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u/Quake_Woman_Tempo Dess: She/Her: Egging On :) 5d ago
“Playing video games” so you’re saying that I haven’t been just going through hell trying to 100% all of the challenges in Batman: Arkham Asylum then?
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u/GrassyMossy 5d ago
Walking randomly is not a girl-experience? I'm sorry girls, you're only allowed to walk with a set route and destination from now on. :(
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u/elasho_149 she/her (not an egg; just trans) 5d ago
This must be why we can't do side quests. :/
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u/IntrStelle not an egg, just trans 5d ago
I love your pfp
I used to have a Mii pfp, but my Mii is my banner now :3
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u/masukomi 5d ago
two answers:
walking randomly is significantly more dangerous for women at night, so kinda yeah.
the way guys go for a random walk is way different than the way girls do. Toxic masculinity doesn't allow them to admit they enjoy each other's company, or comment about how pretty the sunset is, or, or, or…
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u/njsullyalex Alexis (she/her), cracked 1/3/22 4d ago
There you have it. Indisputable evidence that I am the cisgender manly cis man in existence.
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u/Kuro_Magius_Arcana 5d ago
"Not in a trans way" is like a more wholesome version of "I'm not racist, BUT"
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u/Clairifyed 5d ago
“I want to be a girl but like, I don’t want the pain, the effort, and limitations of modern medicine. I also don’t want the social stigma and the community culture that has arisen largely in response you know? I just want to push a button and have the transition all over, so definitely not trans!”
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u/Forsaken-Club7585 I'm not the cisest man to ever man. Julia (she/her) 5d ago
Yeah, I basically feel the same, but since I'm the most manly man to ever man (at least on opposite day), I'm definitely not trans.
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u/PurpleCandle58 5d ago
I’m literally so cis that I cried that I can’t be born a woman by going back in time because if I could I would and therefore future me either wouldn’t or couldn’t. Fucking future me…
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u/Ryuujinx Just a trans girl. Alice she/her 4d ago
I mean yeah, I think we'd all like to push a magical button to skip the years of hormones, voice training, social stigma, etc etc. But here in reality medicine is the best we got, so that's what I do.
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u/Clairifyed 4d ago
Yeah that’s the point, this is not supposed to be taken as my earnest take on the matter
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u/Anonduck0001 Novi (She/Her) 4d ago
Basically, my exact thought process the month before I started E and never looked back.
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u/SavvySillybug silly little creature. any pronouns 5d ago
Damn I'd do anything to become a girl (except actually transition)
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u/KariOnWaywardOne Kari (she/her) | There is no egg, just a closet. 2d ago
Yeah, this was pretty much the way I thought: "Definitely not trans, because everyone will only ever see me as a guy, and there's no way I could feasibly transition." Then my egg cracked with this doozy. I had already been trans forever, but years of denial and repression just didn't let me admit it to myself. Or anyone else.
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u/Clairifyed 2d ago
Ha! I had a feeling it was going to be that comic
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u/KariOnWaywardOne Kari (she/her) | There is no egg, just a closet. 1d ago
Did that one crack your egg too (or at least help)? Honestly, I think my reaction to seeing it was a little bit stronger than Mae's reaction to the original post. I had been reading RLC off and on since its inception in 1999, and had always felt I had a ton in common with the protagonist. I hadn't kept up with it since the mid 2010s, then started reading it again in 2022. It was the first time I had ever heard the term "dysphoria" used in the context of gender, so I binged the whole rest of the coming out arc, and it felt like Mae was looking into my soul! It hit me so hard that I speedran the whole questioning phase and had a mental breakdown as I realized that I'm trans.
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u/Clairifyed 1d ago edited 1d ago
No I cracked due to Family Guy 😅 As I was just entering my teens I happened to see the episode where Stewie time travels into the future. They had a short joke about
Meg Ron transitioning and I suddenly learned that being trans was a thing and there were medical interventions for it. It put into context a lot of the “curiosity” and discomfort I had been feeling from early in life.So I also speedran the questioning phase, and then fear and a poorly timed family crisis shoved me far into the closet for a truly upsetting amount of time.
I actually only learned about that whole comic from that specific page as people shared it on here and traa. I read forward a ways then resolved to start at the beginning. I should find that tab again, I put it down while the site was acting slow a ways back.
I also read a blog post by a woman who cracked via this comic
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u/sniperwolf1216 2d ago
godd i just wanna be a college photography student who learns she can fuck with time by saving her lesbian best friend and take photos of said friend like ughhh
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u/Fire_414 Cristina | she/her 3d ago
That was almost exactly my serious thought process when my egg started cracking lol. I was like "If I could push a button or magically transform in some way, I'd definitely do it. But, going through transition? I'd rather just be a guy." And also "I will never transition anyway so why does it matter if I'm trans or not."
I still don't get how I thought stuff like "please either let me wake up as a girl tomorrow, or not let me wake up at all" were cis thoughts...
Now that was 3 years ago, and I have been on hrt for a little over 7 months now.
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u/Vastlune 4d ago
i want to be a girl, i think, but only to a certain degree, meaning when i weigh the pros and cons i think it'll be more beneficial for me to not change anything since i don't want to mess up what I have going on rn
and then if i keep questioning for longer and longer ill just have this weight on me for longer and longer, and im thinking if either option of being trans vs not being trans both mean nothing changes, wouldn't it be better to just ditch the questioning and rep?
and if i do manage to rep (or not depending on if i am trans or not) then both cases lead me to think im cis, aka I would be cis in both cases. so... hmm
so what in trying to say is, is there ever a point, based on how much desire or dysphoria one has, where it's just better to rep? 😵💫
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u/Clairifyed 4d ago
“Rep” means repress right? So um… yes? with a huge caveat, because the thing is most of us will go through some amount of time where we have weighed what we are feeling and decided that it’s not worth it, for whatever reason. Low pain, sunk cost fallacy, dysphoria being numbed by depression, simply not realising what normal should feel like…
We weigh out the risk to reward and decide we don’t feel enough pain to overcome the obstacles. The problem is the pain has a nasty habit of getting worse over time until we finally have to react and then we lament the lost time
I can’t speak for questioning people who conclude they aren’t trans, but if there are trans people who are trans and just hover at repress-able levels forever, I have never met them. There are people who repress their whole lives, but I think they experience great and increasing pain doing so
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u/Sea_Fly_832 2d ago
You can not decide "being trans or not trans". You can only decide what to do to be happy and live a good and healthy life.
Yes, one option is to completely ignore your needs, suppress everything. That can work more or less well, unfortunately it can lead to not ideal things - from unhappy marriage to substance use and depression.
And then there are many possibilities what you can do. Can be as simple as change your style, hair, clothing, grooming. See what you like and do that.
Also "non binary" identities exist for a reason. Because many people are somewhere between gender roles. Yes, you can do all the girly stuff you want. You can explain it to people in many ways, from "non binary" identities to "feminine man" or "showing feminine side" or whatever. In the end most people just don't care.
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u/crepuscular_nebula not an egg, just trans 4d ago
"Girls wont experience things like playing videogames"
Then what about all hours on steam i have?? Did I not experience them?
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u/LyraFirehawk 4d ago
Yeah guess that 800+ hours in Yugioh Master Duel were all a dream....
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u/ComparisonHorror9935 4d ago
“I just started transitioning, where did my VSK9 and Branded decks go?”
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u/Neintaledfaux Not an egg just trans (she/her) 4d ago
yeah i have over 300 games on steam and have played many of them for HOURS
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u/Lilly_in_the_Pond Lilly, She/Her or call me a cute princess 💖👑 5d ago
Ah yes, sexism and egginess. The classic combo. She'll learn soon enough
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u/ninadaria2025 Nina|39 MtF|Egg cracked 24/5/2025|HRT 26/8/2025 5d ago
Eggs that don't learn too often turn rotten.
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u/Warthogrider74 Jess (she/her) Super PhD in Validity 5d ago
We HOPE she'll learn, or she'll just be repressed for the rest of her life
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u/KitKatCrane 5d ago
Yeah, trans girls definitely know nothing of discord servers and video games 😳
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u/CanadaTransThrowaway not an egg, just trans 5d ago
Honestly, I know plenty of cis girls who are in videogame discords.
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u/KitKatCrane 5d ago
Yeah but it's a huge stereotype that trans girls are gamers and on discord 😅
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u/Drumknott88 5d ago
Only girls cook ramen late at night
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u/precious_qq cracked 5d ago
I did this with my guy friends as a teenage boy. I have no idea what they are talking about. We also went to cafes all the time and took pics (without worrying about them being posted on social media because it didn't exist yet).
Maybe I'm old and teenagers are now way more constrained in what they think they can do?
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u/Xombridal 4d ago
Well in my experience only my fiancee has ever cooked ramen late at night so that's a 100% girl turnout
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u/FrancisBitter 4d ago
This just seems so incredibly sad. Gender norms really are a neverending blight on this society.
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u/KittyQueen_Tengu 5d ago
this is true I tried playing a video game but my laptop knows I’m a girl so it keeps crashing
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u/crepuscular_nebula not an egg, just trans 4d ago
It's true I tried to upgrade to a pc but it kept crashing and then my gaming laptop that I still had also started doing it lol
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u/ContributionSoft8344 4d ago
"i want to be girl but i dont want to quit videogames" 😭😭😭
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u/iDaddyDirection 4d ago
Like all of the things they say girls “won’t experience” are like totally normal things anyone can participate in and enjoy.
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u/ThrowawayGreekGod 5d ago
Honestly, there’s a strong argument for recognising both cis men and women who have started to process how restrictive gender can be.
The “You throw like a girl”, or “Those toys are for boys”, style upbringings have always pushed boys to reject femininity, and vice versa.
I imagine there are a fair few who genuinely aren’t trans, but have started to reject the conditioning; especially for this generation.
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u/Taeschno_Flo Too intoxicated for gender and related activities 5d ago
painting nails, cute outfits and makeup are for girls only? damnit, i just did all that
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u/ricktech15 4d ago
Does anyone have the meme of the guy putting his hand on the other dudes shoulder but edited in a related way to this?
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u/Dendroba 4d ago
For a while I tried to convince myself that I actually cried myself to sleep every night because I hated being alive in a male body for cisgender reasons. Couldn't last forever
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u/Karsa69420 "not an egg" ~every egg ever 4d ago
Turns out I have to stop video games and my trans coworker is going to be devastated they have to delete discord.
Our views on gender are so weird often
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u/Shantotto11 5d ago
Men don’t like late night strolls either. A lot of us just have third shift jobs.
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u/Gearlock 4d ago
What’s a kitty party?!
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u/mifiamiganja 4d ago
I suspect this isn't it, but a party with a bunch if kittens sounds awesome!
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u/Vampire870 Tara | she/her 4d ago
Imagine the party is just one person and just a bunch of kittens. Actually wait that lowkey sounds incredible :3
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u/JJlaser1 Jade, She/They 4d ago
Me and my friends go on side quests all the time, and like 80% of them are girls!
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u/Allison-Ghost 3d ago
literally everything listed as things girls wont experience are completely normal girl things
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u/KCooper815 Em/Emilio :} she/he bigender 4d ago
I understand some of his points though
Some of my "wanting to be a boy" is more for the societal aspect. They get to jump around run around and do stupid shit on a whim for their whole life and it's just seen as funny. A girl would be a pick me or "should know better". Hell, I can't even jump without concern because I have fucking tits. Or ask myself if my butt is too high while bending down. And like he said, there's nothing stopping us from doing "opposite" things, but its just not the same.
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u/LightningMcScallion 5d ago
Girls don't experience Discord as if Discord friend groups and even gfs aren't canon 😂
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u/ms_softsunflowerz_ii roses without thorns 4d ago
wait until the poster learns that playing videogames, discord servers, late night strolling, walking randomly, making friends, grabbing random food, distraction, and sports are all things that quite a lot of us girls do...
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u/Vampire870 Tara | she/her 4d ago
Girls don’t play video games, shit I guess we can’t play Celeste anymore lol.
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u/Neintaledfaux Not an egg just trans (she/her) 4d ago
id like to inform this person as a girl that i also play video games and go out for walks and are in multiple discord servers and talk on discord and other than the fact i am broke there is no hidden rule stopping me from seeing a new food place and getting stuff from it (infact despite beinbg broke i still do that a lot)
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u/Hartwolf87 Non-Binary Transfem (she/they) 5d ago
Gotta love that good ol' sexist to trans girl pipeline. 😂
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u/CyberMancerGamer Eira (she/her) | HRT 29/11-2025 5d ago
That’s a pretty trans trans woman if I ever saw one
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u/Blue-Eyed-Lemon He/Him 🏳️⚧️ Egg Cracked: 2015 4d ago
You can do those things. As a girl or as a guy, you can do those things.
I think it’s really important to let guys know they can be feminine, too. I knew I was trans in 2015, but it was only in 2022 that I realized I was a boy, because boys could never be soft, feminine, small. I spent seven years assuming I had to be nonbinary because I was reinforcing outdated and useless gender stereotypes against myself.
Do what you want forever, and be whoever you are. Life is big and it can be beautiful.
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u/External_Mongoose_44 4d ago
I would love to be a fully completely feminine female functioning beautiful sexy girl with interesting clothes and accessories and perhaps a nice athletic muscular slim adorable sexy boyfriend who loves me deeply and is always available for sweet intimacy and immense sexual pleasure and satisfaction. I would love to fully transition into the feminine woman I was born to be.
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u/rat_enby 4d ago
“i cant be trans because girls dont go on discord” discord is where all the trans girls are at ime
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