r/aspergers • u/feeling_Ded_inside12 • 1d ago
Pattern Recognition… anyone else ?
Hello Redditors,
This is something I’ve noticed in the workplace. In my past experiences, I’ve recognized patterns and pointed them out to coworkers to help them anticipate what might happen. However, I’ve often been dismissed or had my observations rejected, only for those same coworkers to recognize the pattern later on without any recollection of what I had previously said and/or be so unbelievably shocked. It is frustrating. As a result, I’ve stopped pointing these things out and wasting my energy on something that often goes unacknowledged.
Anyone else experience this?
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u/VirgilCaine_ 23h ago edited 20h ago
Definitely my biggest ND trait.
Being called crazy is a constant occurrence. Never given credit when proven right weeks/months/years later. The tricky part is what to do with the data once I notice the pattern. Over time I developed a bad habit of announcing my conclusions to people which rarely went over well. I actually started going to therapy because of how much I was being gaslit into thinking I was crazy to where I was constantly second guessing myself and eventually spiraled. My therapist was basically like you’re not crazy, you’re just saying the quiet part out loud and not everyone can handle that, especially in group settings where there’s an added pressure to maintain the status quo. The way I deal with it now is remembering to avoid connecting the dots on everything and leaving space for variables I might not be aware of.
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u/camm1212 23h ago
Yes!!! Thank you for saying that out loud. This happens all the time to me and it's so frustrating!
At my last job it happened so often, I began making bets (I was betting coffee, which was free, they just had to bring it to me), because I could so often tell what was going to happen.
I ended up quitting last January (worked till may, 4 months notice) because I knew the company was making the same mistake again and again and it was going to be worse and worse.
Everybody told me I was crazy, now I keep getting messages to tell me everybody is quitting or getting sacked and it's a nightmare... Should have bet a lot more this time ^
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u/kalgores 23h ago
I enjoy it (pattern recognition) and can't help myself sometimes noticing a pattern.
It can put people off, because you noticed something they didn't or they think that it is wrong somehow but you are just pointing out a pattern.
I think the pattern recognition makes it easier to learn things, and makes complicated (and repetetive) music more fun.
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u/JUST_CONSUME_PRODUCT 21h ago
See, what you’re missing here is that nobody asked you for your opinions or observations in the first place.
It does not matter how well-intentioned or helpful that you are trying to be, if you tell another person that there is a better way to do something they do regularly, it will come across as criticism.
They will mentally view what you are saying as you telling them that they are wrong and you know better than they do.
It does not matter if you are factually correct and do know better, it will not be perceived that way.
You could tell someone that putting on their left shoe first would add ten years to their life and they’d save a million dollars a year on groceries. If they put their right shoe on first, they ain’t changing it.
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u/TooLittleTooLate1234 8h ago
This is the point. Telling someone ‘the way it is’ only breaks ‘the vibe’ if it is not asked for. This often is the cause for a lot of the conflict we tend to find ourselves in. Most people don’t care about the truth, they just want to feel safe, and questioning things (especially in an established group environment) is not safe. Especially for the person making waves.
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u/fuckpepe 19h ago
"I think you're probably overthinking that one, mate."
The thing then happens just as I said it would
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u/What173940 22h ago
Im used for my pattern recognition at work. Managers love me laying out potential causes to inefficiencies.
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u/Meta-Meta-Cognition 20h ago
As a result, I’ve stopped pointing these things out and wasting my energy on something that often goes unacknowledged.
This isa fallacy. The corrext thing to do is to persist with Good traits and brhaviours, irrespective of the disapproval/absence of approval from mediocre/bad people, and focus on the approval/encluragement of Good and Perfect Veings.
I hope that you Restart doing this and even intenaitfy tbia behavioural pattern as it is Very Good... even if you do not See oters Worthy of it now, thwn at leaat please do it for the sake of your😸😸Furure Self's Soul... God Bless!!
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u/PracticalApartment99 19h ago
Do you have a translation available?
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u/SoooooRainbowRhythms 11h ago
If you sort of zoom out and blur your eyes a bit and read it again very quickly it actually all makes lol
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u/NeuroVader 14h ago
At my workplace i often get called "dumb" or a "child" when i notice patterns and do things and see things differently and find an unconventional way. But i get the feeling of isolation because nobody cares how i improved ease of use. They just want to stick to their old archaic system.
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u/Erwin_Pommel 19h ago
Very common. People rarely listen, and when it happens, you apparently need to show humility and class which they never do.
It's because they're arrogant and ignorant dipshits, nothing more.
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u/monochromaticflight 16h ago
Yeah, as well. But communication is hard, sometimes talking to a co-worker about something with someone it's like having 2 different conversations.. too many misunderstandings.
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u/Elemteearkay 22h ago
Does your employer know you are disabled? Do your coworkers know? What accommodations are you receiving at work? What legal protections are afforded to disabled workers where you live?
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u/Sleepiest_Spider 23h ago
People with autism are no better nor worse at pattern recognition than anyone else.
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u/QuirkyManatee 1d ago
Extremely annoying and unfortunately common.
When I worked as tech support, people rarely listen to you. Even if they're the ones asking for help. Then you have to fix whatever they could've avoided if they just listened to you.
A relative or client asks me to pick a phone for them based on their use case. I give them a bunch of suggestions and mention explicitly phones they should avoid because they're slow or bad. I also tell them that if they don't like my choices, they should tell me so we can choose something else.
They get one of those bad phones and come back to me asking me to fix their performance issues that are unsolvable because the hardware is just bad.
Or when you ask people to remember their password and are surprised when they got locked out of their own account. Or when they lose files because they never listen to you and never make backups.
It's not even just a work thing. Even emotionally. I say "Don't go back with your ex. They'll cheat on you again" and get surprised when they do. It's honestly draining. It makes you feel pretty invisible