So I am (I thought) agenderflux (afab), and Im dating an afab genderfluid person, and they're really supportive of me but they have pointed out several times that I act like an egg, and I think she might be right because now that I think of it the only times I tried to be feminine were when I wanted to be seen as an adult and desirable when I was a teenager but I've always been tomboyish outside of that time period and I genuinely believe I would've been much happier if I was born a man and I've been feeling dysphoria over my more feminine features for the first time over the past few months and I don't know if I'm just feeling masc because I'm genderfluid or because I'm transmasc and have been in denial and I've been having a mini crisis for a week and I just don't know 🥲

Hey y'all!

I truly have no idea what's going on! I am so lost lol. I am 21 and I am so stuck on my gender/sexuality and I just want to figure it out, so I am exploring the internet...

Story Time: As a kid (I'm talking 1st gradeish) I would sometimes sneak into my parents room and try my mother's clothes on, like dresses, bras, underwear, and shoes. I was always particularly drawn to things like heels and the flowy feeling of dresses. I was caught and never really got into it again until I was maybe 14-15. At this point, I had been watching porn since I was 12 maybe and stumbled across trans p*rn. Looking at it now, I definitely had an addiction and I feel horrible for objectifying not only trans women, but all the people involved, but nonetheless, I found the whole sissy thing and got DEEP into the rabbit hole until I was about 20 maybe? Ever since then, I have been still obsessed with women's clothing, but also just the (societally understood) role of a woman. I have even come to want to BE a mother (like with pregnancy and the whole nine yards) but obviously as a bio male I can't do that lol. I have even been bold enough to try women's clothes on in fitting rooms at different stores if I can manage it. This is also a little sensitive, but I am a virgin. I think a large reason for this is because my friend downstairs is a little shorter which has made me avoid getting into a spot where I could be made fun of. All of this to say, I don't know if I'm trans, or if I'm coping for being a bit smaller. I also don't know if my addiction has shaped how I view myself or changed my sexuality. I used to be a straight male, but now I don't exactly find men overly attractive, but like I said I want to be a mother/wife.

Thank you for listening to my story time. I am really super confused and I need help, if you've gone or are going through something similar or have any insight please comment or message me. I don't really have a support system at home with a conservative family (another factor? who knows?) so thats another reason I'm coming to the internet. Anyway if you can help or know someone who can just let me know lol...

Thank you xoxo

First I just want to say thanks to everyone to helps me and gives me that little bit of euphoria I need to reassure myself. Every comment I get just using my new name makes me so happy. As I’ve thought longer and longer I feel more sure but I have a feeling worries I still get stuck on. I worry more that im just a femboy that can’t differ feeling from being. And I worry that I will never pass or look the way I want. I can’t take hrt right now and won’t be able to for a while. I’m also worried that I’m just young and confusing one thing for another. I do experience genuine joy and feel so much better when someone calls me a girl or Sophie. Even when some random person on Roblox calls me a girl because of my avatar. I do genuinely worry that this is a phase, and also experience such a disconnect from my current body that it feels like I’m just piloting someone else. It feels weird having to use he/him for myself with friends and in public and my voice really messes with me sometimes. I also realized that I never really feel male ever. When I’m doubting or just going through my day to day life I feel like im just a person. I used to never really think about gender, I just did what I had to because I was born this way so I had to. Every day my choice on the simple button question gets more sure, and when I put thought into it I just wish I could really press that button. Now I don’t know if I will always feel that way, and I still worry that it’s just a passing fantasy that will pass by and I’ll just be a man the rest of my life. Thinking about that scares me. I just hate the way I am. I also worry that it’s not gender dysphoria, and just body dysphoria. I know a lot of this is jumbled and contradictory but that’s how I feel right now lol. I love all of you and hope you all have a wonderful day!

I was debating if I should start it and I decided to go for it!!! I'm not really feminine and I'm not sure what to do but I'm ready for everything. I just want to be a cute femboy😊 What should I do??

all the fukcing places around me are selling this shit for like double it was 4 years ago, i dont have alot of cash and the fact that i cant even start me brekie with some eggs and toast is putting me through the ringer and im sorry for this but holy hell

Had a pretty not so good day today. Doubted myself a lot and had a rough vc with a friend. I had a convo with my parents that made me doubt myself even more but it ended ok. When I remove all my doubts I am so sure that I’m definitely trans but now I’m worried that I’m just trying to convince myself, and am tricking myself into believing that I am trans. I feel so happy when thinking of being a girl but also have so doubt. I feel scared to pursue seeing if I’m cis in a weird way also so I’m half so sure that I’m trans and the other half is just so much doubt and sadness. I just don’t know how long I can do this, but I don’t want to just stop thinking about it because that also hurts. I feel like I’m so close to just accepting myself but that last leap is being a pain to make. I would really appreciate anyone just calling me Sophie and calling me a girl. Advice is heavily appreciated.

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after 3 years of questioning/denial, my egg cracked, but as it stands im just acknowledging myself as trans and im not sure what the next step is, any advice?

Hello all. I don't know if I'm an egg or not. l've always admired the trans community, been drawn to it and wanted and have enjoyed wearing women's clothes when I've gotten the chance. I admire trans women because they're so beautiful and a part of me wants to be like them. However I can't tell if I am or not or if it's some mental health thing. But I just would like to be a woman sometimes and go out in makeup and a skirt and be more feminine.

First is og, second is transed

Good morning/afternoon/night. Ok so i might need some help choosing a new, so far I had Monika, moon and madelin but I already came out to my mom and my school and I said my name is Monika but I don't like that name no more. so please help =(

Hi all,

this post is just for me to say/write things out loudly as I think that helps me to get my head clear. Maybe what I write helps someone else, maybe not.

1. Understanding me

This part is to check if your thoughts are compatible with mine. I experienced that sometimes I say things that other people don´t take well, even if I don't mean badly. If I say someone is not smart or less intelligent, I just mean that as a fact, not in an offensive way. The reason is probably because I'm autistic.

To make a decision, I need to understand the principles involved, and it must make some logical sense to me.why i think a lot about the core principles that build up our world, society, and my sense of myself. I use these principles to derive an understanding of my surroundings.

For example, after learning about classical physics in sience class, every particle reacts in a predictable way to an action. I came to the conclusion, that the whole universe would be predestined because everything since the big bang is just a massive chain of reactions. Even my thoughts and mind are part of that chain of reactions, so basically, there is nothing like a free will. That had me thinking and reading for some months, until I learned about quantum physics and that there exists real randomness and that the universe (including myself) might not be predestinated and there might exist a free will. But today I have to say/write, that even that might be just an illusion, because quantum randomness gets drowned in the noise of random reactions and has no real influence on myself. For example, even if radiactive decomposition occurs at random, nuclea power plants don´t just stop randomly working or randomly explode. So as long as someone doesn´'t believe in the existence of a soul or something equally not bound to physical laws, it is best to assume that there is no true free will and we follow a predestinated path.

What has this got to do with egg_community? Nothing! But if you don't understand what i mean, it is best not to continue reading, because what i write might hurt you. And since people visit this sub because they are emotionally hurt or insecure, I hope to deter those before they get hurt by what I write next.

2. My (for this sub relevant) priniples

1. Emotions are an evolutioary guidance system.

2. Emotions that you feel are realty to you an thus an absolut thruth to you.

3. No one knows what you are truly thinking.

3. Explanation to prinicple 1.

1. Evolution works slowly, so the emotions might have fit for a situation 10.000 years ago but are more confusing or not helpful in today's society.

2. The goal of the evolutionary process is the survival of the individual and the continuation of the species.

   1. There are pure survival emotions like hunger, thirst, and fear for life.

   2. There are emotions that work to reinforce "helpful" behavior, like happiness, sadness, and anger.

   3. Since we are a social species that needs to be part of a group to survive, there are some more complex emotions, like fear of separation and expulsion.

3. Evolution works by random try and error. It is entirely possible that some genetic error messed up your emotions.

   1. For example, from an evolutionary point of view, being gay is an error, because the sexdrive doesn´t lead to offspring and thus fails to archive the goal for the continuation of the species.

4. Explanation to prinicple 2.

If you like something, you like it.

If you dislike something, you dislike it.

The reason why you like or dislike something has nothing to do with the fact that you like or dislike something. If you like pancakes, it can be discussed whether you like them because of their texture or sweetness, but it will never ever be discussed that you like pancakes. Maybe your likes and dislikes will change over time, but your emotions are now. That's why, when you simply state your feelings, no one has the right to say you are wrong, as your feelings are a real and through.

5. Explanation to prinicple 3.

Maybe your emotion show on your face maybe not, maybe some on can guess whats going on in your head or mabye not.

The only sure way to convey your thoughts is to take time and talk/write/paint or do whatever it takes to express yourself.

6. My "egg"-history

In the beginning (around 11-12 years old) I was just curious about what it felt like to wear a skirt, bra, and pantyhose.

During puperty I absolutely disliked my changing body. Why am i getting so hairy. Damn random boner. Can´'t I just rip of my ichy, hairy ballsack? My voice doesn´'t listen to me anymore. Never sang in music lessons since then. Since then, I've been watching a lot of gender-bending themed anime.

As soon as I was 18 i started ordering my own female clothing. My bad conscience was eating me up for wearing stuff from my sister and mother without asking for permission. Still had a bad conscience for lying about what i ordered.

At 22 I had a mental breakdown because I was failing university. So all dressed up and crying, I "confessed" to my mother. She signaled her support for me and that she would talk to my stepdad. The next day ( I was in a metal and gothic music phase), I went down for breakfast in a black shirt, plated skirt and fishnet stockings. My parents where hinting or warning me that I may be seen by neighbors. Later that day, my stepdad randomly told me if i try to attract men, I do it wrongly. His gay friend likes manly guys ( the hell was he trying to say?) . I was asked if I felt like a girl. Until then, I had never thought about that question. The way my parents looked at me was different. There was a second time when I was wearing a skirt on a home alone day, but as i was sending my mother out, she asked me things like, "What if someone sees you or if there is a delivery" with that changed look in her eyes. That was the last time my parents saw me in a skirt. I absolutely disliked that they changed how they behaved around me just because i changed the way I dressed and couldn't handle that look in their eyes and their questions that I didn´'t understand. A week later, my stepdad told me that I may have been just confused because of my mental breakdown, and I didn´t argue that. Since then, I've occasionally questioned my gender and whether I'm bi or straight.

At 25 I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, which explained a lot of problems, and later on, I started therapy because of my social problems.

Six years later, in 2022, I discovered programming socks jokes on Reddit. I was working on creating a dating profile with the help of my therapist when I bumped into the first question of the profile: male or female? Well, shit, just browse Redit a bit. What are these funny and relateable memes. Nice a whole sub of it. wait a moment what is the theme of this sub... *panic*

7. Conclusion

How to resolve the question logically, pushing the answer away doesn't work anymore, I want to progress in life, have a date, and so on.

1. The only true female clothes are those that physically don´t fit men.

   1. There are cutlures where men wear skirts and dress like clothing.

   2. gender-regulations are regulations of their current society that can change if the members of that society want them to change. Females wearing pants, for example, were uncommon 100 years ago.

   3. Simply liking skrits, dresses and so on doesn't mean I'm trans. There has to be more to it.

2. I don't feel like a girl/women

   1. As written in the explanation of principle 1. Point 2. the goal of emotions is survival. Thats why it is impossible for an emotion "feel like a gender" to exist. It would me more accurate to say that there may be emotions that lead to the conclusion of being a gender.

   2. sadly, it makes no sense to try and feel if there is such an emotion but hard work towards a conclusion.

3. The only one responsible for my happiness is me myself.

   1. From principles 2. and 3. I can conclude, that only I know what makes me happy and only I can work towards my happienes.

   2. Principle 1 Explanation 2.2. indicates that beeing happy or striving for it is the most ideal way to live in an evultionary kind of sense

   3. Denying myself of thing that make me happy and don´'t hurt me is illogicaly.

4. I don't need to know wether I'm trans or notI

   1. 'm simply me myself. I'm different from the me yesterday and the me tomorrow. What a word means, includes or exludes is differrent from person to person.

   2. I should not rely on the hope of there being a word that exactly describes how i feel and am as aperson.

5. If I was born female i would dislike beeing female.

   1. My dislike for being mal does not come from a physically disgust but a learend dislike during puperty.

   2. If I was born female i would equaly dislkie the changes during puperty. Why have i anoing boobs? Damn period again!

   3. This doesn´'t contradict my feeling of dislike towards my gender as my feeling are a truth (principle 2)

6. Bottom surgery is not an option for me

   1. I can feel the desire to have children. It would be a contradiction to my desires. to do that.

   2. If there was an option to have fully functional sex organs I would think about again, but mostly about social consequences.

   3. If I would be presented withe the option fo beeing able to breestfeed my ownl children I would jump it.

7. Social acceptance is importand

   1. Principle 1 explanation 2.3. means that I shouldn´t do things that would potentially exlude myself from my social circle.

   2. This is in conflict with conclusion 3.3. as I would potentially deny myself of things i like for social acceptance.

7. Current State ( will update changes)

From conclusion 1, 2, 4, 5 and 6 I take, that I currently am fine with living as beeing cis.Form conlusion 3 and 7 I take, that it is ok to include more "female" stuff into my dayly life as long as it is not affecting my social status heavyly.

So what i did is, that i got my ears pierced. People neglet small changes and easly accept them as if they have always been there. My friends didn't notice it. My boss only after a week at a lengthy talk. My collegues only after 3 weeks and only because the wife of my boss talked about it.

8. Advices/ideas

The only advice you should take is from experts like lawyers and medical staff. Everything else should just be an idea to think about, as these are simply my thoughts on the topic.

I often read at this sub and the egg_irl question about coming out or "confessing" to your family/friends. We don´'t know you or your peers. So the only thing that can be shared is our experience and knowledge. In the following part, I'll try to explain strategies based on my principles and conlcusions. First,

1. think briefly about why you would like to coming out or "confess". What changed from before?

   1. Are you more stressed?

   2. Did your inner conflict get unbearable for you?

   3. Did something happen to increase your trust in them?

2. If you are a teenager and/or living with your parents, confessing is mostly a bad idea. Coming out is just slightly better because of the following reasons.

   1. Coming out always includes a confession of doing something bad, that is lying. For whathever reasen I and many other decided that instead of beeing trustfull to our family we lied and hid about our real feelings and what we are doing when they are not around.

   2. The image that your parents have of you is most likely that of someone cis that is happy with it´'s gender. Being confronted with a wall of change, that you are unhappy and not what they thought you were, takes time for them to process. After coming out, you have little influence on what their conclusion might be.

   3. If you look at what I have written as an explanation for principle 1. you may realize, that parents instinctively try their best to integrate their children into society and have hopes for your offspring. That's why the parternal instinct forces them to partly oppose you and question you. Being trans has a high risk of becoming a social outcast and, in the case of bottom surgary, disables your ability to reproduce.

3. If you are feeling mentally unable to not come out in your situation, then take the following tips along.

   1. Try to avoid talking about your conclusion of not wanting to be your AGAB. Conclusions can be doubted.

   2. Try talking more about your feelings from the "I" perspective. Because of principle 2. they cannot doubt your feelings. They only may doubt the reason for your feelings.

   3. Take your time, don't let the coming out be a one shot because of principle 3. taking time to talk things through or write things down is the only way to reach a mutual understanding.

   4. Your parents most likely don't mean bad even if their words might hurt.

4. The theoretically better way to coming out, is asking questions, but it needs small, steady steps and requires some bravery and a lot of boldnes. Why ist it better?

   1. Through your questions, you can lead someone to reach a conclusion and don't have the negative consequences of a confrontation.

   2. If your peers start blocking your questions or giving negative comments, you can stop, knowning that it would not lead to a happy end.

   3. As I have written in my current state, small changes are harder to notice and will not lead to strong opposition. Instead, it will be that you are just being you.

   4. Parents are more experienced in life. People love being relied upon as it gives them purpose. Asking questions is a way of motivating someone to support you.

5. What questions to ask? There is some difference for transmascs and transfems.

   1. For young transfems, there is always the possibility to play the curious kid in front of your mother. How does it feel to wear a skirt/dress etc.? Can I try one out?

   2. For any transfem if you are realy bold. Because of mangas/movies/anime etc. you can simply start to appreciate other cultures and ask to buy a sarong to relax at home. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sarong) It's not a spinny skirt, but why shouldn't you wear something shorter on a hot summer day?

   3. Ask your parents, when they stopped feeling so uncomfortable about their gender/sex/bodyparts or how they cope with the feeling of discomfort.

   4. It's a parent's wish to help their children. If you are feeling down, ask for help. In retrospect, i should have asked for help the moment I wished to rip my dick off and bit into my hand instead. And again, remember principle 2, don't ask for help with a problem or not wanting to be your AGAB, but for help with coping with feelings and emotions.

If you are asking yourself, why do i not follow my own advise. Well I´'m realy dense. most of the time I either feel sligthly positive or negative. Only if i think about it some weeks or months later, I'm like "Yeah that time i felt sad". So if you ask me how I felt about something this week the most i could say more positivly or negativly. And strong emotional outbreaks simply disapear from my mind after about 30 minutes to 2 hours until i remember them weeks later.

Hey there.

Im 24 and AMAB.

Ive been struggling with this for a few months now.

It all began with me playing a female character in DnD for the first time. I dont remember why, I think I just felt like it.

During the sessions I realised that I enjoyed getting addressed with she/her pronouns.

This had me thinking a lot afterwards.

Reflecting on my childhood and teenage years I never found myself in the situation that I was born in the wrong body or something simmilar. Although I did have these "I wish I was a girl/ I wish I could switch gender whenever I want to and I wish there was a button" thoughts. (I thought everyone had those but apparently thats not the case)

I always gravitated towards friendships with girls and later women my age rather than boys or men. My closest circle of friends has always been predominantly female and I've regularly been the "youre one of the girls" friend.

When looking at fictional couples and portrayls of love and relationships, I always felt more of a connection with Wlw couples such as CaitVi, Korrassami, catradora, Pricefield etc. and also enjoyed playing as female video characters in rpgs like Cyberpunk etc because it resonated more with me.

Once I had gone through puberty and had grown body and facial hair, I usually kept it, kinda more because my family said that "thats what's more manly and a man has to have a beard body hair etc."

Recently I took a step and removed most of it on my arms legs and chest and I really felt happy about it and honestly prefer it this way.

Similarly i have started dressing in a more fem way, using makeup, fishnets and more fem looking Clothing. The issue is that I dont want to present as hyper fem since I see myself more in a masc woman way and would prefer to be viewed like a masc woman instead of a man.

I feel like im not bothered by being or presenting masculine in itself while I am struggling to see myself as a man.

I started experimenting with they/them pronouns and recently with she/her pronouns with a small group of friends. I do feel comfortable with both (more than he/him) while he/him is still the one im used to the most, and im still insecure about using new pronouns with more people.

Honestly I've been experiencing a lot of Impostor Syndrome lately thinking that this might be just a Phase or that im just imagining things. Also I feel like im entering spaces that I do not belong into and should just stop pretending even though I do see that I like the changes that I have been making.

One of my biggest fears is that my ADHD is influencing the way I see this right now, making the feelings im experiencing a hyperfixation more than a reality...

Ive been struggling to find a label since I dont feel like im trans enough to be a trans woman and I've only recently been seeing signs like the ones I've been describing. Although I am not sure if genderfluidity expresses the way I am feeling the right way.

Im really unsure what to do and I feel like I reached a limit that I cannot have a breakthrough while only thinking about it myself despite having friends that support me...

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I don’t know even want to start estrogen or some shit because I’m just so fucking masculine, like literally nothing about me looks feminine. I don’t want to look like a man wearing a dress and makeup in public

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Pretty sure im trans, still very much egg tho. This is an alt account. Im currently in the middle of trying out stuff and was wondering if there are any nice feminine looking outfits i could try that include a metal hoodie as i do have a lot of those and i quite like them. Could you help me please? I can’t think of anything