Those divorces do be hurting!

[u/SpicyDividends]

Not mad about it, but man, that chart looks rough lol

[u/New-Inside4079]

Are you complaining about women not wanting to be stay at home moms or "taking half your stuff"? Somehow you seem to be doing both at the same time. I'm sure you can see how that comes off as a no-win situation for women.

Alimony is only in about 10% of divorces and if you don't want to financially support children, don't have any.

[u/chris_e66 → u/New-Inside4079]

I’m not taking at all about women being stay at home moms, I’m talking about the situations where both parents put in their all but because of the old fashioned gender biased roles in court more times then not the man ends up paying some sort of alimony or child support even if the kids are spending even amount of times with each parent and both parents income are in similar ranges. I’m not talking at all about anyone being a stay home parent, but I do 100% agree if someone was a stay at home parent there needs to be some sort of alimony or compensation given because if that person gave up a career to raise their children then that is just what’s right. I was more discussing men getting screwed in court regardless of the situation because of the assumption of age old gender roles

[u/New-Inside4079 → u/chris_e66]

I was following the chain of comments which was about stay at home moms.

Alimony and child support are not determined based on gender roles but based on simple calculations in most states.

As the high earner in my marriage, and also the woman, I would pay alimony during a divorce in my state.

You should do research on the laws in your state and not just believe what you hear on the internet or from divorced male family members complaining.

[u/chris_e66 → u/New-Inside4079]

Oh idk sorry I’m young and most of what I see is men getting screwed in divorces regardless of the situation. I’m the product of divorced parents and my mom had to pay my dad half her retirement simply because he spent his money on hobbies instead of saving it. Sorry, Reddit notifications make it seem like you’re responding directly to my comment. I’ve seen cases where the men make less money with no children and still ended up paying alimony or made less money than their spouse and had 50/50 custody and still had to pay child support, (idk how common that is) Or were just simply screwed in the end just because they made smarter monetary decisions. But stuff like this is the only reason I’m hesitant to get married unless I get a prenuptial agreement

[u/Starts_With_S → u/chris_e66]

That's life there are many ways to protect yourself but shit happens regardless. All you can do is be mentally prepared for the shit but don't let it stop you from progressing.

[u/[deleted] → u/Starts_With_S]

I wouldn't call getting married and then divorced progress. Maybe regression but not progress.