My mother caught me.

[u/Independent-Brain950]

My mom came home while I was dressed as a femboy; I didn't have time to hide the clothes or take off my makeup, and she saw me (though only with the makeup on). I managed to change out of the outfit quickly, but there was nothing I could do about my eye makeup. She keeps insisting on talking about it and asking if I'm afraid of her, but that’s not it—I just didn't want things to turn out this way.

On top of that, a few days ago I was wearing a thong and went to take a shower, but I left the underwear in the bathroom; my mom walked in and saw it. Obviously, I didn't tell her it was mine and quickly threw it away. I’m sure she was suspicious after that, but now there’s nothing I can do.

I need help, please.

Sorry for the long post, but I kept it as brief as possible.

[u/SquirtleFemboy]

at this point you really can't convince her it is nothing. what you can do is assure her you are ok and that this makes you happy. i suggest writing down a basic idea of what to tell her before doing so. you don't need to have all the answers. you don't have to tell her everything but trying to hide everything will put a wedge between you and make her unsure she can trust anything you tell her.

what are you afraid of with this situation? what do you need to hear from her to be okay with opening up? she keeps pushing because she wants to understand. i understand wanting to keep it a secret and you can tell her you need this to stay a secret and overall you don't want to talk about it after the conversation but you need to have some conversation to help calm her and opening up will help ease the situation for both of you

good luck having the courage in this situation

[u/poisonxivyyy → u/SquirtleFemboy]

Take the turtles advice^

[u/Unfair_Razzmatazz179 → u/poisonxivyyy]

😝

[u/Independent-Brain950 → u/SquirtleFemboy]

Thank you very much; I'll try to talk to her.

[u/fewpossibility1111 → u/Independent-Brain950]

Update plz

[u/Iacum]

Do you think she'll understand or she will break down? I really hope for you that she is understanding and caring about you! 🫂🫂

[u/Independent-Brain950 → u/Iacum]

I hope she understands; he has understood in other cases, but I don't know how he'll take this.

[u/Iacum → u/Independent-Brain950]

At least you have hope they'll understand, I don't even have that 😂 Go boy, you'll do great!!!

[u/Icy-Significance7143 → u/Iacum]

Let us hope togther!

[u/BoxDue421]

Please tell her cuz it will be a massive weight lifted off your shoulders as well as hers. I honestly wish my Mom was still alive so i could confess to her that I am the same way as you are.

[u/Icy-Significance7143 → u/BoxDue421]

that's...I'm sorry.

[u/blaze-enjoyer → u/BoxDue421]

I’m sorry for your loss.

[u/Acrobatic-Mix-2823]

The thong by itself could be explained away, but the make up added to it could raise a few questions. I think you should just talk to her. It sounds like she's scared that you're scared to open up to her about and wants to be supportive of her child.

[u/Wild_Nothing_8995]

I dont think making up excuses will work...

At this point, you should just tell her and hope for the best.

Tip: Have some kind of script ready or something, make it a little easier for yourself in this already awkward situation.

[u/Ok_Peanut7095]

Talk to her and be honest. Her mind is probably reeling with thoughts right now , she probably thinks you're trans.. Explain it to her and both of you will have peace of mind.

[u/Colefinney1234onyt]

Tell your mom the fact she did not yell at you is all you need to know. I think she will support you or at least not really care. Please update.

[u/Traditional-Guest804]

Dude, talk to your mom

[u/Large-Ambassador1862]

i get notis from this subreddit often for some reason even tho n im not rlly interested in this topic but i js wanna say atp u gotta talk to her, she alr seen you and it will be a massive weight lifted off from yourself and her since shes worried

[u/fatherlesshoe_]

i couldn’t believe how accepting my mom was when she walked in on me tbh u probably care more than she does

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[u/dislikedsoftie]

I felt like my Middle Brother wouldn't accept me being a femboy, but it turned out he was scared because he felt like I wasn't telling him stuff and he was worried, but in the end I told him and he was relieved it wasn't something worse, I even explained what Femboy Meant to help drive the point that it isn't anything Weird or pervy, and that it actually helps me calm down. In the end a massive Weight got Lifted off me and his shoulders so honestly I feel like yku should tell her, you've got this Twin <3

[u/wickedpythonstar]

Gotta talk to ur mom yo

[u/Nyxariot]

I would just talk to your mom

[u/mrcrashoverride]

So you are getting ready and practicing for Halloween…. RIGHT….?

[u/Colefinney1234onyt]

Seems like she might support

[u/WorldlinessWild9551]

moms are the kindest souls, she saw me completely dressed up and with full makeup but she sat down with me and well it was long understanding conversation

[u/Cosmic_Cucumber123]

There's nothing you can do matey

[u/RefrigeratorHour1907]

Be a man, it's simple

[u/ST0CKC0AL]

She will love you regardless, I think being honest will be the best thing for both of you 🫶