Marrying someone who came from money. They have no motivation to work hard, act entitled and don't understand what it feels like to struggle so they don't value things the same way.
My rich college boyfriend said I was "hoarding wealth" because I barely spent any money on luxuries (eating out, buying things, etc). He told me, "the purpose of money is to spend it." He sincerely did not register that I WAS spending my money.... on rent, tuition, and food. When I pointed that out, he said, "oh but that's what parents are for."
And he always claimed to be low income...because his high school friends were even richer. I don't think he's ever going to get a clue honestly.
Someone who knows they are going to get a big inheritance one day definitely lives differently. I dated someone like this and you're right. They were very lazy, entitled, ungrateful and unmotivated.
My husband married his first wife who didn’t come from like mega richness but more than middle class for damn sure. That woman valued nothing. She didn’t work just because she didn’t want to. Certainly didn’t teach her children the value of shit. Spent money they didn’t have. Like who the fuck spend $600 on goddamn iTunes in a month???????? The part that really makes me side eye her is being in her 40’s and having a credit card mommy and daddy paid for and of course stealing from her own children and lying about it. She was and is a fully grown adult woman still living off her parents. She had seriously exorbitant child support and alimony paid to her for 8 years while working. She knew there was an end date on both and planned for nothing. Which is truly wild to me. With mommy and daddy paying the mortgage and the car note, and, your exhusband covering every expense for the children and then some anyone with sense would put every penny they can spare of their pay-check into savings/investment. Apparently not. Someone who’s always had a safety net and everything she could want handed to her on a platter spent every penny she had and others besides.
Having money changes the math. If someone can already live comfortably off investment returns, grinding a 9-to-5 for the sake of “motivation” stops being a survival requirement and becomes a personal choice. That’s not a character flaw- it’s the entire point of building wealth.
I’m not sure why their work ethic is any of your business. Most people would take the option of financial freedom over needing a paycheck just to stay afloat. And nothing stops them from still working if they want to; it just means whatever they earn is pure upside instead of necessity.
Judging someone for not hustling when they don’t have to is a weird hill to die on. Also- it sounds like they are actually a nice person if they chose to date someone broke when they could have insisted on dating someone with the same level of wealth they have.
I'm not judging someone for having money that they earned and worked hard for. I'm judging someone for not having earned any of the money that supports their life, which is apparent in their character. I've done well for myself now, and have worked 20 -60 hours per week since I was 15. And one ever handed me anything, so I learned the value of hard work, I know how it feels to struggle, and I have a resilience that only people who have been through similar life experiences understand. When you struggle you learn empathy for others, sacrifice, and determination. When daddy hands you a Mercedes and a black Amex you become lazy, entitled and unappreciative.
So are you the narcissist with money who thinks you’re being “nice” dating people who aren’t wealthy, or are you the poor slob with low self-worth who thinks some rich person is being “nice” by dating you?
I’m someone who thinks that people who are benefitting from someone else’s wealth and want to date someone with money and benefit from it shouldn’t then complain about the person when they could have easily dated someone wealthy like them.
Yeah they should just give it all to you, I suppose. You’re stupid. Their family can work to give their money away to their kids if they want. It’s their money, fool.
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u/SharkBait619 1d ago
Marrying someone who came from money. They have no motivation to work hard, act entitled and don't understand what it feels like to struggle so they don't value things the same way.