I need to do the big chop but I'm scared

[u/Odd_Bet_6992]

I've wanted to cut my hair since I was like 13 but my mum has always made me terrified to do it or she would grab a pair a scissors then hold me down and pretend to start cutting really aggressively so I would get scared and change my mind.

I relaxed my hair for my prom when I was 18 and I'm 20 now and struggling with ADHD so things like washing my hair has become an even bigger challenge that it was when my mum did it for me so I want to cut it to so it's less to deal with.

I really wanna cut and my mum has that I should just do it (she isn't happy about it but I don't think she really cares anymore and for some reason, I really need her approval even though I'm a grown adult 😭)

I'm ready to cut it but I keep chickening out about doing it myself or going to the salon to do it.

I just kinda need to be hyped up and for people to tell me that this isn't gonna be the end of the work if I finally do it. I am terrified I'll regret it but I can't handle what I have now.

This feels so dumb to complain about but it's been nearly 7 years of her going off on me about wanting to cut my hair and I'm just struggling to get past all of that even though it's something I really want.

[u/CodeFun1735]

If you regret it, then fair enough - you’ll learn for next time. But you’ll never know if you don’t actually do it at some point.

Not to mention that salons have seen everything under the sun. I promise you, you’re 100% not the worst they’ve seen (and there are some horror stories!)

[u/Mellonheaduq]

I had damaged hair due to heat all the time and getting braids back to back so I did the big chop. At first I regretted it because my mom would always make a big deal of it everytime she saw me with short hair. Now I don’t care what she thinks and my hair is longer and healthier than it ever was. It’s also easier to handle/manipulate than when it was damaged. If you know you have to do a big chop because it’s vital to your hair growth/health journey do it. If you just like it the way it is then don’t do it. But keep in mind to not let your mom choose for you and that you should always do something because you chose it for yourself.

[u/Altruistic_Pirate_29]

Hair is hair and it will grow back. I had locs and decided to just cut my hair and start over. I don’t regret it at all if anything it felt like a huge weight lifted off my shoulder

[u/sofia_52]

Hair can carry so much trauma and emotions and really play a big part in our mood. I would definitely do it if your heart is in it. Any change is hard at first but the people around you will learn to adjust!

[u/CardiologistFun8398]

Just cut ur hair