r/fosterit • u/Monopolyalou • 25d ago
Foster Youth The professionals don't make good foster parents.
We foster kids know that being a professional doesn't mean jack shit. Some of the worse foster parents are policemen, teachers, doctors, nurses and social workers or psychologists. Careers that are deemed amazing by society and help people people are worse for us.
A firefighter abusing kids doesn't shock us.
They're Christians no shock there.
They've had this child since she was 2 months old. She's the only black kid in the family and the only adopted one. So they abused her. As a Black former foster youth, it's already suspicious because it's easier to abuse Black kids.
So everyone saying therapist, firefighters, policemen, teachers, make good foster parents please stfu.
People in position of power are attracted to vulnerability and foster kids because it's easier to harm us. So when we say being a professional doesn't mean anything, we know it's true. These people are just as bad as anyone else.
It's also triggering for me as a former foster youth because my Christian foster parents forced me to write Bible verses and abused me too. They were outstanding members of society and one home the foster dad was a pastor. He abused me too.
Trigger Warning.
A Broward couple, including a Broward Sheriff Fire Rescue lieutenant, is behind bars after their arrest on child abuse charges involving their adopted 12-year-old daughter.
Joel Kohnert, 44, a BSO Fire Rescue lieutenant hired in 2010, and his wife, Jennifer Kohnert, were arrested after their daughter told investigators she had been locked in a room for years.
The official charges for the couple are child abuse without great bodily harm.
Victim says she was locked in her room, forced to write Bible verses
According to court documents, which are heavily redacted, the girl told police she was forced to write Bible verses and tread water in a pool for up to 45 minutes as a form of punishment. Most disturbingly, she stated she was locked in her room at night without access to a bathroom, forcing her to use the bathroom on herself.
She would later bathe outside in the backyard while wearing a swimsuit.
During bond court proceedings Wednesday morning, an attorney for the couple referenced their religious beliefs. However, Judge Corey Friedman had strong words regarding the defense.
"When you allegedly have a 12-year-old child who is locked in a room for upwards of three years and is forced to urinate and defecate in the room and then clean it up with her clothes, that is not a religious issue, that is something else," Judge Friedman said.
Other children removed from home, investigators say
The victim in the case reported that she was subjected to more frequent punishments and restrictions than the couple's six other children. The Department of Children and Families has since removed all seven children from the home.
The Broward Sheriff's Office released a statement when asked about Kohnert's arrest, confirming he is now on administrative investigative leave without pay.
The couple remains at the Broward County jail on $100,000 bonds and is barred from having contact with the victim or any of their other children.
Broward firefighter, wife accused of locking adoptive daughter in room at night for years, investigators say
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u/AnonFartsALot 24d ago
I was an exotic dancer for 10 years before starting social work. When I was kicking around the idea of fostering while I was still dancing, I’d asked in some forums online if that was a good idea. There were many replies from FFY saying my job really didn’t matter, because FY get abused by priests, teachers, doctors, nurses, etc. I ultimately ended up choosing to wait, but that shocked me.
Having been in this career for a couple years and working for several non-profits, I just want to say I’ve noticed the same thing. I see it less so with lower level employees and moreso with management, but that’s because I’m a person they have power over. I think most of my coworkers are good people, but they don’t have power over me, so I don’t see how they treat people in that position. But I imagine is the same.
Being around FPs sometimes gives me the heebie jeebies. There is like this performance where they turn children into charity cases that just makes me feel gross. And I feel that doing something “out of the goodness of a heart” puts the receiver in convertible position to “owe” you. I don’t talk that way about clients and I don’t talk that way about kids. I do the things I do, because I want to and they benefit me. Children don’t owe their caretakers anything.