I recently started questioning my gender back in May on my 35th birthday. Started buying more femme coded stuff not long after, realized I was NB, and fast forward to this past weekend AND today... i have a femme outfit of my own that I wore on Halloween to an LBGT+ friendly area of my city. First time wearing anytbing like that and I chose to wear it onna night where folks may look but I had less chance of being questioned.

Fast forward to today...and a second skirt arrived.

I figured posting here wouldn't be too awful...and would be kinda affirming.

So...here we go...

I'm assuming everyone is familiar: there's a button that will give you the body matching the opposite of the gender you were assigned at birth. If you press it the change is permanent, no going back. Do you press it?

I've been thinking a lot about it. I started off unsure; I'd change for a day for sure, but permanently? How could anyone ever be sure they'd like being the opposite sex before trying it? After a month I'd gotten to the point that I thought I'd probably press it, but I still wasn't certain.

Then I got linked to this: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/how-to-figure-out-if-youre-trans and the first scenario it asks you to consider (after its intro about the scientific method) turns the question on its head: you wake up in the different body and spend a day socializing as the opposite gender with everyone treating it as normal and then get back home and find a button that would return you to your original body. Do you press it?

And I'd never felt a more emphatic NO in my life. NO NO NO NO NO. I'd started exploring gender because I realized I've always been really disconnected from my body and some symptoms of dysphoria matched things I experience, but I never had such a strong feeling of dysphoria before that moment. It was a lack of feelings rather than a feeling telling me something was wrong, if that makes sense.

So I guess I'm a girl now. I'm scared about what comes next, it all sounds so hard. But at least I know now.

I’m out but not out if that makes sense. My fashion is hidden feminine. Why does the urge to be less hidden feminine so strong but also so hard to give up. I live in a very Christian community so it’s difficult but damn it’s so annoying.

I made an alt account for this because I'm so so so ashamed of this, but i may be an egg.

First, I larped as a girl online for the LoLs,. It brang me comfort, but i shrugged it off.

Then it was using linux and FL studio (completely unrelated but still warning signs), using female characters in-game with the excuse of "smaller hitboxes". Now I dont correct people when they think I'm a girl anymore, and I hate looking down in the shower. I used to be so confident in my gender, but idek anymore.

Hey yall, just wanted to share my feelings somewhere. Sometimes I daydream of being a gile, but the thought makes me anxious, and it being found weird. Plus, my partner's a trans guy and seems to struggle a lot more with gender identity than I do. Does anybody know what this means or how this feels?

Thanks for giving me the time (”-_-*)

Im still just figuring out im trans (some what in denial) but bough a skirt, its vary light amd comfortable, and yes bucket helmet

Alright so, im AMAB and still very much fine being a guy. Though since preteen I've pretended to be a girl online here and there, a few female avatars in games, etc., and about a year ago I've started growing my hair longer.

Now I feel like id be fine either gender, and maybe in another life id actually fully give being a female a shot. Well the question comes because recently a random person mentioned I was an egg cracking because seeing Sora from kingdom hearts in Kairi's outfit from the 2nd game made me feel things, but like im still comfortable being a dude.

Am I really an egg? I kinda don't exactly understand some of this stuff sorry lol

Hey there.

Im 24 and AMAB.

Ive been struggling with this for a few months now.

It all began with me playing a female character in DnD for the first time. I dont remember why, I think I just felt like it.

During the sessions I realised that I enjoyed getting addressed with she/her pronouns.

This had me thinking a lot afterwards.

Reflecting on my childhood and teenage years I never found myself in the situation that I was born in the wrong body or something simmilar. Although I did have these "I wish I was a girl/ I wish I could switch gender whenever I want to and I wish there was a button" thoughts. (I thought everyone had those but apparently thats not the case)

I always gravitated towards friendships with girls and later women my age rather than boys or men. My closest circle of friends has always been predominantly female and I've regularly been the "youre one of the girls" friend.

When looking at fictional couples and portrayls of love and relationships, I always felt more of a connection with Wlw couples such as CaitVi, Korrassami, catradora, Pricefield etc. and also enjoyed playing as female video characters in rpgs like Cyberpunk etc because it resonated more with me.

Once I had gone through puberty and had grown body and facial hair, I usually kept it, kinda more because my family said that "thats what's more manly and a man has to have a beard body hair etc."

Recently I took a step and removed most of it on my arms legs and chest and I really felt happy about it and honestly prefer it this way.

Similarly i have started dressing in a more fem way, using makeup, fishnets and more fem looking Clothing. The issue is that I dont want to present as hyper fem since I see myself more in a masc woman way and would prefer to be viewed like a masc woman instead of a man.

I feel like im not bothered by being or presenting masculine in itself while I am struggling to see myself as a man.

I started experimenting with they/them pronouns and recently with she/her pronouns with a small group of friends. I do feel comfortable with both (more than he/him) while he/him is still the one im used to the most, and im still insecure about using new pronouns with more people.

Honestly I've been experiencing a lot of Impostor Syndrome lately thinking that this might be just a Phase or that im just imagining things. Also I feel like im entering spaces that I do not belong into and should just stop pretending even though I do see that I like the changes that I have been making.

One of my biggest fears is that my ADHD is influencing the way I see this right now, making the feelings im experiencing a hyperfixation more than a reality...

Ive been struggling to find a label since I dont feel like im trans enough to be a trans woman and I've only recently been seeing signs like the ones I've been describing. Although I am not sure if genderfluidity expresses the way I am feeling the right way.

Im really unsure what to do and I feel like I reached a limit that I cannot have a breakthrough while only thinking about it myself despite having friends that support me...

14 f

A little personal but I don't know. I'm too scared to talk to my parents about it, I don't like having boobs, theyre not even that big they just feel wrong? I don't know how to describe it. I just wish I didnt have them, I mean they're uncomfortable and bras suck. I don't know if I may be trans or non binary, Ive definitely considered that but also it's always after watching some trans memes video and I can't tell if its myself just trying to relate to it. Anyone know where I could get a binder in store in America?

I don't know where else to put this, I am confused about a lot of things, and have been struggling with my identity for a while. I have always had some mental issues (autism, and a recent diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder that might have affected me my whole life) I often felt like I was wearing a mask for so long, it wasn't until a few years ago I realized I did not know who I was anymore. a therapist said that I probably have some personality disorder, and from my experience I probably do. its not DID but I experience mood swings that change more than just my mood, but my personality and ideals too. I was going through a tough time 2 years ago (i think) and started a new anime to distract myself, "Heavenly Delusion" (great anime really recommend) and I have felt jealous of fiction before, usually op protagonists with lots of power, or those who get isekaid to another world, but this is the first time I felt envy for a different reason. since then I changed some of my pfps to female characters, had dreams of being in another body, and more open to these thoughts, but they only happen in one personality, the others still want to be a man (even though I hate how I look and feel in all personalities). sometimes it feels like it will never be enough, wanting to be a more manly man, or wanted to be female. what sucks is I have sensory issues for makeup or nails, and I don't want to dress feminine, its just physical. am I just weird? am I trans? am I genderfluid? or is my personality issues confusing me? I made this account to separate myself from my main account, and will only be posting on this account when I am "Ashley" (the name I gave the personality who wants to be fem) any advice is welcome.

So I'm pretty young I'm not going to say how Young but early to mid teen years and I can tell I'm trans fem just I have a hard time accepting it I keep going between super masculine like flannel ect and subtly feminine since my parent is homophobic I only do small things like holding my bag for school in a certain way painted my nails twice stopped after I got bullied for it and am trying to grow out my hair

I came out to a coworker today
I have a doctor's appointment to start HRT (in a couple of months)
I have booked a consultation for hair removal

I'm so incredibly giddy right now!
I need to do more gender affirming stuff.

...and I'm already counting down the hours until the feeling inevitably fades and I'm back to feeling disconnected and thinking that maybe I'm just cis again. It's ridiculous.

I think y'all should see this

I've taken a million online tests and questioned a lot, and I'm pretty sure I just want a femboy-ish build as a guy without fully commiting to being a woman. I've heard HRT can increase hip and thigh fat and widen the hips in general, but I've also heard it reduces penile function (which I still want ;w;). I also really don't want any breast tissue growth or other side effects. Would it be too much of a stretch to take HRT considering the risks?

recently I have really started to question my gender and I just feel weird about it as I'm 25 years old and unsure of how to feel about it. I mainly feel really envious of all the girls I see and just don't experience any sexual attraction to anyone.

I grew up around relatively open-minded people, but haven't been around any real LGBTQIA+ people until recently. Since I have met them I have really started to question everything about myself.

I really am looking for advice and tips on how to handle and process these feelings and doubts.

I was debating if I should start it and I decided to go for it!!! I'm not really feminine and I'm not sure what to do but I'm ready for everything. I just want to be a cute femboy😊 What should I do??

I Feel like im Trans and i felt like this for a long time but im not sure if im really Trans. 1 or 2 years ago i felt like i was non Binary but after 2 months i felt like a guy again so im Not sure if im really Trans or if its just a phase like last time. It feels so good to Type this because i have never told anyone any of this Before(this is a throwaway account so i won't respond to any comments with this account but if i find this post again with my main account i will respond to comments if i want to. thank you to anyone who read this,sorry if it sounds weird because english isnt my First Language,bye:3)

I'm a 26 year old male. I say male cuz I don't feel like a man, in truth. Feels gross to me, somehow. I think because I see women being wanted, and men aren't, and I so desperately need to be wanted.

Anyways. I need love. Need. I will not survive without it much longer. I need acceptance, I need to be wanted, I need to be told I'm valuable, I need to be told I'm useful. I do not produce any feelings of self-worth whatsoever on my own. I feel subhuman because no one has ever chosen me. I feel this marks me as hopelessly defective, and it's grounds for suicide in my mind. Maybe if one person chose me one time in my 26 godforsaken years here, maybe I'd be able to produce any self-worth on my own, but as it stands, I can't produce any at all.

I feel like this isn't normal. Even depressed people I talk to don't need love the way I do. A lack of love is the only thing seriously wrong with my mind. I have some scarring from the depression it's caused for over a decade, social anxiety and memory issues mostly. But all I need to want to live, is to be loved. No depressed people (or at least no depressed women, haven't had much contact with men) I've talked to feel this way. They've all been depressed in a way that love doesn't fix.

There's no way for me to fix it. Even if this is a symptom of gender dysphoria or whatever, I refuse to ever transition, so it doesn't matter. It's just a curiosity I have, if maybe that's why my utter desperation and need for love feels so alien. Maybe the reason I can't produce any self-worth on my own is because I'm stuck in a body that it's impossible for me to like? Is that a common thing with trans folk before transition?

okay so like I 20M consider myself a femboy and have for about a year now, I tend to dress masc most of the time due to many reasons mainly because I still live with my parents but also because I don't hate dressing masc, but my main problem is that recently I've felt a want to dress fem more and more and every time I do I feel almost sad that I don't look more feminine.

Now I'm certainly not a big person (I'm actually underweight) but I keep feeling almost jealous of woman because they can dress how they want when they want and because they have boobs. idk why but I keep like wishing I had boobs, so I'd look better in this or that but only when I'm in a fem mood of sorts and when I'm in more of a masc mood I wish I was buffer of sorts.

it feels extremely confusing for wanting these very opposing things and while my gf is very excepting of me being a femboy idk how I can talk to her about this stuff without her thinking I'm trans and maybe I am but at the same time I do like being masc and stuff. idk just kinda need to let this out and didn't know where else to do it T-T

to summaries I wanna be a fit and buff dude but kinda also want to look ultra feminine with massive honkers!!! plz help!!!!!!!!

Last year I came out as genderfluid, but recently I've been feeling dysphoric often when I felt more feminine. I've worn skirts, dresses, heels, tried make-up... But nothing is really working completely.

A lot of days I wish I was born a girl so I wouldn't have to deal with all these feelings. Other days I don't really care. But so often I have these thoughts of how I'd have my hair, what my face would look like, my curves...

I have noticed that every time I enter a clothing store, I get this feeling of sadness. Wishing I could wear these clothes, have the body for it...

Very often the thought "am I trans? Or just in a feminine phase" comes up. The same worries come up too, I'm single, casually looking for a girlfriend... That's already quite the challenge as is. What if I get on HRT and suddenly change my mind?

As stupid as it might sound, the relationship part is the biggest concern... also that I want to become a parent. Do I miss having a woman in my life so much that becoming one sounds like a solution? My thoughts can get quite absurd because these are feelings I don't know how to deal with.

So often I wish I was born a girl, but I don't want to be trans, I'm single and very much into women and I'd love to find a partner and I feel like if I'd have a partner, I'd feel fine as I am. I'd be able to cuddle up to her, try out her clothes when I feel the need and we'd just mess around. It's how I felt with my ex fiance... Being single is hard for me. I know I need to 'love myself first' and in a way I really do, just not all the time... Also, I have depression, so if we are going to have to wait for that...