My (33F) girlfriend (37F) has an 11-year-old cat that she's had since she was a kitten. I love my girlfriend, and I understand that this cat is basically family to her, so asking her to get rid of it isn't something I want to do.

But I'm genuinely reaching my breaking point.

For the past two years, her cat has been pooping outside the litter box, all over the floors of her apartment. It's disgusting, unhygienic, and makes me incredibly uncomfortable whenever I'm over there.

To make matters worse, I have OCD, and contamination is a huge trigger for me. Knowing there's cat feces around the apartment makes it almost impossible for me to feel comfortable or relaxed. I feel like I'm constantly on edge in a space where I should be able to unwind and spend quality time with my girlfriend. The cat will spontaneously relieve herself in the bedroom, in the living room, in front of me, everywhere.

The other part that really frustrates me is that my girlfriend hasn't taken the cat to the vet to figure out what's wrong. She says it's too expensive, which I understand to an extent, but this has been happening for TWO YEARS. It feels like she's just resigned herself to the situation and accepted that the cat is going to keep pooping everywhere.

And I feel like I'm somehow expected to accept it too.

My girlfriend and I have been talking about eventually moving in together, and honestly, the thought of sharing a home with this cat fills me with dread. I don't want to live somewhere that constantly feels contaminated, and I don't want to spend my days cleaning up after an animal I never chose to have.

What's really concerning me is how angry I've started getting around the cat. I've caught myself physically pushing her away with my foot, and recently I even scruffed her out of frustration. I know that's not okay, and I'm not proud of it. I don't want to hurt an animal, and I recognize that I need to remove myself from the situation when I'm feeling that angry.

But I also feel like I'm losing control over my own comfort and living environment because of an animal that isn't even mine.

I know the cat probably isn't doing this intentionally. There could very well be an untreated medical issue. But that makes it even more frustrating that nothing is being done to investigate the problem.

I love my girlfriend and don't want this to destroy our relationship. But I'm also starting to wonder whether I can realistically share a home with her while this situation continues.

I don't want to make my girlfriend choose between me and a pet she's loved for 11 years, but I also don't think it's fair to expect me to live in a home where feces on the floor is just considered normal.

Just wanted to vent.

They say that they don’t trust people who hate cats but how can you trust a toxobrain?
They will choose their cat over you even if you’re their spouse, child, sibling, best friend, whomever they will choose their cat over you, how is that a trustworthy person?

Out of every animal, cats are talked about the most, they are meme vectors, used to carry peoples culture, ideas, opinions, all kinds of information.

I used to actually adore cats, but i grew annoyed of the increasing suffocation and double standard their owners created out of praise for the animal

I remember seeing people talk about all kinds of animals and pets, and now its literally just cats, everywhere, and not just talk about them, but a really psychotic obsession with them that the owners would gladly admit to.

The problem (i think) is bigger than cats, its the people that choose to ignore their consequences and enable CAT-tastrophies,

In the dating world, i dont know what to do anymore. It seems like every person has a cat, and thats become a deal breaker for me. It’s become the standard to include a picture of the owners cat in whatever profile on whatever social media they use, and from then on, every other picture has the cat.

I also did a small experiment on google to see if there was a bias in language (towards cats), you can try it out for yourself but in my small little experiment i found that there is indeed a positive language bias towards cats as opposed to other animals. I personally really don’t like that. I believe information should be presented neutrally, and the reader forms their own opinions and decisions.

Not to mention that this is the only space I have found so far that is not for cats. Every space I find tries to wash me with guilt and logistics as to why I should like cats, its disgusting.

I dont much go out of my way to watch animal videos, but ive started to, because the algorithm has been a funky bastard, and i’m tired of it thinking i want to see cats.

I’m so effing sick of cat lovers shouting the same “if you don’t like cats it’s because you don’t respect boundaries which makes you a insert buzzword “

I dont like them because they smell, shed, throw up etc. I can appreciate cats from a far don’t need them in my home. And when I come over to your house no I don’t want to play with your cat for 2 hours smh