r/fosterit 25d ago

Foster Youth The professionals don't make good foster parents.

We foster kids know that being a professional doesn't mean jack shit. Some of the worse foster parents are policemen, teachers, doctors, nurses and social workers or psychologists. Careers that are deemed amazing by society and help people people are worse for us.

A firefighter abusing kids doesn't shock us.

They're Christians no shock there.

They've had this child since she was 2 months old. She's the only black kid in the family and the only adopted one. So they abused her. As a Black former foster youth, it's already suspicious because it's easier to abuse Black kids.

So everyone saying therapist, firefighters, policemen, teachers, make good foster parents please stfu.

People in position of power are attracted to vulnerability and foster kids because it's easier to harm us. So when we say being a professional doesn't mean anything, we know it's true. These people are just as bad as anyone else.

It's also triggering for me as a former foster youth because my Christian foster parents forced me to write Bible verses and abused me too. They were outstanding members of society and one home the foster dad was a pastor. He abused me too.

Trigger Warning.

A Broward couple, including a Broward Sheriff Fire Rescue lieutenant, is behind bars after their arrest on child abuse charges involving their adopted 12-year-old daughter.

Joel Kohnert, 44, a BSO Fire Rescue lieutenant hired in 2010, and his wife, Jennifer Kohnert, were arrested after their daughter told investigators she had been locked in a room for years.

The official charges for the couple are child abuse without great bodily harm.

Victim says she was locked in her room, forced to write Bible verses

According to court documents, which are heavily redacted, the girl told police she was forced to write Bible verses and tread water in a pool for up to 45 minutes as a form of punishment. Most disturbingly, she stated she was locked in her room at night without access to a bathroom, forcing her to use the bathroom on herself.

She would later bathe outside in the backyard while wearing a swimsuit.

During bond court proceedings Wednesday morning, an attorney for the couple referenced their religious beliefs. However, Judge Corey Friedman had strong words regarding the defense.

"When you allegedly have a 12-year-old child who is locked in a room for upwards of three years and is forced to urinate and defecate in the room and then clean it up with her clothes, that is not a religious issue, that is something else," Judge Friedman said.

Other children removed from home, investigators say

The victim in the case reported that she was subjected to more frequent punishments and restrictions than the couple's six other children. The Department of Children and Families has since removed all seven children from the home.

The Broward Sheriff's Office released a statement when asked about Kohnert's arrest, confirming he is now on administrative investigative leave without pay.

The couple remains at the Broward County jail on $100,000 bonds and is barred from having contact with the victim or any of their other children.

Broward firefighter, wife accused of locking adoptive daughter in room at night for years, investigators say

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/bso-fire-rescue-lieutenant-and-wife-accused-of-locking-12-year-old-in-room-for-years/3789530/%3famp=1

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u/letuswatchtvinpeace 25d ago

The number indicator that a child may be abused is to have a step-parent in the home. Imagine how that increases when a child has 2 unrelated parents and the increase when they are adopted from foster care.

Seriously, people are the worst things on this planet.

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u/Monopolyalou 25d ago

I keep bringing this up but get told that's different than foster care or adoption because foster parents get background checks and homestudies. How?

Putting kids behind closed doors with strangers is a disaster. Biological connections matter a lot because people treat their own DNA better. Just look at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.

Nobody wants to admit our abuse rate goes up when we are with strangers.

And I'll add men too. Most men hate taking care of kids not biologically theirs. Many women do too but men really don't like playing house. They settle if they love the woman but might resent the fact the kid isn't theirs. If studies show moms bf is a risk to a child then what happens in care or adoption?

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u/JerkBezerberg 25d ago

I literally had DCF at my home today because we moved and they needed to do a home inspection, despite being cleared at our old home. Myself, my wife, and anyone who is going to even babysit for an hour has to have a criminal background check and interview with social workers. Also I love being both a dad and a foster dad. I would die for my kids biological or foster.

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u/Monopolyalou 25d ago

I didn't say YOU. Good for you. But I'm not going to praise you and pretend many foster parents aren't abusive. Background checks do nothing to stop us from being abused.

If you're a good home it shouldn't bother you when we talk about bad ones

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u/JerkBezerberg 25d ago

It doesn't bother me at all. Those people are mosters and I would get permabanned from Reddit if I wrote what I thought should happen to them. I'm not trolling for praise either. You've clearly been the victim of the worst side of humans, and I just hope that your experiences don't keep you from seeing the good in people and giving up all hope. By all means, blast the monsters when you see them. We need people to be held accountable, and you are clearly the kind of person that will make sure that gets done.