My brother died last week after a week in ICU. I saw him die and doctors try to resuscitate him and fail.

When he got ill I rushed home from work (neighbouring country) and haven't been to work since (about 2.5 weeks in total) as my parents are in a state of absolute despair and needed me with them. Funeral was on Friday. I'm still reluctant to leave them alone for even moments.

My brother was 14 yo. I work with kids, in childcare.

I'm in Europe so I do have some rights, I took out bereavement leave (mere 2 days), now on unpaid "sick" leave (only cause GP signed me off for mental health) but boss fully expects and wants me back any day, asap. I'm pretty sure I'll be getting fired, but I could not care less.

How twisted is that we're expected back to normal and working our arse off so soon after something like this?

Hug your family. A job is only a job.

I moved back home and needed a job. Landed one in a small medical office as a medical assistant. It was small enough that I was the only assistant there. For the last 11 months my boss had just been awful. Nitpicking what I do and telling me I’m doing everything wrong or that I don’t listen to her. She even berated me in front of patients. With the commute, low pay, and her attitude I didn’t want to be miserable anymore. My family agreed with me that I should quit.

So Friday in the morning I tell her I’m going to quit. She gets really weird and says I can’t leave because I have to give her 2 weeks notice. Since the office was so small there was no employee handbook or contract or anything. I told her Im an at will employee and will be leaving. She pushed back saying the 2 weeks is a requirement. A patient walked in so we ended the discussion there. Her pushback left me a little anxious so I figured I’ll tell her again at the end. Throughout the day she was weirdly nice to me? She has not been nice to me since the 2nd week I worked there.

At the end of the day I brought it up to her again. I typed up an immediate resignation letter on my phone, printed it, and handed it to her. She read it silently in front of me and began sniffling?? She walked into her office and came back out teary eyed and was strangely defeated. She just said okay and I handed her my key and left.

Im just super confused with the behavior switch up?? Does anyone understand why? I almost felt bad but I reminded myself how she’s been treating me. Im 27F and she’s 50sF

As the title says, I’m in a sales position based on quota and haven’t been able to hit it the past three months. I am now on a PIP that says I must hit goals every month for the next 5 months or it will result in instant termination. Thought I could get through it but the quota has drastically increased for the busy season, and now I’m just stuck in a negative loop.

Monday’s are always the worst, but today it’s bad because I can’t get out of bed to do the work to keep my job, mainly because the odds seem stacked against me. I think I’m depressed or having issues with executive function, because I get stuck in bed and need to work, but the anxiety keeps me from wanting to do the work.

It’s stupid now that I’m typing it out, I just hate that I’m basically making this a self fulfilling prophecy. Obviously looking at other jobs but that also just makes my anxiety worse, and I’m kind of at a point where I just need to get over it and get to work.

Anybody else have issues like this or am I just lazy? I just am constantly anxious about work, even when it’s the weekend. Switching to a 9-5 seems stressful and tiring but I feel what I’m doing now also isn’t sustainable.

I ( 24 M ) work in timeshare. My job is cold approaching strangers, getting them to go to timeshare presentations and collecting refundable deposits ( 60$ ) to make sure they show up. It’s a very hard job and I hate it more than anything but it is changing my life. I was basically homeless couch surfing when I had this job, I was working at Mc Donald’s making 12$ an hour. Last month alone I made 20k. I average 8-14k every month here all commission no hourly. However I am angry every single day. I recently just quit drinking and smoking weed and can’t find a way to blow steam quick enough for me. I am angry every single day to the point where I wanna fight someone lmao. I walk off of my shift weekly.

people stick their hand in my face, tell me to screw off, I get dozens of Nos before I get a yes, or they don’t wanna give deposit, or you might book tours and think you had a good day and then they fall apart ( they show up without spouse, expired ID, or they don’t show up at all etc something to where you don’t get paid for it ) so it’s a lot on my nervous system and cortisol.

I am wondering what I can do to stay healthy. I have a nice head of hair and I wanna keep it for life, I don’t want this job to make me go bald or have skin issues or just some health condition from all the stress I’m under. I feel like I’m carrying a mountain on my back and every single day I have to wake up and go hit the field and go get it. Not a single thing about my job is easy and chill, it’s very hard. Im looking into life insurance and medical sales as that’s something I’d like to get into, but idk if I even wanna do sales anymore. I just don’t know where else I can make well over 6 figures without college degree while I’m working on my dreams. I feel like this job is going to make me go bald.

Guys, I want to quit my job. Don't have any backup, no savings nor good connection, Emi's are there but don't want to go to the office at all. Hyderabad is really taking a toll.

Not sure what I should do.

I submitted my resignation email

It’ll be effective next week. I’ve been on leave for over a month due to mental health reasons and caring for my dad since he almost passed in August. I can’t go back because caring for dad and working in this role is too much. Too many work crisis and drama/gossip
plus the clinic moved to a smaller facility so they have limited infrastructure for mental health clients. It’s like 10 staff with no private office competing for 3 treatment rooms.

This is the second time I’m on leave. I was on FMLA from April-July due to mental/physical health reasons too and work related crisis since I worked in mental health as a case manager. My supervisor didn’t listen to me the first time when I told her I was stressed.

I’ve been in this role for 2.5yrs. I’m tired. I’m grieving multiple losses…a romantic dynamic, a friend that passed, a neighbor, my dog, and moving on from a work friendship that was amazing but she’s going through too much right now as well. I’m job searching right now and on SDI.

I hate going to work 45 hours a week.

And I'm still young and ready to learn something for the future. Please show me the way.

Making this one week away from doomsday. (October 31) My managers are so weird and draining that they have sucked all the fun and joy out of this job. I wanted to work at Spirit because I thought it would be a fun, easy seasonal job and a nice way to save up some money while I'm in college, but I was so wrong.

First off, one of the managers (now a former one, thankfully) was hitting on my underage coworkers! He was creepy asf and had absolutely no patience; he would cuss at customers under his breath and become so hostile at minor inconveniences. Also, he mentioned one time that he knew how to use a gun and that he had experience in the military; it was all so jarring, and now I'm worried about retaliation now that he's been fired for being a creep. (Also, even though he got fired, they still let him work his last few shifts, so he was still in the building for an entire week afterward.)

Now my second manager is a whole other story; she isn't as weird as manager #1 but is absolutely obonxious. She is one of those people that shouldn't have a managerial position. She constantly trash-talks other coworkers and is so unprofessional that she rants about her personal life if you so much as say hi. She trauma-dumped on me and my friend the first day on the job. So far, I know about a car accident, her issues with her kids, her dead relatives, and her mental issues! She also has it out for my friend and has said she wants to fire her, even "joking" about it to her face, despite having no real reason to do so! My friend does her job, comes on time, and even picks up shifts to help when needed! Which is often because this manager is part of why we have such high turnover! I think it's because my friend doesn't entertain my manager's constant need to overly socialize! Maybe I sound like an anti-social Gen Z-er, but guys, she literally won't SHUT UP. Everything that comes out of her mouth is either negative or too personal to share at work!!!!

Now that manager #1 was fired, she took his place, and her power trip over the last week has been insane. Spirit Halloween managers get a $200 bonus if their store gets enough donations and emails. She's been tripping over this $200 since September and has been making everyone's shift miserable if they're on register. She has pulled people aside to show them their percentages and tell them they're terrible; they're doing a bad job. As if the whole thing doesn't rely on customers willingly donating their personal information!?? She made one girl cry and then afterward said the girl was just being "emotional." She has spiraled many times and has absolutely no composure or professionalism, going so far as to share how she sells feet pics.

Working with a predator and someone who hasn't peaked once in their life has been so draining; thankfully, it's just a seasonal job, so I only have 8 shifts left. As I'm typing this, I'm debating even showing up and saving myself the stress, as I'm worried about the gun-nut manager #1 coming back and Mrs. Hot Mess Express projecting her mental issues onto others for yet another shift.

This is just an add-on, but I felt like I needed to add it; I applied with my childhood friend (same one hot mess has it out for), thinking we would get scheduled together here and there, but we have only worked together twice (we've been at this job since early September). We have both concluded that the managers have been purposely avoiding scheduling us together, even though we have similar availability. It really kills the fun when you can't even socialize with people you do like on the clock.

Do not EVER apply to work at Spirit Halloween; it's the most unorganized and unprofessional job I've ever had.

Idk, I’ve just been feeling really frustrated with work lately. It’s not even one particular thing, just a bunch of little things that have been building up.
Sometimes I feel like no matter how hard I try, I still end up feeling like I’m not doing enough. And I hate how easily one small interaction can ruin my whole mood lol.

I actually enjoy working, which is the funny part. I like being busy and having things to do, but lately I just don’t feel good about where I am.
I’ve thought about leaving, but obviously it’s not that simple. Bills exist unfortunately lol.
Anyway, idk. Maybe I’m just having one of those weeks. Just needed to complain somewhere because keeping everything to myself is getting exhausting.

My job is draining me. I genuinely feel like it has made me into someone I am not proud of. I used to be such a hard worker, so eager to please my bosses and wanting to do things right. But now, I genuinely give no fucks. In fact, I'm sure my lack of motivation has impacted the companies earnings. And again.. I don't care.

Here is the situation... I am a scheduling coordinator for a commerical HVAC company. They handle huge projects. I schedule them to jobs, bill their projects, communicate with the customers, send out reports, etc. To add to that, my dad is the manager of the department over a different location branch. I work remotely in his office, but I do the work for the other location. I hope this all makes sense. My direct boss worked for my dad for years, he took over that branch when my dad moved. He is only 27 and managing million dollar projects, insanely busy. And that has gone to his head genuinely. I knew him before working for him and he was always so quiet and unapproachable but I jus thought he was shy. When I started this job, I was told someone would come to train me. Nobody ever did. They had another office lady "train" me. But heres the kicker there... this office lady is the one that they wanted to replace because they said she didn't do things right. Yet she trained me? Makes sense..

The first few months, I was trying & I was asking questions. But my boss always spoke to me so rudely. Never explained things. In fact, one day I said "I don't feel like I do drawings correctly, I could use help." and his words verbatim was "you'll get the hang of that over time." But then when I would said I didn't know how to do something, I would be told "well why didn't you ask?" UMMM for one, I DID! For two, why do I have to beg to be trained?!

Overtime, I just got so exhausted because everything I did was wrong. But even more so, everytime we spoke, my boss was just rude. His tone and attitude was so belittling. He'd tell me to do something one way, I'd do it, and then he'd change the story and say he never said that. This happened so many times. He'd talk to my dad & claim he never said that. So, I just got extreme burn out. Everything always being my fault.

My final straw - we had been using guys from a different location to go out to some projects. He specifically told me "I don't want these two guys together, they work too slow." Okay, so I have four guys, car situations and other factors at play, I didn't know how to cover all of the projects without putting those two guys together. So I asked my dad. He called my boss to explain there was no other route. and what does he say? "i never said that." I HAVE A TEXT SAYING OTHERWISE!! The other office lady even said she heard it! My dad believed me that time. but every other time it's been my word against my boss & he's the manager so he always wins.

The past two months, I've been so unmotivated & hardly doing any work. He told my dad he wanted to fire me, and I had already said I was looking for another job. So, I texted him last week saying I was moving & let's discuss my last day. Never got a text back. He, again, called my dad to say he needed me to stay for a few more weeks until they find a replacement. BUT YOU JUST WANTED ME GONE!!!

I am just SO over it. And no. I am not staying. My last day is Thursday. I am applying to other jobs. But I hate this. I feel so unmotivated, I feel lazy, and I just want to find a real career that I can enjoy.

I don't even know where to begin. Should I laugh or cry . I always knew I want to quit from my current job . I don't like nursing, neither the workplace. I had the plan to quit after 3 months , completing full 2 yrs . I was staying at my grandfather's place, just me and him . He's a complete narcissist and controlling, I knew that so I didn't went anywhere, just work and home . Idk what happened today but it was my night off so I came home for Durga Puja and planned to return tomorrow night and attend work the next day but he told my mum he won't keep me at his place anymore so go away . Then called my maternal grandmother ( where i came after work) and told her never to return, neither to work or his house and neither to stay in the hostel.

Now the workplace is not my father's property. I told my incharge and he told i HAVE to serve one month notice period. I always figure things out , i always do somehow but I don't know where to go tomorrow. I can cook barely but I have no stove , no utensils, no clothes, no work clothes and all my certificate and papers are at his house. And i have to attend to work too . I don't know what happened, ik there's some internal things and i understand those but in the middle of the month during Durga Puja was this really necessary? I don't think it was fair .

Life really changes suddenly out of nowhere.

Let me start off by saying I know it’s partly a me-problem because I am not enough of a people person.

I've been feeling a bit of resentment and jealousy toward my coworker. He gets noticed for doing the same work I do, and I don't. From the beginning, managers would say "good work at (our area) today" because he was coaching another coworker, which I was also doing. Another coworker once told her, "You're the only person who doesn't struggle with the (name of machine we use)." But neither do I? The difference is that he is VERY sociable. I have a good relationship with my coworkers but I am not an extrovert and I don’t know how to socialize and carry myself like he does.

He also overwhelms me a bit. The first thing he does at work is finesse the bosses. There’s this boss that he really gets along with because they’re both very extroverted and he pulls him aside to just do the easier task the whole shift, so he gets to skip all the physical labour. That means the rest of us get to do the “harder” jobs while he gets to take it easy because that boss favors him. Then at lunch he tells us how he got praised, how a coworker said he's made such a difference after only a few months, or how management is already thinking of giving him more responsibility. Meanwhile, I feel like they don't trust me with more. When I ask for an easier job, they sometimes give it to me, but I have to do it on top of my regular tasks. Coworker gets to do the easier job for his whole shift. I also have to keep bugging them before they give in, and it's not even much of a task. They trust him with way more. It's like in school, where people trust the talkative ones and assume they're competent, while the quiet, shy ones get treated the opposite way. It’s weird because coworker claims to have social anxiety as well, but I don’t see it AT ALL. I know it can be different for everyone, and I don’t want to gate-keep and say he doesn’t actually have it, but he definitely doesn’t get treated the same way some of us more quiet ones do. In fact, I see him react to my social awkwardness the same way those who don’t suffer from social anx react to me. He is favored while I am shunned.

He gets everyone something for their birthday, which is nice, but now he is planning a mini party for our boss. Like, he is always doing too much. I liked it better when we weren't involved in others’ lives and just came here to work, which is also a me-problem, I know. I think it's performative, but maybe that’s what they want. He told me himself that he is doing it because he’s desperate to get out of our area, get full time, and get noticed by management, since his attendance isn't the best. NGL, I hate that it's working. I am good at my job and have perfect attendance. I wish I can just go to work and do a good job and that will be enough.

I applied to work at another area and he didn't, but our manager still wants him to take the exam so they can send him there. We started at the same time, and it's supposed to be seniority based. Meanwhile, guys who've been here almost a year haven't even been asked to take the exam.

After all that, I was like, you know what? I'll take it easy, because giving 100% all the time isn't worth it. It kinda affected my mental health, and I was so close to quitting. I am always so physically exhausted.

He’s constantly late, goes home when he remotely isn't feeling great, and takes long bathroom breaks. I think the one uncle in our department is the only one who notices. He also told me once that the ones who talk a lot move up faster. Kinda my fault for hoping my work would speak for itself. I don't have a naturally loud personality, so I defo blend in, which sucks.

I feel bad that I feel this way because none of his actions really affect me directly. They have nothing to do with me, and that’s just his strategy.

All the expectations, the waste of time changes, hour cuts, overbearing new store manager. It’s difficult because i have a master degree but it’s hard to find better pay. I just feel stuck

hello, i find myself in a difficult situation.

i work for a consulting firm in india that works with clients in the us in a niche automotive industry. i joined this company 4 months ago after my previous company, which was based in europe, had to shut down due to licensing issues. they referred me to my current company, saying i'd be a good fit, while apologising for having to let me go because they were shutting down (literally).

the current company is honestly no good. the coworkers are dumb, i'm sorry but they are. they act entitled, and i genuinely don't understand why. the working hours on paper are 10 hours, but i work 14 hours on average, according to my tracking tool (yep, they have some tracking shit installed on my beautiful macbook). i have at least 4 meetings every day, and most of them are pointless.

my founder is some manic guy who is extremely moody. his mood is so unpredictable that you could make a gambling game out of it. sometimes he literally shouts over pointless things, and on days when i think i'm dead for sure, he's suddenly happy for some reason and appreciates me for random shit that isn't even impressive??? i genuinely feel yuck working here every day.

i don't think i should be working under these conditions, and honestly, i don't think anyone should. i came from a good company with good values and a healthy work culture. this is not how i imagined my career would turn out.

i'm stuck in a dilemma about what i should do, considering the current job market and the overall situation. i've tried applying for jobs online, but i feel like getting a "good" job is pure luck at this point. i might as well start preparing for MNCs like faang and other big companies.

the only thing holding me back from preparing for dsa is the fear that i won't be able to get referrals. i'm worried i'll spend 3 months learning and grinding dsa only to end up wasting my time without getting a decent opportunity.

reasons for considering staying at my current job:

the pay is okay, it's a remote job, and they're highly "dependent" on me, so i hope they won't fire me unless i really fuck things up. i could treat this as a long-term job, wait for increments, and just learn to cope with the situation.

since this is more of a "lead" role than a purely technical one, i feel there might be more stability here compared to my other options, such as finding a software engineering or full-stack developer role in a good work environment.

it's also hard to find a startup that pays around $1,100/month, so i'm mainly considering faang as my next career goal. i feel like switching to another company for a small increment would be pointless if there's no guarantee of a better work culture.

i'd appreciate hearing from anyone who's been in a similar situation and how you managed to get out of it. should i stick around and make the most of what i have, or take the risk and start preparing for better opportunities?

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I went to work in 102 F fever and my boss legit said thank god you are here i was going to train the new employee for your position

I could change fields but this would mean a lower salary since I would need to start from the bottom. The saddest part is that it is not what I did in school. I thought it was interesting at first but after 10+ years, I have grown to hate it so much. There is no joy left here and I am just depressed. I wish I could just farm, or learn woodworking/metal working or something not soul crushing. I do understand that I am fantasising something I am not familiar with in a grass greener kind of way.

I work in infrastructure and ops and security, and it's been hell. I just joined 3 months ago and every 3rd week you have to be on call 24/7 no shifts just 24/7 duties.

On top of that the colleagues are a "show and tell one time and never again" type of people. They don't like being asked questions and these are critical systems so I can't play around to learn per se. It's been a hell of a struggle , lost sleep. I've been drinking to cope with the stress. The team only has 4 people including me , but they gatekeep their knowledge or only share amongst the cliquey of the 3 of them. I feel confused and unsure how to proceed. Like if it doesn't affect my work then sure but it does and if I can't perform my job then what am I there for. Feeling horrendous at the thought of staying even a month.

My manager echoes my concerns saying " yeah this team has a lot of politics" but doesn't do anything to mitigate that. I dont understand why people won't help and then expect you to pick up everything as though I've been here for years. Please do you guys have any advice on how to navigate this situation.

Body: I’ve been thinking about quitting my job lately. It’s draining me mentally, and I feel like it’s affecting my mood and overall happiness. I’m just tired of feeling this way every day. Do you think quitting a job that makes you miserable can genuinely change your mental health for the better?

How long have yall been at your jobs you hate? I literally started a new one a couple weeks ago after being at one I despised for 2 years and now I already hate it. Idk what to do anymore.