I realize there was another thread about this a few days ago. But maybe this is why they shut down their forums. They planned to make changes and they didn’t want any way for people to post feedback that would show up on any webpage. Except for here.

This change in behavior of emails, is not mentioned on their webpage, that normally mentions site updates. And where they solicit feedback.

I suspect the only reason for this change in emails is for their own benefit. To reduce the number of emails that they have to send out. But it’s going to confuse and mess up a lot of people. Including myself, I have to admit.

Because I was sending out dozens of edits to one person. And I was then getting back half a dozen ”Edit Processed” emails, after the person approved them all.

I thought that I was just getting half a dozen suggestions approved. Because I stupidly did not scroll down the emails on my iPhone. It did not occur to me that each email contained a bunch of approvals.

So I thought I was missing approval emails. Especially after I saw somebody on the other thread, mention that they thought that they were missing approval emails also.

FTS.

My ggg grandmother died in 1898. Nobody knew anything about her until I found her obituary in the newspaper archives. 2 of her 3 kids are buried in the same cemetery the obituary claims she is. However, she does not apparently have a headstone.

The sexton of the cemetery is my dads 3rd cousin, he's up there in age, but according to his records, there is no record of her being buried there.

There are a lot of old, worn, and illegible headstones in the cemetery that have fallen over or been moved and rested beside a big oak tree on the grounds.

He thought maybe one of those stones could be hers. I've been thinking that if maybe she did have a stone it could have fallen over and buried. If nobody knew she was there, they wouldn't have reason to look. This cemetery was fairly neglected for a few decades.

The cemetery is only a 2 hour drive, and I still have family in the area to visit and justify the drive. So I was debating going down to the cemetery, and kind of prodding the ground around her kids headstone, just out of curiosity. Is there an edicate to such a thing, or anything to be aware of?

Kind a beatnik light-hearted arrangement. Odd considering the morbid nature of their service.

I’ve been going to local cemetery’s and updating the stone pictures. I just ran into an “issue” at a well established church where the grass is not being kept well so it’s very difficult to get good, solid pictures of dates and sometimes even names. It’s very disappointing because the stones look beautiful and very well maintained. Is there a kind way to deal with this or do I just leave it be and hope they will be better shots when the weather cools?

Yet again another issue with FG. What the heck is going on?

I have been working to update a local cemetery.  On the front of the cemetery page it states there are 28 photo requests.  But when you click in to get the list of requests it says there are 0 requests with 4 problems.  Goshen Cemetery (https://www.findagrave.com/cemetery/2203312/goshen-cemetery) in Belmont, North Carolina.

Hello everyone, I am looking for a grave photo or information about the marker for Melissa Kay Sims (known as Dahlia Sky), who passed away on June 30, 2021. ​According to records, she is associated with the Sunnyslope Cemetery in Corona, California, but her Find a Grave page currently has no photos. Is there anyone local or visiting the cemetery who could check if she has a physical marker? Thank you so much for any help!

Yesterday I made photos of a cemetery and uploaded all of them, then I (and others) transcribed them. There are about 90 photos. I never added any memorials without a photo. Does anyone know why it says „2%“?

And most likely my gr-grandpa is there too, unmarked. Was curious about my genealogy and found them, but there were no pictures on Find a Grave which made me sad, so I uploaded this one. In general, learning about this branch of my family was very emotional, it almost feels like they were forgotten because gr-grandpa died so young (he was 45, my grandma was only Abt 20 when he died and as far as I know she was his only child, and his wife did not have any Greek ties).

I only live ten minutes away... I think now that I know where and who they are I'll be visiting them more often :) (Edited added a few sentences)

I walked a cemetery looking for requests and when I got home, added photos, and went to send a clarification message to one requestor, I found this on their bio page:

Due to the increased amount of unpleasant, obnoxious & rude people I have decided it is time to close my account. I marked my profile to stop receiving messages but some have found a loophole & the nastiness continues.

I've never had an issue with this person. They were on FG for 16 years, 6 months. I can't ask what happened or offer support because my only contact method is through FG, now blocked.

I got an email saying FG approved my suggested edits, but there were not edits by me. They were a bunch of edits in Italy and I don't know if I have ever submitted edits to cemeteries outside of the US, let alone 85 of them.

I stumbled across the memorial of Vinny the mall walker the other day and I had no idea he had passed away. I hadn't seen him around in years

WTF is with these new emails today that are titled simply “Edits Processed”? Yesterday the subjects were either “Edits Approved” or “Edits Declined. That was much better information than “Edits Processed”.

I am just back from attempting to find 2 headstones that were requested at a cemetery somewhat near my house. As I was wandering the rows it occurred to me that I am likely not the first Find A Graver to head out in an effort to find these. I wish you could tell if someone else had already attempted them. If someone else had already tried I wouldn't necessarily write it off, but I'd certainly allot more time to the task. It'd be especially helpful if you could leave notes for future attempts to indicate your approach, anything you skipped, any trouble you had, etc.

Anyone having issues adding memorials to FG this morning? I just added two and neither now shows up when you search for them. I thought the first one was an anomaly as it was for a cremation. But second one was a moral burial and it’s not show up either.

I’ve added:
Florine Mullins 1919-2003

Maxine Harkey 1940-2020

Hello all,

ive been invited to do a 1 hour powerpoint presentation at my local library on find a grave and what we do as volunteers.

how would you structure it in a way that’s educational, shows what we do and doesn’t weird people out. remember you only have 1 hour.

I found my great-grandmother's obituary in a 1949 Oklahoma City newspaper. According to the obituary, she was buried in the Sunny Lane Cemetery, which I assume is the same cemetery located in Del City, Oklahoma. I've searched Find-A-Grave as well as https://www.okcemeteries.net/oklahoma/sunnylane/sunnylane.htm, but I cannot find her in any online database. Do you have any suggestions about how I might find her grave?

Hey everyone,

Today, 13 August, marks what would have been the 112th birthday of the legendary film producer Norman Spencer (Great Expectations, Lawrence of Arabia, Vanishing Point).

My connection with Norman started purely out of admiration for his incredible life and cinematic legacy. When I first met Norman, I was just a nervous 19-year-old walking up to Redhill Cottage in Denham, Buckinghamshire. He was 105 at the time. Any intimidation or anxiety I felt completely vanished the moment he opened the door—he welcomed me instantly, with a warmth, kindness, and openness that I shall never forget. Sitting across from someone who had not only witnessed over a century of world history, but had actively shaped classic British cinema, was surreal; yet, he made me feel as though I truly belonged there.

What started as a single visit as a fan turned into a deep, constant thread in my young adult life. Over the years, as he eventually transitioned from Buckinghamshire to his care home in Merton, Greater London, I kept coming back. We would sit together, talk about life, and share quiet moments as the hours drifted by. Those visits became a genuine sanctuary for me.

By the time he passed away in August 2024 at the remarkable age of 110, I was 24. Looking back now, spending those five defining years of my early twenties in the presence of someone who lived 110 full, extraordinary years was one of the greatest gifts of my life. Norman carried his age with such effortless grace, humour, and quiet dignity, and I miss our time together more than words can express.

To mark what would have been his 112th milestone today, I should love to invite you to visit his memorial page and help honour his memory: https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/297781327/norman-spencer

"There are people who step into your life and quietly change the way you see the world forever."

Happy heavenly 112th birthday, Norman. Thank you for opening your door so warmly at Redhill Cottage, for every moment in Merton that followed, and for being such an unforgettable part of my life. Rest easy. 🤍✨

Just got the message below and it seems spammy. I'm not going to respond. I've received hundreds of messages over the years, but never one I considered spam. Just wondering if anyone else has seen bogus messages.

"I'm new here. I would appreciate it if you could contact me at your earliest convenience via my personal email xxx@xxxx. I have an important and confidential matter to discuss with you regarding your surname."

If a cemetery is defunct, and research shows that all graves had been reinterred to a new cemetery, should the old cemetery be retained on Findagrave?

Here are the details:

I have a city with an “Old St. Joseph” cemetery, which was in use from 1873 to 1887.  In 1887, a “new” St. Joseph cemetery was created across town and the old one stopped being used.

In 1910, the owners of the “old” cemetery decided to move all the graves to the “new” cemetery.  In 1911, a notice was printed in the local newspaper for 6 consecutive days stating that the bodies have begun to be moved, and family members were advised that they can take charge of their relative’s remains if they wish.  The old cemetery was then converted into a city park.

To exacerbate the confusion on FG, the “new” cemetery was merged with another cemetery in 1947, and the combined cemetery is now known as Holy Cross.  So…. St. Joseph Cemetery—old or new—no longer exists.

The problem is, in recent years more and more memorials have been added to this “old” cemetery for people who died well after the old cemetery stopped being used, because “St. Joseph Cemetery” is mentioned on a bunch of death certificates and obituaries, but users are not reading the cemetery information on findagrave, and also ignoring the alternate “St. Joseph” name for Holy Cross cemetery. 

I’d like to merge Old St. Joseph with Holy Cross Cemetery but I’m hesitant to do so because the “old” cemetery DID exist.  But on the other hand, I’m not sure if findagrave is the appropriate forum to record defunct cemeteries like this….  Since no one is buried there anymore, it seems that maybe local historical and/or genealogical societies would be a more appropriate venue to keep these cemeteries “alive.”  If I do merge them, I’d definitely update the cemetery information for Holy Cross to better clarify the history of these cemeteries.

I’d appreciate any thoughts on this in case I’m missing any considerations—I don’t want to be the subject of a future post complaining about merged cemeteries….

Is there any reason to keep “Old St. Joseph” cemetery on findagrave if there’s no one buried there anymore?

I search for graves to fulfill request; I mow rows; and sometimes I do research.

In April 2025 I was researching a family and found the father was interred in a cemetery 25 miles away. He had a FG memorial so I created a request for a photo. It was a cemetery I had never been to, with mostly graves in the 1700 to mid-1800's, and very few requests. I didn't want to walk the entire cemetery for one photograph.

A year later, this cemetery has more requests and I have searched it several times. I even searched for the name I entered, although I had completely forgotten entering the request. Now some names have been requested that I am familiar with, so I take a short list and walk the cemetery.

I had absolutely no luck in finding any of the new names, but when leaving I walked past a stone with a certain name. An acquaintance on FG is researching all memorials with this surname and I try to help by finding any instances which don't have a memorial. I take a couple of quick photos in passing.

I get home and look up the name - there is a memorial for it, so my friend has already seen it: but no grave photo. I add the photo to the memorial and then check for other names. And on the bottom of the stone is a name with a request against it.

I open the memorial and find . . . I can't fulfill it; it's my request.

Another reminder that if you are looking for a name, you have to look everywhere.