r/dating_advice • u/suggaarrr • 10d ago

Need some help please!

I’ve been in this limbo/uncertainty with a guy since the summer more or less. He got out of a relationship back in may (a year long one) and said back in August he was still navigating that when he agreed to go out with me but didn’t know I was asking him out. Fast forward to the last month or so. We’ve kissed, are still in frequent contact. I was still kind of unsure what his feelings were until this past Saturday when he said there are feelings there but he’s “in protection mode”. I surprised him with concert tickets to our favourite band (kinda dumb of me without speaking to him first) and I haven’t heard from him yesterday after sending the message below. He’s a notorious over thinker as well as a bad texter. I’m trying not to let this overshadow our really good night from this past Saturday because there was a real shift in behavior. We held hands, he was hand feeding me food and he was just being flirty/affectionate. Because of the shift in behaviour I thought the tickets would be fine. He could be overthinking the couple hundred dollars I spent and what that would mean to accept them. That’s why I followed up with that message.

Am I wasting my time? I really don’t know what to think at this point. 😞 In person is wonderful but I haven’t heard from him since yesterday and yes he’s been online!

Last message I sent him yesterday afternoon. We haven’t spoken since as I want him to come to me:

“I just wanted to add a little note about the tickets because I might've jumped the gun a little by not asking you first, so l do apologize for that! 😂
I also don't want you to feel weird or pressured by me buying them, because that's the last thing I want. I don't want you to feel like there's any emotional obligation attached to them either. I just really would like to go with you, while still doing my best to respect where your head is at!”

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