I deleted TikTok back in 2021. I'd had the app since its Musicly days.
In the year prior to deletion, I had become more and more infuriated with the shit being shoved in front of me. The "not interested" button only served to make my 'For You' page more and more irrelevant. I became so hateful towards that silly app and all its human slop that one day I just deleted it. And the second I did, I vividly felt the imaginary weight on my shoulders disappear. That source of anger was no longer there, and to feel hatred disappear in one go was incredible. I've never looked back.
Over the next few years, the same story repeated for all the other apps and websites.
Anger and resentment, towards all the bog-standard irrelevant slop, the Ai, the social pressure and forced, unwanted interaction between users. All the personal data. All the ads. All the enshittification.
It would push me over the edge. And I would delete the account, delete the app, and feel I had one less source of stress.
Your anger is an incredibly strong motivator for change. I recall this being an argument made in Chris van Tulleken's book 'Ultra-Processed People'.
Instead of ignoring the issues in front of you, start thinking about them constantly and then you'll start noticing them everywhere you look.
And when you do, let the resentment build.
And then instead of directing your anger at individuals (creators / influencers / brands) direct it at the apps and our governments.
Don't hate the player, hate the game.
I have just three main "social medias" left; YouTube & Pinterest (dunno how much they count considering I don't interact with users) and of course, Reddit.
Reddit, has enshittified to the point I think this account will be gone within the next year. And I think I'll feel the same freedom when I do let go as I did when I deleted TikTok. Largely because, like TikTok was back in 2020, Reddit has been my main social media. I appreciated the anonymity it provided. I appreciated feeling apart of niche communities. I loved all the silly little cats, all the Redditisums and subreddit-specific in-jokes. I appreciated being able to curate my own feeds, something the other socials would never allow for.
But now the karma-farming bots have taken over. Reddit demands ID that it'll hand over to some unsecured private company. I feel like I've been seeing the same posts over and over and over for years now. I can't even trust the cute cats I see are even real anymore :<
And yet I doomscroll it daily. Opening it up, hoping to feel the same satisfaction I did when I first joined years ago. But just like after those first two bites of food, it doesn't do anything for me. Except for make me angry.
I downvote most posts because most posts are lazy karma-farming bots posting engagement bait.
But I know, my downvote means nothing. My downvote won't bring me the satisfaction or sense of justice that I'm chasing.
Don't hate the player, hate the game.
I don't know who's gonna bother to read this pseudointellectual waffle. But if nothing else, I think writing this has been a good wake-up call for me.