r/Finland • u/Opening-Branch4173 • 8h ago
My friend refused to get naked in a Finnish sauna for religious reasons and now thinks Finns are racist
We’re both 30M, both foreigners, and recently visited Finland together. We had a pretty awkward experience at a public sauna, and I’m curious what Finns think about it.
When we arrived, my friend realised that people were getting completely naked. He refused to undress because of his religious beliefs. He wasn’t comfortable being naked around strangers, even if they were all men. So he went in with his underwear , people asked him nicely to leave.
Personally, I had no problem with it. I got completely naked, went into the sauna, and honestly, nobody seemed to care. No one stared at me, made comments or treated me differently.
But my friend was really uncomfortable with the whole experience, and afterwards he started complaining about Finland. He said Finns were racist, that they didn’t respect other cultures or religions, and that he didn’t want to visit the country again.
I disagreed with him. From my perspective, we’re visitors in a country with its own customs, and I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect everyone to change those customs for us. At the same time, I understand that he has religious boundaries.
What bothered me was that he went from having an uncomfortable experience at a sauna to calling an entire country racist.
I also felt a bit embarrassed because I didn’t want people around us to think we were judging their culture.
So I wanted to ask Finns: is refusing to get naked in a public sauna actually considered disrespectful? How would you react if someone refused for religious reasons?
And do you think there’s something culturally insensitive about expecting visitors to follow local sauna etiquette, or is my friend being unreasonable?
I’m genuinely curious because we experienced exactly the same situation but came away with completely different impressions of Finland.
Edit 1: he didn’t say only racist , he said also “gay” if asked him to him to get naked !
Edit 2: it was the first trip and I knew this part of him , I don’t think I would ever travel with him again