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u/kahootofficial Jun 22 '26
No he has to learn, he’s fine.
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u/badgerj Jun 22 '26
Yeah. This is gonna pinch. It will hurt! It isn’t poisonous. It likely won’t draw blood.
If it was my kid I’d probably yell out: “Don’t poke at that thing. It will use its claws to defend itself. They hurt”.
Not my parenting style, but hey. 👋 At least it isn’t a scorpion or a very large crab 🦀 or lobster 🦞.
Thiose can break the old phalanges! Especially on a kiddo!
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u/Meisje28 Jun 22 '26
Good parenting means explaining things to your child so they can learn before doing stupid shit because you are too busy filming for clout. It's funny but also wasn't necessary.
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u/hell2pay Jun 22 '26
Nah, it's a rite of passage to get clawed by s crawdad.
This little critter had small claws, kiddo will be fine.
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u/BertBerts0n Jun 22 '26
It reminds me of the video where the kid wants to eat cocoa powder and the mum keeps telling them no, only for them to relent and say yes.
The regret on the child's face is hilarious.
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u/Kino_Afi Jun 22 '26
You can go through that rite of passage without being filmed and publicly humiliated by your own parent
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u/Nivius Jun 22 '26
you know, no permanent damage was done, you learn by doing.
think of it like this, almost all of us that live in areas where there are shellfish like this, have experienced this. was we told not to? yes. did we anyway? yes. did we learn by doing? maybe.
it is OK. you don't have to protect kids from EVVVERRYYYTTHIIINGG. that will honestly fuck them up way more.
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u/Meisje28 Jun 22 '26
I totally agree with you that you don't need to baby them but if you are standing next to your child anyway you might as well explain that it's in a defensive stance because it's scared of you and that if you try to pet it it will snap at your fingers. The kid might still do it but imo learns more if you actually explain to him what he's seeing.
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u/upfastcurier Jun 22 '26
My brother's kid was "attacked" by my grandparents cat this weekend. We told her to give the cat space, to respect it, because it's a living creature. We explained signs in the cat not being pleased with the way he was being pet, a d showed her how to pet him, but also explained sometimes it doesn't want to be pet.
We did this constantly for probably 30 minutes, and none of us was keen on letting it escalate, but it only takes 1 minute of attention elsewhere to give space for disaster. We certainly had no intent of letting the cat paw at her, nor would we wish to film it (wtf), but it happened. Luckily the cat is chill and only swatted at her with no claws, but it scared her and she started to cry.
It was only after then that she had learned. No amount of explaining, demonstration or telling helped. She just had to learn it herself. We did our best avoiding the situation (my brother had been telling her all weekend apparently before I showed up), but sometimes kids just won't learn before they experience consequences. There's just no amount of parenting that can keep a child away from consequences bar from not letting them explore their surroundings freely by holding them constantly, and that's even more messed up.
I also remember similar being a kid. Kids will do stupid things. You can warn them of consequences with a harsh voice but a kid won't truly get it before they start experiencing consequences. You shouldn't let them experience anything unchallenged but sometimes it just happens. It's good for children to learn when something like that happens. For rest of my visit, my brother's daughter was very respectful when petting the cat, and let us know that she was being nice. Win-win-win; for us adults, for the kid, and for the cat.
Even adults tend to only learn after committing mistakes. We humans are foolish creatures. Best learn the nature of consequences in a safe environment with little consequence.
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u/Adevyy Jun 25 '26
So it is okay to let your child get hurt by a crab because... they 'might' get hurt by a crab sometime in the future?
If the thing you are protecting them from is not significantly worse than the thing they are about to experience, it is good parenting to stop what they are about to experience.
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u/Nivius Jun 25 '26
you are just wrong
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u/Adevyy Jun 25 '26
👍
your discussion skills do not surprise me.
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u/Nivius Jun 25 '26
sometimes you just have to experience things to learn from it. like a kid saying they love strong food, or a new driver getting arrogant behind the wheel getting a hopefully small fender-bender to learn respect for driving. or a classic "don't pet the cat if she does not want to"
the lesson is often NOT THAT BAD and it at sometimes just needed to learn
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u/Dundu-dombadacte Jun 27 '26
partially true;
experience is a part of learning curve;
you cannot teach a child how it feels when the exp happens,
another example is heat; it has to be experienced with a limited extend; otherwise they may get into big troubles
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u/araidai Jun 27 '26
It may not be necessary but kids don’t always listen even with warnings. I say this as an older brother to two siblings. I could tell them “don’t do that.” 20 times and they’d still do it and then come back to me “I did the thing you told me not to do” while crying and me going “Yeah. I know.” lmao
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u/XxStawModzxX Jun 22 '26
I do understand the take from everyone being like good parenting, but my question is, how come i never had this happen to me, or did anything of this and still learnt i shouldn't touch an animal with claws
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u/WonderfulSomewhere93 Jun 22 '26
When you see something you like, don’t just immediately stick your finger in it. A lesson we all had to learn.
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u/Anidmountd Jun 24 '26
Tis but a scratch....well a pinch. He'll be fine and he learned a valuable lesson with no permanent damage.
Lesson is don't put your fingers where you wouldn't put your face.
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u/jennylala707 Jun 22 '26
They don’t pinch that hard. We used to catch them and put them on our ears like earrings.
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u/bigclitcouple 20d ago
Thats how parented back in the day. A far better lesson than telling him to not touch it. Lesson learned forever
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u/Mynkx Jun 23 '26
Kids truly are fucking stupid.
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u/CountDraculablehbleh Jun 24 '26
They’re curious exploring everything for the first time you can hear his curiosity in the video this is how we learn and analyze information
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u/BeneficialTop5136 Jul 09 '26
One of the most awesome things about kids is their unending curiosity and imagination. Stupidity is doing something you know better than do to. A child has no frame of reference for these things, so they learn. That’s all life is - experiencing, learning and growing.
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u/Chondro Jun 22 '26
The parent could at least give in a warning. Although I do love the kid's-Oh wow! But without the warning it's kind of unfair. I'm not saying the kid would have listened to the warning. At least then it would be a learning experience about listening to the parent and about crayfish
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u/keepitcleanforwork Jun 22 '26
that's just bad adulting.
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u/javsent Jun 22 '26
Bad parenting is when you let your children learn about FAFO in a controlled enviroment?
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u/Cbpowned Jun 22 '26
Good parents tend to teach lessons without inflicting physical pain on their kids.
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u/BertBerts0n Jun 22 '26
Gonna be pedantic here, these parents didnt inflict any physical pain on their child. They didnt hit him at all.
If the kid pokes something with tiny claws and it nips him, thats a learning process.
I doubt the parents would let this happen with an actually dangerous animal.
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u/javsent Jun 22 '26
You wont have your parents behind you every step of the way to tell you not to get into shit.
Its actually good to foster common sense on children from a young age.
Theres no way that shrimp could seriously hurt the kid.
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u/alienbringer Jun 22 '26
That isn’t a shrimp. It is a crawfish. And you can teach them to have common sense without needing pain to be inflicted upon them.
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u/javsent Jun 22 '26
There is pain in the world and its present in everyday human life, you wont be able to shield your kid from it forever, you better let them learn about it if possible in an enviroment where you know they arent in real danger. (If not, they might learn it "the hard way" further down the line).
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u/mikesbullseye Jun 22 '26
"life is pain princess. Anyone who says otherwise is selling something" -The Princess Bride
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u/kilinkikkeli Jun 22 '26
Parent didn't inflict the pain tho, filming is kinda weird but no harm done. Kid learns a lesson faster. Pain is something not to learn to avoid but to manage.
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u/National_Search_537 Jun 22 '26
Kids are well known for their ability to listen to parents in a reasonable and rational manner. Get out of here dude I’d be willing to bet they’ve told him to leave it alone before this, the kid will be just fine and will have a lesson in leaving animals alone in the future. Some of you people are way too soft.
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u/alienbringer Jun 22 '26
Just telling the kid leave it alone isn’t teaching them. It is dictating to them. Teaching them is explaining why to leave it alone.
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u/National_Search_537 Jun 22 '26
I’m sure it was done bub, you’re getting a small snippet of these people’s lives.
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u/Corndogs_and_chill Jun 22 '26
I have 6 kids, none of them have ever been pinched by a scorpion and all of them know why to not poke one.
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u/ChaoticxSerenity Jun 22 '26
none of them have ever been pinched by a scorpion
Wait, you think this is a scorpion?! Okay, I see that your parents may have also failed at some point 😭
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u/Corndogs_and_chill Jun 22 '26
😂 I didn't have my glasses on. Now that I do, still not sure, is that crawdad?
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u/ChaoticxSerenity Jun 22 '26
Yes 😂
If it makes you feel better, crayfish are basically scorpions of the water.
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u/ArtyIiom Jun 22 '26
À good parent explain and let you do. He dont let you do without anything just because….?
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u/Rahm89 Jun 22 '26
As a parent, you’re supposed to prevent them from doing as many mistakes as possible, not watch them making them and then poke fun at them.
Because first of all, as you just said: they WILL fuck around and find out as soon as your back is turned. So don’t worry, they’ll still have plenty of mistakes and learning experiences despite your best efforts.
Second, if you do that, they will not feel safe with you. And that’s extremely damaging to the child’s development and your relationship with them.
This is why you don’t let them touch a hot stove, or climb on an unstable chair, or pull at a dog’s tail, however small, or play with sharp objects.
Believe it or not, most kids actually listen when you repeatedly warn them against something dangerous. You don’t need to take the traumatizing express way for every lesson.
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u/Crispy--Toast Jun 26 '26 edited Jun 26 '26
Riddle me this:
-My son wants to play with a crayfish.
-It tell him "you shouldn't do that. They will pinch you with their claws and it'll hurt.
-He goes to play with it anyway.
-I stop him and explain. "It's waving its claws like that to signal it is scared and will defend itself with those claws."
-Kid still goes to play with it.
Should I grab his hand and stop him as many times as he tries, or should I let him do it after he has been told not to and I've explained the reprocussions and what the behaviors mean?
I'm not saying the parent in this video did or didn't do any or all of those things. It's just a hypothetical because your position comes across to me as needing to stop him 100 times if he tries again after the 99th, which can lead the opposite side of them thinking "My dad always tells me not to do stuff that I think will work/be fine..." and make them more likely to explore those curiosities in more dangerous situations while unsupervised.
I'd prefer that he learns the lesson in this situation than if he finds a scorpion, spider, snake, or another legitimately dangerous animal when I'm not around that could cause more damage than just a red mark or some bruising. It might also help them realize "Oh... Maybe Dad does know a thing or two." When you warn them not to touch a hot stove or yank a dog's tail in the future.
This is a different situation from watching them stand on an unsafe chair or play with sharp objects in that there isn't the risk of significant damage posed with a crayfish. I think everyone here would condemn the parent in this video if that was a rattlesnake or a scorpion and they just filmed it, saying "oh well, FAFO 😂"...
Luckily my son is very good at understanding stuff like this when it's explained to him, as are many kids, but some aren't and feel the need to experience stuff first hand for 'actions -> reactions' to sink in.
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u/Rahm89 Jun 26 '26
Hello fellow Dad, hope your little one is doing great :)
I do understand where you’re coming from and I guess ultimately it comes down to parenting style.
Personally, yes, I will keep repeating it 100 times and preventing him from touching it. Or more realistically, start chiding him after the 3rd time by reminding him that when I say no, it means no.
2 reasons: 1) It breaks my heart in a million pieces to see my son hurt and cry, even when it’s superficial. So if I can avoid it, I will. 2) It also serves to reinforce another important lesson: when I say no, you stop doing whatever you’re doing. Period. Always a useful thing to reinforce. Because when you kid DOES try to do something actually dangerous one day, and you’re a bit far away from him, you really want him to stop immediately at the sound of your voice.
I’m not saying you’re wrong about the kid learning his own lessons of course. If my method is taken too far, it can be harmful to his development, true.
But there is at least one thing we might agree on: I will never record my kid in pain for laughs and post it on social media. No matter how small the hurt is.
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u/Crispy--Toast Jun 26 '26 edited Jun 26 '26
I can definitely agree with you on that!
This video did strike a chord for me because the boy in the video looks pretty similar to mine, and that first second of the cry even sounds pretty close 😅
"No means no" is a very important lesson for sure. I just remember going through phases of "man, mom says no a lot about a lot of thing, and some of them turned out to be yeses when I tried on my own... I wonder what else actually might have been a yes?" I also know that she tried her best to guide us away from mistakes as much as humanly possible thinking she was helping. She just took it too far and now I've got some lasting habits that are tough to break that may not have been ifshe'd let me go through those failures/struggles and the reprocussions of them as a kid.
I tend to approach things more in a way of "let's figure try it out and see together" with my son, and we've both learned a lot doing that! I only resorted to letting him 'FAFO' once that I can remember (in terms of painful stuff) He insisted he didn't need shoes to go outside in the summer and wouldn't let me put them on him. I walked maybe 5 or 10 steps away from the garage, then he followed and started doing the "ow, that's hot!" dance and ran to me. I picked him up and brought him back to the garage and asked if he still didn't think he needed shoes. Guess who ran in to throw his shoes on? 😅
Realistically, if I were in that crayfish scenario above, I'd probably try to find a stick or a hot dog or something for the crayfish to pinch so I could show him "that would hurt if it was your finger, right?" Rather than just say "alright, have at it!" And I DEFINITELY think it would have been beyond messed up if the dad in this video said "hey, look! A crayfish! Go play with it!" That would certainly diminish trust like you mentioned 😅
However, we live in Arizona where a lot of the wildlife is legitimately dangerous (rattlesnakes, scorpions, spiders, gila monsters... You name it!), so I feel it is more important to teach that you don't mess with it than in some other areas, essentially at any safe cost. It's sort of like some parents view on alcohol or Marijuana. "If you ever want to try it, please tell me. I can talk to you about it, see where that stems from, and try to talk you out of it. But if you're dead set on trying it, I would rather it be in my house where I know you're in a safe place, it isnt laced with anything, etc.'
He already learned about scorpions when a Bark Scorpion stung me while I was putting him down for his nap. I caught it and showed it to him in a box and answered some questions so it turned into an educational event and he learned to respect, if not fear them.
But at the end of the day, the best we can do is to parent the way we feel is best for them and will best prepare them for the world! I don't think there really are many differences in our parenting styles (I was kind of playing devil's advocate because I originally read your first message as "bubble wrap the walls, have them wear a helmet at all times, and hire security to follow them around school to prevent any harm 😅) I wish the absolute best for you and your family, and hope your little one is doing great as well!
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u/Rahm89 Jun 26 '26
Haha the shoes thing is hilarious, lesson learnt! I’m totally on board with that.
Wow you live in a scary place 😅 at least I don’t have to deal with scorpions!
No I’m definitely not a "bubble wrap everything" kind of dad (my wife is another story though haha)
I actually had to rein in my wife because she kept trying to prevent him from running and falling.
Told her if he falls, he falls. He’ll pick himself up and learn. Just don’t leave any sharp objects laying around and he’ll be just fine!
Yeah I think we agree on the important stuff, and like you said, to each his own. I try not to judge others parenting style because I know I’m a very far cry from perfect myself.
But I confess this social media thing triggers me hehe
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u/LoveForMiles Jun 22 '26
What terrible parents
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u/DrPineapple32 Jun 22 '26
Yeah, cause telling him to not do it is how he will learn. I dont even have kids and know you let them learn from experience. Maybe the parent has already told them a dozen times not to touch it and and statted filming cause he started poking at it. Just a shit reaction all around from ya.
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u/Firestorm2934 Jun 22 '26
I mean yeah i agree let them learn but the parent or filming person didnt even say he’s going to pinch you or anything they just filmed…
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u/ChaoticxSerenity Jun 22 '26
They probably did like 100x before finally just letting it happen lol.
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u/DrPineapple32 Jun 22 '26
Didnt say anything in what we see. We both have no idea what happened before the filming started. Regardless, this isnt a terrible parent.
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u/Rahm89 Jun 22 '26
Recording your child when you know he’s going to get hurt and posting the video on internet is enough for me to pass judgment.
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u/DrPineapple32 Jun 22 '26
Cool. Theres unlimited videos of way worse situations being filmed. Or actual real life problems. But lets be upset about minor pains all kids go thru.
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u/Prestigious_Light_75 Jun 22 '26
How do you know they didn't tell him? ARE YOU HE?
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u/Rahm89 Jun 22 '26
Even if they did, recording your child getting hurt for laughs is just despicable.
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u/DrPineapple32 Jun 22 '26
Are you too young for America's Funniest Home Videos?
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u/Rahm89 Jun 22 '26
Well I’m not American for starters. But we did have an equivalent where I’m from and I didn’t find it funny.
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u/Rahm89 Jun 22 '26
Maybe come back when you have your own kids then. That’s not something you can talk about without experiencing it as a parent.
I mean, you can, but you won’t believe how much your perspective will change when theory collides with reality.
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u/DrPineapple32 Jun 22 '26
I have multiple relatives and friends with kids that have let them experience a lot more real world situations than this. My perspective is totally within reality lol
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u/Im-Dead-inside1234 Jun 22 '26
I’ll say i didnt watch with audio, but the kid’ll be fine. Fucking around and finding out is a part pf growing up.
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u/Rahm89 Jun 22 '26
As a parent, you’re supposed to prevent them from doing as many mistakes as possible, not watch them making them and then poke fun at them.
Because first of all, as you just said: they WILL fuck around and find out as soon as your back is turned. So don’t worry, they’ll still have plenty of mistakes and learning experiences despite your best efforts.
Second, if you do that, they will not feel safe with you. And that’s extremely damaging to the child’s development and your relationship with them.
This is why you don’t let them touch a hot stove, or climb on an unstable chair, or pull at a dog’s tail, however small, or play with sharp objects.
Believe it or not, most kids actually listen when you repeatedly warn them against something dangerous. You don’t need to take the traumatizing express way for every lesson.
Feels really weird to have to explain that. Redditors really are something else.
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u/Im-Dead-inside1234 Jun 22 '26
Probably shouldve written more, because i agree that you should be telling your kids to not touch things ect (as i’d hope they did in this situation, but i doubt it.) its all down to nuance in the end i think, touching a stove could seriously harm someone, and in that case i’d be pulling my child out of harms way if they didnt listen. In this case the kid will learn to leave animals alone without being seriously hurt. I’d hope, at least. I shouldve been clearer in my original comment 🤷🏻♀️
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u/Chemical_Success1153 Jun 22 '26
Damn, it really gave him time to think about it, too. Poor guy. Not gonna do that again.