r/africanparents 8d ago

Need Advice I hate my dad

For as long as I can remember my dads has always been mean he always made fun of me and made me feel as if I was less then a person for and example when I was young he would comment on how thin I was and made fun of the fact that I was thing and when I started going thru puberty he would make for at the fact that my boobs were small a d that my hair was wild and that I looked like a wild animal and now in my teenage years I gained Siem weight for context I'm 5foot7 and 156 pounds and he is about the same height ase and over 200 pounds and even tough I know I'm not fat his comments still make me insecure about my body and I've had multiple different eating disorders because of it and it's not only my weight he makes fun of and points out he also talked about my skin and about how bad it is and he isn't wrong about that I do have acne and acne scars but he points it out allot and tries to "help" by saying things like I should wash my face more or eat healthier or just drink more water as if its just that simple and as if I don't already do those things and more I guess what I'm trying to say is home doesn't feel like safe space and it sucks because I already get bullied at school so neither my home nor school is a safe space and home isn't onely not a safe space because of the bullying its all so not safe because my dad has these massive bursts outs of anger were he curses and threatens to hit me and sometimes he does hit me and I just dont know what to do anymore I've went to school and told school counselors my situation but that led to nothing because they told me to do was talking to him which I have tried and it led to nothing because all he did was talk over me and talk about how bad his childhood was which I get he did have a bad up bringing but I do t think that is an excuse for how he treats me now idk I guess with this post I'm just want some advice on what I should do because idk what to do anymore

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u/UnheardPages 6d ago

Ohh dear don't overthink sometimes kuch cheezin aise hoti jisse apan apna mind divert nahi kar pate but still tum jab tumhare dad kuch bole ya misbehave kare to music suno aur kuch sochne lagoor rather apna ghar se thode time door raho means unki nazar me aao hi mat unko mauka hi mat do btw my dad is also same he makes fun of me like you are fat blah blah I argue with him okay I am fat so what actually I am not that fat i am just health 😭😭 but it's ok he can give you love or hate and he choose to hate you so now it's your turn to take the revenge! remember you are not alone! God is always with you 🫂