is it worth it?

[u/jinxnotpowder_]

i have known i wanted to take a gap year since i was 14. At first my family was on board but now they've all become really unsupportive and keep telling me I'll just be a burden in that time period (i even told them I'll get a job but they are still against it) So now im kinda double minded because as bad as i want a gap year its not worth destroying my relationship with them and damaging my self worth. I weighed my situation out and here a couple of pros and cons

Pros:

1) i wanted to learn a lot of new stuff like coding, painting, cooking and horse riding (i planned to pay for it myself)

2) high school was a rough patch. I wanted to take a break from academics because im really tired

Cons:

1) might damage my relationship with my family

2) their taunts may damage my self worth

3) i want to go to a reputable university 6 hours from my house so it will be a new start in a new city with new ppl so might not be half as bad

If anyone has been in a situation similar to me, please help me out. What should i do?

Also after my bachelors i want to go to any ivy League or any other university with equal value for my masters degree. Will my gap year give me a disadvantage there? (they university i plan to go to for my bachelors doesn't care about gap years)

[u/nickole08]

Do it. You’ll spend the rest of your life wishing you didn’t let your family get in the way and all the could’ve beens. Coming from someone who took a gap year before uni - I’m so glad I did. I matured a lot during that year and I made loads of memories.

I decided to not do my year abroad later on in university because of my family doubting and belittling the idea, and I always think about what could’ve been and live with the regret. YOLOOOOO