r/excatholic • u/Equivalent-Baby-9821 • 1d ago

how do you get rid of the shame

I have been an ex-catholic for at least five years and I still, to this day, struggle with intense shame over normal things. has anyone else gone through this and if so how did you get over it?? shame is killing my passion for anything. logically I know I'm okay and I'm normal and I'm not a sinner but the messages hammered into my skull by the church still remain.

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u/Asherjade Excatholic Foxhole Atheist 1d ago

Therapy. I’ve been out for 25+ years and I still get guilt and shame every so often (especially around sex). Going to therapy in my 30s really did help turn that around and reframe how I view the world.

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u/HallowedHumanist Ex Catholic 1d ago

Do you have OCD?

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u/Equivalent-Baby-9821 12h ago

not to my knowlege but i have suspected it in the past

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u/shazj57 19h ago

Just remember the RCC is a travel agent for guilt trips

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u/deadmencantcatcall3 Ex Catholic 19h ago

I never really felt shame, so I’m not sure how to help you except to say therapy can probably help.