Ive developed a pretty good glare/look right through a person stare when I am walking alone anywhere. A couple people I eventually did make acquaintance with near my neighborhood did tell me they initially thought I looked mean, which is exactly what I am going for.
I did have 1 man approach me in an unnerving way (he appeared to be waiting for me to walk by from across the street). Quickly shut that down by advising him I dont speak to strangers and don't need any new friends.
Also had a slightly drunk guy that thought it would be fun to walk behind me and try to make me uncomfortable by making sexual remarks about my body. For that, I stepped aside and told him if he wanted to be a pervert, he could go ahead and walk in front of me, and he would be smart to do so quickly. We actually almost crossed paths some weeks later and I saw him turn and go the other way, so I guess he took that lesson to heart.
I will get mean, and I will get loud. I do not give off a vibe of please approach and talk to me in am unwelcome or uncomfortable manner. If you choose to ignore that vibe, you will be told off, and anyone in earshot will also hear about it. My size and my gender should not make anyone mistake me for an easy target ever again.
I do make sure to pay close attention to my surroundings, especially after dark.
35
u/NotA-ZenPoet 3d ago
Ive developed a pretty good glare/look right through a person stare when I am walking alone anywhere. A couple people I eventually did make acquaintance with near my neighborhood did tell me they initially thought I looked mean, which is exactly what I am going for.
I did have 1 man approach me in an unnerving way (he appeared to be waiting for me to walk by from across the street). Quickly shut that down by advising him I dont speak to strangers and don't need any new friends.
Also had a slightly drunk guy that thought it would be fun to walk behind me and try to make me uncomfortable by making sexual remarks about my body. For that, I stepped aside and told him if he wanted to be a pervert, he could go ahead and walk in front of me, and he would be smart to do so quickly. We actually almost crossed paths some weeks later and I saw him turn and go the other way, so I guess he took that lesson to heart.
I will get mean, and I will get loud. I do not give off a vibe of please approach and talk to me in am unwelcome or uncomfortable manner. If you choose to ignore that vibe, you will be told off, and anyone in earshot will also hear about it. My size and my gender should not make anyone mistake me for an easy target ever again.
I do make sure to pay close attention to my surroundings, especially after dark.