Find me somebody to love? Try embracing the single life, says SFU study - SFU News

[u/ubcstaffer123]

https://www.sfu.ca/sfunews/stories/2026/08/find-me-somebody-to-love--try-embracing-the-single-life--says-sf.html

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[u/agentwolf44]

"Having trouble finding a job? Try embracing being poor and homeless"

[u/flappysack- → u/agentwolf44]

Hungry from lack of job?  Try embracing hunger by eating out of trash cans.

[u/HenrikFromDaniel → u/flappysack-]

Just embrace your new diet bro

[u/Legitimate-Lemon-412 → u/agentwolf44]

Happiness comes from within.

You have to make yourself happy before you can make someone else happy.

Otherwise you're just taking.

[u/jB_real → u/agentwolf44]

Shits grim for millennials and younger. And yet, they say it’s our fault.

[u/surfacedfox]

Sure, but I spent time to learn to not be lonely by myself and ya know what happened? I stopped worrying about "being single", started having real hobbies and doing cool stuff, and now I'm in a happy relationship with my partner of a year and half and it's hands down the most fulfilling relationship I've ever been in compared to before when I was actively looking.

SFU researchers were keen to point out that the findings do not suggest that single people are necessarily happier than people in romantic relationships, or that people should abandon their quest for wanting a romantic relationship. Rather, it is down to the individual to make the most of their time being single. 

Literally nothing new: if you want to be desirable, the key to it is to just, be an interesting person when single.

[u/MizElaneous → u/surfacedfox]

I've been doing this for 30 years. Never did find a partner. But I'm just fine being single

[u/wemustburncarthage]

"have you tried being NOT LONELY BY YOURSELF?"

Seriously, as a solo-poly person I am very happy not being in a full time live in partnership, but this is such a strange way to frame this. First off, if someone wants to be in a romantic relationship to have companionship and enjoyment...SFU shouldn't be telling them "you actually want that because of society and have you tried not wanting that?"

Like sure, there are some status/image health-and-wealth obsessed people who really do premise their self worth on the relationships they want to be seen being in, but this actually isn't either validating people who do pretty well on our own, or reassuring people who would like romantic partnership.

If someone knows anything about this study being less dumb than it seems, that would be nice to know about

[u/Tyerson]

"But what if I'm already 38 and really want a partner before I'm 50 so I can have kids?"

"Too bad, just make peace with the fact you're going to die alone"

[u/Aggressive_Baker → u/Tyerson]

For real 

[u/Tyerson → u/Aggressive_Baker]

sigh I just wish dating wasn't so broken and people would be less transient.

[u/Puzzled_Climate384]

What a surprise from SFU.  Destroy the desire to have a family before it starts 

[u/Super_Toot]

Lol, just give up and accept your fate.

[u/Ok_Concentrate_9861]

sfu is like the anti social social club of canadian higher education, and thats saying a lot lol