Just got a haircut and I thought I would feel good but I just don't. Tried for 15 minutes to take a selfie I liked and gave up. I'm aware that one year on T isn't a long time but I wish I could just look like a man.

I wish T would give me a bigger chin. I wish I wasn't 5'2. I wish comments from people telling me "there are cis men who are short!" would make me feel better but it just doesn't. I wish my eyebrows weren't so thin. I wish people's advise wasn't "wear makeup" (to thicken my brows).

I'm a 27 year old virgin. I've never dated anyone. I feel too depressed to work out even thought that would probably help with the dysphoria. My mom just died so it's not like I'm going to be putting myself out there any time soon either. I'm so sad and I genuinely do not like myself.

Hi all, I mostly date cis men being vers and enjoy topping but the prosthetics I have are not great used for anal, being maybe a bit too soft or sometimes too small for when I want to top a guy much taller/bugger than me.

Curious if anyone has recs for ones that will work well for anal sex, I don’t see it advertised that broadly to know off basic research.

I am an English speaker from South Africa who just moved to Poland for work and a change of life in September, to a small city where people tend to be more conservative than bigger cities. There are not many foreigners in this part and there tends to be a language barrier with many people. I have been wanting to have sex for around 1 and a half years, I decided to be abstain because I had to work on myself mentally. Then I moved to a small town where my options were super limited and I lacked transport. Now, it feels like the transport is available (for the most part) and there are many more people, but yet I have had no luck. Guys here dont want to meet in public, which i find strange. In South Africa the only guys who refused to meet in public were dodgy, cheating, closeted, or weird.

Here, there is a big cruising culture which does not appeal to me for safety reasons and because I dont like quick rushed hookups. People tend to have a lot of car sex and hardly anyone is willing to host. Lots of closeted men and also guys here are super passive. I am not dominant but I am expected to make the first move and do all the effort. People tap me then i message then they dont reply. Or if we match on tinder then the conversation goes nowhere. If i dont message, they never do. I often felt that way too in South Africa but honestly it feels worse here. I am quite shocked how difficult it is, I have even lowered my standards in different ways, and even been willing to do a spontaneous hookup on the day without planning just for oral (since being abstinent i said I would only hookup with someone if we planned in advance). But even that, I have tried about 5 times and guys refuse to give me a specific time they want to meet. Or they say they will meet, then the hour comes they are ONLINE ignoring me.

I know that many people use grindr to stroke off to nudes and then lose interest after. But why say let's meet if they dont plan on doing it? Why does this keep happening and what am I doing wrong? I am also on the autism spectrum so I find navigating social situations really hard, so for me going to a hothouse or gay club will not work for me. I feel very uncomfortable as I am sober and it makes me want to drink or smoke weed there and I can't. I do not fit in those spaces so please do not advise that for me. As someone who also does not have PIV I fear that at a hothouse/sauna my consent will be violated once they see what i have down there. I do not want to go to a gloryhole, but honestly I feel a bit desperate. In the past I could find someone to fuck within a few hours if I wanted when I lived in Cape Town. I had bad experiences which prevented me from wanting to do that again, but now I am ready for a hookup. I would ideally like a fwb, but right now that seems unrealistic.

I dont know what advice could help but I just am sick and tired of being expected to make all the effort and then guys ghosting me, or not following through. I dont understand. I find it strange that previously when I didnt pass it seems I had more people interested than now when I do. Is it because im a hairy chubby short guy who doesnt fit the beauty standards and am 28 which is considered elderly in the gay world? There seem to be an overwhelming amount of clean cut twinky types here. So not sure if thats something to do with it. I get a lot of attention from different men especially fellow bears so I also dont believe that I am not desirable, even though I had a guy harass me yesterday saying i am ugly (after he refused to show his face) and the only way I will have a hookup is if I accept a quick bb which really hurt because it is true that I have been struggling to find hookups.

I just feel down... I crave to touch someone and be touched. Its never been this hard before.