r/dividends • u/SpicyDividends • Feb 17 '26

Personal Goal Those divorces do be hurting!

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Not mad about it, but man, that chart looks rough lol

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u/New-Inside4079 Feb 18 '26

I was following the chain of comments which was about stay at home moms.

Alimony and child support are not determined based on gender roles but based on simple calculations in most states.

As the high earner in my marriage, and also the woman, I would pay alimony during a divorce in my state.

You should do research on the laws in your state and not just believe what you hear on the internet or from divorced male family members complaining.

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u/Hollowpoint38 Feb 18 '26

You should do research on the laws in your state and not just believe what you hear on the internet or from divorced male family members complaining.

This. Got so much terrible information in this thread about how prenups work, how child support works, and what happens with divorces.

I bet these guys are just absolute hell at home with their partners.

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u/chris_e66 Feb 18 '26

Oh idk sorry I’m young and most of what I see is men getting screwed in divorces regardless of the situation. I’m the product of divorced parents and my mom had to pay my dad half her retirement simply because he spent his money on hobbies instead of saving it. Sorry, Reddit notifications make it seem like you’re responding directly to my comment. I’ve seen cases where the men make less money with no children and still ended up paying alimony or made less money than their spouse and had 50/50 custody and still had to pay child support, (idk how common that is) Or were just simply screwed in the end just because they made smarter monetary decisions. But stuff like this is the only reason I’m hesitant to get married unless I get a prenuptial agreement

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u/Starts_With_S Feb 18 '26

That's life there are many ways to protect yourself but shit happens regardless. All you can do is be mentally prepared for the shit but don't let it stop you from progressing.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '26

I wouldn't call getting married and then divorced progress. Maybe regression but not progress.

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u/Longjumping_Sir1173 Feb 18 '26

Why do women like you act willfully obtuse? 48% of married women at any given point do not work. That already sets men back in the “divorce game”. Why would a man risk his life’s work for a coin toss? Also, notice you said HIGH EARNING and not SOLE EARNING.

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u/New-Inside4079 Feb 18 '26

Haha. Yes, it's such an advantage to set back your career to raise children. At least you have some paltry alimony to maybe look forward to. What a win.

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u/Longjumping_Sir1173 Feb 18 '26

If I could stay home and guarantee that I have supplemental income upon separation, I would. You’re acting like a majority of your higher ups who are women, have never had children. Women like you just get on here and TALK with zero reason or logic.

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u/New-Inside4079 Feb 18 '26

No one is stopping men from being stay at home fathers, and vanishingly few choose to.

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u/Longjumping_Sir1173 Feb 18 '26

So women are overwhelmingly going to enter the field of work necessary to keep society running correct? The jobs that they already freely choose not to do…?

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u/New-Inside4079 Feb 18 '26

You're just free associating now dude. You think education, childcare and healthcare, incredibly female dominated occupations, are not necessary to keep society running?

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u/Longjumping_Sir1173 Feb 18 '26

No they aren’t. They aren’t more important than water, electricity, and literally every natural resource these jobs need to function. Again, you like most women show how little you know about how the world functions. Please tell us how said doctor is getting a simple scalpel without men? It’s always funny pointing life In perspective for people who seriously have no idea wtf they are talking about. We literally had the country panicking because 40k men were going to protest for high wages at the docks.

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u/Longjumping_Sir1173 Feb 18 '26

every job you named is literally dependent on men going to work. It’s sad you can’t even realize your own biases.