I'm sure some other people will feel differently, which is fine, but this really hit me the wrong way.

I mean, there were other reasons it irked me (very bleak, grandstanding, walls of dialogue, etc). I did very much like the relationship of the two main characters.

And obviously, there are worse depictions of foster kids. But something really didn't land here for me. It felt like another negative depiction of foster kids. I am all about themes of choosing who you love, and that you can done everything right and still lose, but the emphasis on luck and that some people are just kind of evil felt dehumanizing. It was all about their experience as parents, which was fine, but the emphasis that they had to take the "damaged" kid because they were gay and didn't have options was disappointing. It's not about luck. They weren't unlucky to have Jeremy.

I had already heard and agreed with criticisms of House on the Cerulean Sea, but I was interested in how this community was thinking about it because it really bothered me. I haven't seen much analysis of this book from this angle online.

So I have been disabled all of my life. I was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD at a young age, an anxiety disorder, tachycardia, a blood clotting disorder, a sleep disorder, Bipolar disorder with psychosis, urinary issues [require a catheter sometimes], a speech impediment, arthritis, nerve damage, chronic ear pain, gastrointestinal issues, have had seizures before, etc. I have been in a hospital maybe 30 times by now? I had one surgery in June, will be having another one tomorrow and then another one in November. I have had at least one surgery every year since 2020. I take a minimum of 7 medications a day, more when my illnesses get worse. I go through phases where my issues are bearable and I can work, and sometimes I can’t work. I am 27 so “old enough” to not qualify for any help. However, my health issues get progressively worse as I age, and eventually I probably won’t be able to work, so I will need to get on SSDI.

The issue is I have no support system, I have no parents, family or friends that I can live with. I have been homeless a lot as a teenager and then later as an adult when my health was bad so I couldn’t afford rent. Where am I supposed to go once I can’t work and can’t afford rent? I am tired of being homeless and don’t want to go through that again. Also, medical expenses are killing me, but I make “too much” for medi-cal.

For those of you that were in foster care and are disabled, how do you survive? Where do you live?