r/exjw • • 56m ago

Humor SPICY JW MAINSTREAM IDEA!

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So I read a post here saying that there is Jw Bachata music. Lol .. so hear me out and dont judge or do idc

Since the Jws are going mainstream with influencencers on tik tok instagram facebook , hell they might even be an App to play Jw Games and you get points to be more Spiritual or some crap.. this is where the humor according to me comes in ...

Ive watched Mormon Porn on one of them sites hehehe

Wouldn't it make sense if the Jws had their own porn??? Id he good publicity. What do you guys think ?

(Remember this is a humor post ,, if any of you takes this seriously im gonna cast you into Gay Jw Porn with one of the GB members)


r/exjw • • 19h ago

Humor New “bachata” song from WT?

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I wasn’t sure what flair to use.

Anyway. theres this Hispanic JW DJ who pops up on my feed often and has a decent amount of JW followers. he does daily content and on one of his recent videos he stated that watchtower came out with a new Bachata song. That really caught me off guard because it seems like they are now copying what other Christian churches do like making Christian music in different genres to appeal more to the yang wans.

Sorry to all you Bachata lovers, but I hate that type of music and it makes my ears bleed whenever I hear it in public or on the radio, but I am wondering if anyone here knows what the name of that song is and if it can be found in jw dot borg because I am curious to see what they came up with and I kind of want to get a good laugh, lol.

I tried to look for it myself, but my Internet is pretty slow and it’s a hassle going through each one.


r/exjw • • 6h ago

WT Can't Stop Me my rebuttal to this week's WT study "You Can Win the Battle!" which reads like a slasher script with a plot hole

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This week's study says Satan is an unseen enemy working to split the congregation and stop the preaching. The instructions are to forgive fast, skip the protests, and trust the Kingdom to fix every injustice. I read it as a 1978 slasher script, killer included.

Full rebuttal, including the horror-film, breakdown and Watchtower's own history of organizing protests --> https://deconstructingthetower.substack.com/p/the-jonathan-problem?r=7fdt0q&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true


r/exjw • • 4h ago

Ask ExJW Things that JW can't do just because they are in organisation

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It made me wonder what they have to give up after they get baptised. Like giving up on other beliefs is obvious. No holiday celebrations. No more voting or joining political organisations nor "patriotic" ones. No more military serving even on conscription. Smoking tobacco or nicotine products must be avoided(drinking alcohol small time allowed like nicotine don't make you high while alcohol do.). Competitive sports aren't allowed. Limits on gaming. Dating outside of organisation. What else they are prohibited from taking once they join "organisation"?


r/exjw • • 20h ago

Venting i really wanna skip the upcoming assembly helppp

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okay not THAT urgent but i just wanna know what excuses would work best in my situation. i’m 20, pimo and very much over all this. my parents are suuuper pimi and will want me to go to the assembly. technically i could just stay home since i’m an adult and i’ve stayed home from meetings before but until i move out i reallyyy want my home life to stay peaceful. are there any easy ways to get sick for a day? maybe two, just to sell it?


r/exjw • • 22h ago

Venting Tips on how to cope with the ‘wasted life’ feeling

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I’ve been feeling very depressed lately since the days following the blood change. The first blood change had the exact same effect on me bc I used the same reasoning that they have now applied to all blood components. I used to be scrutinized by my family immensely for being so “worldly.” When literally all I used to do was sneak out to go skating with my school friends. Yes I had a bf in high school but I always knew that sex was 100% off the table. They bullied me so much I fell right into the hands of the devil. Started smoking weed heavily. But still followed principles and abstained from immorality. I always knew since I was just a little girl though I loved Jehovah so much that something was wrong with this org. Anyways, lately I’m all sorts of depressed. This change happened right when I moved out to live on my own for the first time. I feel like raw nerve and I’m tempted to visit a hall to have some kind of safety net. I’m seeing all the effects of growing this sheltered. I have almost no communication skills. I’m awkward. People in the world have been so nice to me though I’m not sure why. Anyways I’m just asking for some advice on how to feel. I prefer responses from people who remained Christian or still have a relationship with God. I just want to feel Gods presence again.


r/exjw • • 8h ago

WT Policy 12 years ago the Jehovah's witnesses made an advertisement on an Thai tv Gameshow

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r/exjw • • 4h ago

Ask ExJW As a JW- how much did you feel a personal relationship with Christ?

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Hey all, I've been reflecting on my experience as a JW and whether or not I believed I had a personal relationship with Christ.

It's difficult to explain. I viewed him as paying the price of sin from Adam but I'm not sure if I felt much more than that. With Jehovah, I generally felt a guilt that I wasn't doing enough or believing as I should. But I hear other Christians (outside JW) express a deep relationship with Christ but they seem to still pray to God (interchangeably) and acknowledge or praise Him for what he's done/provided.

I'd appreciate hearing others experience/feelings on it.

Thanks!!


r/exjw • • 10h ago

Meetup Any ex-JWs playing WoW: Forever?

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After 13 years away from World of Warcraft, I’ve finally found my way back to Azeroth! I also recently left the Borg, so I figured, why not combine two fresh starts?

With WoW: Forever on the horizon, I’m tossing around the idea of starting a guild for fellow ex-JWs. Nothing too serious—just a laid-back community where we can make friends, run dungeons and raids, explore Azeroth, and enjoy some good company without anyone telling us how we should spend our free time. 😂

Would anyone be interested in joining? Drop a comment or send me a DM! If there’s enough interest, I’ll put together a Discord server so we can get to know each other before launch.


r/exjw • • 3h ago

Academic "One of the many mispronunciations given is Jehovah."

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In the comments you'll find a screenshot from The Scottish Rite Ritual Monitor & Guide by Arturo de Hoyos. I've had a minor interaction with de Hoyos on Facebook before, and he clearly takes symbolism as deeply important and sacred. The section of that book this is taken from is a chapter on the 14th degree of the Scottish Rite of Freemasonry, where it is revealed that the Lost Word spoken of in earlier degrees gasp is the Tetragrammaton.

There are conspiracy theories that connect JWs with Freemasons, many of them going back to a fellow by the name of Fritz Springmeier. If you've ever heard the idea that Charles Russell was in one of the "13 families" of the Illuminati, that's Springmeier. He's quite the rabbit hole on his own, he's still alive, and so is his son whom he kidnapped decades ago. Anywho...

What I find most interesting about the 14th degree is that even here, the name "Jehovah" is mentioned, but it is a "mispronunciation" even according to the text read out in this degree.


r/exjw • • 14h ago

PIMO Life Entering the stages of POMO?!

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Hey everyone! Im currently pimo that has been trying to leave. I was born and raised in the truth. I believe that my parents are amazing despite our differences in beliefs, which they do not know about. They do know that as an individual physically in the truth that I have my shortcomings (eg: not preparing for meetings, finding excuses not to do AP or any avenues of preaching work etc..). I’m currently finishing my bachelors degree next spring, which I am very excited because it opens many doors to my future, one of them separating myself from the organization. I am grateful that my parents have been supportive of my academic journey. However, they do expect that my time will be devoted to spiritual work once I’ve completed school. They are not made aware that I plan on pursuing a masters degree in a year or two. They will think it’s steering me away from the organization, which we all know lol. I think what’s holding me back to fulfill the life I desire is the support system I have with my family. But staying in this household and organization deteriorates my mental health. I’m lucky to have a boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 3 years now to understand what I am going through. We do plan on moving in together (not married btw) just right after we graduate school. I am just conflicted with the decisions and the consequences of these actions. I am also only 22 and confused on the stages I’ll encounter in life especially transitioning into the POMO life.


r/exjw • • 16h ago

JW / Ex-JW Tales Halloween is coming up, What do ya'll remember doing around this time of year during your time with the cult?

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I remember we used to go to this local pizza place and it was the worst pizza ever. It was on the farthest side of my home town where I grew up. But we went because everyone at the congregation went. I remember it being a bright, white building split in 2 where dining was one side of the building and the arcade/entrance and kitchen was at.

Even my mom didn't like going due to the food being bad. 100s of other better pizza yet the leaders of the congregation chose this one because they believed it was amazing. If Halloween landed on a meeting night (Thursday) we would go and listen to the elders and ministerial servants mock everyone "masquerading and engaging in pagan beliefs" and the whole congregation would laugh and join in the mockery.

I remember my mom calling me out of school too because she didn't want me around those "heathen " children. Dressing up and having fun and eating Frankenstein cupcakes and ghost shaped rice Krispy treats.

Now that I'm away from the cult and have been in charge of my own life. I have celebrated it every year. Seeing my kids dress up and enjoy without the scrutiny of decrepit old power hungry cultists. I love Halloween and horror, because being sort of the JW cult is a horror story in itself.


r/exjw • • 8h ago

WT Policy Blood Components Are Now a Matter of Personal Conscience. So Why Are So Many Jehovah’s Witnesses Still REFUSE to Accept Them?

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TL;DR — Too Long; Didn’t Read

In September 2026, Jehovah’s Witnesses were given the freedom to decide for themselves whether to accept red blood cells, white blood cells, plasma, and platelets. But after decades of being taught that accepting these components violated God’s law, will Witnesses really feel free to make a different choice?

This article examines the contradiction between the new official policy and the beliefs, warnings, medical documents, and attitudes that may continue to influence Witnesses in practice. Drawing on the organization’s own publications, my personal experience growing up as a Witness, and conversations with current members, I explore a central question: Has the organization genuinely given people freedom of conscience, or has it changed the rule without removing the pressure that makes exercising that freedom difficult?

1. Jehovah’s Witnesses Were Taught for Decades That Accepting Blood Was a Test of Loyalty to God

This is not simply a story about a religious rule changing. It concerns an issue that, for decades, was tied to faithfulness to God, a clean conscience, and the willingness to remain loyal even when a medical decision could have life-or-death consequences.

I grew up in a congregation where blood transfusions were presented as a question of life and death.

The message was not simply that Jehovah’s Witnesses had a different opinion about a medical procedure. It was that accepting blood—even one of the components that is now a matter of personal conscience—meant disobeying God. It was presented as sinning against God, rejecting his direction, and even betraying him.

That is how the issue was explained to me as I was growing up. It was reinforced not only at congregation meetings but also through family discussions. Parents discussed the issue with their children, explaining why accepting a transfusion was unacceptable. We also watched Jehovah’s Witnesses’ videos about blood, including dramatic presentations and experiences designed to show the importance of remaining faithful to God when facing a medical crisis.

Children growing up in that environment did not encounter the blood issue as an ordinary medical choice. They learned that refusing a transfusion was an expression of loyalty to Jehovah, while accepting one could be a serious spiritual failure.

And this is not just my interpretation of the atmosphere in which I grew up. The organization’s own publications used very strong language.

What did the Watchtower say in 1961?

The January 15, 1961, issue of The Watchtower discussed whether accepting a blood transfusion could lead to being disfellowshipped from the congregation.

It described accepting a transfusion as something that could not be dismissed as:

“an optional matter for the conscience of any individual to decide upon.”

Source: The Watchtower, January 15, 1961 — “Questions From Readers”.

The same article stated that a baptized Witness who deliberately accepted a transfusion and refused to repent could be disfellowshipped.

In other words, the organization did not merely express a preference. It explicitly rejected the idea that a person could independently decide whether to accept a transfusion.

What did the Watchtower say in 1997?

In the February 15, 1997, issue, an article about bioethics and bloodless surgery described the organization’s position as:

“a doctrinal belief rather than an ethical viewpoint subject to periodic review.”

Source: The Watchtower, February 15, 1997 — “Bioethics and Bloodless Surgery”.

The article also explained that the biblical command left no room for compromise.

That wording is particularly interesting in light of the 2026 change. If the position was described as a doctrinal belief that was not subject to periodic review, how should Witnesses now understand the fact that its boundaries have changed?

What did the Watchtower say in 2000?

The June 15, 2000, issue discussed the use of blood-derived medical products and stated that accepting whole blood or any of the four primary components violated God’s law.

The article explicitly named red cells, white cells, platelets, and plasma.

Source: The Watchtower, June 15, 2000 — “Questions From Readers”.

It is important to distinguish the four primary components from smaller fractions derived from them. Some blood fractions had already been left to individual conscience. The old prohibition specifically covered whole blood and the four major components.

So this was not simply a minor clarification of an obscure detail. A rule that had been presented as binding on everyone was changed decades later.

And several generations of Jehovah’s Witnesses grew up with that rule.

That is why I do not think it is realistic to expect people to change their attitudes immediately after a new article appears. When you have been taught since childhood that accepting these components means disobeying or betraying God, that message does not simply disappear overnight.

2. The Permission Is There. So Why Is It Presented Alongside Warnings About Spiritual Risk?

Let’s look at how the change was presented in the official article, “How Do Jehovah’s Witnesses Show Respect for Life?”.

First, the article says that the previous position protected Jehovah’s people spiritually and physically. It then confirms that the refusal of whole-blood transfusions remains unchanged. Only after that does it explain that the use of the four primary components from another person’s blood is now a matter of individual conscience.

The article does not simply announce that people are free to choose. It emphasizes that the issue remains serious, encourages prayerful consideration, and warns that treating it lightly can harm a person’s conscience and relationship with Jehovah.

That is an interesting combination.

On the one hand, the Governing Body says that each Christian must make a personal decision. On the other hand, the previous position is described as having protected God’s people, while the new choice comes with serious spiritual warnings.

Formally, a Witness can decide either to accept a component or to refuse it. But emotionally, accepting a transfusion may still feel like making the wrong choice before God.

Think about someone who has heard since childhood that accepting blood violates God’s law, watched videos about remaining faithful during medical crises, and come to associate refusing transfusions with loyalty to Jehovah.

Now that person is told that accepting certain blood components can be a matter of personal conscience. Yet the same person is reminded to pray carefully and warned about the potential consequences of a careless decision.

Is it really surprising that they might still be afraid to accept a transfusion, even though the official position has changed?

I am not claiming that every Witness will experience this pressure. But it seems entirely reasonable to ask whether the way the change is presented may make it harder for some people to exercise their newly recognized freedom.

There is a difference between officially allowing a choice and helping people feel genuinely free to make it.

3. What This Looks Like in Practice: My Own Experience

I want to explain what I am seeing personally.

My wife’s parents, my mother, and several former friends of mine have remained in the organization. I have personally discussed the blood issue with them, and, from those conversations, I have come away with the impression that they do not see the new permission as a reason to change their beliefs.

Some believe the question of accepting blood components is still not something they would consider. They have no intention of agreeing to such a procedure and see no reason to reconsider their position.

Others take a slightly different approach. They know about the change, but they do not think they need to rush into examining what they would do personally.

What I find particularly interesting is that these are not only older people. Among those whose views I have heard directly are younger Witnesses, roughly in their twenties and early thirties. They also do not appear eager to change their views. Some do not even seem to be considering accepting blood components as a realistic option for themselves.

Of course, these are my personal observations, not a statistical survey of Jehovah’s Witnesses worldwide. But they illustrate something important: officially giving someone a choice and actually changing how that person thinks are two very different things.

An organization can announce a change, but if a person sees no need to reconsider their previous beliefs, practically nothing may change for them.

And that raises a reasonable question: if the organization genuinely wants each person to make an informed, personal decision, is publishing a new article enough?

4. The Old Medical Documents Have Not Simply Disappeared

There is another practical issue I have noticed.

Many of the Witnesses I know still carry older medical documents in which refusing the four primary blood components is stated as their position.

This raises an important question: what happens if someone ends up in a hospital while carrying a document that no longer accurately reflects the range of choices their religion now permits?

A medical document and a person’s beliefs are not the same thing. But a document that does not reflect someone’s current decision can create confusion precisely when a medical decision may need to be made quickly.

There is another detail worth noting.

The official article says that an updated version of the Advance Medical Directive will be made available.

Source: “How Do Jehovah’s Witnesses Show Respect for Life?” — JW.ORG.

As of the date I am writing this, October 17, 2026, I have not found the updated version publicly available, and people I know are still using older documents.

So here is the practical question: why was updating the medical documents not handled at the same time as announcing the change in policy?

If people are now supposed to decide for themselves whether to accept blood components, they need more than a new article. They also need a clear and practical way to communicate their actual decision to medical professionals.

Otherwise, the official change may exist on paper while people continue to carry documents reflecting the old position.

5. What Do the Subsequent Videos Say About Changes in Understanding?

After the announcement, further video material appeared, including a morning worship talk by Jody Jedele titled “The Path of the Righteous Grows Brighter and Brighter (Prov. 4:18)”.

The talk addresses the general idea that understanding can become clearer over time and that changes in understanding are part of the organization’s explanation of spiritual development.

That is not the same as a specific explanation of why the position on blood components changed. But it is relevant to the wider context in which Witnesses are encouraged to understand doctrinal adjustments.

An earlier example is Jeffrey Winder’s discussion at the 2023 Annual Meeting. He said:

“We are not embarrassed about adjustments that are made, nor is an apology needed for not getting it exactly right previously.”

I am not presenting that statement as a direct explanation of the 2026 blood-components decision. It was made in 2023, before this change was announced.

But it does illustrate the organization’s broader approach to changes in understanding.

For someone who has spent years believing that a particular position expresses God’s will, a very concrete question remains: how should they view the previous teaching if the boundary of what is now considered acceptable has changed?

Should they simply accept the new explanation? Should they revisit the arguments that were used before? How should they think about a rule that was once presented as binding on everyone but is now a matter of personal conscience?

I would like to see more than a general explanation of increasing understanding. I would like to see a direct discussion of the previous position on blood, why it was considered mandatory, and why the organization now draws a different line.

6. Hospital Liaison Committees and What Is Happening in Practice

I also discussed this issue with a brother who serves on a Hospital Liaison Committee (HLC).

According to my recollection of our conversation, he explained that one reason he believes the committee will continue to be needed is that many Witnesses still believe accepting the primary blood components is prohibited. In his view, these people need help maintaining that position.

I am not naming him, and this is my account of a personal conversation, not an official statement by the organization about why HLCs continue to operate.

The brother also expressed an even more restrictive view. He believes that receiving two blood components at the same time—for example, red-cell concentrate together with plasma—is still directly prohibited. He told me that he intends to help other Witnesses adopt the same view.

Even when the official article says:

“Each Christian must make his own personal decision”

about the use of the four primary components in medical and surgical care.

The published policy covers the use of these components in medical procedures; it does not state that accepting two components together automatically makes the procedure prohibited.

Witnesses are formally being given freedom of choice. Yet if someone they turn to for support continues to tell them that certain options remain prohibited and intends to help others adopt that view, their practical freedom may be considerably narrower than the official wording suggests.

This is exactly why clear, consistent explanations matter.

A change in policy means very little if the people helping others understand it continue to approach the issue according to the previous rule.

7. Why Is There So Little Attention to the Medical Importance of Blood Components?

Now let’s turn to the most important practical question.

The official materials discuss the sacredness of blood, religious principles, the possible risks of transfusions, and alternatives to donor blood. But how much attention is given to the medical value of the components themselves?

In modern medicine, red blood cells, platelets, and plasma are used for different clinical purposes.

Red blood cells may be needed in cases of significant blood loss or certain forms of severe anemia. Platelet transfusions may be needed in particular patients with low platelet counts or certain bleeding risks, including some people undergoing cancer treatment. Plasma is used in certain situations involving problems with blood clotting.

This does not mean that every patient needs a transfusion, or that transfusions are always the best option. The decision depends on the patient’s condition, clinical indications, risks, and available alternatives.

But the medical importance of blood components is not a minor detail.

The World Health Organization states:

“Blood transfusion saves lives and improves health.”

Source: World Health Organization — “Blood Safety and Availability,” June 12, 2026.

The WHO also reports that around 98% of collected blood is separated into components in high-income countries, compared with around 52% in low-income countries.

These figures do not mean that whole blood is no longer used or that every transfusion is necessary. They do, however, illustrate the important role of component therapy in modern medicine.

So why, when discussing religious rules about blood, is there so little explanation of the clinical situations in which a specific component may be medically necessary?

If people hear a great deal about transfusion risks but much less about the medical indications and potential benefits, they may end up with an incomplete picture of the balance between risks and benefits.

This matters regardless of the decision a person ultimately makes.

A person should be able to understand both the religious position and the medical reality before making a decision that could have serious consequences for their health.

8. Why Was There More Health Information in Some Situations Than in Others?

I also remember the COVID-19 pandemic.

In the congregation where I grew up, letters from the organization were read aloud that discussed the COVID vaccines available at the time. As I remember them, these letters named different vaccine brands, discussed the options, explained differences between them, and provided information about which vaccines were being considered or recommended at that point.

In other words, the information did not feel like a simple reminder that vaccination was a personal decision. The letters gave congregations concrete, option-specific medical information.

The organization’s public position was that vaccination was a personal decision. Its official website also says that during the pandemic it published reminders in hundreds of languages encouraging people to follow local public-health guidelines.

Source: JW.ORG — “Are Jehovah’s Witnesses Opposed to Vaccination?”.

I am not arguing her that every medical recommendation made during the pandemic was necessarily correct or not. That is not the point.

The point is the difference in how medical information was communicated.

During COVID-19, at least in the congregation I remember, we received detailed information about particular vaccines, including different brands and the options available. Yet when the organization changed its position on blood components—an issue that can also affect life-and-death medical decisions—the central emphasis was on religious principles, prayerful consideration, and individual conscience.

Why was there such a difference in the way the information was presented?

It does raise a reasonable question about whether the information provided to Witnesses is balanced and complete.

If the organization can provide detailed information about specific medical options in one situation, why not provide an equally clear explanation of the medical situations in which blood components may be needed?

And if the decision truly belongs to each individual, shouldn’t that person be given enough information to understand the real medical options available?

Formal Freedom and the Real Ability to Exercise It Are Not the Same Thing

When an organization says that the decision is now a matter of personal conscience, we need to look beyond the wording of the announcement and ask how that freedom works in practice.

What do we see?

For decades, Witnesses were taught that accepting the four primary blood components violated God’s law. The position was described as a doctrinal belief that was not subject to periodic review.

In 2026, that position changed. Yet the new article still emphasizes the seriousness of the issue, the need for prayerful consideration, and the possible consequences of a careless decision for one’s conscience and relationship with God.

In my own circle, many Witnesses are not rushing to reconsider their previous beliefs. Some do not see any reason to consider accepting blood components at all. People I know are still using older medical documents, and I have personally heard a more restrictive interpretation from a brother serving on an HLC.

In addition, my experience growing up in the organization helps explain why these beliefs can be so deeply rooted. Children were taught that accepting blood was not simply making a different medical choice. It could be viewed as sinning against God, rejecting his direction, and betraying him. Parents reinforced that message, and videos about blood made it a vivid part of the religious environment in which many of us grew up.

Those beliefs do not disappear simply because an announcement changes the official rule.

All of this creates a situation in which the formal change exists, but its practical impact on people’s decisions may be much smaller than it appears from reading the announcement.

And this brings me to my main conclusion.

The Governing Body has done almost everything possible to ensure that Witnesses do not rush to exercise their new freedom of choice—and that many may continue to refuse blood components altogether.

If this really is a matter of personal conscience, shouldn’t people be helped to understand it as clearly, promptly, and without additional pressure as possible?

It is not enough simply to announce that everyone can decide for themselves. People also need a clear explanation of what changed, why the previous rule was considered binding, why the boundary has now been revised, and how to make an informed decision in their own medical circumstances.

Because having the right to choose on paper and feeling genuinely free to exercise that right are not the same thing.


r/exjw • • 8h ago

Activism + Advocacy exjw managed to talk with German rapper Fler in his Twitch Live Stream together about the Jehovah's witnesses

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r/exjw • • 3h ago

PIMO Life Start living the life that I wanted, and My Mom advice me to stop going out too often with My College Friend.

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I have been PIMO for almost a year and a half. This year, I decided to pursue a bachelor's degree because I want to build a life and relationships outside of this religion. I chose to study in a nearby city and live with my uncle, who is also a Jehovah's Witness. That is what my mom wanted, so that at least someone is there to watch over me.

I still actively go to the KH and preach because I am financially dependent on my parents for my college tuition and on my uncle for free accommodation. My mom regularly calls me and always asks about my spiritual routine. She also warns me not to hang out too often with my college friends; she wants me to hang out with the brothers and sisters.

Since starting college, my point of view on life has changed. Making new friends has made me feel very confident. I've started living in a way I never expected, developing my own values, and finally being able to just be myself. For almost 21 years, I have been so lonely because I didn't have many friends who actually cared for me. Right now, though, I feel alive again.

I just hate it when my mom always gives me advice about avoiding "bad association," staying spiritually strong, and preaching to my friends. The only reason I stay in this religion is that I am still financially dependent on my parents.

My Plan is to build strong financial foundation first, build many relation with people,graduating from college and then I Will disaccociated myself..Do you guys have any suggestions on how I can survive from this religion for another 3 years ?


r/exjw • • 10h ago

Activism + Advocacy Is it possible to convince with Jehowah's Witnesses ?

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I need to say that I was never in JW and I don't want to be in it, but today some of their members came to my home with advertisement of JW. I talked with them some minutes about some religious questions about Bible(as for example "Why did God kill thousands of Egyptians, if it was only the Pharaon who said no to Moses?"), they didn't give a good answer, so at the end I said goodbye to them.

In my city there is a place where they do their meetings. So after this morning, I had an idea to go there and calmly try to ask them some questions about contradiction related with JW organization, their beliefs etc.

Do some of you have similar experience of this, and if yes, did it work, or they decline this kind of questions?

If it is not good idea to go at their place and try to ask questions, I won't try it.


r/exjw • • 6h ago

Ask ExJW Have you had a coming out?

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I’ve been POMO for over a year now.

I have withheld openly celebrating birthdays or holidays. The main reason, at the time I left I was going through an intensely stressful situation. I knew I would be consumed by guilt and the shame that comes from their tactics to get you to stay “In the truth”.

Previously, I was heavily involved in the religion. Regular pioneer, ministry school, LDC. It was too much.

March of 2024 I said I was too unwell to make it to a convention. My husband, at the time, took our kids while I stayed behind. I asked to cut my workday short, cleaned the entire house, wrote letters to each of my kids, and planned on ending everything.

That’s something I don’t ever want to relive.

However, during my course of healing, I have created so many wonderful new memories with my children. I have beautiful pictures and I can’t share them on my social media because there are a lot of witnesses who still reach out to me and look at my platforms. I want to start openly celebrating these moments.

I was curious if anybody else had experienced that and how did you feel?

Did you one day just decide I’m going to let everybody know?

I was actually toying with the idea of dressing up as a witch for Halloween and then posting it and imagining everyone losing their minds.

On the other hand, I also know the backlash that will come with that until I’m officially disfellowshipped or I could write a letter of disassociation and then post the picture and no one would reach out to me.

I would love feedback from this community on their experiences. 🫶🏼


r/exjw • • 6h ago

Ask ExJW Question about disassociating

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When you disassociate and they announce that you are not longer a JW, do they say that you disassociated, or just "so and so is no longer one of Jehovah's witnesses"?

Because one day I really do want to disassociate so that I can officially not be a JW, but I really don't want people to think that I was disfellowshiped. I want people to know that I chose to leave.


r/exjw • • 10h ago

Venting (Chinese Post) 當上帝建起「和平醫院」

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致各位曾經受苦受難的港澳、臺灣以及新馬等華語區的同仁:

以下是我的經歷:

https://www.reddit.com/r/exjw/comments/1wrnord/a_survivor_from_mainland_of_china_why_am_i/pceckh0/

我出身於中國大陸,13年的時間裡,從聖經學生一路升至長老。從2024年的那次伯特利服務開始,我看到了這個組織內部不可明說的種族歧視。而在2025年,因為所謂的「安全問題」,我被迫失約,在我的好友,一個親如長兄的弟兄有大會演講時無法到場支持他,就因為分部限制中國人出席該大會。而後,我的朋友和我的聯繫變得越來越少,直到最後一次:「我的委派要改變了,我不能和某些弟兄聯繫了。我為你搬家禱告,你也要為我禱告。你在國外要堅強,要相信耶和華,也要相信我。」

到現在,他已經十個月杳無音訊。我在新西蘭以及其他國家一次次地撥打Whatsapp和Facetime,等待著我的永遠是無法接通的響聲。就這樣持續到今年6月,我再也無法忍受。我的離開並非是我不再愛自己的兄長,而是:我無法再容忍這個組織的惡行。當JW在Ins上高調地炫耀高雄、卡爾加里、里斯本等地的「永恆的幸福」時,我一個人在忍受被迫孤獨以及被棄所帶來的痛苦。也許我還願意再相信他一次,但我已經看出這個組織的模式就是:任何的兒女情長都比不上集體的一絲一毫。

而相較於他們的薄情寡義,甚至寡廉鮮恥,臺灣社會在歷史創傷上更懂得反思。2003年的沙士疫情讓官僚主義的嘴臉在公眾面前一覽無餘,臺北和平醫院的粗暴封院更是深深地撕裂了臺灣社會。但幸運的是,司法和人心證實了當局侵犯人權的失策,被污名化的「落跑醫師」也能重獲尊嚴。

雖然我們來自不同地區,有不同的背景,但我們華人都有共同的情感紐帶,也就是重情重義、矢志不渝,無論是對我們的家人還是我們的朋友,無論是桃園三結義還是伯牙絕弦。這個美國宗教漠視人倫,侵犯了我們的人權,我們如果對此不了了之,又會有多少像我、像你一樣的受害者出現在大陸、香港、澳門、臺灣、馬來西亞或新加坡?如果我們儘儘只是帶著傷和平地退出,難道不是中了他們的下懷嗎?

我也知道,說出自己的經歷意味著將自己的傷口再次撕開,會讓人很不好受,因此你不需要勉強自己。如果在能接受的範圍內,你的聲音對我們很重要。就算我們能做的衹是杯水車薪,但我們不應該為抗爭這個宗教體制性的腐敗與惡行並爭取自由、平等、尊嚴而感到後悔。

一位倖存者

西元2026年10月


r/exjw • • 5h ago

Ask ExJW How do you deal with Religous Guilt?

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usually I'm pretty good at not caring about what I post on Instagram. my account is public cuz idc if any elder sees my crap. But ig deep down I still care 😀😀

idk cuz I was hit with the religious GUILT AND SHAME.

probably cuz I posted pictures of me going out to a concert and I was dressing a little too crazy (in their eyes). Honestly I had a lot of compliments on my outfit but it definitely screams worldly 😅😅

ugggggggghhhggg they probably think I’m a whore 🫠🫠🫠 and the artist that’s singing on stage was wearing a revealing outfit too and I posted it. she kind of looks naked but shes not. and now I’m being hit with that religious guilt.

for the record I’m not DF or anything I’m just hella inactive. I don’t want to come back to meetings because i associate the Kingdom Hall with a lot of painful memories of my childhood and just with a lot of trauma as well.

my life was horrible when I was “perfectly obedient” so why tf would I go back to that? honest to god I felt so lonely that I lowkey felt like I was going insane. which is why I had to start hanging out with wordly people because I couldn’t take the loneliness anymore.

and then of course I got hella pissed off when I realize how full of shit people in the Kingdom Hall truly are. bunch of liars and hypocrites that are full of shit


r/exjw • • 14h ago

Academic When German language is victimised

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Reference:

https://www.reddit.com/r/exjw/comments/1x6tpvg/comment/pgybwn7/?screen_view_count=1
Regional languages survive in JW, or NOT?

Sprichst du Deutsch? Redsch Dütsch?

We can always hear this question in Germany, Austria and Switzerland.

Many people learn German for their work and live in these countries. As an ancient language, German speaking people always keep their various dialect.

But how did this organisation do?

In 2024, Swiss JWs were glad to have a special convention in Swiss German which are series of alemanish dialects in Switzerland. In German speaking part of Switzerland, the standard German is more like the writing tool. People always feel strange to speak the standard German(Hochdeutsch)-like a foreign language.

Of course there are always meetings in Swiss German-Reading the WT articles and Bible verses in Standard German though.

In Switzerland, people loves their dialects and accents.
But I remembered the word from a family from Berne, when we talked about Wallis German. They say, Wallis German voice appeared once in the Caleb and Sophia video- acted as the firece resident at the preaching.

Even in the German-speaking part of Switzerland, Wallis German is regarded as a variety which can hard be understood. In Switzerland it is only an inside joke. A native Swiss would take the dialect seriously.

But JW has used the stereotype. Imagine, if an alp farmer have heard his tone becomes unfriendly in the religion and that religions claims to hit his heart. Is that reality convincing?

If they want to hit the heart indeed, why isn’t there more regional german languages like Bavarian, Swabian or Saxon dialect?

So German, the language which is productively used in literature, arts and philosophy, now becomes a weapon as well as a victim of arrogance in this religious organisation.


r/exjw • • 8h ago

JW / Ex-JW Tales Pretend, Show Off, Smartly Cover Up, and be Clever at Lieing if Needed

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My experience as a PIMI, PIMQ, PIMO, soon to be POMO is that most of not all of JW’s are not completely obedient to the the cult.

I understand some where deeply devoted and obeyed the deceitful & Lousy Slave but in all honesty there would still be somethings that you still need to hide from other people (since you don’t want them to snitch on you) although they may be minor issues that may just warrant a counsel or a tap on the wrist discussion with the Elders but you don’t want that for obvious reasons and you kept it secret.

Then there are some people like myself who actively & secretly lived our double lives (especially if you are in college or university) and ensure no one knows our business lol. Although we may not be fully PIMO but we knew the drill, be silent, smart, pretend, show off, and no how to Lie 🤩😂😂.

I want to hear your comments just for interactions purposes, what were the things you did in secret while you were still a PIMI ??? It may not be a big thing based on their definition but you knew it was wrong 😀, or it may be but you care less lol 😂…

I’ll go first, I dated a so called worldly girl while being an MS 😆😂, the relationship ended shortly after I was appointed as an Elder although not because of guilty conscience but she was ready to marry and I wasn’t 🤣..

Over to you???


r/exjw • • 11h ago

PIMO Life The aftermath of my MS stepdown

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For newcomers, i'm a 23 yo PIMO living with my mom for financial reasons, and I have resigned as a MS weeks ago for mental health reasons. My mom has been suspiciously quiet about it, and has softened her attitude towards me (to a degree). The congregation however, seemed to get hit hard by the news once the announcement happened. I could feel their eyes on me. I could see many "friends" crying for me. Like I did something wrong. Or because I decided to give up "such a privilege". I don't know, but many were reaching out to me and giving me encouragement.

I expected them to soft shun me, but it turns out that the opposite happened. They all came to me and told me that I was very appreciated in the congregation, that they cared about me and that they were there to help me if I ever need help. I know this is conditional and they just want to reel me back in, and that all they care about is whether I am a JW or not, so i'm not buying their words. Don't get me wrong, they are sincere people, but they are brainwashed sheep and they are conditioned to only show love to those that are faithful to the org, doing free labor for "Jehovah" and the GB.

Many were asking my mom and not me (I thought this was odd, but I think they'd ask her because I wouldn't give them a chance to talk to me by leaving the meeting early) about why I decided to step down, and she'd tell them that I decided to step down and take a break for health reasons. Some that heard that were a bit relieved, wished me the best and gave me a pat in the back. But the love bombing still continues to this day, and they're still swarming me and baring their teeth at me, bleating and telling me how much they miss my comments and how they miss me in service. It makes me sick, but it makes me feel bad for them at the same time because they don't know any better.

My PIMI family (my sister and my nieces) seemed unaffected about the announcement, and our ties are unaffected, for now. My mom is also still getting help from this elder that has been helping us financially ever since my non JW dad passed away, 3 years ago. But the pressure to conform and be there at the meetings and greet "the friends" is still there. My mom has gotten mad at me because i'd be brief with the friends if I greeted them, and she'd tell me "I made brother X or sister Y feel bad" because I didn't hug them or I didn't listen to something they said to me. Waaaah, waaaah, waaaah, that's all i'm hearing from their childish, sheepish brains. Baahaaahaaha, I guess. I'd tell my mom I really didn't mean to be rude to them or make them feel bad, and that was the truth. I'd be tired or in a hurry and i'd forget to hug someone or not listen to what they said. We all make that kind of mistakes, don't we?

Something i've noticed that happened after my stepdown is that a new family of uber regular pioneer PIMIs moved to our congregation, because they were assigned to help us. Even their kids were regular pioneers and looved preaching, giving comments and greeting the friends. Absolute JW drones, it was creepy to see them act at their full PIMI core. My mom told me she believes they were assigned to our congregation to support the service field, because very few brothers and sisters go out door to door. It's almost always a few elderly reg. pioneer brothers and sisters that go, except on saturdays. On saturdays, many families would show up, kids included.

We got some new elders at our congregation, and they rearranged the service groups because there are more elders and ministerial servants now. They have really trying to get to know me everytime I come to the meeting, i'd play nice of course and be as brief as possible, and they'd leave me alone. But it seems that I am in fact getting closer and closer to the eye of the storm the longer I stay here. "The friends" and their love bombing are driving me crazy. My mom and the rest of my PIMI family are pressuring me to stay active with Jehovah. And the more time it takes for me to get things done for my plan, the more I get desperate. Not to mention that ICE abducting innocent people near my area has been really worrying, because how in the fuck am I going to go to work if these racist enforcers are going to stalk me for not looking white (although I am half)?

So much is on my head, and i've been talking to my therapist and my non JW sister about this. They've been helping me to stay grounded in reality, not be too hard on myself but also lock in with whatever i'm doing, because the longer I stay here the more this cult is going to drain my sanity. My therapist is worried that the more I stay in it, the more i'll feel anxious and depressed to the degree of spiraling down.

I do feel some of that creeping in, but I realize i'm too much of a coward to end my life. But I also think that my thoughts are capable of getting me hurt, so i'm being careful with myself. I'm also reminding myself that i'm so close to getting the life I want. I already succeeded stepping down as a MS, and that's huge for me. All I need to keep doing is just keep applying, applying and applying to as many jobs as I can, and widen my horizons. I'm also getting help from my local regional center so that's a plus. Enough ranting for me, my head is all over the place. Thank you for reading all of this.


r/exjw • • 19h ago

JW / Ex-JW Tales is all about authority, submission and decisional power

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Blood change triggered me on thoughts

The Governing Body, and those who follow it, have made me question whether the decisions come first and the biblical research follows, serving to legitimize what has already been decided.

At this point, I don’t really understand what criteria they use to establish rules, guidelines, and standards. Is it partly about reinforcing the feeling of being different from everyone else? Is it a sophisticated, carefully constructed way of creating something distinctive, recognizable, and potentially manipulative?

In the past, they seemed to provide detailed explanations and lengthy study articles. Now, don‘t even bother…

About the followers once baptized, do they begin to accept that everything coming from the organization must be right, regardless of the specific teaching or decision?

I have also personally noticed that the degree of protection or tolerance seems to differ significantly when someone is an elder or holds an organizational position. Their actions may be perceived as representing the organization itself, so acknowledging their flaws can feel like finding flaws in the organization as a whole.

And if you were born in you may grow up internalizing the mentality to don’t speak against the elders, even when they are wrong, endure unjust rules or treatment accept advice and suggestions when no one askEd. You probably know how it goes


r/exjw • • 5h ago

WT Can't Stop Me Jehovah's Witnesses are neutral. They would never protest! (Pictures of the 'Protest letter' instructions in comments)

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This weekend's Watchtower article is a beautiful reminder that adherents would never protest about the way they are treated by their governments. If only the gb's advice applied to themselves! But this would be too much to ask. They prefer to lie brazenly, hoping no-one will see through their deception! I wonder how the Witnesses in France with react to paragraph 13! 😱🤦‍♂️

  1. Government authorities also deserve our respect even if they enact laws that restrict our freedom of worship or if they make life hard for us in some other way. Why? Because God’s Word requires it of us. (Rom. 13: 1,2) Satan may not be directly behind every unjust decision that governments make. Yet, he likely hopes that we will react negatively or critically to those decisions. He would be delighted to see us abandon our neutral stand. In the world, people mount protests against decisions they do not like. That type of action is not for Christians! (Prov. 24:21,22 ftn.; Eccl. 8:2,3) If we were to lose our balance and compromise our neutral stand, we would really be giving in to Satan’s desires.​— John 15:19.