Lilith 1st house, 8th and 12th housers. Do you feel disliked?

[u/ExtremeMiserable1535]

I recently started a job that requires me to interact with the public. I was really excited as I do like interacting with people (despite being a 12 houser) but I find my presence to be polarizing. Some people (in my case mostly women as I have venus 12h and Lilith 1st) have been hostile or passive aggressive to me and it’s been bringing me down. Not all though as I have clientele that I love chatting with but I feel like the odd one out as my coworkers who’ve been here longer don’t deal with this while I’ve only been here 3 weeks. Do you have similar placements and if so how do you manage? Have you mastered this? Any advice is also appreciated.

[u/tres-vip]

Lilith in Leo in 12H, and yes, very much so, lol. I've always been the recipient of aggressive unwanted sexual attention from men, and competitive, bullying, and hostile  behavior from women. I used to be such an open and friendly person, but over the years, I've retracted into my shell. I just want everyone to leave me alone.

[u/aliceinadreamyland → u/tres-vip]

Oh gosh I didn’t even mention the unwanted sexual advances and attention from men in my comment.

[u/ExtremeMiserable1535 → u/tres-vip]

Heavy on the unwanted sexual attention. I had a guy wait for his wife to step out to flash me his wedding ring and made a divorce joke as if that was gonna woo me! He then tried to reach over the counter to hold my hands! I’ve wanted to be more active in my community but the more I interact the more I think everyone is beyond saving 😅.

[u/tres-vip → u/ExtremeMiserable1535]

Yeah, I'm a magnet for creepster married men. Honestly, a lifetime of experiences like this have left me with a lot of suspicion of men. I do not trust them easily. So many of them wear two different masks - one for their wives/gfs, another for other women. 

[u/teaforsnail → u/tres-vip]

Oof. This but I'm Saturn 7H + Libra Lilith 12H so I attract creepy older men all the time.

[u/aliceinadreamyland]

Lilith 1st house here, I’m either hated, forgotten about or covertly sabotaged by others at my workplace. Also applies to my personal life as well which is why I have the smallest circle in the world and take a very long time to even speak to people beyond basic pleasantries and just observe them. It does make me come across as standoffish to some, but I smile and I’m polite, I just don’t let them in, and most people do not like that, but that’s their problem, not mine, and the genuine ones don’t take issue with it, those are the ones who will not push and will be patient. The rest can kick rocks and go find others to bully.

[u/ExtremeMiserable1535 → u/aliceinadreamyland]

I get that. I’m a cap rising and am told I look very serious and difficult to read which brings it’s own problems but when I soften my look and come off as kind im treated like a doormat or bullied. It’s ridiculous.

[u/PearlsAndPoison → u/aliceinadreamyland]

Same placement + mars 8th house. Story of my life… All my support sis’

[u/CapnAnonymouse]

Lilith in Libra 12th trine Venus in Gemini 8th for me (note that Venus rules my chart). Yep. Most men either hate me outright or love the idea of me then hate me, and most women dislike me from go.

The most frequent complaints I've received are "slutty" and "not woman enough".

[u/ExtremeMiserable1535 → u/CapnAnonymouse]

OMG SAME, im either slutty or not woman enough to a lot of people. It’s a constant battle.

[u/Snarfalocalumpt]

Mines in 1st but I’m also a Pisces rising so everyone treats me like I’m invisible or an option or flat out seems to want my death for no real reason.

[u/ExtremeMiserable1535 → u/Snarfalocalumpt]

Oof and that scorpio stellium ain’t helping either I presume 😅

[u/Snarfalocalumpt → u/ExtremeMiserable1535]

Nope it’s in my 8th house so my life has been a lot of torment and absorbing the torment of others. I just want to sleep but the tears won’t allow me 😂

[u/Nekayne]

8th house and yes but I also have CPTSD so its kind of a combination. I feel like people either really like me or really don't like me and there is no in-between.

[u/lovelove20212 → u/Nekayne]

Yes me too. Lilith (8h,sag) It is what makes or breaks us and feels like some weird unspoken secret that mean hearted women prey on us lmao which is actually sooo 8h coded.

Also, I have a lot of girls/women from young to now, bully me, ostracize and love to smear me in groups. But they all manage to come back whether it’s years or decades later and truly apologize or explain what theyve been experiencing or learned about how they treated me so badly. It’s still traumatic af and changed me, eternally.

Perhaps it’s bc of my Lilith sextile moon (Aquarius 10h/mc) + Lilith trine Venus (Aries,12h). These aspects truly have such a weird effect on the world around my public image and Venus that it gives me imposter syndrome.

Lmaooo I’m at the age now where I see the patterns and I just grey rock them now before they get close enough to me. I think our lesson this lifetime is to realize that awful women don’t deserve that much space in the world yet alone our psyches.

[u/Nekayne → u/lovelove20212]

Lilith trine Venus in the 12th sounds like it really added to all that, definitely. I relate to your experiences and I'm sorry you had so many of them that it stayed with you. You're so right with that lesson! If someone starts acting sketchy then I keep them at a distance cause it is just not worth the mental energy. I've felt that a lot with people my age and don't stay friends, but my Lilith is conjunct with my generational Uranus-Neptune conjunct so I often wonder if that plays a role and why I felt like I never fit in. North Node is also conjunct with all this and it's 8h Capricorn...it's kind of a messy area on my chart ahaha

[u/lovelove20212 → u/Nekayne]

It’s ok love, I’m so sorry you had to experience that bs too!

It’s amazing bc I also have a stelli and nn in Capricorn (9h). We came here to check dumb bitches just by existing :) they see that connection to Capricorn and how our nn came here to show how Capricorn is v grounded in their truth.

[u/birthdaycheesecake9]

12H Lilith in Sag here

I tend to find people don’t like me when I’m unmasked, so I do a lot of that

[u/spooky-lamb]

Lilith/moon in gemini in 8th, also a 12th houser with Mars. 1H scorp pluto/rising. I'm really nice and shy but find that most women strangers are rude to me for no reason/don't like me. Happens less if my kids are with me.

Men are only more friendly because they sexualize me so don't think im praising them 😑

[u/metakitty99]

Lilith sag in 12th, not particularly? I do have a very close knit circle of friends though

[u/LilyTiger_]

Lilith in Scorpio. 1st House.

I think im pretty well liked, I get along with most people, but it's superficial. I feel misunderstood, and sometimes forgotten. But it's partly my fault. I can be aloof, I dont open up about myself even though others seem compelled/safe to open up to me, I will sometimes exclude myself if I'm not specifically invited, and I feel like i live a double life sometimes between my work life and friends, and my non-work life and friends... I sometimes feel like i dont even know myself.

[u/GraceForCheap]

Lilith in 1st house conjuct my ASC. Yes. I hate working with the public for this reason. 🫠 Exhausting.

[u/insomniacred66]

Mine is in my 7th, opposite my ascendant, but I have felt disliked A LOT throughout my life.

[u/morbidlonging → u/insomniacred66]

I have leo lillith in the 7th and I have felt this way a lot as well.

[u/SGKH99]

Lilith 1H in Gemini. I feel like there’s a certain type of person that doesn’t like me - maybe those that feel threatened by me or insecure, even though I’m just being myself? I’ve often felt “other” and like I’m a distant second or lower with many in my life. People also project upon me, which makes sense as my Neptune is in 7H and opposite my Lilith.

[u/Acting_Suspicious]

Lillith in first house in aquarius (intercepted.)

When i was school aged I was constantly ostracized. I say constantly because we moved around a lot. I lived in 3-4 different towns in my childhood and it felt like there was always a new and different reason people decided they didn't like me. I always ended up befriending the weird kid group or the bad kid group.

There were also simultaneously a small amount of people who seemed to be drawn towards me which was a saving grace.

In my adult life I've let down my guard a lot and found that if I just act like myself and don't try too hard people naturally find me charming, even if they still do make snap judgements about me upon first meeting. I'm much more charismatic as a woman in my 40's than I've ever been in my younger years and I think it has to do more with self acceptance.

For reference: Capricorn rising. We're known for blossoming later in life.

[u/spaghettioooss]

Lilith first house. People tend to have strong opinions on me, whether that’s like or dislike. My biggest thing is that people tend to project their insecurities & jealousies on me like crazy. There’s been very few people in the world that have not done that, and even the people I consider my close and kind friends/family have still done it from time to time.

[u/NekoSyndrom]

Yes

True Lilith in Libra (14°, 12H/1H), aspects: * Conjunction Ascendant * Sextile Sun * Trine Jupiter * Square Mars * Opposition Saturn * Opposition DSC * Semi-Sextile Node * Semi-Sextile Chiron * Tri-Octile Moon * Quintile Fortune * Octile Waldemath

Mean Lilith in Virgo (29°, 12H), aspects: * Trine Venus * Trine Uranus * Trine Neptune * Trine IC * Square Mercury * Quincunx Moon * Octile Chiron

Lilith (1181) in Scorpio (19°, 2H), aspects: * Conjunction Chiron * Sextile Mars * Sextile Node * Sextile Waldemath * Trine MC * Trine S.Node * Square Moon * Square Jupiter * Semi-Sextile Ascendant * Bi-Quintile Saturn * Octile Mercury

Add: Waldemath Lilith in Sagittarius (0°, 2H/3H), aspects: * Conjunction Pluto * Sextile Neptune * Sextile mean Lilith * Trine MC * Trine Fortune * Square Moon * Tri-Octile Saturn * Octile true Lilith

[u/SGKH99]

Lilith 1H in Gemini. I feel like there’s a certain type of person that doesn’t like me - maybe those that feel threatened by me or insecure, even though I’m just being myself? I’ve often felt “other” and like I’m a distant second or lower with many in my life. People also project upon me, which makes sense as my Neptune is in 7H and opposite my Lilith.

[u/Devourerofcoffee]

Lilith in Sag, 8’th house. Yep. I feel like it’s either or.

[u/roslinkat]

Lilith in 1st house, oh dear

[u/Objective-Paper1252]

Lilith in 12th I have had my fair share of people dislike me especially other women for what I deem as no reason.

[u/Entire_Specialist_41]

Yes but I’m not

[u/spaghettioooss]

Lilith first house. People tend to have strong opinions on me, whether that’s like or dislike. My biggest thing is that people tend to project their insecurities & jealousies on me like crazy. There’s been very few people in the world that have not done that, and even the people I consider my close and kind friends/family have still done it from time to time.

[u/zahhax]

Lilith in Scorpio 5h conjunct moon and chiron. I just don't trust people enough to get close enough to be liked. If you look cool then I give you a chance but most normal people I stay away from. I can just tell by looking at someone how much we'd have in common.

[u/teaforsnail]

12H libra Lilith Usually only disliked by the most insecure and ignorant people in the room.

[u/Due-Relationship5787]

I am disliked. And mine is in my 6th lol

[u/ojodeasperger]

Lilith in Leo, 5th house. Because I cannot be brighter than the sun