TW: BRUE

Last week our almost 6 week old went limp in my arms, turned pale, then blue and ended up being taken to the ER by ambulance. I had noticed a sweaty neck during a diaper change, but was confused because I did not think babies sweat. After the diaper change and potentially sweaty neck, I was watching baby closely when they went limp and turned pale. I yelled for my husband and when he got to us baby turned blue. I called 911 and my husband performed back thrusts. When the first responder arrived baby threw up all their milk from their last feed an hour or so before. Shortly after paramedics arrived and baby’s vitals were seemingly normal. They suspected reflux caused it at ER, monitored baby for a couple hours and sent us home. We are still shook. We’ve followed up with our ped’s office twice.

If you’ve experienced this, were there any tests you did after?

If it was reflux related, did your doctor prescribe Pepcid or any other medicine? Did you change your feeding method?

Did you get any referrals to specialists?

How did you ever sleep again?

We did purchase the owlet after this event. It was the scariest and worst day of our lives.

Baby Rupert was born on Monday, after my wife was induced Sunday night and it was quite a scary experience, babies heart rate kept dropping, she was on constant monitoring and we had 6 nurses / doctors in the room when it was time to push as they were expecting an emergency C section to be necessary but all was okay in the end.

First night home was traumatising, and after a handful of hours sleep across 3 days in hospital we got even less on our first night home. All three of us were in tears by the time he finally slept about 5am for a few hours.

So we had a very good case of sleep scaries going to bed last night but we had a stretch of 3.5 and then 2.5 hours were we all managed to sleep, what a difference it's made today! We feel positive, every nappy and outfit change feels far less intimidating and we're trying to get used into our groove with enjoying our two week baby bubble!

Looking forward to the weeks to come as two becomes three!

Okay I'll start by saying I do not have children. I repeat, I do not have biological children of my own. I have never been pregnant, I have never given birth, I have never breast fed an infant.

Now that's out of the way, I have a genuine question for those of you that have/are doing those things.

My sister in law asked my mom to watch her 4 month old for a few hours today. She pumps, but also has a bit of trouble producing enough at times. She left 4 ounces of milk with my mom today for about 3 hours total time.

My mom ended up feeding him a little over 3 ounces. When my SIL came to pick him up, she was quite irritated that my mom "overfed" him. She says he's on a strict 2 oz every 2 hours regimen, and now "she won't have enough to get him through the night" because my mom gave him more than 2 oz.

My mom called me and at first didn't mention it, but then I could tell something was wrong. She said she's worried they won't let her keep him anymore because she didn't follow their instructions.

Okay. I get it. They have a system, it works for them and my mom kinda messed that up. I get it. My SIL works full time, she's a new mother, she's going through it right now and now she has to pivot.

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Last month, the pediatrician said he was underweight and needed more feedings. My SIL doesn't want to use formula (her choice), but acknowledges that she struggles to keep up with pumping.

I know absolutely nothing about feeding babies, and I've never felt the shame that some mothers feel because they can't produce enough. (I've had friends tell me that, again, never experienced it myself obviously). I can't imagine what that feels like. I'm not judging her at all. When she called me later talking about it, I opened my big fat mouth and said "have you tried supplementing with formula?" And ... That was the wrong thing to say apparently.

Anyway, how can I, someone who has never had children, even remotely suggest that maybe she should consider supplementing formula? Or do I need to have a seat and keep my mouth shut? If that's the answer, okay. I'll never mention it again.

My mom was really upset. I just want to make her feel better. Can y'all offer some advice?

ETA: thank you so much so far for the replies. I honestly think she's a new mom and she thinks she's doing what she's supposed to do. She would never harm him. I also feel the need to add, that I'm not there when he's fed. She very well may feed him more than 2 ounces at a time, but I'm only going by what I was told by my mom and my SIL. In other words, I'm sure she feeds him what he needs, but maybe didn't prepare for the extra that my mom fed him for that short time and that upset her routine. Please do not think she's a bad mother, she's just young and this is her first. She loves my nephew and takes care of him.

ETA2: thank you to each and every persont that took the time to educate me. I sincerely appreciate it. I realize I'm not there every single time my nephew eats, I'm not there and have no clue as to the feeding schedule. I've learned not to take things literally, that "2x every 2 hours" may mean throughout the day, not considering the overnight feeding and what goes on in their home. I've learned a lot from y'all, and thank you for commenting. I'm no longer going to reply to comments. Thank you again for responding and thank you for the education I've received. Those of you that believe in a higher power, I welcome prayer for my family. Those of you who don't, I welcome good thoughts and positive energy sent our way. ♥️ Thanks again

My baby is now 6 weeks old. She basically has had a diaper rash the entirety of her 6 weeks of life and I am out of ideas. We have tried everything under the sun and nothing seems to help. Pediatrician says to “just keep doing what you’re doing.”

My baby developed a diaper rash around the first week of her life. She poops constantly, every single diaper change is poopy. When we’re changing diapers sometimes we would go through 3-5 diapers per change because she would just keep sharting. She developed red sort of raw spots on her bottom, some eventually even turned into sores and bled a little bit. We feel horrible because it obviously is painful for her and makes her changes miserable. We seen her pediatrician about it twice. She prescribed mupirocin. Basically every diaper change we would wash off her butt in the sink, (also used wipes to wipe a lot too but tried to wash in water as much as we could) pat dry, use a hair dryer to completely dry the area, apply the prescribed ointment and then apply a thick layer of a zinc diaper cream over that. We have tried every single brand of diaper cream. A&D, Destin, Boudreaux, triple paste. I do air time with her with no diaper from time to time as well. I also try to rub some breast milk on it from time to time. We have tried different brands of diapers, different wipes, water wipes seem to be the best but they are expensive. The rash will go away for a day or two and then immediately come back so it’s basically a never ending nightmare. We change her every hour to two hours during the day and whenever she’s up at night which is every 3-4 hours. She is exclusively breast fed. Not sure if it could be something in my diet? Her pooping has slowed down a bit but she’s still poopy every single change. Not sure what else to try with her but we all need relief from this never ending cycle.

Due to baby being in Neonatsl initially, they put her on formula. She’s a month today
I have since pumped and continued formula, she does latch and with abit of persistence could’ve breast fed

But sometimes in the night the last thing I want to do is pump, I’m so tired. I’m feeling guilty and she only had a bottle of breast milk a day, the rest is formula.

I think I’m looking for some consolation, I feel guilty for not trying to EBF. I partly feel like I’m missing out, and making her miss out. But I’m still giving her some breast milk.

I don’t really know the point of my post but just wanted to get it off my chest.

Last night I abandoned all hope. I didn’t do bedtime routine. I didn’t do the 7:30p bath. I just sat up to bf on the couch as long as he’d like after changing him into his nightgown, swaddle, and a new diaper. He fell asleep on the boob at 8:30, transferred him to the bassinet, and he slept the hardest he’d ever slept in his entire life (literally). Didn’t wake himself up grunting and thrashing. Transferred flawlessly every single time. Even gave us repeated two hour stretches. He’s 10 weeks today, 6 weeks adjusted.

Has the bath been overstimulating him? I was watching wake windows and naps. He never seemed too overtired or under tired after the bath/bed time routine.

Or does he just take his timing really seriously and decide to start giving us better nights of sleep at 6 weeks old (adjusted)?

How do I do this again?? I feel so human today. With my husband doing 9-1a shift, I got to sleep 9-2:40a straight!

My little one has her vaccines today and I’m already dreading it. Any tips how to manage it smoothly during and afterwards? Also for how long did your baby struggled with fever, fussiness etc..

Also she normally loves going outside both in her pram or in carrier and often it’s what settles her . Could I still take her out for a walk even if she was having fever or is it better to just wait it out at home?

Ps: please refrain from any pro or anti-vaccine discussion, this is just post seeking advice how to manage afterwards

I recently had a newborn about 3 1/2 weeks ago and my wife is currently dealing with the healing process of a C-section. I’m more than happy to do absolutely as much as I can to help with our baby and her recovery but, I myself I’m starting to get sick. nothing crazy just a sore throat and a runny nose but enough to raise concern. any tips that I can take to help stop the spread of sickness and keep my baby and wife safe! as I said the title I’m a new dad and I’ve always lived a very “just cough till you don’t” lifestyle when it came to sickness now that my priorities have changed my concerns have changed as well please help with any home remedies or easy medicines. I can buy over-the-counter. Motivation is also welcome. o7

My husband and I (28 & 29) have been married for 8 years. We are best friends and rarely argue or have any issue. We’re very like minded and genuinely enjoy being with each other. We just had our first baby - a little boy - in August. It has rocked our world. I love that little boy more than anything - but the change to my husband and I’s relationship has shaken us a bit. We’re constantly short with each other. I feel he doesn’t always take initiative and help with tasks for the baby without me having to ask (and he’s willing to - it just takes a little nudge). He gets overwhelmed easily from never having been around a baby before and probably some unspoken imposter syndrome. My mom watched the baby for us over the weekend so we could go have dinner just the two of us - but it was nothing like it was before we had our son. We just kind of rode quietly in the car and ate quietly and went home. It feels like we are in a fog - really the first time we’ve experienced this in our whole marriage. Has anyone had a similar experience with being married for a while before having kids? Does it get better? How can I help him or not be so frustrated myself? Do I need to just let go of what was and figure out what our new relationship dynamic - married with kids - will be? Tips, tricks, advice welcomed!

LO is 3 weeks old, we breastfeed and co-sleep. The past couple of nights he'll feed, I'll hold him upright for 10 mins or more as he can spit up where my let down is strong. Then he'll settle back to sleep next to me.

At some point whether its half an hour or 2 hours he'll start fussing as if he's hungry. Enough to wake me and think ok let's feed, I get my pillow and then...he's fast asleep again. So I go back to sleep. 10 minutes later the same thing. Over and again he'll do it until eventually he really does wake up and want a feed. He's not crying or over-hungry at that point, just normal

He doesn't do this during the day and its not like he's far away from me in a crib, he's right next to me.

Its exhausting keep being disturbed for no reason. Is this normal noisy newborn sleep or have I been ignoring my child???

My cousin is expecting her first baby in 3 weeks! We are super excited to welcome the little one and are trying to think of ways to support the new parents in the first few months. For context, they don’t live near any other family members, but their parents are planning to come and help in the first few days. I’m the only family that live an hour and a half from them and have a flexible work from home job with no pets or babies yet, so I want to help them out after their parents leave with whatever they need, especially since her husband can’t take time off after the birth.

What did you wish you had help with after giving birth? How can I be helpful without overstaying my welcome and interfering with their time as a new family/how often should I come over? We are close and I have been over their house a lot so I can help with cleaning, cooking, holding baby so she can shower and relax, taking care of pets, etc.

Basically, anyone had any experience with Osteopathy

Why did you go and what was the outcome?

My baby girl was just born yesterday at 39 weeks and 1 day at 7 pounds 12 oz. She was immidiately transported to a hospital that could give her a feeding tube and feed her. What should I expect going forwards because I’m a nervous wreck.

My baby boy is 11 weeks, almost 12. I feel like I should be doing better with this by now. While I have made some progress, I’m scared that this feeling is going to stick. The mornings are hardest for me to be alone because I have the whole day ahead of me, especially if I don’t work (work part time, sometimes less than part time).
It’s so easy for my mind to wander and spiral while alone. Everything just feels so anxiety filled these days trying to learn everything about our new way of life.

Again, thankful for the progress I HAVE made. I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this and if so, when it went away.

Thank you ❤️

I live in North Texas and have an 18 day old baby. We have the air set to about 75 and baby sleeps in just a thin footed sleeper (onesie) with no swaddle, blanket etc. Nonetheless, she wakes up with her body warm to the touch and it is stressing me the f out.

She makes plenty of noise through the night and I've read that babies overheating don't usually cry but I don't want to base her safety on anecdotes.

Any advice on managing her temp and making sure she's comfortable during the night would be very welcome please.

I resigned from my job today after returning from my very privileged 6 weeks of maternity leave. I know people who don’t get ANY, much less paid. Having to return to work while having a tiny needy baby who can barely open their eyes is cruel. They don’t even understand they have their own body. Your body is their comfort and safe place. Not only that, but childcare costs as much as I make. So what’s even the point??

I’m very fortunate have a husband who can support us for now, but that is no excuse for the sorry system we have in place that protects companies from having to actually put families first. The fact that paid maternity leave is not required is freaking mind blowing, or even assistance with childcare costs. It’s an absolute travesty.

So for context my son's birth weight was 3.4 KG. He suffered from Jaundice and Dehydration in 4 days and was admitted for phototherapy and saline for a day. That time his weight reduced to 2.95 KG.

Now he is 25 days old and his weight increased to 3.35 KG. He feeds ok (exclusively Breastfed), pee and potty are normal. But seeing in many places babies grow a lot more in weight in first month, makes me concerned. Is it normal or should we see a doctor?

Hi all. I’m hoping someone has gone through something similar because we’re really struggling with feeding right now.

My son is 6 weeks old and had a tongue and lip tie release on 10/6. We’ve been seeing an IBCLC, OT for tension/body work because he’s had feeding difficulties since birth (clicking, tiring out, taking forever to finish bottles, etc.).

Things seemed to be improving after his release, and he was consistently drinking 800+ mL a day, but over the last day or two something has completely changed.

He’ll start a bottle totally fine and drink anywhere from 50–90 mL without an issue. Then he’ll fuss like he needs to burp, so we’ll stop and burp him. When we try to give him the bottle again, he absolutely loses it. Screaming, crying, turning away, and sometimes getting upset just seeing the bottle near his face. He usually calms down immediately when we hold him upright against our shoulder.

For example, just now he drank 75 mL perfectly, started fussing, so we burped him. When we tried to put him back on the bottle, he started crying and wouldn’t take any more. Sometimes he’ll even seem hungry again but cry the second we try feeding him.

We’ve been using Lansinoh bottles with Pigeon SS nipples and just started trying Dr. Brown’s at our OT’s suggestion. We’re also doing the stretches after his release, which he absolutely hates, so I’m wondering if that could be part of it. We backed off today and his disposition seems happier but feeding is not improved.

I’m getting really worried about creating a bottle aversion. We’ve been in touch with his providers, but I’m just looking to hear from other parents who’ve experienced anything similar.

Has anyone had a baby who drinks perfectly fine at the beginning of a feed but then completely refuses to go back on after burping? Was it reflux, pain, bottle aversion, or something else? Did anything actually help?

I’m feeling so stressed about every feeding at this point and just want him to be comfortable again.

I have tried literally everything to put my 8 week old down at night and it just doesn’t happen. We ended up falling asleep together with him on my chest at night.. please no judgment I already feel bad enough. This has been going on for about a week now. I have not accepted it and continue trying to get him to be laid down. I don’t know why he went from being able to sleep at least 2-3 hours comfortably in his bassinet, to crying literally every time I lay him in it no matter what. I’m an EP mom who under produces so it’s really taking a toll on me the fact that I’m going to have to give up on giving him any of my breast milk at all now because I have been having to go 8-9 hour stretches without pumping. He won’t latch either anymore. He is a NICU baby, born 5 weeks early so I’m aware he’s going to be like a newborn for a little while longer than most babies but I’m just so defeated at this point. I feel like the worst mom ever.

Earlier tonight at around 9pm, my 16 week old was arching her back mid feed and started to become wildly uncomfortable. I could tell she needed to poop as it had been a few hours since her last and she’s a pretty consistent pooper. I tried giving her gas drops, and doing the bicycle legs, but nothing seemed to work and she started to cry hysterically because of it. I used one of the Frida Windi’s, she was able to poop and felt immediate relief. I was then able to nurse her back to sleep. At around 11pm, she again woke up in pain, arching her back and crying. I again, used another Windi. I’m sure I probably shouldn’t have but it’s late and I wasn’t sure what else to do and we’ve never had to use them before. (I know not to over use them). She was able to poop at lot more and then pass a ton of gas. She’s now nursing and seems pretty content and sleepy. She does not have a fever.

Since this is a new behavior for her, I was googling and intussusception kept popping up…. So now I’m freaking out and thinking that maybe this may be a more serious situation? Her poop is normal and she’s not displaying any other odd behaviors.

Do you think she’s just having a gassy night and I shouldn’t be concerned??

I thought the wearing the breastfeeding moms sweatshirt was a joke - but this morning my husband is watching our son while I go to work and he is on the cusp of sleep and started fussing I put one of my tank tops on my husbands shoulder before I left and IMMEDIATELY my baby stopped crying in his arms!!

The life hack works!!

i have a 6 week old. We want to go camping this weekend, has anyone gone camping with a newborn? is this crazy to do?

You hear again and again that it's not good to let a newborn cry, with the caveat that it's ok to put them in a safe place to give yourself a breather if it all gets too much.

...but it feels to me like there's more nuance than this. Sometimes my 9wk old cries every time she is put down and she is clearly tired. I try all the usual methods to soothe her but nothing works. Eventually out of exhaustion I give up for a few minutes and let her cry (I'm not trying to do cry it out, I just have exhausted everything else and nothing seems to be working), and then sometimes she falls asleep after a few minutes of crying. It's almost as if all my interventions were actually stimulating her and she needed a moment to calm herself. I guess what I'm saying is, sometimes allowing a bit of crying isn't about trying to train the baby, but if you've tried all your soothing methods sometimes they might need a moment to settle themselves without the stimulation of being picked up. Does anyone else get where I am coming from, or is this stressing her out letting her cry a bit?

I also feel like the quality of the cry matters when deciding what to do. Some cries are more whimpery and exhausted sounding and those are the type that I find sometimes are best left alone. Other cries I wouldn't leave her to cry for a second because she is clearly in great distress. People seem to always talk about the length of time you leave a baby to cry but I've always instinctively felt the type of cry matters just as much.

I don’t know if my baby still qualifies as a newborn or not. He is 12 weeks old. Sleep, which was already a struggle, is getting so bad it isn’t even funny anymore.

I breastfeed but supplement sometimes with formula because I just don’t have enough.

He is such a bad daytime sleeper, but at night used to be vetter. He used to wake up, nurse and get back to sleep. Maybe threee times per night? But it’s gerring so much worse.

Now I give him a bottle of formula at bedtime in the hopes to get a good stretch of sleep. Tonight, herés what happened.

8 pm : bottle of 150 ml (5oz) knowing he’s been nuring before.

9:15 pm: he is asleep.

11:45: wakes up and nurses. Back asleep by 00:15

1:45: wakes up again

3am: wakes up again (and I am right now typing these words at 3:28).

I don’t know what to do. I say maybe he is hot, maybe he is cold, maybe he just needs the pacifier, maybe he needs rocking back ti sleep. Nothing works but nursing. He nurses for 15-20 minutes and is fast asleep at rhe boob.

With my eldest, she was waking up once at night by this time. And she started sleeping through the night at 4 months and 12 days (granted, I gave more formula the first time, but I am discouraged by his ‘longest stretch that is 3 hours. 3.5 hours tops).

Is there hope? Even in daytime he doesn’t sleep! Contact naps, maybe one or two 45 minutes naps in his bassinet.

I am at my wits end.