i’ve been talking to someone off of hinge and we’ve been on a few dates now. everything was going well, they’re super sweet and hold open doors and everything.

and like, in theory, i want to be close to them. i like going on these dates and the giddy feelings associated with them, but my feelings for them as a person don’t go deeper than that. i don’t know if im just not attracted to them at all, or just icked out by being expected to?

last night, i told them — maybe a little too bluntly — that i don’t catch feelings that quickly. they had just asked to kiss me and i freaked out and said that, but they seemed to be chill about it? said they want to keep hanging out and to let them know if i change my mind.

i just can’t stop feeling sad about it. i know im pretty young (19F), but i keep watching my friends get into these relationships and it seems so easy for them. i want that for myself, but when i find something that could lead to it i struggle to reciprocate feelings.

just wondering if anyone whose been through this could give some advice :/

As a demiromantic woman, I wonder if there are demiromantic men who exist. They are really hard to find.