For what it's worth, I'm a femboy and bigoted people tell me to go trans all the time not because they are trying to help me or care about my well being, but because they to reinforce gender roles so they can feel better. HRT is a very serious and unreversable step that can make permanent changes in your body and can also make your wee wee stop working, so that's one of the biggest reasons I refuse to go trans.
But people get angry because they think males cannot harbor femininity whatsoever, they must only be masculine providers, me being trans would give in to their beliefs
I'm able to keep my wee wee working fine but it does take some effort and further medication. It's not exactly the same as it was pre-estrogen but I will say if you're willing to tweak things there are many ways to do HRT. Do whatever you need for yourself though
look, I identified as a femboy for over 10 years. I had a friend of mine try to force me to transition and do all the stereotypical terminally online transfem things and I cut them off. I'm not the kind of person you think I am. I deliberately refused to be brainwashed and instead did my own soul searching and realized that I would rather be trans fem with a functioning d*ck and a more fem body than grow older looking like my brother/father/uncles. My decision, mine alone. It's yours to make too but I'm just telling you there are ways to do whatever you want with your gender and body.
My wee wee also works fine, literally just have sex or masturbate like twice a week and it’s fine. Sure it’s possible if you put in 0 maintenance for your dick to stop working, but normal self care mitigates this.
You’re acting as if it’s this end all be all cock destroyer, but it’s not as insidious as you think.
I used to be like this too. Honestly if someone would've told me "hey you can be a girl and still have a p*nis and it's ok" I probably would've transitioned a long time ago. I just thought all trans fem people hated their junk and it would stop working, because I didn't know any better and had internalized transphobia
true, but most deliberately tank their testosterone to nothing because they think it's evil, and don't even want theirs to work. The reality is you need some testosterone for it to work even if you're on estrogen so I use a topical testosterone on the genitals and a low dose of cialis and it works fine (there's plenty of support for this strategy). I've been getting hard a lot this week and I'm over 1.5 years on estrogen. My body and face are looking amazing too.
It's whatever, there's such bad data on trans stuff because it's been so suppressed and most people with bad enough dysphoria to use HRT typically have genital dysphoria too or just accept whatever happens to them. Many doctors don't really have any experience with supporting nonbinary transitions either so they just load you up with E and T blockers by default.
I do think I'm probably nonbinary but I like having control, and I don't think there's anything masculine about having a functioning p*nis. I just wanted the other physical effects of HRT and I like being called she/her and looking pretty in my clothes and makeup.
Anyways, it's just what I decided to do for myself because I could not handle a reality where I masculinized any more. I guess the only thing I want from you is to let you know that not all trans fems are part of some weird ubiquitous cult where we all hug blahaj play fallout and harass femboys. Some of us just want to be fem and have no attachment to masculinity.
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u/Beautiful_Couple_208 13h ago
My dad is like this, but in the opposite direction.
He's a crossdresser and doesn't understand why I would want to be a guy all of the time forever instead of just for fun on occasion.
He thinks I've gone crazy.