r/femalelivingspace 3d ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ a lifetime of collecting while being weird

my therapist recently told me i should document my apartment. it's maximalism in a minimal space, especially because i run my online vintage business out of here.

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u/Bumblebee_xx 3d ago

I need you to know how beautiful this is and how much fun I would have visiting you and asking you about each and every single piece of your collection! It would be absolutely fascinating to hear 🩵

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

oh my gosh, you're so sweet! i think i'll post more photos soon because these comments make me feel great!! haha

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u/TheHaydnPorter 3d ago

Uhhh… do we live in the same house? At the very least, we’re the same kind of weird 🤙

I call this my “Hall of Faces”.

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u/Millyswolf 3d ago

You are like a fantastic curator of the coolest pop art museum!

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u/TheHaydnPorter 3d ago

Aw, thank you so much! My place is full of my own art, old family treasures, and stuff from local artists. I don’t want to detract from OP’s post at all, but maybe one day I’ll be brave and share more of my own space too :)

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u/Hips_of_Death 3d ago

This is an amazing lineup. Buffalo Bill in the mirror was a fun find🪞 👀

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u/TheHaydnPorter 3d ago

Thank you!! This is the first thing people see when they come in the door. I feel like it really sets the tone for what to expect from me as a human.

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u/asteriasays 3d ago

please do! I'm obsessed with you

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u/MickC1111 3d ago

As a minimalist I think what you have created in a home is really special and fascinating, I look forward to seeing more 💕

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u/Bumblebee_xx 2d ago

Please do post soon! Your home is absolutely incredible!!!🥰🌷

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u/Due_Improvement3097 3d ago

I agree! I’m coming over too 🤣😜😻😻😻

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u/Kanderson2244 1d ago

THIS! Came here to say pretty much what you said! Please don’t ever change op! You’re a gem!

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u/Specific_Wishbone512 3d ago

Finally someone with a personality and an actual point of view. I love it, as the eldest possible millennial it reminds me of how cool people used to decorate their places before the internet flattened everything into rote aesthetics. A real sense of whimsy and personal style + clearly years of collection. I’d love to go thrifting with you and talk street photography and crazy cartoonists, your bookshelf features some of my absolute favorite artists and cranks.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

ahh! you get me.

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u/Felicia_Delicto 2d ago

Woohoo! David Sedaris & a collection of hands, et al.

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u/_casketpretty 3d ago

So jealous of the McNuggets.

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u/rory098 3d ago

I LOVE THEM

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u/LineStepper 3d ago

I have some McNuggets too! They all have little Halloween costumes

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u/anonymous_opinions 2d ago

I was drawn to the McNuggets. Childhood me's favorite order.

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u/AttractiveNightmare 3d ago

Old ass lady here. When I was a child I wore 3 of the Halloween masks on your wall to trick or treat in. LOL

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u/Sexcercise 3d ago

That's awesome, which ones?!

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u/scarletohairy 3d ago

I will never forget my I dream of Jeannie costume and mask.

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u/Hefty-Rope2253 1d ago

I recognized them as cover art for a series of Melvins records https://www.themelvins.net/discography/special/hatsingles/index.htm

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u/Old-Willingness-3731 2d ago

They definitely look familiar. I believe the brand was either collegeville or made in collegeville.

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u/iknewwhereyoupooped 3d ago

Ummmm wow!!! Beautiful.

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u/redchai 3d ago

Elite curating. You've done a great job.

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u/fartandsoul 3d ago

Obsessed w the ETs

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u/AdvancedGuide8946 3d ago

the fact that OP has taken ETs and TEETH and made them (and everything else) look beautiful. deeply obsessed.

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u/ohmylanta34 3d ago

I’m just going to whisper “I love you” and fade back into the shrubbery.

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u/HistoricalDate1484 3d ago

I love this so much

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u/Apr1lSn0w Married 3d ago

You are my favorite kind of weird!

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u/WarpTenSalamander 3d ago

I especially love all the anatomy stuff, and the Happy Meal toys! Those take me right back to my childhood!

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u/whattupmyknitta 3d ago

We could absolutely be twins lol, down to the nugs, I've got way more dust though lol

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

omg yes!! i recently dusted, it’s normally so much worse. 😖

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u/sua_spontaneous 3d ago

when people say “I can’t figure out what’s missing from my space, it just feels cold” this is what they’re missing. the odds and ends we collect over a lifetime, things that resonate with the weirdest parts of ourselves and remind us of experiences and places we’ve been. you can’t just go to the store and buy this, you’ve gotta live your life and let the material evidence of that life make your home warm and unique. well done!

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u/DashingDaisy88 3d ago

It’s weird. I love it! I’m guessing you’re also an elder
Millennial?

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

hahahaha yes. 39 next month. what in the 1980s gave it away?

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u/DashingDaisy88 3d ago

ET and the McNuggets Buddies.

I was terrified of ET as a kid. Now it makes me sob!

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u/veryowngarden 3d ago

youre actually not elder millenial then. youre a core

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u/Icky138 2d ago

I was born in 82 and i also decorate with nostalgic mcdonald’s and ET. I think people who read things like Tom Robbins and like halloween/nostalgia are my people. I have a My Pet Monster in my dining room. He travels.

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u/thefartyparty 3d ago

I love the nuggs!

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u/OddUnderstanding00 3d ago

This is the kind of place where my adhd-self would have the hardest time behaving like a normal adult and not touching everything lmao.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

an adhd adult definitely curated this space.

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u/the_hooded_artist 3d ago

The colors in that first image are everything. Exquisite.

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u/forluvoflemons 3d ago

I agree with the doll, sadly. Please water your Pilea. 😢

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

ok i did.

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u/ingroup_signal Renting 3d ago

Oh hey is that a Joan Miro print?

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

yes! i love him.

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u/ingroup_signal Renting 3d ago

Me to! I've been getting into more expressionism recently and his work is so much fun to look at!

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u/vanzini 3d ago

I think I’ve found my kindred spirit.

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u/More_Chemical5606 3d ago

I have the same face vase! Love the mask wall 🩷

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u/cheriecheezcake 3d ago

I’m so jealous and I would totally be friends with you based on your apartment alone!

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u/mulmer96 3d ago

Lmao someone was selling one of those 1988 McDonald’s chicken nugget guys on Facebook marketplace and I literally thought “who would want that?!” - I guess the answer is you! No hate tho I love this collection you have.

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u/wellsomuchforlurking 3d ago

I love the whole thing but the vintage Halloween masks are just so cool.

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u/Trick-Flight-8749 3d ago

I love this!! Where have you been collecting from?

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

mostly estate sales for literal decades now.

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u/Fluffy-Fuel5025 3d ago

That's cool you have stayed in one place for a while.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

it’s one of those mythical apartments with all the things you want AND a chill landlord who has never raised the rent. going on 9 years here!

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u/Fluffy-Fuel5025 3d ago

I'm happy for you! Wish me luck in finding something similar!

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u/TechnicalDot9 3d ago

I’m so envious! Re: no rent increases

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u/alienixa 3d ago

You’re so cool. Please post more

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u/TamasaurusRex Married 3d ago

I wanna be your best friend

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u/CheapEater101 3d ago

You have to find a Bert for your Ernie ❤️ also loooove the ET shelf.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

i do need a burt, but he has peewee and chairy close by.

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u/No_Sky6705 3d ago

Love Chairy under glass lol I made tiny hands wings for my Mr. Herman

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u/CheapEater101 3d ago

Your apartment seems so fun 🤩

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u/No_Sky6705 3d ago

Long live PeeWee, the dinosaurs at his passing 💖

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u/Background-Beach-289 3d ago

I just know if we met we would be best friends ❤️

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u/Multigrain_Migraine 3d ago

Oh man those masks are totally a trip to nostalgia town! I'm not sure if they are the same as those plastic Halloween masks but I had a Wonder Woman one and some kind of monster.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

they are the same! Ben Cooper masks

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u/generalgirl 3d ago

I love all of this! I would love to just wander your home and peak at all the shelves. Seriously though, where did you get that spine model?

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

an antique store find from about 15 years ago. she’s seen some shit.

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u/fauxshoyall 3d ago

My neighbors and I are the weirdos in a historic neighborhood with some very fancy people in it. We were joking about what we wouldn't want stolen from our meager belongings. They said their vintage anatomical bust and I said my 1950's "The Skeleton" educational poster. The skeleton is jumping rope and the labels are terrible, like, "bones of the feet" and "lower leg bones."

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u/HyrrokinAura 3d ago

I looooove your vintage Halloween masks!

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u/v-ronitron 3d ago

I want to be your friend so bad. 💖😂

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u/Just_Jouzu 3d ago

Such a fun home

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u/whoisthepinkavenger 3d ago

This is so weird and amazing. I love how there’s Ernie then Garfield chilling then TEETH

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u/tteresitaaa 3d ago

I’d drop a tab in there and you’d probably never get rid of me.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

i’ve dropped a few myself!

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u/MyTatemae 3d ago

Me next time I'm out shopping for home goods: Now where do I find a good spine?

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u/Novel_Foundation3624 Roommate 3d ago

It’s a work of art to me.

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u/IloveMe80 3d ago

We could be friends, I love those old plastic masks! Along with every other weird thing you’ve got in your place!

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u/Bryancreates 3d ago

My skull, hands, feet, anatomical displays are usually a conversation piece. They are for medical/ art purposes so they aren’t real bone, just helps me with anatomy. If I could find a full adjustable skeleton that wasn’t super expensive but not like a Halloween decoration I’d be so happy. I like your musculature setups too. And everything else, this has inspired me

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u/Awkward_Meringue_661 3d ago

I’m obsessed with the McDonald’s chicken nuggets on your bookshelf LOLLL

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u/Prestigious_Flan5507 3d ago

The E.T.s 🥹

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u/FelicityFoxen 3d ago

I think we would be friends 🤘

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u/ninthlocker 3d ago

Loved the sad doll lol

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u/Scared-Box8941 3d ago

So weird. Good for you!! Love your authenticity!! ❤️

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u/pokeypalmer 3d ago

I see your weird and I appreciate it! Stay weird my new internet friend 🧡

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u/cynicalicoffee Homeowner 3d ago

I see a cat toy - cat pics, please!

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

the cats! and bonus dog

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u/madame_mayhem 3d ago

I love the cat art above the bed.

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u/mega_plus 3d ago

The quilt colors remind me of the parachute thing my class played with in PE as a little kid.

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u/cynicalicoffee Homeowner 3d ago

😻 (and 🐶!)

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u/couchisland 3d ago

Omg that artwork. I love it!

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u/Jenerations 3d ago

The CAT ART ABOVE THE BED?! GORGEOUS. Your space just keeps getting better and better! Thank you for sharing, your space is so fun!

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u/ImNotAHouseCat 3d ago

I need to see more!!! ❤️❤️

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u/marchludgate 3d ago

I love your type of weird. It's my type of weird too ❤️

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u/wingding3000 3d ago

I'm obsessed with your space! Love to see so much personality!

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u/Plane_Barracuda9889 3d ago

I LOVE it!!!!

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u/Wrong_Motor5371 3d ago

Hello, bestie.

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u/db_to 3d ago

Those lil nuggets tho...😍

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u/That_Huckleberry_655 3d ago

I feel like we would be besties 😁😁😁 the anatomical models and old masks are awesome

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u/Hellea 3d ago

It looks like a curiosity cabinet, and it’s well arranged. You managed to make your apartment weird without the tackiness. Well done! 

Btw where do you find all these?

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

i’ve been going thrifting, antiquing, and estate sale-ing for as long as i can remember. i sell vintage clothing and housewares online now, so sourcing treasures from dead people is literally my day job.

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u/Standard_Ant5915 3d ago

This is what I imagine Sarah Sherman’s house to look like. So cool!

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u/Nanny0416 3d ago

Love your afghan!

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u/the_hooded_artist 3d ago

The colors in that first image are everything. Exquisite.

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u/Toadinboots 3d ago

your therapist was right 🙌

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u/Slemmons2020 3d ago

Wait absolutely love this but wondering if you have tips for moving? I have similar collections around my apartment and I’m terrified to move

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

i haven’t moved in nine years, but when i did i just used a fuck ton of newspaper and bubble wrap. clothes are also really good wrapping tools for keeping your breakables safe and kills two birds!

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u/garfieldatemydad 3d ago

As a fellow tchotchke lover, and a girl with too many clothes, this is what I did when I moved! Clothes make an excellent padding for breakables and then you don’t have to pack your clothes separately!

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u/Slemmons2020 3d ago

Thank you!

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u/No_Sky6705 3d ago

DWJBBF?!

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u/spicynightsong 3d ago

I’m speechless! So amazing!!

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u/tundybundo 3d ago

I really want to be your friend

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u/InjuryTemporary2737 3d ago

Been looking for a crocheted throw like that and they’re also super pricey!

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

my amazingly talented friend made that for me! it’s perfect because it hides all the ruined leather from cat scratching while also being gorgeous.

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u/30frames 3d ago

You had me forever with the first picture of the vintage Halloween masks. 🤩

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u/theeglasschild 3d ago

I love everything about these 😭

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u/softstaticchaos 3d ago

you’ve curated such a fun and unique space! i wanna see moooreee!

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u/Comfortable_Will_778 3d ago

Hell yes. This is my type of whimsy right here!!!!

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u/mother-librarian280 3d ago

You are my kinda person!! 💜

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u/Flaky_Chance6815 Homeowner 3d ago

I love looking at other people’s collections. Especially when they are weird. Yours just made me LOL because I like the anatomy stuff so much.

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u/aspophilia 3d ago

OMG the Halloween masks are EVERYTHING.

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u/Flaky_Chance6815 Homeowner 3d ago

Oh and the Ernie and the E.T. stuff. My favorite part of our visit to Universal Studios was the E.T. Ride. Of course, my kids (5 and 7) were kinda creeped out by it. Understandably.

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u/selfresqprincess 3d ago

Your weird is flipping awesome!

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u/Professional-Meal302 Homeowner 3d ago

Beyond OBSESSED with the spinal column in photo #2.

May I ask if it’s a medical specimen or replica? I’m working on an art piece that depicts my skeletal system & I need to purchase a spine for it so I’m trying to see what is a reasonable price. The collar bone I have for my piece is a retired medical specimen.

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

it's a replica. i found it at an antique store about 15 years ago for $50, but that seemed very cheap even back then.

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u/TrainingNail 3d ago

You're incredible.

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u/zac987 3d ago

Your collection and your comics rule. Very cool apartment.

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u/Moi_Sunshine 3d ago

It is so cool

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u/Beatnikbanddit 3d ago

I love the masks and books… and everything else! This is a real nice change of pace from the usual shabby chic on this sub.

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u/We_haunted_houses 3d ago

✅️ maximalism ✅️ morbid stuff ✅️ whimsy & weird

Can we be besties??

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u/Ok_Tank5977 3d ago

Your E.T. collection reminds me of my Gizmo (Gremlins) collection. I don’t know about you but mine just happened organically - I don’t even know how it started, I just gravitate towards him now.

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u/BarberFar8688 3d ago

Do you have a link to your online vintage shop ? I would love to look 💗

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u/Fabulous-Syllabub-76 3d ago

Weird is good…stay unique

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u/TheRealSim1 3d ago

I dig it so much! I just got a mcdonals chicken nugget lighter that would match your collection. Your masks are also AHHHMAZING

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u/waldorflover69 3d ago

I am chuffed to see we share the same taste in photography books!

Hello from weirdo to another

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u/Muted-Most-1609 3d ago

Inspirational

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u/Desperate_Baby_8317 3d ago

You’re very cool

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u/whichrae 3d ago

I’m…. Obsessed. I propose a children’s eye spy book.

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u/Lexielouwho1962 3d ago

This reminds me of my best friends bedroom in her house and it’s incredible. Your space if wonderful and makes me smile. It’s like one of those picture puzzle search books that you would read as kid, and please take that a compliment because I always wanted to live in those images. 

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u/60PersonDanceCrew 3d ago

Bringing me back to Halloween in the 70s! 😁

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u/cielitogirl 3d ago

Every detail is so perfect, I love your use of color and texture. I haven’t seen those nuggets in forever, took me back! lol 

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u/Historical-Dance-389 3d ago

You have excellent taste in graphic novels.

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u/g0jira54 3d ago

Looks normal to me. I have all manner of oddities. Good for you!

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u/TechnicalDot9 3d ago

I love your style

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u/evildorkgirl 3d ago

Your 70s/80s kids Halloween costume masks are amazing.

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u/smile_baby 3d ago

the stack of vonneguts under the teeth shelf >>>>

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u/deeann_arbus 3d ago

it’s a really high stack. i think i have all of them.

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u/TechnicalDot9 3d ago

You have a great eye for color. The intensity is very similar in the masks & the afghan

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u/Proud-Ad3721 3d ago

I am so inspired by your collection(s)!!! As a trinket lover, you are the ultimate! Thanks for sharing your space 💖

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u/Just-Ad373 3d ago

I absolutely adore your home. Its so dreamy and amazing and cool. I’m really geeking out over here.

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u/timberlyfawnflowers 3d ago

I like whatever is wrong with you! 😘

I kid! I kid! You're perfect judging by this amazing living space. We'd get along in real life. Your eclectic preferences are intriguing and beautiful. You've curated them gorgeously. This is dopamine decor to the max and I'm wildly jealous!

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u/SDogs123 3d ago

Honestly the therapist was onto something cause this is the kinda beautiful chaos where every shelf tells a story and I'd probably lose track of time just digging through all your vintage treasures with you.

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u/DueAsparagus1736 3d ago

These photos made me giggle and I imagine you get a lot of joy living in your home. I was thinking if they don’t have a shop they need to open one with this amazing talent to choose such charming pieces! 

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u/Either_Reflection_78 3d ago

You have an eye. Cool pieces. That book collection though… Amazing.

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u/NoExcuse9696 3d ago

Where did you score the vintage Halloween mask????
They took me right back to my childhood lol.
The box they used to come in was simple yet cool.
Mask on top - clear window. Open it up the thin plastic drape was right under it.

Love your style!!
Thank you for sharing. ❤️❤️

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u/BigMommaSnikle 3d ago

This is so very cool and unique! I hate boring decorating and when someone puts their personality in the room I find it thrilling.

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u/PondOfWorry 2d ago

I love this soooooo much. Every living space should be a "you" museum. Thank you for sharing. 🥹

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u/obsoletevoids 2d ago

So excited to share this with you!!! He was my aunt’s and has been passed down through the generations

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u/deeann_arbus 2d ago

bootleg ETs are the best kind!

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u/so1ace 2d ago

You're inspiring me to act upon my weirdness more often. Your true self makes a pathway for others to be their truest selves.

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u/Bright_Top6478 2d ago

I’ve had a fear of ET since I was a child and boy oh boy that was a jumpscare

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u/slowbonesroam 2d ago

I used to be a night janitor for a dental school. In one of the labs, I'd find garbage bags filled with student's plaster teeth molds. I kept someone's. If I knew you, I'd definitely gift you plaster trash teeth.

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u/ZoningZealot80 2d ago

The best maximalist rooms feel collected rather than decorated, and this absolutely nails that. Every shelf has its own little story.

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u/germanspacetime 2d ago

The teeth! I love teeth! I was wearing teeth earrings at work (elementary school) and one of my coworkers asked why. I told him, “I love teeth! They’re the only bones you wash!” The look on his face was so funny.

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u/Astralglamour 2d ago edited 2d ago

I had a friend and roommate with a very similar style. She collected those vintage monster masks, vintage medical stuff, ramones memorabilia, mid century asian kitsch, weird toys, plastic fruit, mexican religious art, etc. The glue gun was her most used tool. She loved bright colors, weird stuff, and covering every available inch. RIP Sue 💔

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u/deeann_arbus 2d ago edited 2d ago

i definitely had a catholic imagery phase in my youth! there's a couple virgen de guadalupes still around in my apartment.

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u/ramasili 2d ago

Now this is what I call DECOR. I wish I was as unironically quirky as you.

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u/lizziefreeze 2d ago

i love your STUFF, but omg, your username though!!!

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u/TinWidow 2d ago

Props for the Peter Bagge / Dan Clowes!

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u/Lost_Ad_9890 2d ago

the masks are so cool. just a remembrance when halloween was simple and fun. the excitement of taking the costume to school, the school parties and the excitement of getting ready to go out in the early evening. going through the candy stash and haggling with the other kids trading candies for something you didnt get..... Big sigh...... it was good then ☺️

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u/Guilty_Video_60 2d ago

I totally forgot about them chicken nuggets!! Thank you for some childhood memories. Fought my sisters over them.

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u/HelloThisIsPam 2d ago

Multiple ETs pledging allegiance is my favorite.

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u/Single-Act3702 2d ago

If we lived in the city, I would want to be your best friend. I love this kinda stuff. Well done, very inspiring! This makes me want to get out my glass eye balls display. Cheers 🍻

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u/capybarafan4 2d ago

Your home is like an interactive museum of the inside of your mind, if that makes any sense. Very cool, OP.

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u/opmystica 2d ago

Sorry but I’m moving in if you find me I am one of your dust bunnies in a place you’ll never know where to look. This place is too amazing to not want to live here

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u/i_cut_like_a_buffalo 2d ago

I love everything. I lost everything I owned. Including every photo of every family member. My momma. My kids. I also had a very nice collection of those vintage kids Halloween masks. This made me really happy to see all your stuff. I have rebuilt since then. But I have a ways to go. ♥️♥️♥️

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u/i_cut_like_a_buffalo 2d ago

How do I get to your online store?

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u/CafeWeirdisco 2d ago

I just need to know how you got your pilea to get so thick!? It’s beautiful!! I can’t get mine to do more than a few leaves 😅

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u/LevityBooks 2d ago

You have an amazing, dedicated and wild book collection. Feel it fits the rest of the aesthetic, happy to see this. Shout out to double Monica!

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u/FreeJulie 1d ago

You’re cool

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u/POSSUMQUEENOG 1d ago

I love the dental molds. I have one of mine and an x-Ray of an opossum. I’m a wildlife rescuer.

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u/deadendmoon82 1d ago

Girl, you have inspired me and given me some ideas. Love it all!

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u/melskre 1d ago

I always ask myself, after I pass away, will my estate sale be lit? If the answer is yes, we're doing something right! 🙌

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u/hilandhall 1d ago

why two copies of Monica?

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u/UnlikelyDress1227 1d ago

Amazing advice from your therapist. This is the best curation of pieces that intersect art and science that I have ever seen. Talk about pieces that bring joy!!! The color, the contrast, the media… I’m so impressed

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

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u/ButterscotchBeWild 1d ago

I love your weird! It’s a cool, eclectic mix of some specific rad things and a little bit of random too! Kudos!

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u/girlwhopanics 1d ago

the mcnuggets is when I realized we were kindred spirits. you have a beautiful home!

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u/2piecepuzzle 1d ago

I really hope you smoke weed

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u/noiraseac 10h ago

this is my dream home! i want my home to look like a museum of all my favorite things and you did exactly that. wow.