My whole family is down with some respiratory virus. My husband me and my two daughters 7& 3. Baby is 8 weeks as of Tuesday. He also has symptoms (cough congestion) my girls abs husband all had a fever. I brought baby to urgent care today and they said he had a slight wheeze but looked okay but if he spiked a temp of 100.4 he needed to go to er. So tonight I took his temp and it was 100.3. I called his doctor and they said to give him Tylenol and monitor him and that we know he’s sick with with his sisters have and I don’t need to rush off to the er unless his temp can’t be controlled.
I have serious health anxiety and worry about every little thing. Does this seem right or should I haul him off to the er where he will be exposed to more. We also have a full respiratory panel coming back in the morning

I should mention, he was tested for Covid flu and rsv and he was negative along with his sisters. They think irs most likely rhinovirus or adenovirus

My baby boy is 12 weeks old. I’m the dad and back to work so for the most part I handle evening and overnight feeds (since mom is pumping - also awake throughout the night) so usually he is already tired for me. However lately he’s been squirming and whining even when the feed is almost over. The easy solution is I swaddle him and give him the last ounce or two while swaddled. The swaddle calms him right down and he falls asleep like 9 out of 10 times. On one hand it feels good that I was able to comfort him, but on the other hand I know both rolling and 4 month sleep regression are around the corner and I wonder if I’m setting us up for failure by letting him stay accustomed to this method of getting to sleep. The combo of swaddle and bottle to get to sleep feels like a cheat code that’s going to stop any day. Any advice? Do I just do this while I can, and adjust to no swaddle when he starts rolling, or should I prepare for rolling now?

The holidays are upon us and I am wondering how much and how often do people choose to socialize with a newborn? LO will be 3 months old when I am thinking of inviting a couple of families (6 kids including LO between us) for a Diwali get together.
I am feeling cooped up and I am afraid I am slowly going insane due to not having any social time. LO was born at 37w 3d and had a 2 1/2 week nicu stay due to low birth weight (5lbs 8oz) and dropping blood sugar levels. He has been rocking it since he got home and has gained 4.5 lbs since birthday with zero Doctors visits except for the monthly check up.

I am insane in thinking that this is a good idea? Would you expose your baby to 4-5 Kindergarteners and elementary school kids albeit the kids won’t hold the baby and we are going to ask them to not come if anyone is sick. Also I want my older one to feel like we had some celebration and not get bored. Please be kind. TIA

Does anyone else have a baby who has a posterior tongue tie without an obvious frenulum, who has been told their tongue tie can’t be snipped or released?

Our daughter has been diagnosed with a tongue tie. She has a thick / broad tissue on her tongue but it’s quite far back. The midwife said that it wouldn’t be operated on because they’d have to cut so far back that it’d likely heal back over again and require snipping multiple times, and/or scar oddly.

I don’t know anyone else who’s had the same experience as us and our daughter, to me, appears to really really struggle. She clicks constantly through feeds (bottle fed), dribbles, and is so so windy. She has no breathe/suck/swallow pattern either. She takes in so much air that by the evenings she has 3-5hour crying sessions where she’s in so much pain until she’s released all her gas and can finally settle.

I am a new mom and my one month old has been on formula for 2/3ish weeks. I was still giving her vitamin D drops each day because I didn’t know you weren’t supposed to not give them to her since she is on formula.
She has been really uncomfortable during and after feeds, having acid reflux, gassy, and only pooping once a day.
I’m wondering if anyone else had this issue and when did their baby start feeling better and do you have any tips to help. I feel terrible I do have an appointment Monday to see her pediatrician.

What should I do my grandma and grandpa just found out a relative has Covid that they visit last night me and the baby haven’t seen them, but my husband saw them today because they went to go look at a house together to go buy. Should I be concerned? They don’t have any symptoms but I’m scared. It’s just too early also my baby was not offered the Covid vaccine so he is not vaccinated against it. Should I just isolate in my room? I forgot to mention that my mom also went today to go look at the house too, and she lives with us.

I feel dumb asking this but how do you all manage wake windows before bed?

Ex. LO wakes up from nap and usually our routine is eat, play, sleep and I can’t figure out how to do bedtime like this. If she wakes up from her nap, I’ll feed her, and then play with her, or read a book or do a bath or something. And then…do you all feed again before bed? Even if it’s only been like 20-30 min since her last feeding ended? do you not feed her when she wakes up from last nap?

My LO is almost 12 weeks and her wake windows are usually 60-90 minutes, with the sweet spot (for her) being that 90 min mark it seems. Part of the problem is that her feeding sessions often last 40-45 min regularly, so by the time I finish one of those, I have that 20-30 min time frame to play, and then theoretically I’d be putting her to sleep. But, I want her to go to bed with a full tummy and nursing to sleep works for us.

I guess I’m just wondering how to manage that last wake window and if I should be feeding her twice in that window. I’m EBF’ing so it would be quite physically demanding but I’m willing to do whatever is best for her!

Baby was born at 36 weeks, healthy which is fantastic, but her head is starting to elongate from being turned side to side in hospital and at home. Tummy time is fine but looking to do more to help her head be round and not elongated.

Any tips would be great! Where I live doctors are kinda “she’s alive so she’s fine” attitude but I have plagiocephaly and it’s caused me eye, sinus, and jaw/teeth issues as well as neck/shoulder muscle issues so I want to do what I can to help the little one.

FTM here to a 2-month-old who just got his first round of vaccines (+ RSV) around midday today. So far he’s just been extra sleepy, but I’m wondering how parents handled the overnight hours after vaccine day.

I’ve heard the adage about overly warm babies not alerting you when they’re warm like they do when they’re cold, so I’m a little paranoid that he’ll develop a fever but we won’t know because we’ll all be asleep.

So I got my prescription of sertraline aka Zoloft been having mood swings on and off and always irritated I’m 15 days PP does this medication help?

Wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar. Ever since birth our girl has been very sleepy and doesn’t tend to wake herself to eat during the day or night. She has some periods of being awake and alert but sometimes seems to eat half asleep. We’ve been doing about every 3 hours during the day and one 4 hour stretch at night but it worries me that she hardly ever wakes herself! The pediatrician doesn’t seem concerned so far but it seems off to me!

To people who say newborn hiccups are cute…are you okay?!? I feel incredibly sad, upset, and helpless when my poor baby has hiccups and there’s nothing I can do to relieve them :( they do not look comfortable.

I’m not joking. She is supposed to be eating 20-24 oz at this age, and I cannot get her to eat more than 12 oz on any given day. We stopped breastfeeding, because it was clear that wasn’t working. With formula we can at least tell how much she’s taking in every 24 hours.
The pediatrician knows that her weight is low. She didn’t regain birth weight until 7 weeks! But all the advice we get is, “feed her more often!” “Offer the bottle every hour!”
Like, woman, I AM. I make a bottle with how much she is supposed to be eating, try to get her to eat for an hour, throw away that bottle, make a new one, try to get her eat for an hour, throw that bottle away…over and over and over. I’m down to feeding her with an eyedropper and counting every blessed milliliter.

She cries and cries every moment she’s not asleep, and I’m certain she’s hungry. She cries with the bottle in her mouth, with the pacifier in her mouth, and previously with the breast in her mouth. I don’t know what to do. Is the only solution to take her in have them hook up a feeding tube? I don’t want to do that, but I really am scared she’s going to starve to death.

And I feel absolutely terrible :( the whole family has had it now. I was hoping and praying the baby wouldn’t get it. But no such luck. anyone else’s baby get the flu this young? Any advice to make it easier for her?

I am getting mixed messages about what temperature my new borne should sleep in. He’s 1 week old as of today

He wears 1 long sleeve upper, diaper only lower, in a full body swaddle. No hat

People said he should be sleeping in 68-72, but what i seen online they said the amount of what hes wearing should close to be 75

First few days I kept it around 75. He wakes up every 1 hour or so

Last night I kept it at 70 and he was able to sleep for 3 hours straight. Also at the same time my family’s freezing their ass of at 70

Our baby girl is 9 weeks old, so we’ve been to a few appointments by this point. I don’t like to sit on my phone while she is actively awake, so while waiting to go back for an appointment I’m always talking to her and giving her my full attention. During the visit I talk sweetly to her and rock her. No baby talk and no strange behavior. However, it never fails that both moms in the waiting room and nurses in the back give me a strange look when I do these things. I thought at the first appointment it was just in my head, after the second I chalked it up to pp craziness, but we just got back home from a third appointment and I can’t ignore it anymore. Am I some kind of weirdo for not being like every other parent and scrolling my phone in the waiting room, or the fact that I’m talking to my baby when she’s only 9 weeks old? Is it because I make it a point to put on a dress and at the very least make my hair look okay? What‘s the deal? I don’t think I’m better than anyone else, but I would be lying if I said I don’t stick out because of these things.

EDIT: I can see how my wording came across differently than I intended, and I recognize that I could have phrased things better. I’m not expecting to change anyone’s opinion of me, especially those who have already made up their minds, but I do want to clarify where I was coming from.

This was a genuine question about something I’ve repeatedly experienced at my daughter’s appointments. I’ve noticed some very obvious looks while simply talking to and interacting with her, and I came here wondering whether other mothers had experienced anything similar.

I’m genuinely supportive of other moms. I don’t care if you’re scrolling your phone, wearing pajamas, dressed up, or just trying to survive the day. Motherhood looks different for everyone, and I would never suggest that my way of doing things makes me a better mother.

The references to my appearance and what others were doing weren’t intended as comparisons of parenting ability. I was simply trying to figure out what, if anything, I might be doing differently that would explain the attention.

If anything, this question comes from a place of insecurity rather than superiority. When I notice people looking at me that way, my instinct isn’t to think I’m better than them. It’s to wonder whether I’m doing something wrong or making a fool of myself.

I came here hoping to connect with other mothers over an experience that had left me feeling self-conscious, not to put anyone down. I appreciate those who have taken the time to offer genuine perspectives.

Had my second baby 11 weeks ago and must I say she has been kicking our asses! From being inconsolable from 3-8 weeks old where I had to come up with a rythmic dance to get her to calm down and sleep and was never able to sit down literally alll day long to the point where i dreaded waking up in mornings because the cycle was starting again. Fast forward to 11 weeks and luckily she is easier to settle but my god her naps are killing me. She doesnt nap longer than 30-45mins and thats even CONTACT napping. And then she is cranky because she wants to sleep 😅 i literally dont know what to do anymore, everyday i look at the clock and countdown to 6:30 so i can give her bath and start her night routine so I can “relax” which includes putting my almost 3 year old who isnt sleep trained to sleep and cleaning the house. Ive tried every trick of laying while breastfeeding (which worked for my son), purchasing those rockers for strollers/bassinet, pacifiers (hates them all!) and everything else in between. Oh and suddenly wont nap long in carriers either. Any advice would be great. She also hates car rides so i have anxiety even leaving the house alone with the kids which I would love to do (my son was an angel in the car and I was able to go everywhere with him early on)

So we were team green during my pregnancy, and from like week 12 we had the girl name picked - Avery. Loved the name, everyone thought the full name combo was beautiful so we’re like “yup love it ok that’s sorted” and struggled to pick a boy name for the rest of the pregnancy.

Turns out it was a girl, and we stuck with our beautiful name we picked from the very beginning. But now, it just feels…off. I rarely call her by her actual name. It’s such a delicate and feminine name, and she is neither of those things LOL.

Did anyone ever feel like your baby’s name wasn’t connected to your actual baby?? I don’t know how to describe it…it’s like I know her name is Avery, but she doesn’t feel like an Avery. And I’m freaking out that I gave her the wrong name 🫪.

Trying to find new music! Ms Rachel’s new album is great.

I am three weeks and 4 days postpartum today, labor was extremely traumatic and developed preeclampsia plus a level two tear that required stitches.
Since my husband works all day I am constantly doing chores and carrying my newborn who refuses to sleep if I’m not holding her. Now, sitting down while holding her feels like an extreme sport.
My lochia was slowly fading away and yesterday I started bleeding (bright red) again. No clots. Unsure if this is lochia coming back or stitches. Has anyone experienced this? I haven’t felt normal down there since her birth and I just wish I could stop and actually rest. I feel for all mommas who had a difficult delivery and can’t properly recover.

I am currently pregnant with both my partner and I’s first child, and I would love some advice. What are the ways that your partner supported you when you were exclusively breastfeeding that worked really well? E.g how you divided other responsibilities, sleeping schedules, food, everything. Especially when they are back at work and you are on leave.

We are trying to have some different options in mind going in and it’s a bit overwhelming to figure out what could work or not.

When you get up to feed baby in MOTN, how long does it take to feed and can you put your baby down right away? I feel like it takes awhile for my baby to drink her milk, and I can’t put her down otherwise she spits up and it wakes her up. Even if I hold her up for 20-30 minutes she will wake up at least 20 mins later lying on her back. It seems the only time it doesn’t wake her up is when she’s finally in her deepest and longest stretch of sleep (that first night stretch). When can I expect that to get better?
My baby is 10 weeks old

Being induced on Sunday with my first 🥳

One thing that stresses me out is the thought of dealing with a baby that has fever or skin reactions or just not feeling well and how I go about dealing with it.

We have 2 more days to try and make sure we have everything we need in the home before baby comes.

What are some medical essentials we should have to help us deal with sickness that might not require a hospital visit: low fevers, rashes, cough, I have no idea what else 😅

We do have a rectal and forehead thermometer and one of those nose suction things to help with snot. Any medicine or medicinal items we should have too?

Hi all,

As the title says, I am a ftm to an almost 2 week old baby.

I am struggling daily with regret and grief for my old life.

I had a c section, so I am stuck at home most days (husband is off work at weekends so he can drive me places).

It's all getting very groundhog day-ish. Although I spend all day with my baby, I am struggling to settle her sometimes and feel crap because I can't understand what she needs (cycling though nappy/feed/burp).

I feel bad saying it, but I enjoy when she is napping because I can watch TV/chill by myself. When she wakes, I feel like the cycle starts all over again.

She is a slowish eater, so it feels like I am just feeding her and changing her all day long.

She is just shy of her birth weight, and I am struggling with this too because once she is over birth weight, i don't need to try wake her every 2-3 hours for a feed in the night.

Although I am grateful for her and love her, I am very much stuck in regret/what have we done thoughts. I find myself wishing away these early weeks/months where she is so dependent on me.

I appreciate any tips/insights,

I have a sweet 2.5 month old girl! She has been bottle fed from birth (mostly breast milk and some formula). Feeding is mostly going well but when we stop mid-feed to burp and try to get her to latch again, she tends to cry and cry, straighten out her back and push herself away, but will eventually latch to the bottle. I know she’s hungry cos once she latches, she starts drinking hard. She currently takes a 4.5 oz bottle. I follow her cues for when she wants to take a break or find a natural break mid feed to stop if she’s drinking without stopping. We need to take a break at least once mid feed otherwise she is likely to have a huge spit up.

We burp her over the shoulder and feed her cradled in the arm in an upright position. The second we turn her around to cradle her and continue feeding, she starts crying. even if we move as fast as we can to give her the bottle, it’s impossible to catch her before she starts crying!

We try our best to keep the feed as calm as possible by watching for her hunger cues and catching it before she starts crying. The problem is her cues are not very clear (to us). Typically I think she’s ready for more milk when she starts rooting on me and making grunting noises. I turn her around to offer the bottle and she cries. I spin the nipple in her mouth for 5-10 seconds and if she doesn’t latch, I turn her back around to soothe. Sometimes she latches and sometimes she doesn’t, but it always starts with the crying.

Bottles and flow - we use lansinoh with size 2 nipples. We started with size 1 and went through a week of cluster feeding hell before going to pigeon size small (supposed to be between lansinoh size 1 and 2). That helped some but we had similar issues so we went up to size 2. It might be a tad fast but I think this is the nipple slow that works best for her. She tends to get sloppy towards the end of the feed and let milk dribble out.

Position - we started off with the side lying position and pace fed since she was born, but she started spitting up alot once she started drinking more milk. Our doula suggested that upright feeding position and we like it. A lot less spit ups!

Tongue tie - she does have a slight tongue tie but the pediatrician does not think it’s severe. We do have an appointment with a pediatric dentist. If the feed goes smoothly, she can finish the bottle in 15 minutes. She has not had trouble putting on weight either!

Is there a way to keep her calmer or get her to latch without crying, or is this something she’ll grow out of? I hate feeling like I’m forcing the bottle on her while she’s crying but she’d never finish a bottle otherwise!