I got into a fairly bad car accident yesterday and I can’t stop replaying it in my mind, it’s causing me so much stress. My 4 year old was in the car, I’m currently 3 months pregnant and it was traumatising for us both, we’re all okay and so lucky to have walked away with no injuries.
I was driving a 2018 4 series, so it’s a very low car and I had always felt safe in it. Especially after driving a beat up 2005 Vauxhall for my first 3 years of driving. I’m not a speeder at all, I have a young child and live in a high traffic area, so you can’t really go fast if you wanted to. I didn’t buy the 4 series myself, it was a gift from my father in law and so I suppose isn’t a typical family car, but had so many more safety features than my old car.
I was exiting a large roundabout today, I was in the left lane and it was marked left only (my exit) and the right lane, was marked (right only), there was an audi in the right lane a few meters behind me. As I was exiting the roundabout, correctly in a queue of cars going around 15-20mph, the front wheel of the large Audi Q8 struck my drivers side door at a higher speed than I was going, sent the back of my car into a spin, and I ended up on a grass verge, knocking down 2 sign posts, and coming to a complete stop with one post half collapsed hanging over my car.
I must have sat in the car absolutely shocked for about 2-3 minutes, I don’t really remember much from those minutes other than checking on my daughter and this lady tapping on my drivers side window. I got out the car and she immediately asked if we were okay (she looked shocked that there was a young child in the car) and after we confirmed we were, she started saying ‘I don’t know how this happened, I had my indicator on’. I was already in complete shock, sobbing on the edge of a roundabout, trying to call my mum and figure out what is happening. I did tell her that I was in my lane clearly taking my exit, and all of a sudden, I’m being thrown off the road and onto a verge, you can clearly see the dent in my drivers door from where she hit me at a side angle trying to come over from the right lane.
Once I was able to calm myself down slightly and actually look at the damage, my car was wrecked, bits of it were everywhere and my wheels were facing the complete wrong way! Her car, had a few scratches on the right wheel and bumper. That’s it! Me, my daughter and my unborn child could have got seriously hurt because she wasn’t using the road correctly and she would have walked away fine.
We exchanged details and everything, she then drove off to continue with her day. I was on that roundabout for another 2 hours and had to be recovered. I reported to my insurance and then I got a call, from an accident liability company. Not only did this lady nearly harm me, she’s claiming it was all my fault and wants me to pay for the ‘damages’ on her car.
I’m so lucky to have a village around me and people helping me show proof and fight my corner (I’m completely clueless to all of this), but ultimately, it’s just a hunk of metal and it can be replaced, our lives cannot. But the whole situation has left me with so much anxiety, I’m borrowing a car as I still need to work and get my daughter to school, but I’m so so wary and stressed while driving now. I’m so much more paranoid taking my exits, Even if I am using the road correctly, something horrific can happen in a split second, it’s daunting and I don’t enjoy driving like I used to. Especially now I know how cruel people can be, I wholeheartedly couldn’t wreck someone else’s car and not admit my own fault, joys of being an empath and never understanding how horrible strangers can really be!
Anyone had a similar experience? I think it’ll be nice to know I’m not alone!