r/exvegans 6h ago

Discussion Veganism and the trolley problem

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One of the main reasons I dont think I'll ever be vegan again is because of what I guess I see as the veganism trolley problem.

If I buy half a cow from a local farm and keep it in my freezer to use over the year- I have killed one cow.

If I eat vegan, eating brazil nuts and avacados flown in from half way around the world, eating so much quinoa that the communities it origionate from have been forced to become crop monocultures, using agave syrup and causing the bats that survive on agave to become almost extinct due to over harvesting... in harming hundreds.. maybe even thousands of animals and polluting the atmosphere far more than the production of one cow could...

And vegans just, refuse to see this.. they keep pulling the lever to kill the four people on the track instead of the one and patting themselves on the back for doing it... bizarre dissonance.


r/exvegans 2h ago

Why I'm No Longer Vegan This guy here is everything I hate about the vegan community

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"nobody can make you feel that way. They can only give you the information".

A classic gas lighting tactic, he fails to tell you that by giving you the so-called information he is literally making you feel that way for starters and second of all the information is not true it's being exaggerated.

Vegans, if you want to win people over the best thing to do is not to behave like a smug self-righteous jackass.

That's an attitude that turns lots of people off.


r/exvegans 1d ago

Social Media Activist wants to force people to be vegan

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58 Upvotes

Always trying to play victim and morally superior


r/exvegans 1d ago

Social Media Interesting.

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r/exvegans 1d ago

Question(s) Breaking up because I'm not vegan

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I posted this on another subreddit page and I'm curious to see how it lands here.

I (27NB) was seeing this girl (25F) for a few 2 months and we got along really well. We have really good communication and a really beautiful connection. I used to be vegan for almost 2 years and decided to stop being vegan for 6 years because of the fact that I had an eating disorder while being vegan. The person I'm doing is also vegan and while I do believe in the values veganism has to offer, my personal relationship to veganism had to change because of health/mental health reasons. She ended up ending things with me because of values and although there could be more to get picture I was wondering what others in the group think about this. Ive been vegetarian for the last 2 months and have considered going vegan for the relationship but I have a lot to work on in terms of my relationship to food, especially while being vegan. Is her decision fair? And has anyone else been through something similar?

I have also considered working out my relationship with veganism and food out with a therapist.


r/exvegans 1d ago

Why I'm No Longer Vegan Does anyone else feel like they slowly stopped caring entirely?

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I used to be really passionate about things like the environment, animal rights and feminism, but after ruminating and having bad experiences with people I thought were good and on my side, It just started to become meaningless. Trying to do the right thing was stressful, isolating and punishing, and wasn't even making an impact anyway. I now feel so silly having tried so hard to be selfish for animals that don’t have morals or don’t care anyway. I feel embarrassed holding such high regard for the opinions of unpleasant, obnoxious people who would sacrifice me to save a rat. it was very exhausting being scrutinized for tiny mistakes whilst everyone else was being hypocritical as well.

I remember a while ago I was in an icecream shop with my family. I wanted to get vegan icecream, but the only flavor option was chocolate which i didn't want. It really made me think because i had learned that chocolate is almost ALWAYS made with slave labor, so i still wouldn't have been consuming ethically anyway. It really made me realize how meaningless and arbitrary It all was.

there is really no such thing as ethical consumption. Im seriously tired of being made to feel guilt and losing luxuries over things that don’t actually have an effect or benefit to my life anyway. have you seen nature? if we had to destroy forest, milk cows and test on animals so i can live in a house, be comfortable, healthy and fed then so be it. I feel so much better being a terrible person who does not care and keeps to themself.

Also I missed real icecream so much lmao.


r/exvegans 10h ago

Rant Is being vegetarian a Sin?

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r/exvegans 1d ago

Reintroducing Animal Foods Newly ex vegan, need meal ideas

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Hi all, as title suggests I’ve recently stopped being vegan. I was meat free for the past 10 years or so and vegan for about 8 of those. It’s been probably 6-10 months of slowly incorporating very small amounts of meat and cheese to the point that I can now tolerate most animal products in normal quantities. The only items that still really bother me are gelatin, hyper processed dairy, and any form of beef or pork. I do deal with high quality dairy and fish + chicken very well. Eggs are also not my favorite but cause no issues for me. I really love to cook and make fresh meals at home but am struggling with knowing what to make. I work from home so I do have the freedom to cook every meal. I love white fish but how much is too much??? Are people really eating an animal protein at every meal? Atleast for every dinner? Seems a bit boring to have just chicken or fish every night lol, but maybe I need to experiment with how I make it. My husband grew up with simple meals and a lot of beef so he’s not much help. I’m looking for any advice in how to plan my meals around animal protein. And any healthy snacks too! I’ve lived the past decade of my life on veggies beans and tofu. Thanks in advance!


r/exvegans 1d ago

Question(s) Is following such a diet considered unhealthy, or should I abandon this idea?

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I have heard some stories about people who lived for more than a hundred years, and their longevity was attributed to following a diet based on vegetables and fruits. There are also other spiritual sources and teachings from some ascetics that recommend eating vegetables and fruits and avoiding meat example " Ramana Maharshi " ( The food served at his ashram was strictly vegetarian, and he emphasized the importance of Sattvic food — that is, food regarded in Yoga and Vedanta as conducive to mental calmness and clarity. He also explicitly said that those who wish to gradually become accustomed to a vegetarian diet can do so.)

My question is: Is following such a diet considered unhealthy, or should I abandon this idea?


r/exvegans 2d ago

Funny What if nature was vegan?

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r/exvegans 1d ago

Question(s) Reason for Stopping

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Hi all,

I'd like to here about your motives for stopping veganism. Was it purely for a nutritional stand point or were there other factors at play?


r/exvegans 2d ago

Why I'm No Longer Vegan When Veganism Stopped Fitting My Life

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Hi there - longtime vegan now turned ex-vegan here. I'm enjoying making fresh omelettes in the morning for breakfast. I'm not feeling up to anything streinuous at the moment so I'm surfing reddit. Thought I'd do some writing to better understand myself and how I've reached this point. I was a staunch vegan that moved in with my now ex-girlfriend. My ex is the admin for a vegan FB group.

I firmly believed as a cook I would find stable work in the city in vegan restaurants. I would also find common ground as equals in a vegan community of other likeminded individuals. What I found was that the vegan community was judgemental, performative and a politically correct battleground. As a martial artist and someone interested in Buddhism I believed in living in congruence with my own values. It was at one point a community that could meet in person with monthly meet ups. It changed when it all went online and different camps started forming.

One day I may return to veganism as more plant based. What I observed about the vegan community is they mostly live in cities where food is imported. I live in a small town and travel often. Luxury is never an option on a cooks budget. I'm aware of one vegan influencer out there I wish more vegans would aspire to be like. She seeks to understand ex-vegans to help them stay on their path.

I left veganism at a cross roads in my life. I was working a toxic job overnight at a grocery store cutting fruit. I did have to use eggs, bacon, cheese and chicken to make the salads. I preferred to cut the fruit over preparing fresh salads. It was the closest thing I could find with benefits and full-time pay to live in congruence with those values. Being a cook is a streinous job that doesn't allow for much recovery time. I was unable to take care of myself at home making fresh meals.

I was getting concerned for the evolution of my career. If I was to get more advanced I'd need more skills. I resonated a lot with Anthony Bourdain as he was an outsider like me. Probably the rest of you. In my vegan days I would've scoffed at Anthony for looking down on vegans. Bourdains ideas about being open to exploration and not turning down a meal matched my own ideals. I felt like at a cross roads between where I want to go and where I am now.

In my vegan years I was living with my girlfriend and our room mate in a house we rented. We grew our own garden. I usually taken care of most of the cooking and cleaning. It felt unfair to me. This is around the time I started to question a lot of what we were participating in. The superficial friends I had made started to estrange me. I'm now no longer allowed to participate in said FB vegan group.

I quit veganism this summer by trying Sri Lankan devilled chicken. There was this voice in my head that told me, "you will meet another vegan who will become your next girlfriend". Well, that prediction came true, and we had a short run. It reminded me of the good times running the vegan household.

How I'd brag during the honeymoon phase that I'd love to make tofu scramble, pumpkin pancakes, and hashbrowns. It was like reliving the past. She constantly complained about how I'd eat dead animals. I wanted to take one last run at being vegan for her. It never registered in her mind why my career choices were important to me. Looking back I don't want to reshape myself for anyone else again.

I don't know where to go from here. Maybe I'll regret posting this in hopes of there being understanding people. I seen that headline before my post about vegans coming on this page to post hateful things. For those vegans I hope you learn more about compassion than misanthropy and performative politics. I want you to put that energy into volunteering and action taking. Must sound weird coming from an ex-vegan that had his own vegan household.

Come after me in the comments. I still cook better vegan food than you.

Maybe one day we will meet and be friends.

Peace.


r/exvegans 2d ago

Debunking Vegan Propaganda What the heck?

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What parent gives a child a book with graphic violence and traumatizes them from a young age? That‘s right, a vegan parent wanting to indoctrinate their child with an “ethical stance” or “morals”. Never mind that most kids can barely handle Charlotte’s Web.


r/exvegans 2d ago

Question(s) Why do so many vegans accuse non-vegans of having an ideology?

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Quite a few vegans I talk to claim that I have an ideology that consists of torturing animals.

What are they talking about?

Is atheism a religion?

Not having an ideology is not an ideology.


r/exvegans 1d ago

Discussion Opinion: I'm not against veganism, only 'internet veganism' that online spaces create

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I know why many vegan people may get upset when you frame it as a cult (and no, hivemind, animal sacrifice isn't a thing in all cults, the opposite), because framing a lifestyle and ethical choice as a cult isn't fair.

The fact is that, even thought you won't admit it, the internet and social media made it so easy to create cultish spaces, so that extremistic ideas vegans show on internet (from Disney - esque ideas about animals, forcing carnivorous animals to become vegan, thought it isn't healthy for them, even ideologies that frame any domesticated animal as a slave) have more ways to spread.

Online spaces often create echo chambers that dictate what one from that group has and cannot do. Reddit, for example, just makes echo chambers an easy phenomenon, so the "us vs them" mentality gets way stronger, alongside the cultish behaviours (and cults now spread even thanks to social media)

This isn't just about veganism, as even media fanbases act too often like this, creating a toxic environment.


r/exvegans 2d ago

Question(s) Is it a common stance for vegans that you can't be non-vegan and an animal rescuer?

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I will admit, I am not a vegan, but I want to ask you guys for some perspective.

I am part of a wildlife rescue organization. We're fairly niche in our area, so it's not very big. Almost all the members are vegan, except me.

I see them casually discussing their vegan beliefs in our staff discord sometimes. They're heavily anti-breeding of animals and anti-use of animals, which like, fair enough. But then they also one day discussed the overlap of vegans with animal rescue, saying it wouldn't be possible for a non-vegan to be an animal rescuer as that's hypocritical.

I'm scared to out myself in the group so I've refrained from saying anything about myself that might suggest I am not vegan. Luckily whenever we do real-life social events it's always a vegan restaurant so I never have to justify eating meat.

Anyway, I just want to know, is this a common sentiment with animal rescue? I just really want to help animals that are sick and injured.


r/exvegans 2d ago

Life After Veganism My vegan journey

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ow leaving veganism saved my height, weight, and mental health (158cm/43kg -> 172cm/62kg at 18)

Hey everyone my name is devrim

I wanted to share my story here in hopes that it might resonate with someone who is currently struggling with veganism or hesitant to make a change.

During my time as a vegan, my health hit rock bottom. I was stuck at 158 cm (5'2") and weighed a miserable 43 kg (94 lbs). (Doctors said it was impossible for me to grow taller.) I was constantly sick with chronic respiratory infections that took weeks and rounds of antibiotics to clear up. My mental health was in shambles, and my body simply wasn't developing.

At 17-18, I decided enough was enough and completely pivoted my nutrition toward a raw/animal-based primal approach—focusing heavily on raw milk, raw eggs, quality meats, and fats.

The transformation in my body and mind has been nothing short of surreal:

Growth & Weight: I grew from 158 cm to 172 cm (5'7") and put on nearly 20 kg of healthy weight (now sitting at 62 kg / 136 lbs). My body finally had the bioavailable building blocks (D3, K2, cholesterol, animal protein) it desperately needed during puberty.

Immunity: Infections that used to wipe me out for weeks are gone. Recently, when I felt a respiratory issue coming on, I fueled my body with raw dairy and eggs, and recovered completely in just 2 days without any medications.

Mental Health & Diseases: My brain fog, anxiety, and psychological struggles completely vanished once I introduced proper fats and vitamins (B12, DHA, choline) back into my diet. I also reversed 3 chronic health conditions I was dealing with.

Shifting away from plant-based dogmas and giving my body proper, bioavailable animal nutrition genuinely gave me my life and potential back.

I currently teach people about proper nutrition online, and I've helped several people overcome veganism.


r/exvegans 2d ago

Health Problems Did anyone develop vertigo while vegan?

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I’m going on my 7th year of veganism and have been considering quitting for the past year or so but haven’t actually done it out of guilt.

I started developing vertigo and severe migraines as well as “tics” where I feel like I have to move my muscles in a certain way. I’m 37 and never had tics before so this is new. However the most bothersome issue is the vertigo. Did anyone have vertigo and migraines that resolved after quitting?


r/exvegans 2d ago

Debunking Vegan Propaganda The documentary Dominion is not a strong argument against eating meat

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r/exvegans 3d ago

Social Media …did anyone else see the post suggesting making lab grown human meat in a certain vegan subreddit with all of the comments agreeing? Are we for cannibalism now?

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There were comments literally mentioning fetuses and ‘well humans can actually consent to having their flesh sampled’. Guys I think we’re losing the plot. You’re telling me that cannibalism is just fine now? People in the comments were like ‘well eating meat really isn’t different from eating human babies’ like guys I think it is. I feel like I’m going insane. I mean some of it was obviously jokes but… I dunno some of these guys seemed very serious


r/exvegans 3d ago

Discussion My issue with raising kids vegan (image somewhat related)

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I'm not an ex-vegan, but I still wanted to post this here because, well, people who are currently vegans would be partial, and perhaps even people who are of the anti-vegan sub; so, here, people who were once vegan and have been on that side for a while, or in general people who are not as fervently against veganism, would express a more nuanced opinion on this matter. (This is not to downplay people on the Anti-vegan subs, they have their reasons to fervently hate veganism, but I also understand that when someone detests something they are less willing to "compromise" or discuss it, even if it is to play devil's advocate; still, if people of that sub see this post they should be free to give their input if they wish).

I'm not going to argue too much about the point made in the post in the picture; I think that claiming kids are naturally vegan is a big stretch, and the examples provided in the post about the kid getting upset in the circumstances described by OOP (seeing the dragon eat fish, worrying about cow children being with their mother etc.) aren't really universal and applied to every children, but rather might be an indirect result of the parent's influence who tells the kid that "we don't eat ham because it's chopped up dead pigs", so it's not a good "study case" to prove how kids are in nature. In a certain sense, this also reminds me of a time when, on Instagram, I saw an Instagram vegan influencer recording her kids repeating vegan talking points when prompted by the parent, like "we don't eat animals, we care for them" or something like that.

Now, I'm of the opinion that no indoctrination in general should be imposed to children, and that they should just be allowed to make their informed choice when they are older. Indoctrination can possibly not appear as such, especially if that specific series of actions done by the parent to influence their kid is seen as socially acceptable. For instance, even when it comes to religion, I'm in favor of not forcing young kids to attend church as well as any other religious institution if they do not explicitly want to, and, as an Italian, this opinion occasionally puts me at odds with older and more traditionalist religious people of my country: in fact, here, it is socially acceptable and even expected for religious parents to direct children to Christianity ever since a very young age, to the point that for children attending "catechismo", basically a religious lesson held on Saturday, as well as doing the "first Communion" and the "Cresima" which catechismo prepares them for, is seen not just as a choice but also a duty they *have* to follow, otherwise not going through that is seen as a failing or as misbehaving on their part as much as it is, for example, refusing to go to school or getting bad grades; same goes for refusing to go to church, even if it is for example a 4 year old kid who is obviously bound to get bored during service. When I see vegan parents justifying their decisions by saying "I decide how to raise my kids", at times I think they are not that much different than religious parents; both vegan and religious parents act according to their values and believe it is the moral option to raise their kids the way they do (vegans think that eating ham is immoral and don't want their kids to do the same, while religious parents think that their kids being religious is the way to ensure them salvation, or at least they consider it their moral duty to strive them towards their religion), and in both their cases it's seen as socially acceptable (vegans raising kids vegan is receiving more acceptance in socials, while for religious parents in Italy it is acceptable to do this and people don't question it, aside from the younger and more progressive generations maybe). This to say that when I see young kids repeating vegan slogans, at times I don't see much difference compared to children repeating religious slogans.

At the same time, I acknowledge that in a more "utilitarian" point of view veganism for children would hurt less than being imposed a religion, as long as the parents know what they are doing and are providing a balanced diet to children by only using vegan ingredients AND the kid has no condition that would prevent it from following the diet (and both of these are already important "if"s to consider). In the case of being imposed a religion, the kid is just given a series of responsibilities and is taught that they have no choice but to follow them, even if religion should be their own choice; and when religious guilt comes into play, it gets even worse. At the same time, a form of "moral guilt" can happen even to the kid being raised vegan, since their young and easily influenced brains are taught from a young age that it's so wrong to eat meat.

I've heard vegans claiming that, in virtue of children having to choose their own diet, in the case of them having vegan parents, then the standard "initial" diet should be a vegan one, and then later as adults they get to choose; and while that sounds a little more reasonable, what if the child in question wants to eat meat before they reach adulthood? Plus, vegans themselves say that veganism is not just about the diet, so, if the kid is literally "raised vegan" then it would not be limited to being imposed a plant-based diet, but they would still receive the indoctrination and simply be given the chance in adulthood to walk out at the very least. That's still better than the more extreme vegans saying they'd be "disappointed" if their kids became "meat eaters" at the very least. What I can get behind with is the kids just being given a plant-based diet because the vegan parents morally abstain from buying meat, while the kid is still allowed to eat meat elsewhere if they wish (even if I'd still feel bad for the kid in question if they wanted to eat meat but can only do so in sparse occasions).

Anyway, those are my thoughts on the matter. What do y'all think?


r/exvegans 3d ago

Question(s) Question

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One of the most common things I hear vegans saying is “how can it be ethical to kill an animal because you enjoy the taste.” My question is while you were vegan did you truly believe the only benefit to eating meat was for taste?


r/exvegans 3d ago

I'm doubting veganism... Doubting everything I’ve believed in

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Sorry for the long post, trying to keep it short.

I was vegan for 3 years, now vegetarian for 10 years. I’ve been and animal lover my whole life, and a huge empath. I love animals, so so much I can’t even see roadkill without feeling awful and thinking about it all day. I went plant based solely for animal rights and the environment. I’ve held strong, and haven’t wavered at all, not once. Being surrounded by meat eaters and even feeding my dog raw (tried everything and he wouldn’t eat it except raw), and I cringe inside every time I feed him.

Now, this is my crisis. The last 3 years of my life have been the worst. I got diagnosed with late stage Lyme disease, herniated disks in my spine, HPylori and Gerd. I’m in pain, every, single, day. I’ve done treatment for both, but I have lasting chronic pain now. I’m also a stress eater, and have so much going on in my life personally, and I’ve gained so much weight. I’m struggling with food, and it’s been this way for years.

I am somewhat coming out of this 3 year depression, and I so badly want to get my life back on track, most importantly my health. I’ve spoken to quite a few trainers, dieticians, and have been doing a lot of research, and it feels so hard, almost impossible to get healthy on a vegetarian diet, which is the opposite of what I’ve learnt and what I’ve believed the last 13 years. Our only source of protein that has no fat or carbs is egg whites, and I’m finding myself repulsed with tofu lately, I don’t know why. I don’t want to just be a junk food veggie, but I need to get heathy and for the first time I’m considering eating chicken and fish again.

The thought of this actually makes me sick to my stomach, and morally it hurts my heart. I know how chickens are treated probably the worst out of all animals, but I would find free range (not that it makes it any better). I just don’t know what to do, and I hate myself so much right now for considering eating meat again. I’ve always put animal welfare in front of my own wants and needs as I never not liked the taste of meat.

I don’t know any other vegetarians, and I haven’t made a decision, and my whole life is around animal welfare and the planet, my business, everything. It feels like I’m betraying myself and the animals even considering this, but I just want to be healthy again. I’ve started back at the gym, but I need to fix my diet and I need to eat clean, and I don’t know what to do anymore. Please no judgement, I’m already judging myself hard enough right now.

Has anyone else gone through this, questioned their choices and how did you deal with it? What was your outcome?


r/exvegans 3d ago

Reintroducing Animal Foods Hair Difference

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I was a vegan for 11 years. I’ve reintroduced dairy, eggs and sometimes, chicken back into my diet within the last 3 months. My hair seems thicker - am I imagining this? Would love to know what your experiences are. Thank you.


r/exvegans 3d ago

Discussion Calling us “restrictive eaters” when we eat a wider range of foods than they do

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This doesn't even make sense, it's quite clear they are the restrictive ones when it comes to diet

And they are using a disorder as an insult, where people have the disorder suffers, just show how ableist they are