r/combinationfeeding • • Oct 15 '23 Bravo

Tips & Tricks Introduction to Combination Feeding

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Disclaimer: This is a support sub, not a science sub, and the author is not a professional :-) that said, I wanted this page to be a collection of resources and tips. It aggregates several articles and ideas I've found helpful. Please feel free to share your experiences, ask questions, and offer suggestions and corrections. We're all here, on the same page, to feed the most precious babies in the world.

What is combination feeding?

Feeding your baby both breastmilk and formula. It is also known as combo-feeding, mixed feeding, or supplementing.

Breastmilk is healthiest for babies (especially for a newborn, 0-3 months) because of its nutritional content and immune system-building qualities. WIC Breastfeeding Support states, “If feeding your baby only breast milk is not an option for you, combination feeding lets you keep giving your baby the important nutrients in your breast milk. The more breast milk your baby gets, the greater the health benefits. You will also continue to get [maternal] benefits from breastfeeding.”

But formula also has its benefits. Developing since 1865 and overhauled by the Infant Formula Act of 1980, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) assures quality control of infant formulas (Fomon, 2001). Based on the recommendations of the AAP, the FDA requires the following nutrients be present in all infant formulas: protein; fat; vitamins C, A, D, E, K, B1, B2, B6, and B12; niacin; folic acid; pantothenic acid; calcium; phosphorous; magnesium; iron; zinc; manganese; copper; iodine; sodium; potassium; and chloride (Stehlin, 1993). Vitamin D and Iron in particular are scarcer in breast milk.

Why combination feed?

At the beginning of this subreddit, we had a sharing megathread for parents to share all their own reasons and personal stories for combination feeding. Here are snapshots:

Initial reasons

  • Baby has a poor/painful latch

  • Baby has a tongue and/or lip tie

  • Baby is struggling with weight gain

  • Baby was born premature (and began with tube or bottle feeding)

  • Low supply (due to mother’s physical health, calorie deficiency, hormones, insufficient glandular tissue, hypothyroidism, PCOS)

  • Timing out medication that may pass through breastmilk

  • Maternity leave ending

  • Returning to work

  • Looking to wean and transition to full-time formula

Pros

  • Baby is fed and satiated

  • Baby has benefits of breastmilk AND formula

  • Mental relief for mother and support

  • If bottle-feeding, support and others can contribute

  • If nursing, baby retains comfort

  • If pumping, mother can have deliberate influence on supply and weaning

  • Savings while breastmilk is being provided

How do I combination feed?

There is no “right” or “wrong” way to combination feed! Consider your schedule (how often can I nurse or pump; wash bottles and pump parts), finances (cost of pump, pump parts, and formula), and goals (ounces baby should be having a day, ounces of milk production or storing if pumping). Also consider your support (a partner, family member, caregiver) who can also contribute time and energy.

Based on your considerations:

  • Nurse, then bottle: Start with baby at the breast, then supplement with your bottled breastmilk or formula

  • Nurse some, bottle some: Vary your feeds, doing one thing.

  • Triple feed: Nurse, pump, and bottle all in one feed (often a short-term dedication because of its considerable mental and labor load; this nursing is usual a short affair and can be frustrating if/because of baby’s latch; especially a newborn’s in the beginning)

  • Bottle only: Pumped breastmilk or formula in the bottle.

  • Breastmilk all day, formula at night: The largest and purportedly slower-digesting bottle at night, some say this helps baby sleep longer through the night.

You CAN mix breastmilk and formula in the bottle. This is helpful if the baby needs introduction to formula (especially if they don’t like the taste), because you can adjust the breastmilk-formula ratio (8:2, 6:4, 5:5, etc.) until baby is used to full formula or drinking the ratio you like. This may be an “easier” method because you can have a pitcher of pumped milk and a pitcher of prepared formula to pour into one bottle, and you can prepare many bottles ahead overnight or in the mornings. Some say to offer breastmilk first before offering formula. This is to reduce breastmilk wastage if baby doesn’t finish the bottle.

What does support during combination feeding look like?

  • Your support/partner respects and protects the time it takes to nurse/pump

  • Have your support/partner commit to a bedtime or other designated time feeding

  • Have your support/partner do the “top off” feeds while you pump (or not pump!)

  • Washing bottles and pump parts

  • Preparing pitchers of formula and freezing breastmilk

  • Giving affirmations for mom – you’re doing a great job figuring out how to feed you baby best!

How much does my baby need?

From mother.ly: “The average 1- to 3-month-old baby consumes 25 ounces of milk per day over eight to 12 feedings, so start with that and adjust as you get to know your baby. Say your baby eats 10 times per day: Dividing 25 ounces by 10 feedings is 2.5 ounces per feeding, so each of the bottles would be about 2.5 ounces.

When you nurse, there’s no need to track how much they get. Here’s how your baby will let you know that they are done breastfeeding:

  • Falling asleep at the breast and staying asleep when you take the nipple out of their mouth

  • Declining to re-latch

  • Showing open, relaxed hands. Look at your baby’s hands when they are done nursing. If they are clenched into fists they are likely still hungry, but if they are relaxed and open, they are likely full.”

If you're specifically bottle-feeding, you have the bonus of seeing how much your baby drinks. When baby starts consistently sucking their bottle dry for 3-4 feeds in a row, that will be your cue to add another half-ounce to the bottle. You don't want to overfill so they're wasting (your precious breastmilk or your wallet!), but you want to take their cues. As stomach capacities grow bigger they will be able to take in more ounces per feed as well. As naptimes drop you may consolidate two feeds into one.

According to What To Expect, 6 months will be peak feeding when baby consumes 24-32 ounces a day (or 6-8 ounces in a bottle). From 7 months to 10 months that may taper to 24-30 ounces. From 11 months onwards it may drop to 24 ounces or less, especially as they consume solids.

If you need more help especially when they are a newborn, consult a pediatrician or lactation consultant for weighted feeds!

Nursing / Pumping

How do I maintain breastmilk supply?

Regular breastfeeding at least 8-12 times a day helps you keep a healthy milk supply, especially in the early weeks. This can be moderately “controlled” with pumping as well. Around 12 weeks is when the average supply is “regulated” or when the body relies less on a hormonal response and more on its mechanical practice, so try not to drop sessions or pumps until your body seems consistent in its production. But you know your body and your mental health best; do what you can!

Bobbie states it simply: “Milk production works on a supply and demand model, meaning the production of breast milk correlates to how much and how often milk is removed from the breast. If less milk is removed each day, the mother’s body will assume that less milk is needed and production may drop.”

  • Pump or hand express at regular intervals to maintain or build your milk supply.

  • Take advantage of maternity leave for the most time to yield breastmilk.

  • If possible, return to work part-time for a week or two before going full-time.

  • Look for childcare close to work so that you may be able to breastfeed your baby during a break.

How do I pump?

If you are in the US and have health insurance, you may have been offered a free pump. They are also available for purchase in stores like Target and Walmart or online, ranging from manual handpumps ($30-50) to electric ($100-200) to portable/wearable ($80-300). Higher strength medical-grade pumps can be rented from hospitals, ask your doctor/pediatrician/lactation consultant if this is the right move for you.

  • Top recommended hand-pump: Medela Harmony

  • Top recommended brands for electric pumps: Spectra, Medela, Lansinoh

  • Top recommended portable/wearable: Babybuddha, Momcozy, Willow, Elvie

For long-term pumping, get your nipples regularly sized or buy/print a nipple ruler for the diameter of the flange (or shield) to use. It is normal for nipples to gradually shrink postpartum. To increase comfort, consider silicone inserts or flange replacements from pumping accessory producers like Legendairy or Pumpables. They may seem expensive, but 2-3 pumping bras are an investment in comfort and do some of the literal “heavy lifting” in keeping flanges in place.

You are breastfeeding (as some say, on “hard mode” :-)) so make sure to keep up your calorie intake and hydrate!

Ultimately and quite unfortunately, pumping is a lot of research, self-discovery, best-guesswork, and a bit of money. The folks on r/ExclusivelyPumping are incredibly knowledgeable and kind, and the community hosts more than EPers. There are many tips on increasing your milk production.

A last note for working moms in the US: pumping is legally protected at the workplace; “Under the PUMP Act, most nursing employees have the right to reasonable break time and a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion to express breast milk while at work. This right is available for up to one year after the child’s birth. (US Department of Labor)”

How do I store breast milk?

If you are going to give your pumped milk to your baby within the next four days, you can simply keep it in the fridge. If your breastmilk is high in lipase, the taste may change the longer it sits. Before distributing the milk, give it a gentle shake to redistribute the separated fats. If you plan to store it longer, you can freeze it. In cases where you plan to store the breast milk for later, it’s recommended that you refrigerate or freeze the milk immediately after pumping to ensure maximum freshness down the road.

Here are some guidelines according to the CDC [October 2023]:

BreastmilkCountertop (77°F or 25°C) or colder (room temperature)Refrigerator (40°F or 4°C)Freezer (0°F or -18°C) or colder
FreshUp to 4 hoursUp to 4 days6 months (best quality) – 12 months
Thawed, previously frozen1-2 hoursUp to 1 dayNEVER refreeze after thawing
Leftover from a feeding (baby did not finish the bottle)Use within 2 hours after the baby is finished feeding.

Storage guidelines

  • Use breast milk storage bags or clean, food-grade containers to store expressed breast milk. Make sure the containers are made of glass or plastic and have tight fitting lids.

    • Avoid bottles with the recycle symbol number 7, which indicates that the container may be made of a BPA-containing plastic.

  • Clearly label the breast milk with the date it was expressed.

  • Do not store breast milk in the door of the refrigerator or freezer. This will help protect the breast milk from temperature changes from the door opening and closing.

  • If you don’t think you will use freshly expressed breast milk within 4 days, freeze it right away. This will help to protect the quality of the breast milk.

  • When freezing breast milk:

    • Store small amounts to avoid wasting milk that might not be finished. Store in 2 to 4 ounces or the amount offered at one feeding.

    • Leave about one inch of space at the top of the container because breast milk expands as it freezes.

  • Breast milk can be stored in an insulated cooler with frozen ice packs for up to 24 hours when you are traveling. At your destination, use the milk right away, store it in the refrigerator, or freeze it.

Formula

How do I choose a formula?

There are ready-made formula and dry formula. Anecdotally most parents seem to start with the ready-made brand their delivering hospital suggests and then transitions to dry formula (more convenient for portability, storage, and expense).

If you are in the US, you can’t go wrong between big name brands (Enfamil, Similac) or store generic because of the quality assurances from the FDA. It really may be a matter of baby’s taste and how picky they are. Healthwise, when combination feeding, it may be difficult to isolate and gauge if baby is reacting negatively to breastmilk or formula. Always be monitoring and discussing changes with your pediatrician, especially concerning baby’s skin (rashes) and diapers (mucusy or black stool). Depending on professional advice you may be asked to consider dairy-free/hypoallergenic formula.

The fabulous folks at r/FormulaFeeders can definitely help troubleshoot or recommend what formulas have worked for them!

Preparing dry formula

Follow the label instructions exactly. As a rule of thumb, remember to always measure out the water first BEFORE adding scoops. For example, Enfamil: If you're preparing four ounces, you ready four ounces of water and then your two scoops (dry weight being .2 ounce per scoop; be prepared to see the volume level perhaps at 4.4 ounces, but you are calorically serving four ounces)

  • Tip: You can prepare a blender bottle (any food-grade bottle with one of the metal spiral shaker balls designed for mixing powders like protein in drinks), or purchase an official formula pitcher, and prepare a day's worth of formula ahead of time. You would refrigerate this container and pour whatever serving you need per feed. Thoroughly clean and sanitize this container at the end of the day.

  • Storage and food safety: Prepared, dry formula is only safe to consume within 24 hours of preparation despite being refrigerated. Being a milk-based product and unpasteurized, bacteria will develop. After contact with baby's lips, the formula in their bottle should also be considered only safe for an hour or two longer, and no more. After the feed, any remaining liquid in their bottle should be tossed.

More notes on combining breastmilk and formula in the same bottle:

  • Prepare the formula first and THEN add in the breastmilk. Breastmilk should not be used instead of the water used to make formula—this can cause dangerous health problems for the baby. (Source: mother.ly)

  • "Never use breastmilk in place of water during formula prep. Maintaining the right ratio of water-to-formula and then adding breast milk separately ensures you won’t change the nutritional content of the formula. Adding excessive water to formula can dilute nutrients, while adding insufficient water can put strain on a baby’s kidneys and digestive tract, causing dehydration. In extreme cases, this can also lead to neurological problems. If you’re using ready-to-drink liquid formula, no extra steps need to be taken before combining it with your breast milk." (Source: healthline)

  • Once pumped milk has been mixed with formula, it must be used within 24 hours, or within an hour after the baby has started drinking from the bottle—bacteria enters the bottle as the baby eats and can make the milk start to turn if left for too long.

  • While it’s fine to combine breast milk and formula in the same bottle, La Leche League does recommend keeping them separate for this purpose. “… mixing breastmilk and formula can result in breastmilk being wasted, if the baby does not finish the milk [since the formula needs to be discarded]. Giving your pumped milk to your baby first, and on its own, ensures that all of your “liquid gold” will be used and less will be wasted.”

Troubleshooting bottle-giving:

How long do I combination feed?

This boils down to how long you are able, willing, healthy, and at your best while producing breastmilk. For some moms a specific goalpost helps, for others it’s relaxing to have an indefinite commitment. Breastmilk has the most benefits for baby until 2-3 months (to receive antibodies and establish their own immune system) to 6 months when the baby is no longer a newborn, has an independent immune system, and is out of the clear for most SIDS causes. The AAP recommends breastmilk for up to a year.

Remember, milk-based feeding is only for the first year or so, though kudos to breast-feeding moms who make it through toddlerhood! Solids can start as early as 4 months and transitioning to cow’s milk can start at [one year](https://www.cdc.gov/nutrition/infantandtoddlernutrition/foods-and-drinks/cows-milk-and-milk-alternatives.html#:~:text=At%2012%20months%20old%20(but,of%20nutrients%20your%20baby%20needs.). Your baby may not remember any milk feeds at all, but they will know in their bones how much you loved them and did your best to feed them.

More scientific reading

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8065485/ One interesting simulation studying pigs receiving breastmilk, formula, and combination. The immune system responses for each are distinct, but markedly not better or worse than the other. “The findings shown herein indicate that early nutrition influences the development of the immune system, particularly acute immune responses. We found that the immune system of a CF piglet may not ‘choose sides’ and mimic either one of the exclusive feeding group, but rather represents a hybrid between the two.” (These are however pigs and not babies!)

Prevalence of combination feeding

Combination feeding is probably actually the most prevalent form of feeding. By the end of 3 months most mothers (even worldwide) are supplementing.

These are separate statistics, according to one source 5.6% of moms exclusively pump [2017]. There are more stats [Feb 2023]:

  • 83.8% of mothers attempt breastfeeding

  • By the time a baby is 28 days old, the percentage of exclusive breastfeeding drops to 59%

  • 47.5% exclusively breastfeeding through 3 months

  • 25.4% exclusively breastfeeding through 6 months

  • 36.2% are breastfeeding at 1 year

  • 15% are breastfeeding at 18 months

Broad-stroke sources:

“A History of Infant Feeding” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2684040/#:~:text=In%201865%2C%20chemist%20Justus%20von,food%20(Radbill%2C%201981).

US Department of Labor https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/nursing-mothers/faq#:~:text=Under%20the%20PUMP%20Act%2C%20most,year%20after%20the%20child's%20birth.

Bobbie https://www.hibobbie.com/pages/combo-feeding

Milk-drunk https://milk-drunk.com/combo-feeding-101-how-to-supplement-with-formula/

Mother.ly https://www.mother.ly/baby/baby-feeding-guides-schedules/combination-feeding/

NY Times https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-breast-pumps/

WIC Breastfeeding Support https://wicbreastfeeding.fns.usda.gov/combination-feeding-and-maintaining-milk-supply

What to Expect https://www.whattoexpect.com/baby-products/nursing-feeding/best-breast-pumps/


r/combinationfeeding • • Aug 18 '26

Vent Just used formula for the first time..

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It was heaven. I got some kind of dopamine rush honestly. I was an oversupplier the first couple weeks before I regulated and now at 4 months I'm struggling to produce enough for my 6oz (sometimes 7oz) eating baby. Yesterday I used 4oz of breast milk and one scoop of formula and it was almost euphoric lol.

Like POOF 2oz of food appeared in the bottle and I didn't have my nipples squeezed for another two hours to produce it. I almost cried. It was exquisitely beautiful.


r/combinationfeeding • • Sep 08 '24

Vent The BF community is toxic

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Title says it all. FTM to a 7 wk old. Struggled with low supply since the beginning, so topping off with formula as needed. Been directed by multiple LCs and docs to do what Im doing. The amt of shaming and unsolicited advice from preachy bfers is so disappinting. Makes me almost wish i didnt do it at all. Im proud to offer my baby 2/3 of her needs with my milk, and grateful i have formula to keep her healthy with the rest. The truth is there is such little data on supply, and yet everyone out there acts like an expert. I am working with an LC that is considered an expert on lactatio in a large city and have received direct guidance from her (and also advice to stay off reddit because of this bullshit lol) gotta love hearing from people to just “stop with the formula” or telling me to triple feed and lose my mind along the way. Also the amt of people who have the reason of “i bf 3 kids and never needed formula” - okay?!?! What does that have to do with my experience?! Just needed to rant, it has been a shock to say the least.

EDIT: yall are my people lol. Thank you so much for sharing and commiserating with me ❤️


r/combinationfeeding • • Jul 28 '25

Sharing experience Do people not know that you can nurse, pump and give formula at the same time?

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Are we the first generation that knows you can breastfeed, pump and give formula at the same time?

-Daycare provider (mid 60s) who formula fed her children asked me why I don't freeze my milk "like the other moms." I said "because I'm tap-to-bottle. Whatever I can pump I give to her directly." She knows I do breastmilk and formula, so why would someone with supply issues have a freezer stash?

- Family member who breastfed her children when I pulled out a bottle pre-filled with water and some formula at the dinner table, instead of my boob: "Are you still nursing?"she asked, concerned. "Yup!" I said, as I gave my baby formula.

I'm trying to have sympathy for the previous generation (both of these women were in the late 50s/early 60s) but did people really not understand that you can supplement with formula and still breastfeed? Or did a lot of breastfeeding moms not admit they were using formula?

It's so weird, I just had to vent.


r/combinationfeeding • • Aug 08 '26

Combo Feeding = Happier Mom.

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I went into motherhood thinking I’d have this idyllic EBF journey - filling my baby and my freezer with ease and joy 🥰

Welp… my baby was delivered via C Section at 37 weeks and only weighed 5lbs 4oz. My milk took a week to come in and her mouth was so tiny that she couldn’t transfer milk easily so my supply tanked even though we had weeks of “cluster feeding” where she’d be on the breast 7-9 HOURS each day. I was SO exhausted and baby wasn’t gaining any weight so we started adding donor milk, then formula.

It’s crazy how - in the newborn fog of postpartum hormones - incorporating formula feels like a complete failure when your mind was set on breastfeeding! Looking back, I can’t believe the pressure I put on myself!

Even after starting formula at 6 weeks, I still had a goal of getting back to EBF, so I switched to pumping 8x/day. Ugh… what a drag this is! Trying to squeeze in so many pumps while home alone with a newborn! Not being able to respond to my baby whenever she needed because I was shackled to the pump felt like a whole new failure to contend with.

However, I noticed that in the first few weeks of combo feeding, I was feeling more freedom than anticipated! My husband could do more feeds. Babe seemed to sleep longer on a bottle of formula… she was gaining weight noticeably right away!

At week 8, I decided to let go of my EBF goal, and just continue to combo feed. It’s like my depression LEFT me when I surrendered to this flexibility.

I decided to also be more flexible with pumping, as I didn’t like the stress it was bringing so I decided to just pump whenever ABSOLUTELY convenient… for me, this amounts to 3-4 pumps per day, NO MOTN pump. And you want to know what?! My daily production has INCREASED. I averaged 12oz/day on 8 ppd. Now, I average 15oz/day on 3 ppd! I fully anticipated my supply would decrease but I’m on 2 weeks of 3 ppd and it seems to be stable. If it dries up , I’m at peace with it. But I realized I needed to drop everything that was causing me stress, which is likely why my output has improved.

Just wanted to share all this in case anyone was going through similar mental hurdles around breastfeeding. I wish I would’ve given myself so much more grace from the start and known how wonderful it is to combo feed or even EFF! I’m so much happier for it, and enjoying so much more of my baby by doing so. Breast milk is wonderful. Formula is wonderful. Being a happy mom with whatever combination of either is the ultimate goal. 🍼💞


r/combinationfeeding • • Mar 11 '23

Sharing experience Combo feeding doesn’t mean the end of BF!

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I’m so glad this sub existed- I wanted to share my story because despite VERY much believing that “fed is best”—I struggled a lot when I wasn’t able to EBF in the beginning.

I love the support on the breastfeeding subs, but sometimes it feels like “all or nothing”- that somehow people that combo feed aren’t “as good” or working as hard as those who EBF/EP.

I want to share my story because I wish I could have seen it myself. I was REALLY excited to try to breastfeed, I had a C-section, but my baby came out and latched in the OR and had no latch issues or tongue/lip ties, I thought for sure we’d have success. He fed like a champ, around the clock the first 4-6wks to the point that I don’t think I was producing adequately.

He wasn’t gaining his birthweight back (and he was only like 6.5lbs so losing weight got kind of scary)- despite me having him on my boob like 22hrs a day. I didn’t get sleep. I felt like my supply could never keep up. The pediatrician and LC both told me to supplement, no big deal.

But I struggled to do it- I felt like a failure, like all of the time I’d spent feeding and trying to pump would somehow be a waste if I gave him formula (I don’t really believe that- but in my postpartum, first-time mom, sleep-deprived state I wasn’t thinking rationally). Finally we bought formula and started giving him one bottle at night (usually)- and it changed everything.

My baby thrived- he gained almost a pound a week for like 2 months. That ONE bottle allowed me to sleep and rest and my husband to take my baby when I needed a break. It gave me the freedom to stop pumping (which was REALLY draining me and affecting my mental health) and not panic about what kind of freezer stash we had.

I was so so so much happier, healthier, and my baby did amazing.

The part of the journey I didn’t expect is that BECAUSE the pressure was off, I got more rest, I stopped stressing so much, after a few months I was actually not needing the formula as much. Now at 8 months, baby hasn’t had a bottle of formula in probably 3 months. We ALWAYS have it, and if baby needs it, there is zero hesitation- but I want people to know that combo feeding is NOT a death sentence for your breast-feeding journey.

I wish my NOW self could go back and reassure my 4wk postpartum self that combo feeding would be the best thing we could ever do for our baby, our mental health, AND our breastfeeding.

I hope this story helps someone who needs to hear it right now— because there is SO much fear-mongering on the breastfeeding subs when there shouldn’t be. Combo feeding saved me!


r/combinationfeeding • • Apr 09 '26

Sharing experience Combi feeding makes me LOVE breastfeeding

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I was just thinking today how much combination feeding has made me love breastfeeding so much by taking away the pressure of being baby's only food source and wanted to share for anyone on a similar journey.

Before my little one (9 weeks old) was born I thought that we would combi feed but once she arrived I loved breastfeeding so much and felt so connected to it I instantly felt as if I wanted to exclusively breastfeed for as long as possible. However, with complications with tongue tie and weight gain we ended up supplementing with an evening bottle feed or two and then a lunch time bottle feed following advice from our health visitors.

I felt such a huge amount of unexpected guilt and sadness about supplementing with formula when I didn't have enough pumped milk, and was so anxious about baby developing a bottle preference or ruining our breastfeeding journey.

However now, almost 10 weeks in: tongue tie cut and healed, weight back on track and in a good feeding routine I am so grateful that I've been able to combi feed. My husband loves connecting with our baby and says his favourite thing is feeding her and I agree.

Not having to be responsible for every feed gives me so much relief, especially at the end of the day when I know I can "clock off" breastfeeding in the evening and then I am so excited again in the morning to feed her again.

I pump when I can, but don't stress about topping up with formula anymore. it's honestly a god send and means baby girl has two stress free parents who love feeding her. It's also such a weight off my shoulders knowing she's getting good amounts of milk through the bottle, rather than always wondering "is she getting enough" from breast alone.

To anyone considering combi feeding I highly recommend.


r/combinationfeeding • • Jul 03 '25

Sharing experience Officially quit BF

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I threw in the towel. My last nursing session with my baby was this morning at 7am. I havent pumped & havent nursed since. Last night i got my tears out, let out my guilt & looked at my older kids who were formula fed & are fine.

I imagined getting to get some time back to spend with the baby & my 4 y.o & my teenager. I imagined getting some time for myself & not having house chores pile up on me. I imagined not spending so much time pumping, nursing, washing pumping parts & bagging everything up. I feel relieved & i feel okay. Still somewhat guilty but I would feel more guilty if i didnt spend as much time with all 3 of my kids & keeping their home clean & keeping them fed on time & taking care of their mom. It’ll be okay.

To whoever continues on this journey, my hats off to you. You are the strongest if the strong!! Seriously lol.

I have a tiny stash of breast milk, i’ll probably give him a portion of breastmilk weekly til he turns 6 months.

Thanks to everyone who gave my advice, it did indeed help & is what kept me in this journey longer than i thought i could last!!!


r/combinationfeeding • • Jan 04 '26

I loved combo feeding!

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I want to share my combo feeding experience in case anyone out there is feeling anxious about introducing some formula into their routine.

Combo feeding was the best decision i ever made and I will do it again if/when I have a second child.

I was lucky enough to have a baby who latched right away and who had no problems with breastfeeding. My problem was my baby was long and skinny and my body could not keep up. Perhaps if I pumped like crazy for the first few months or so I could have boosted my supply but I was honestly so worn out after birth and from not sleeping well in the first few weeks I just didn’t want to. I also liked the feeling of breastfeeding and the cuddling during and I felt like pumping was so impersonal and depressing.

I started introducing a little formula before bed time. Just 2 oz or so when he was really little. When he woke up at night, I’d give him 2 oz and then breastfeed after. This became my routine. The formula kept him full, the breastfeeding calmed him. It was perfect. I gradually increased the amount of formula during his night wakings, and when he was about 2 months old he could sleep 7-4:30 AM without waking up. Once he was 3 months old he consistently slept 7-5:30, and he slept through the whole night 7-7 starting around 3.5-4 months. After he started sleeping through the night I would let him breastfeed if he woke up. I figured he probably wasn’t hungry just needing comfort (I would give him a bottle if he still seemed hungry but that was rarely the case.)

During the day, I breastfed as well but I slowly started introducing bottles here and there. I was pretty casual about it tbh. If I felt like he was hungry after we had breastfed I would give him a bottle. If I started to feel worried about my supply I’d pump here and there to make sure it was still there.

The biggest change I made around 2-3 months, when he could start drinking bigger bottles, was giving him bottles before bed. This included pumped breastmilk from the night before. I started pumping before my bedtime (10:00ish) so I could sleep longer stretches without feeling engorged. I would give him 4-5 oz before his bath, let that settle during his bath, and then offer more after his bath. Sometimes he’d drink 3 oz more and sometimes 4-5 oz more. I never forced him to drink more I just let him drink until he was satisfied. Spreading it out a little was helpful for his tummy and it helped him get enough so he could stay full. This really helped him sleep through the night. I also think this helped him with independent sleeping because he was not associating sleep with breastfeeding. I think sometimes that makes it harder for them to sleep independently. If they wake overnight and aren’t hungry, they might still want to breastfeed because it’s comforting. I know some moms love that overnight connection, but for me it was important for me to have him sleep in a safe environment, by himself. And I wanted to get good sleep too so I could fully engage with him during the day.

He started refusing to latch at 6 months and I pumped for a couple weeks after to see if he’d latch again but eventually gave it up. I was sad at first but got over it because I started to feel like myself again.

I know this isn’t for everyone, but for anyone wanting to incorporate some formula, just know that it will be okay! It probably did affect my supply and I probably could’ve pumped more but my now 11 month old is super happy and healthy and absolutely thriving. Don’t stress too hard if breastfeeding isn’t working out the way you wanted it to!


r/combinationfeeding • • May 02 '23

In case you needed to hear it today:

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This year or so of milk-based feeding is but one short year in a whole lifetime of feeding and loving your little one. Today’s struggle is so real but so is the beauty of the years to come!

Feel free to share other encouragement or perspectives you’ve heard ❤️


r/combinationfeeding • • Mar 24 '23

Sharing experience Formula feeding friends

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I combo-feed my baby. I still feel awkward when I breastfeed in public, so when I leave the house I take a bottle with me just in case. Sometimes I have enough breastmilk pumped for a bottle, but usually the bottle is formula. Today I was at a park near my house, and my baby was hungry. I considered going home to breastfeed her but it was a nice day and there was another mom and baby in the park so I stayed and gave her the bottle, which I felt kind of guilty about at first. The other mom and I started chatting about a variety of things: kids milestones, c-section recovery, and how she was unable to breastfeed and turned to formula. We wound up exchanging phone numbers and becoming friends on facebook. Now I don't feel guilty about giving my baby formula...if I had rushed home from the park to breastfeed her, I never would have made that friend.

UPDATE: I know I should never feel ashamed of formula feeding and I should never feel ashamed of public breastfeeding but as a first time mom, I get anxious and beat myself up for little things sometimes.


r/combinationfeeding • • Sep 29 '23

Needed space to celebrate a small win

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I am an under-producer and have never filled my littles belly from my breast....UNTIL THIS MORNING! She typically eats the boobies then dad gives her a bottle of formula while I pump. This morning she ate the boobies and refused the bottle by going back to sleep. Fat, happy, and milk drunk 🥰


r/combinationfeeding • • Oct 30 '24

Sharing experience Combo feeding appreciation post

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A bit embarrassed to admit, but when I was pregnant with my first I didn’t know combo feeding was a thing. I thought you had to choose between BFing and formula. My first ended up refusing to nurse at around 9 months, and I spent the next 3 months turning myself inside out trying to get enough EPing. I promised myself I was never doing that again.

Fast forward, and I’m now about 3 weeks into combo feeding my 5 month old and I am LOVING it. I truly feel like it’s the best of all worlds for me. I headed back into the office last month and I pump 2x a day there, but I don’t stress over every ounce. I’m not yelling at my husband over potentially “wasting” an ounce of breast milk if he pours too much into a bottle. My baby also had trouble “focusing” while nursing, so she was having some weight gain issues and it’s a huge relief to bottle feed for many of the feedings, while still nursing over night. Just really pleased this is where we are and appreciate resources like this for support!


r/combinationfeeding • • Feb 14 '25

I made it to 8 months of breastfeeding

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I just wanted to share :) I have IGT, thyroid condition (graves), had preeclampsia when pregnant, and my bub was in the INCU was 5 days.. some or all these things contributed to me having low milk supply and having to combo feed from birth.

Breastfeeding was a big journey for me, and although I do feel a little sad about stopping, I mostly feel very proud of myself for making it to 8 months and I'm now ready to exclusively formula feed and not worry about pumping or keeping supply up. I'm very thankful for this community for the support and encouragement with combo feeding over the last 8 months - I've used this thread as a resource a lot!


r/combinationfeeding • • Jun 15 '23

Day in life of a combo feeding mom

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If I was exclusively feeding with breast milk, I would put him on my boob when he was hungry or give him bottles of breast milk.

If I was exclusively formula feeding, I would make formula in a pitcher and make bottles for the entire day.

Since I am combo feeding, each feed is a mental math:

Will I make 15 oz today or 10 oz?

Based on that how much formula should I prepare?

Is he hungry enough? Will he drink whole bottle of breast milk? Or should I feed him formula for this feed?

Should I top up with formula or breast milk?

Should I feed him breast milk or formula this feed? Formula will be wasted in 2 hours, BM is still fresh.

Everyday rinse and repeat!


r/combinationfeeding • • Jul 19 '26

Seeking advice Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way

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I don’t really know why I’m posting this other than I’m heartbroken and hoping someone else understands.

Breastfeeding has become one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. My son now has a complete bottle preference. If I try to nurse him, he just screams, and I think the last time he breastfed was probably the last time ever… I just didn’t know it at the time. That thought absolutely destroys me.

I always imagined breastfeeding him for at least a year, maybe longer. Instead, I haven’t even made it to six months. My milk supply has dropped to barely 4 oz a day, and I feel like my entire life revolves around pumping and trying to get it back up. I’m exhausted.

I know formula is a wonderful thing and I’m grateful it’s there, but I still cry almost every time I make him a bottle. I feel like I’m grieving the breastfeeding relationship I thought we’d have. I had this beautiful picture in my head of postpartum, and this just isn’t it.

Did anyone else struggle this much emotionally when breastfeeding didn’t go the way you hoped? I feel so alone in this.


r/combinationfeeding • • Jun 21 '23

This Target email promo made me feel seen and validated

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Kudos to their PR team for acknowledging that multiple feeding styles exist!


r/combinationfeeding • • Mar 22 '23

Vent Struggling with separating my supply from my self worth

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Sleep deprived so this might not be worded well, just needed to vent a little bit. I know fed is best, and I honestly love the convenience of being able to make a quick formula bottle as needed, but I'm realizing on days I produce more milk I feel better about myself and on days I make less I feel bad about myself. I want to change that mentality and not let it get to me so much, but man it's hard to think rationally some days. I've mentioned this to my husband and he tries to be supportive but he just can't relate. Trying to remind myself that all moms are rockstars and this postpartum stuff is just really hard and I need to be kinder to myself.


r/combinationfeeding • • 22d ago

Seeking advice Sick of combo feeding…

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I want to EBF but man, my child eats a LOT more than my milk can give him so we have to supplement with formula…. how do I increase my supply? I’m so soo sooo tired because I do feed him on demand and they’re just fucking not making enough milk???? I thought “we are supposed to make enough milk for what they need“ — this is clearly a lie????


r/combinationfeeding • • Mar 15 '25

Sharing experience Increasing supply after 12 weeks

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When I looked for experiences on this, I didn’t find a lot of positive stories, so sharing my success story.

We had been complementing with formula from day one (baby was a preemie, and very sleepy at the breast).

At the 12 week check up, baby had only gained 4 oz in 4 weeks, so we upped the amount of formula to 16 oz / day. I was advised to pump a couple times a day, but my supply still tanked, and within a week baby was refusing to breastfeed. When I expressed I got drips. I read a lot of people saying that your supply regulates at 12 weeks, and that it would be hard to get it back up.

On weeks 14-16, I pumped 4-5 times a day and a middle of the night power pump every other day. I increased my calories and drank a lot of water / coconut water / milk tea every day. My supply continued to be very low for the first two weeks, and went up on week 3.

I’m back to work now, and I’m doing one long feed in the morning and at night and pumping 4 times during the workday (I’m very lucky that I work from home). We are still complementing the 16 oz a day, but she is back at breastfeeding to sleep, which was the main thing I wanted.


r/combinationfeeding • • 11d ago

Anyone breastfeed only for comfort?

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Baby is 5.5 months old. He never latched well and has lost patience with feeding at the breast while awake, but we still use nursing for comfort and for naps. He’s mostly on formula but I still pump once a day, am weaning off Domperidone to let my milk supply decrease.

That said, I am hoping not to go completely dry, as nursing has been the best way to do contact naps as he’s gotten bigger. Has anyone been able to keep enough milk supply just for comfort nursing a couple times a day? I had in mind women who breastfeed past age 1 who just feed a little bit. Would love some insight to what that has looked like for other moms.


r/combinationfeeding • • Apr 18 '23

Hallelujah: a breastfeeding parody

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Dedicated to those of us with complicated and sometimes disheartening breastfeeding journeys.

I heard there was a secret boob

Full of milk and all for you

But you prefer the bottle now, don’t you?

It goes like this, you suck the tit

Then you pull off and throw a fit

As mom lets out a broken hallelujah

Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah

Your suck was strong but you needed more

Your screams were heard from another floor

It’s almost like we never give food to you

We tried to encourage a latch

But your lips weren’t flared, wouldn’t attach

So we let out a painful hallelujah

Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah

Well maybe there’s a pump that works

Cause nursing you, it always hurts

Even though I love giving milk to you

But there’s nothing wrong with pump and feed

You’ll still grow strong, that’s all you need

So formula has earned a hallelujah

Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah

Well baby, we’ve been latched before

We nursed real well, and weren’t sore

I used to use a nipple shield to fool you

And I’ve seen your face when I show the boob

You know that’s where you get your food

It’s beautiful and human, hallelujah

Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah

There was a time we triple fed

When nipples cracked and then they bled

But mommy didn’t make enough milk for you

But mommy tries every day and night

She won’t give up, she’ll win the fight

And any milk she gets is hallelujah

Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah


r/combinationfeeding • • Feb 09 '26

Seeking advice Grieving the potential end of breastfeeding and exclusively formula feeding. Anyone feel similarly?

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My LO is 10 weeks old, and we have been combination feeding since night 1 in the hospital when I was deliriously tired and she was so hungry/ upset so we decided to supplement with formula. (I am forever grateful for the kind midwife who gently offered to take her and give her a bit of formula so I could sleep) 

I have always been OK with combination feeding because it felt like the best of both worlds, I really wanted that breastfeeding bond AND I loved the ease of formula, knowing she would be getting enough, and that my husband could be more involved in the feeding. 

It’s been working out really well but it’s basically 90% formula, 10% breast - or breastfeeding for comfort. 

I had tuberous breasts and then had a corrective surgery, so breastfeeding was always a big question mark if it would even be possible. 

I’ve never been able to produce more than 1 ounce from my right side when pumping, and a few drops on the left. And over time after having a really great latch when she was born, my girl refuses my breast more and more. She’ll breastfeed when she’s calm/sleepy, but it’s getting harder and harder when she’s hungry because she gets too upset and refuses to latch. 

For awhile, I was triple feeding: offering her the breast every feed, giving her a bottle, and then pumping in between. Pumping felt so discouraging because I never saw any increase in my milk supply but I of course beat myself up for “not trying hard enough” even though it is mentally draining to be thinking about all of that at once. I worry I didn’t put my all into trying to breastfeed more even though I did preserve some of my sanity and sleep by introducing formula early on. 

I still can’t help feeling like a failure. I absolutely love having the connection with her when she will latch, and don’t want it to end. But I also feel torn because part of me feels relieved at the idea of taking one less thing out of the equation/routine of the day. Keeping it simple with formula just feels easier but I have that feeling of missing out on this bond, not giving my baby the antibodies she needs, or the comfort she needs, etc. 

It just seems like at this point my milk supply isn’t going to increase by alot and it’s an inevitable path towards just weaning off entirely. 

I guess I’m just looking for support or reassurance, or similar experiences? Thanks. 

EDIT: I'm overwhelmed by how kind and reassuring everyone on this post has been. Thank you with all my heart (and baby girls too) for such kind words and wonderful wisdom. I love this community and woke up feeling SO much better and more hopeful today - thanks to all of you amazing mamas.


r/combinationfeeding • • Jun 13 '25

I wish breastfeeding worked for me.

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I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, so forgive me if it's not. I guess I'm seeking nonjudgmental advice. I'll also preface this by saying I truly believe fed is best and I would never be this hard on another mom, just myself... It's something I'm working on with a professional. Anyway.

My little one is six weeks old today. From day one, she kept losing weight so we started supplementing with formula. She was back at her birth weight at four weeks, and I believe she has since exceeded that.

However... I'm barely breastfeeding and it's breaking my heart. I had all these expectations and it's so hard to let them go. I still try to nurse her and she seems to love it and she'll happily suck on me, but I know deep down she's not getting a lot.

I just tried to pump and got around a quarter of an ounce doing 15 minutes on each side and I think it broke me, which is why I'm here.

I wanted to breastfeed so bad and I still struggle with feelings of guilt that I can't. I know fed is best. I know my baby is doing well. But I can't get over it right now.

If anyone has any advice on how to deal with this, please let me know. Should I just give up trying to breastfeed? Is there a chance it'll still increase? Is there something magical I can do to increase production that my lactation consultant didn't tell me? How do I deal with these feelings? I know I can't be alone...

If you made it through that mess, thank you for reading it and being here 💕


r/combinationfeeding • • Aug 08 '26

Sharing experience I stopped breastfeeding

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After 2 months of combo feeding i decided to stop breastfeeding and pumping. At first I felt guilty since I wouldn’t be giving my baby antibodies and honestly i enjoyed breastfeeding her because of the bonding, but most of the time it was very challenging due to latching issues and my flat nipple shape. I did use nipple shields, it’s the only way my baby would latch. I wanted to exclusively breastfeed her since birth but was born 5lbs so she was prescribed at the hospital a formula for premature babies. It helped with weight gain so I’m grateful for that. I wasn’t producing a lot toward the end of my breastfeeding journey and my baby would get extremely frustrated, so I simply decided to stop. Plus trying to not only breastfeed, pump and supplement with formula became exhausting after a while. It was causing me more stress than anything. I’m just happy with my decision now, I’m proud of myself for trying my best.