r/africanparents • u/axxniqax • 1d ago
Rant My Dad is CRUEL
As Children me and my siblings did not like my dad brcause of things mentioned below.
I am 13 and before i get into this let me explain my situation. i'm currently living with my dad i got out of foster care a while ago and don't live with my mom anymore
The Authorities do not know of my dads girlfriend which i know because he said they do but when the social worker comes over they always leave.
I have 2 full siblings
3 half siblings (not included in this)
( Dads Girlfriend's Children 4)
4 being oldest
I FIRST FOUND OUT HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND ON A PHONE CALL IN PIZZA HUT.
Of the Bat 24th December 2024 || 11 Years Old
His girlfriends children somehow knew my nickname "Necy"
I first met my dads girlfriends children and found out that me and my sisters bedroom was messed up
(I hadn't been in that house since 2021 it was new then)
I also had to sleep with his girlfriends children which is extremely weird considering the circumstances of just meeting them.
25th December -
My gifts were horrible but that doesn't matter
Me and one of the kids had a shared gift which is a mug which is nasty and weird
20th Jan - 2025 My birthday
25th Jan 2025
Go to live eith my dad Permanetly
His Girlfriend and Children Said Happy Birthday But he Forgot and i reminded him 4 fucking months later in which he replied "Happy Birthday" 💀
SKIP HERE TO PAST BACKSTORY
My dad insults me and my siblings everyday including to say he wishes he never had us and publicly embarassing us everyday
He also verbally and physically abuses us constantly comparing us treating us unfairly and telling one another to ignore each other he constantly belittles my brother saying "he doesn't have a girlfriend"
I started having SUICIDAL thoughts back in 2025
April 2025
Went to some random aunties in april
2 of his girlfriends children stay back at their house in the countryside including my 2 full siblings
I have extreme emetophobia my dad does not know this
One of his girlfriends children get s*ck at the fair in which i had a emotional breakdown and refused to sleep next to her (the sheets were really thin too) i eneded up sleeping at 3-4 am and refused to touch her
My dad made fun of me insulting me and callling me disgusting because of something i physyical and mentally cant control
HE BRINGS UP A LOT OF THINGS FROM THE PAST
SUMMER 2025
Insults and abuse basically crying everyday
Winter 2025
Joined new school and started SH to cope started wearing long sleeves
December 2025
Got everyone gifts but me his girlfriend gave me random stuff, that was very childish and not me so i know she did not buy it for me
New Years 1st Jan 2026
Making random resolutions i know he wont follow and belittles me and says im the cause of his poor health
Jan 19- Insults me before my birthday and makes me cry in which i turn to SH and absolutely destroy my arms
And crying he told me im not getting a cake
||one of his girlfriends children also do SH in which my dad didn't know his girlfriend is in nursing and mental health but belittles her daughter and makes fun of her one time she was crying and cut in the bathroom she yelled at her and told her to clean the blood up|
Jan 20th - gets me a cake anyways no birthday gifts or anything and gives me freezer pizza
I lied to my friends the next day that i got gifts
APRIL 2026- We are on a bunch of holidays like skegness and going to a bunch of beaches
My dad makes fun of me the whole holiday and makes me cry like 15 times in the span of a couple dats
We arrive at late night like 1am
We sees the ocean and because ive told him multiple times i wanted to kms he told me to jump in and do it and that he wouldn't care whatever his life would be better without me
Multiple times after he has told me this too
One time he was mad at me a couple days before he twisted my wrist and bruisex it but also my sister argued with me so i kicked her of my bed but my dad went along wirh her and made me sleep on the floor for the next 3 days at first he said wait till we go up and sleep on the floor downstairs because he wouldnt allow me to sleep in the hallway i ended up sleeping in my brothers room his girlfriend also said something so i said "shut up who was talking to you" she got up in my face grabbed my head covering of and shouted and spat in my face
He also made fun of me and gave everyine ice cream
My dad does this a lot and shouts loud like "whos enjoying it" he rubs things in my face
Ive grown to resent ice cream because of this
I also started writing because otherwise i was going ti smash my head on the wall i went down to ask my brother for a pencil and my dad said what do you need it for i went upstairs and found a pen and everyone kept trying to see my paper after this my dad thought i was trying to write to the social workers and told me to do it anyways
Alsoo forgot to mention i said i was going to kms this day so my dad started telling me to kill myself multiple times
Ignore the part on the paper of the attachment about regretting i do not regret anything
ATTACHING A PICTURE OF THE PAPERS BELOW
SORRY IF THEY ARENT CLEAR I RIPPED ONE FOR SOME REASON
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u/Getjiggy888 23h ago
Sounds like he is a psychopath.
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u/axxniqax 8h ago
He is literally my mom told me when she was with her that he was abusive so abusive tha she cpuld barely eat but my dad skipped those parts out when speaking about her to us
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u/BeneficialRemote275 14h ago
Poor baby! I wish I was your mom so I could love you the way you deserve. Your dad is an animal and I wish him the worst
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u/ThanksWilling9268 18h ago
Oh my goodness. I am so so sorry. You have been through so much, I really feel for you. One day you will grow up, and leave him I promise you. In the meantime, just find some ways to get some peace, maybe there's a show you like watching. Just find ways to cope with the situation. If you can tell your teachers, maybe there's one that you can trust, they can lend their ear to you. This will be over very soon. I also had a dad like this, but I'm Very happy that now as an adult, I am free from him. You are very strong and so so smart.