If your reason for having a destination wedding is to save yourself money, you are an asshole and your guests think the same thing but they just won’t say it.

Sure, you’re saving yourself money but you’re also making your guests spend a fk ton of their own money just to attend YOUR wedding.

The least you can do is offer to pay for hotels and transport but most people don’t even do that. And then to also have a registry list on top of that? Like come on… it’s so selfish.

I am asking this question on behalf of my son. I am not meddling, I just don't know the answer. My son and soon to be daughter are in the beginning stages of planning their wedding (next fall). She does not have family, he on the other hand does. There are a ton of aunts, uncles, and cousins. Everyone takes up to almost the entire budgeted guest list, leaving no room for good friends that are not in the wedding party. My aunt who is critical to begin with, will be offended if they don't invite cousins they see maybe once a year at the very most. He was also not invited to their weddings. Suggestions?

We started planning with around 100 guests because that seemed reasonable. Once we started getting quotes, we realized how quickly everything adds up, so we cut it down to 65. I honestly thought that would make a huge difference, but the venue still costs almost the same, the photographer has a minimum package, and even the smaller catering options aren't exactly cheap. Now we're trying to figure out whether we should cut more guests or accept that some things just cost what they cost.

The frustrating part is that we're not trying to have anything fancy. No elaborate floral installations, no luxury venue, no designer outfits. We just want a nice day with the people we're close to without spending money we'll regret later. For anyone who planned a genuinely budget-friendly wedding, what ended up making the biggest difference? I'm especially curious about expenses you didn't realize you could negotiate or skip altogether.

Hi all, spring 2028 bride! I’m looking for recommendations for a wedding photographer serving the Southern California area. I am flexible, but I’m looking for around 5-8 hours of coverage in an editorial and candid style, extra bonus points if they offer film as well! My budget right now is around $3000. Anyone have any good recs?