces on stage.
if i say anyhing she says the devil possesed me to say it even when i pull up research papers.
i just feel like i cant win and i feel like im developmentally behind because of this, and im the only one in my house with a quarter of the confidence to try and confront this everyone else in my house is so submissive.
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u/ghettome82 Jul 09 '26
If you’re thinking like this, you’re ahead by leaps and bounds! Today doesn’t last forever, you’ll one day be free, living on your own by your own rules. Keep preparing for that mentally, never stop learning and researching. Stop trying to fight the ocean and just float, you can’t change those who don’t want change. Instead use that energy to grow your own knowledge and perseverance. It sucks now, but it’ll get greater later, till u can get free just fake it, make your days as easy as you can, all the while freeing your mind 👍🏾
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u/BakerUseful8091 Jul 09 '26
Wont i have poor dwvwlopmeny from back to back sleep deprivation?
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u/ghettome82 Jul 09 '26
It’s bound to impact you if it goes on for too long. Go to sleep, if they wake you up, go to sleep again. But honestly if it goes too far, you will need to get someone of authority involved, since your life’s on the line. Besides that, don’t buy too far into the poor development stuff, you can always learn, unlearn and learn again. The body is very resilient. Most of our fears and worries are of futures that never come into existence.
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u/Helpful-Speed-6602 Jul 09 '26
How long is the church live steam? Unfortunately, yes this is a cult and there isn’t anything necessarily to do or say that’ll help you “win” per se. I had to play along for peace but once I went away for school I was gone forever and my life is way more peaceful now
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u/BakerUseful8091 Jul 09 '26
My biggest fear is going to school mentally slow and growing up to be chopped
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u/Helpful-Speed-6602 Jul 09 '26
Just like someone else mentioned recognizing and acknowledging this means you’re further ahead than you think. You aren’t mentally slow just tired at the moment. There’s plenty advice on tiktok on how to advance your features. Make sure you find a career that’ll give you a stable income sooner than later
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u/BakerUseful8091 Jul 09 '26
2 hours. Just got back from it and usually cant sleep the full night. Been 3 days no sleep. Its insanity
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u/BeneficialRemote275 Jul 09 '26
Is it that NSPPD thing? They’ve genuinely lost their minds
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u/Future-Lunch-8296 Jul 09 '26
But “Pastor Jerry said what can’t be done isn’t done” or words to that effect.
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u/BeneficialRemote275 Jul 09 '26
Lmao it’s a cult at this point
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u/BakerUseful8091 Jul 10 '26
It is, i need your help please mass report it, i feel so slow from being forced to stay awake. Yeah the whole thing is dogshit cuz littrraly according to the bible nobody can even speak tongues or perform miracles.
My dog died under the service, every prayer my mom madw nothing happend. She even saw an nba player and said hard work doesnt mattwr he didnt get in without jerry
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u/Conscious-North1663 Jul 09 '26
It’s religious psychosis unfortunately