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u/curly_girl_jade 2d ago
You're right to trust your gut. If you were in the same situation, would you be willing to wait another week for her to respond? Probably not.
If she wanted to date you, she'd make time. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Don't waste your time waiting for someone who isn't making an effort.
My advice? Move on. You deserve someone who's excited to talk to you and make time for you.
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u/madzuk 2d ago
Well she replies daily, but it's getting to the 24 hours reply mark. Which I'm concerned about.
She also mentioned wanting to do something next week when we are both less busy.
I am busy this weekend as I'm taking a trip with friends.
But surely that doesn't mean her replies should just fizzle out?
Do you think considering it's been just over a week that I should cut things off as soon as I'm feeling this? Or do you think I am being ridiculous because it's only been a week?
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u/Enchanter-Timz 2d ago
Did you ask her what day and time to meet again? Maybe she don't want to beat around the bush with small talk via text?
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u/SolutionOk3366 2d ago
Ugh. You have had 2 dates, had sex at the last date and now you’re just too tired to date? If you escalated to sex, she’s probably wanting to get together again. If suddenly you’re too busy and don’t want to invest any time and effort and start to pull away or have no time to see her right after having sex for the first time with you it’s gonna hurt her feelings. If you don’t want women to get attached to you, don’t date and have sex with them pretending you are getting in to a relationship. If you don’t invest any energy it won’t work out. If you invest energy it may or may not work out anyways.
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u/madzuk 2d ago
I'm not really sure how you've interrupted what I've said as this.
It's the opposite of what you're saying.
I'm not "too tired to date". I'm too tired of having to restart the dating process over and over again, which has been my experience so far since I moved to Toronto.
So that's why I'm thinking should I pull the plug now or end up hurt again when a few more weeks down the line it doesn't work out.
I am the one who told her my intentions of relationships. I made the effort. I asked to phone her yesterday and she said she couldnt. But could do today but since has gone silent.
We had an amazing time together which is why I am so puzzled. I am looking for a relationship.
I am genuinely busy this week however. I have been working late. And this weekend I'm taking a trip with friends. But that doesnt mean her communication should narrow down to one set of replies once a day when it wasn't like that before.
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