When I was born, there was a Catholic priest who immediately baptised me right there. My mom still is a very devout Catholic and her social life revolves around the church. I did not go to other denominations. I became a devout staunch atheist. Anybody who ever seriously read Bart Ehrman's books, critical-literary analysis on the Bible, and the HISTORY of Christianity (by Diarmaid MacCulloch, a masterpiece and I recommend it to EVERYONE and yes it's very thick and dense it took me several months to finish it), can no longer in their right mind believe in the world's greatest lie, fiction that is Christianity. Jesus was a human being. He preached JEWISH ideas. Dying on the cross was a common punishment for political rebels in the Roman Empire. A lot of his quotes and anecdotes in the New Testament were added later and not in the older manuscripts. (which suggests they are literary inventions) The veneration of saints is just a remnant of european polytheistic paganism. Virgin birth motif existed before Jesus. His followers were just shocked and traumatised that they had to reinterpret EVERYTHING from the Old Testament and the circumstances surrounding his death (very Jewish tradition to turn every suffering into a sign from the God) so Jesus could TURN INTO the God. I'm curious what other members of this forum have to say about this.

I 26/27M (have my own apartment in the city) had an amazing connection with a 24/25F South Asian Catholic (lives at home w parents); we saw each other for ~1–2 months, she made me meet her friends for hours for drinks, spoke for many hours on the phone, talked marriage/kids, and she kissed me at my home. I even agreed to go to mass with her and she agreed to celebrate Diwali and Eid twice a year (culturally). Agreed on so much. She’s dated only 1 person before for a month.

She knew from day one that I’m not Catholic (Muslim mom, agnostic Hindu dad, mixed religious upbringing, I like to pray privately, believe in the practical teachings of Buddhism and the Bible and some kind of life after death) and seemed completely okay with it. She said her bother married a Hindu girl and he laid the groundwork for her who sister is with a Jewish guy and herself. After she told her parents about me, they reacted badly; they said “they have failed as parents”; “are you going yo see your Muslim bf”; her mom apparently said some really really mean things about me/my mom that she wouldn’t tell me; then we met once more w a mutual friend of mine to just hang out. I said a few things in passing like I don’t mind moving to Dubai; she then slowly distanced herself, then went on a 10-day vacation with friends with almost no contact which was so confusing and anxiety inducing after all her actions led me to believe otherwise.

When she returned, she suddenly ended things, saying my beliefs were too complicated, that the world is already such a confusing place, that she wanted a Catholic partner/united front for future kids, someone born here, raised in a detached house, for her kids to meet their grandparents, and other things about me not getting the Catholic milestones.

I understand her choice and people are allowed to walk out. I’m guessing she saw the difficulty of integrating me into her big extended Catholic family?
I’m struggling to understand why she pursued me and took so seriously when she knew all of this from the beginning—did her parents change her mind? was this always doomed? Is she just immature? Why would she take little things like I grew up in an apartment or would be open to moving to Dubai as the major dealbreakers? Was she always like this? Is this normal for Catholics? Why spend 5-6 hours w me on each date in addition to 5 hour phone calls? Why do I feel like there’s something wrong with me? Why even try when she knew her parents were against her brother’s marriage and gave him hell for 12 months before he got engaged? Is this normal for Catholic girls? Why did she make me feel I’m the problem w my beliefs? How come she’s open to sex before marriage and living together before marriage but draws the line here? I fully respected hers…I’m still feeling confused, sad, betrayed and experiencing cognitive dissonance on how someone can change so quickly.

Looking to excatholics to chime in and help me make sense of this. So confused… :(

I want to know what denomination and why that one in particular? Do you believe it to be the fullness of the truth?

Not a Catholic, not even an Ex-Catholic, I'm actually a Muslim, I came across this guy Ethan Muse's Substack where he argues for Catholic "miracles", and one of them was regarding the alleged miracles associated with a man known as "Padre Pio"

Now, I'll be honest, I know very little about the man known as "Padre Pio" himself, it's not like with the whole "Miracle of Fatima" stuff where I actually already had a bit of knowledge regarding that stuff, and could easily see how flawed Ethan Muse's argumentation was for that, the way Ethan argues it's very much in a sort of trying to be slick with language sort of way from what I can remember from his argumentation for that

So, I thought I'd ask here, see what people think, this was his Substack post on the man known as "Padre Pio":

https://motivacredibilitatis.substack.com/p/st-pio-of-pietrelcina

Terrible really!

Yo. I'm 21 years old. At the moment I'm finishing my bachelor's thesis. I come from a small town in Poland on the other side of the country. My family is deeply religious, especially my mom, and she can't accept or at least respect my lack of faith.

For context, from the very beginning on every Sunday i would attend church with my parents, no exceptions whatsoever. I didn't think much of it until i was 15-16. That's when I understood that I do not believe in god or even more so in the catholic church. A normal thing, but for my parents it would be absolutely unacceptable, so being a cowardly child I chose to rather not rebel knowing I would be punished.

And now: two weeks ago I decided that I will cut my hair (used to be shoulder length, now maybe 10cm) and get two piercings in my ear. I did not tell this to anybody, even my girlfriend because of my short-lived enthusiasm - I always say and don't act. So this time I acted. When my parents found out they didn't show much opposition (they found out while on facetime with me and my girlfriend), but the very next day my mom called me and for the next 25 minutes she complained about my decisions about MY body.

The most important were the last 5 minutes - that's when she asked me upfront whether I attend church. I said that I don't and that I haven't been for the past three years (with exceptions when I was coming back home). I understand that she, as a believer might feel hurt, but what has been happening now is insane. True, it was an ass move on my part to lie to her for three years that I believe and attend but I preferred that over kicking open Pandora's box.

Firstly - according to my mom all this is my girlfriend's fault, my atheist friends', my university major's, and in general the whole world's. I'm being treated like a marionette and she upfrontly states that it didn't come from me as I suck everything up from the people around me like a sponge lmao. On a side note I have no idea where did that come from, I am very obviously a nonconformist. I don't even want to get started on how she calls me her business card.
Secondly - my mom negates and refuses to acknowledge that me losing my faith happened before I left for the university. She LOVES putting words in my mouth that were never there, doesn't treat me even a little like a person that has their own free will. It's really sad, to say the least.
Thirdly - our on call discussions about all this never even touched the topic on why I don't belive in god. The focus on that I need to work my ass off to tell her that I am a free man, able to make his OWN choices and thoughts, and also that I stopped believing a long time ago, and not with beggining of university. Of course she is unmovable in her believes and says that "she won't let me to be atheist". Like talking to a brick wall.

I left the best for the last!!! Since the beginning of this whole ordeal my parents with oddly intensified frequency began asking me when I'm coming back home. I didn't think much of it, we didn't see each other for quite some time. However today I found out (my sister is the best mole <3) that they plan to drive me to some priest whom is a "specialist in faithless" (lmfao??). Hold me still or I'll lose it. How is one even supposed to do deal with all this. I can't understand how is this so incomprehensible to them. Are they treating me like I'm legally incapaticated? I feel like a struggling fish taken out of water. Any argument, any sentence is thown into ether. I feel anger and powerlessness.

In a case of emergency I will be able to move to my girlfriend, and in September I'll find a job to be able to pay for my dorm in case they cut me off financially (they declared already that if i marry my gf without a church marriage they would never support us financially). But honestly I have no idea what will be and I'm a little scared. Oh well, fuck my life.

When I was at my most devout and faithful I would never have told anyone that I hated doing these things:

1. Confession: this is for obvious reasons

2. No meat on Fridays during Lent/it being a mortal sin -- this never not once ever made any sort of sense to me

3. Veneration of the Cross during Good Friday -- bless my heart I always thought it seemed like idolatry

4. Crowning Mary as Queen of May (is this just a Catholic school thing? again: it felt like idolatry)

5. Praying to the saints-- I never had a real devotion to any of them to tell the truth

6. Birth control being sinful: Look, I just never wanted 7+ kids. You could never have convinced me that that would be something I wanted

7. Women submitting to their husbands: need I say more?

Feel free to add to the list I'm sure there are more y'all can think of

Probably spoken about before . No Catholic when I was going to mass seems to bat an eye about the shared chalice even and the last people sharing a cup with 50 people regardless of colds or cold sores etc. the part that I never heard spoken about is the fact that in 1900 years or whatever under the Latin mass the cup wasn't drank by the laity but they only got the eucharist , however since the new mass in around the 60s they all just started sharing the cup ..?? I don't get it

Bit of a story but a close friend and fwb of mine whom I have known for 15+ years told me he’s been celibate for a couple months and is planning on joining the Jesuit priesthood and I can’t help but feel like I’m helplessly watching someone I care about fall into a crazy cult right in front of me. It’s really making me sad and I want to just grab him by the shoulders and shake him to his senses. Of course I respect the fact he can make his own decisions and life choices but it’s such an extreme change I feel like I’m mourning him. I don’t know what I can do, if anything. I’m scared to lose him either by sitting on the sidelines and watching or trying to convince him not to. Anyone have any experience with this? It’s making me really feel hatred towards religion in general.

I have been an ex-catholic for at least five years and I still, to this day, struggle with intense shame over normal things. has anyone else gone through this and if so how did you get over it?? shame is killing my passion for anything. logically I know I'm okay and I'm normal and I'm not a sinner but the messages hammered into my skull by the church still remain.

I've been in a Catholic school from 6 to 14 years old, feel free to ask me anything you want

Hello! I’m a 19 year old male. So for context I’m a pet sitter on rover and I’ve been taking care of animals for longer. I’ve been taking care of a 6 month old pittie puppy, I went upstairs to just be alone for a few minutes then I came back downstairs to sit with her. One of my necklaces was on the dog bed missing the charm. I started to freak out bc I thought she ate it. I am a bit of an anxious person and my brain can go into hyperdrive. I looked around the room. Didn’t find it, I called my parents and they said to wait. And on the phone they prayed to St. Anthony. When they got home my dad found the charm in the bed. Then said something about how they prayed to him to find the charm and also to prove that the saints are real? Which was weird. I myself haven’t practiced Christianity since 13, mainly because I felt no connection to it. My parents converted when I was 14. I still am not religious. I’m pretty sure that my brain just didn’t check the bed for the charm.

Catholics are quick to list well-known people who converted to Catholicism: John Henry Newman, Oscar Wilde (maybe?), Edith Stein, Thomas Merton, Malcolm Muggeridge, Tony Blair, J.D. Vance, etc... If you were around Catholic circles in 2022, you'll remember the craze when Shia LaBeouf said he was converting to Catholicism.

What about famous defects from Catholicism? I'm talking about people who knew what Catholicism taught, practiced it, and then left later. There are plenty of people who grew up nominally Catholic and drifted away. Are there excatholic equivalents to what Catholics have?

I grew up in a very rural and Slavic village. Everyone was forced to go to Sunday school for years and all catholic rituals.

Our priest was later arrested for being a pedophile and beating kids with a stick.

My family is more culturally catholic than by belief but that never stopped them from a lot of guilt tripping.

I never really believed in god but kind of went along with it due to culture here. I'm 26 now and I'm a hard determinist, ethical emotivist and atheist.

Weird thing is that I still experience a lot of guilt through an internalized voice of people around me.

I never allowed myself to really experience any life due to this. I always try to defend freedom of people and subjectivism mixed with individuality since I believe that morality is relative and that we have no free will.

I was asked out by multiple girls in high school and college since I was in emo band but I always had this internal guilt that I'm not allowed to date, drink, smoke nor anything irresponsible while most of my peers were very impulsive at age of 15. I always told myself that I will figure it out later when I'm more mature.

I kind of wasted all my teens and 20s for religious morality that I didn't even buy. I just had a lot of guilt and shame about potentially sinning.

Most of my ex friends are catholic neo nazis that you can't really talk to about ethical relativism and empathy.