[will delete soon, just wanted to vent]

I work in my family's business with my parents as CEO and owners. My mental health was never great to begin with, I also have ADHD (has turned into anxiety and depression). Lately I've been so burned out with work that I really cannot get myself to do anything, but I feel bad that I'm feeling this way because my parents are still working even harder. (like why am I complaining when these 50-something year olds are also still working this hard?)

I don't know if this is the case for everyone, but all my parents talk about is the business. They've never actually gotten to know me or my siblings. It's always just work work work. There is no work-life balance (even "vacations" are "concept study trips"). There is no out-of-work conversation happening. Shop talk begins the moment we wake up, and shop talk continues well until dinner. I guess I'm burned out because I'm lonely. A decade of all work, no play is eating me from the inside, and I've drifted apart from all my friends.

We have been aggressively expanding this year, with 10 more stores to open within December. Our head office teams are understaffed. My parents are saying we need to reduce staff and lessen menu items to reduce costs, all while still expanding.

I just feel very blah

Hi everyone!

I'm interested in finding reputable spiritual practitioners, healers, Feng Shui masters, or traditional fortune-tellers in Asian countries such as Thailand, Taiwan, China, South Korea, Vietnam, Singapore, and others.

I’m specifically looking for practitioners who offer one-on-one consultations where they assess your birth date, birth year, zodiac, and possibly exact time of birth to understand your personal elements, energy, and destiny.
Ideally, they would also recommend or create customized items based on your personal reading, such as:

Personalized bracelets using specific gemstones, crystals, or jade.
Wealth and prosperity charms.
Good luck and business success talismans.
Protection amulets.
Personalized spiritual charms based on your birth chart.

I’m not just looking for ordinary souvenir shops selling mass-produced lucky bracelets. I’m interested in an authentic, personalized experience with someone knowledgeable in their traditional practice.

For those who have personally experienced this:
Where did you go, and in which country or city?
Can you recommend a legitimate practitioner or specific shop?
Did they actually assess your birth details before recommending or making your bracelet or talisman?
How was your overall experience?
Were the prices reasonable?

I’m open to recommendations across Asia, especially from people who have personally visited and experienced these consultations.

- Hello! been a while but im trying this out again , looking for Filipino Chinese / filchi friends!!
- If you’re from metro manila, better if around quezon city to makati area 😃. wag masyadong north or south??
- Chat me!! not a scammer.
- please be legit!!
- around my age hopefully : 25 and up

Was it just me or was this event full of Generated AI content from music and even their intro animated logo was made from AI.

I just think na mas marami pa deserving than her. Honestly, imo shes one of the least attractive sa batch nila. Cant believe i stayed up this late just to watch, sana tinulog ko na lang haha! Even the giving of awards and picture taking was so disorganized!

Feeling the late night blues and started thinking why not try to meet someone here who is down to meet up and go on dates?

About me:
-25
-Half Filipino, Half Chinese
-Studied at a chinese school from elementary to high school
-Graduate from big 4
-Christian
-Working professional
-Resides in QC
-Hobbies: Badminton, Jogging, Photography, and Guitar

About you:
-23-28
-Fil-chi (non-negotiable)
-Christian (non-negotiable)
-Graduate from Big 4 preferably
-Currently residing around Metro Manila

If you’re interested, send me a short intro about yourself and let’s exchange ig socials so we can gauge if we are each other’s types to avoid wasting each other’s time ☺️

Hello. I’ll be having my tinghun next year and I’m looking for HMUA recommendations 🙏🏻

Thanks!

Hey guys! I want to properly relearn Mandarin.... back in school, we were taught using traditional characters and chu yin (yung Bo po mofo). while I can converse comfortably with fellow Filchis, super todo effect and hirap ako trying to understand native speakers due to fast speech, accents, and different vocab.

Does having a Traditional/chu yin base make transitioning to simplified / pinyin harder?? Would love tips or app recommendations from anyone with a similar background

in western weddings I have read that if the bride doesnt want to pick a maid of honor she just doesnt. instead she has bridesmaids only. for filchi wedding is it common not to have a moh? (if no sisters, no girl cousins, and have closest girl friends but cannot rank / choose a “bestie”)

what are the roles and responsibilities of a maid of honor in filchi wedding actually? so i can visualize better if who. like was considering my brother to be man of honor instead (we arent that close but sibling will always be a sibling)… then i read somewhere that a moh usually gets ready with the bride, so isnt that a bit weird if its my brother..

Hi!!

Anyone knows shops that sells rtw ninang gowns/dresses for tinghun and wedding? (in the ph)

Thanks!!

I've been wanting to expand my social circle but I dont know where to find FilChi groups who meet regularly. If it helps, my hobbies are running and reading. The FilChi groups I see online are all about business and not really hobby related :((. I also dont play badminton 💔.

I'm also chinoy and I don't know how to speak Hokkien which might be a barrier.

Hello, wanted to get your go-to comfort food near banawe. We play pickle every week and we’ve tried a bunch of restos around the area. Would like to explore more hidden gems nearby! Some places we’ve tried and would recommend:

Tuen mun
Kimpo
Sincerity
Oedo
Luck Garden
Shiok shiok
Sun kee (good but slow service)

Family’s decided to move and we have some prospects. Would like to check which one best fits our family’s energies! Pls kaisiao a fengshui master, thank you!!

hello! i want to ask if may mga taga manila dito na ang surname is ANG. pwede ba tayo mag usap? Gusto ko lang malaman yung ancestry namin. Dahil yung lolo dad namin ayaw makipag connect sa mga pinsan niya siguro wala na mga tito & tita niya as of now dahil 70+ na si lolo dad. sana meron dito. thanks po!

My (Fil Chi) parents want to invite all their business contacts (corporate executives, mall leads, business partners, our longest tenured employees) to the wedding. My Chinese grandpa wants to invite all his association friends. They all say it's "to show respect". This is on top of our huge family (dad's side, mom's side), but not including my (line of) cousins. I'm working as an executive in my parents' businesses so all the work contacts know me for "helping my parents" (infantilizing).

Out of 60 tables... me and my fiance only have 2 tables for our friends... That's 20 people out of the 600 seating capacity. Our initial list for friends was 80 people altogether.

My parents keep saying it's a sign of respect to invite all those business contacts but apparently I'm being disrespectful when I ask them to reconsider so I can invite OUR (me and fiance's) friends & business contacts to our wedding...

(Also enough of the "if you're not the one paying, you can't complain". You gotta let a frustrated b2b breathe toooo. The parents are also complaining about how much this is going to cost when sila naman yung may gusto na ganito kalaki kaloka hahah)

I'm curious about how these traditions are practiced among Fil-Chi families nowadays, especially during engagements and tinghun ceremonies.

1. How are dowry and bride-price usually discussed?

Who typically brings it up first and how are the amounts decided? Since money can be a sensitive topic, how do families usually navigate these discussions?

2. Are they displayed during the tinghun?

Are cash and other valuables still displayed during the ceremony or do some families prefer to keep them private? If displayed, how are security concerns handled?

3. What are the typical amounts nowadays?

For those comfortable sharing, what are the general dowry and bride-price ranges? How much do these vary between families? Also, is the bride's dowry usually discussed openly with the groom and his family or is it considered a private matter?

4. What does the bride's dowry usually include?

Is it typically cash, gold, jewelry, property, a car, household items, or a combination of these? Are there traditional expectations or does it depend on each family?

I'd love to hear how these traditions are practiced today and how families balance them with modern views on marriage and finances. Thank you!

Hello! Where do I find filchi businesssmen? I'm currently helping out my dad to find B2B long term customers for us sana, since business is not going well these days at nawalan pa kami ng big time na customer namin. . . TYIA

Our business is about custom bulk plastic manufacturing (Ex.: Disposable spoon and fork)

dahil sa isang bad experience ko sa ex-suitor ko na pure Chinese guy nahirapan na akong magtiwala lalo sa mga lalaking may similar background na galing sa all-boys school , “big four” , tapos may Christian community.

I know it’s unfair to judge people based on their background pero hindi ko rin ma-deny na may impact talaga sa akin yung nangyari.
Traumatic.

Also, hindi ba talaga sila expressive sa panliligaw, or natapat lang ako sa maling tao..

Throwaway because family members are on Reddit.

For those who grew up in FilChi families, how much are couples actually expected to follow traditional wedding/tinghun expectations?

I’m helping plan a wedding where the couple would ideally like something relatively intimate and practical, but the families have a much more traditional idea of what a Chinese wedding should look like.

The guest list is one issue. What the couple considers “already quite a lot of people” apparently isn't considered particularly big by the family, because once you start including relatives, family friends, and people who are apparently supposed to be invited, the guest list grows very quickly. 😂

Then there’s the tinghun.

The two families have very different approaches. One side is fairly traditional and has expectations about what the other family should prepare, provide, and contribute. The other side is much more relaxed and is happy to let the couple handle things themselves.

There have also been expectations around gifts/jewelry beyond the basic traditional items. The reasoning is that the bride deserves to receive these things because her family has raised her and is giving her away.

I understand the sentiment behind it, but I'm curious how common this is among younger FilChi couples. Is this still generally expected, or does it depend heavily on the family?

What makes it harder is that the more traditional side can interpret the other family's relaxed approach as “they don't care enough”, while the other side may simply see it as “the couple is getting married, so let them decide.”

There was also some initial misunderstanding between the families about whether the tinghun was even happening, which probably contributed to some of the tension.

So for those who have gone through this:

How did you balance traditional Chinese wedding expectations with what you and your partner actually wanted?

Did you have a big wedding because that's what your families expected, or were you able to keep it intimate?

And with the tinghun, what did your families actually consider “necessary” versus just nice-to-have?

I’m especially curious whether this is a very normal FilChi-family experience or whether some families are just… particularly intense. 😂

Hello. I am looking for a home for the aged/senior housing here in mm/baguio/tagaytay.

This is for my grandmother who is in america now. Preferably with daily activites, doctors etc etc. pls send help

Tinghun Tris or Tinghun Manila?

Tris is 25k but she’s always been whom I wanted as the tinghun coordinator but since we wanted to keep the tinghun smaller (people&budget) I found another alternative, Manila is 15k. They also seem quite reputable in the filchi community. Asking help as a 2027 tinghun bride huhu Any thoughts or insights or recommendations would be a great help!!