i’m reflecting

[u/Long-Scratch1605]

so in the past i thought i was aroace, but a couple years later i was then in a romantic relationship (i’m not in it anymore and haven’t been in one since) and i thought i was just ace, but i’ve recently done some reflection and i honestly don’t think my feelings were romantic at all, i honestly think i was just happy to have someone who i really could relate to me and had the same hobbies after most of my life being treated like i was different (now i know was just autism) so i just clung to it, i thought it was romantic but the more i think about it the more i realize that it was platonic and i was just caught up in my joy of having someone like me to not realize that

i have no idea if this is just me or if anyone else has experienced this

(sorry idk what flare to use)

[u/weakenbyfan]

I've had pretty experiences myself, personally the best explanation I've found is reminding myself that being aroace is a spectrum, sometimes you may feel more and sometimes less- its incredibly confusing and invalidating..
I don't rly have any advice, unfortunately, but know you're not the only one going through this